Ego Is The Enemy By Ryan Holiday

In Ego Is The EnemyRyan Holiday teaches you to stay humble in your aspirations, gracious in your success and resilient in your failures.

How to achieve your aspirations?

Ego is your worst enemy and can easily sink your ship. Ego blocks your progress in life and sometimes fast tracks your downfall. To improve and fight your ego, you must:

  • Be open to feedback but learn to evaluate your own abilities.
  • Practice detachment, tame your imagination before it runs wild and go through life with a quiet confidence.
  • Don’t stay stuck in your head. Instead, participate in what is going on around you.
  • Try staying silent in conversation. Silence can be strategic and is sustainable.
  • Always seek to learn. When you are a student, you absorb what is going on around you, you are focused on gaining knowledge and improving yourself.
  • Avoid being passionate. Instead, favor purpose and realism.
  • Ignore when people slight you and brush off the pain. Just think of it as you paying your dues.
  •  Avoid being prideful. Pride leads to arrogance. It impedes your ability “to learn, to adapt, to be flexible, to build relationships”.
  • Doing ever stop working.

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How to maintain success?

You have aspirations and you have worked so hard to climb the ladder of success. However, when you start succeeding, you will start facing new ego problems that can quickly erode your success. To maintain long-term success:

  • Don’t pretend that you know what you are doing. Instead, keep learning, stay focused on facts and do your best.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others or try to keep up with the Joneses because you will end up doing things you don’t want to do.
  • Always remember your purpose and what is important to you before saying yes to opportunities.
  • Don’t be paranoid, entitled or controlling.
  • Learn to organize your thoughts, manage yourself and others.
  • Understand that selflessness and humility are strengths and not weaknesses.
  • Don’t try to be the center of attention, hug the spotlight and take credit for something you didn’t do or deserve.
  • Patiently progress towards you goals. It is better to go at it slow and steady.

How to handle failure?

Ego, power and success can make you delusional. You have to constantly self-monitor and stay attentive for your own downfalls. Moreover, everybody goes through setbacks in life. Failure is not fair and happens to good people too. But with a big ego, you tend to get caught by surprise. Your ego will make it hard for you to handle rock bottom. To be resilient in your failures:

  • Know your worth.
  • Stay humble and on purpose.
  • Don’t abandon your principles and maintain your character.
  • Don’t depend on recognition and reward.
  • Make use of your environment and transform your failures into something positive.
  • Understand that, even if you do everything right and perfect, you still will experience failure.
  • Discipline yourself to do the right thing. It will be hard but it will makes you less self absorbed on the long run.

Review

Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday is short, practical and direct self-development book. According to Ryan Holiday, there are three stages in life: aspirations, success, failure. You will have to discipline your ego in all three stages if you want to get somewhere. Ego is our own worst enemy. It becomes detrimental to suppress or manage our ego before we develop bad habits. For example, he warns us against common knowledge:

  • Don’t be passionate or you will fail. It is better to be apathetic and acknowledge the realities of your passions.
  • Don’t flatter your ego.
  • Don’t think you know everything.

Ego Is The Enemy is ideal for leaders who want to tame their ego, improve their leadership and relationships.

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Favorite quote(s)

Ego is stolen. Confidence is earned. Ego is self-anointed, its swagger is artifice. One is girding yourself, the other gaslighting. It’s the difference between potent and poisonous. Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote. For your work to have truth in it, it must come from truth. We will learn that though we think big, we must act and live small in order to accomplish what we seek. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation. Silence is the respite of the confident and the strong. All of us waste precious life doing things we don’t like, to prove ourselves to people we don’t respect, and to get things we don’t want.

Ratings 4/5

Author

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8 Things That Are Stopping You From Success

Maybe you are here because you are trapped in your career graph plateau. Or maybe you may have just stumbled on Journey To Leadership.

Either way, you will feel confident after this brief read about failure and success…

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What is Success?

Success is something everyone strives for and understandably so.

Often, we have seen people go above and beyond to get what they want, but somehow they end up getting nothing, at least what was aimed at.

In this article, we will look into some of the reasons why they don’t get what they have in mind. We will also be discussing at length at what point they are going wrong.

What exactly is stopping them from reaching greater heights?

 

Below are the reasons why you are not achieving success and the key to self-awareness.

1. That laid back attitude towards your goals

Being lackadaisical towards your goal will never get you to your goal.

A goal should be thoroughly worked upon and you must have an enthusiastic mindset when working on it.

Indeed, being more than casual about it may harm the probability of success.

In addition, procrastination will become a slow poison.

2. Going after everything and not being specific about your goals

Many people run after every possible field, hoping to secure a position in one of these fields.

However, chasing multiple things simultaneously linked with your interests will only make things worse for you instead of getting you closer to your dreams.

Instead of going after literally every other stream — which is the problem with most people, it becomes important to set your heart on the thing that interests you the most.

Not only will you be able to eliminate the probability (if any) of the success or failure, you will also thoroughly enjoy your journey from scratch to achieving everything you ever dreamt of.

Furthermore, people end up following the crowd and somehow don’t realize that they will work more diligently if their goal is in their interest and of their best interest.

3. Not laying out things clearly

Without having things laid out vividly in your mind, planning things out and then working on them accordingly, you won’t be able to achieve anything.

One of the reasons why you are not succeeding is due to the fact that things getting muddled up in your mind.

Planning your goals in a way lays out the possibility of success and failure.

This way, you’ll have everything right in front of your eyes and you would know how you can go about it.

4. Not trusting yourself enough

Even if you are indulging yourself in something that doesn’t require any planning or execution, trusting yourself will play a major role.

Nothing can be accomplished if you don’t have faith in yourself.

Once you have the mindset that “Yes, I can become so and so because I trust myself that I can do it,” you’ll move a step closer to your dream.

It’s quite OK if you have a fear of failure. You must understand what is the cause of atychiphobia and overcome it.

5. Being dubious about everything

Another reason that pulls you back from your goal is having a doubtful approach to everything: being dubious about your set goals but also having some nagging doubts about yourself.

If you are constantly in doubt whether the field you have chosen is right for you or not, whether you will be able to push yourself that high or not, all these doubts contribute to you not getting anywhere around your goals.

By now, you must have already figured out how being dubious and not having faith in yourself are closely linked.

6. Being hard on yourself and not giving yourself a rest

No matter how hard you are on yourself, if the set goals aren’t meant to be, they just won’t happen.

Part of the reason behind your unsuccessful attempts is you knocking yourself out and not giving yourself enough rest that your mind and body require.

Your subconscious is stronger than any obstacles but you must learn how to calibrate your subconscious.

7. Pulling excuses

This deserves to have a whole point dedicated to it.

One of the major reasons why you constantly fail is making excuses.

Blaming others for your failure and not getting an inch closer to your goal need to be dropped out of your habits.

“Excuses will always be there for you. Opportunity won’t.”

8. Not getting out of your comfort zone

Another reason your goal isn’t achieved could be your unwillingness to get out of your comfort zone.

Dreams require efforts, risks, and adapting to an environment that doesn’t suit your taste.

One just cannot achieve something while being in their comfort zone and letting the zone expand beyond their goals.

Top 3 Apps that will motivate you to achieve success

These were some of the reasons that could be stopping you from moving closer to your goals.

Now one thing that might cross your mind is how you can go about your goals and rule out the possibility of failure even though one can never obviate the chances of failure.

Here are 3 apps to achieve your goals and overcome your fear of failure.

Let’s check them out briefly.

1. MindMeister

MindMeister helps to create a mind map which links your thought process, to-do list and goals. It also helps you to get ahead in life with a do-able road map.

2. Beeminder

Beeminder is a beautiful goal setting app that virtually connects your budget with your goal and track it to guide you towards a success mindset. 

3. Always Positive – Daily Quotes

Motivation can really push you towards success.

Unfortunately, motivation has a shelf-life. So, we need to recharge it daily.

This app will send you brilliant motivational quotes around the world. 

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26 Constructive Things That Great Leaders Say

Words are powerful and can have a long-lasting effect on people…

Great leaders show interest and appreciation in the success of their team.

Indeed, they go beyond and above to motivate their team.

Wondering what are some motivating things that leaders can say? 

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1. What do you need?

2. How can I help?

3. What do you think?

4. Thank you!

5. Please

6. I apologize or I am sorry

7. How are you?

8. I was wrong

9. I don’t know…

10. I believe you can

11. I trust you

12. Tell me more

13. We have a mission statement

14. My vision is

15. My expectations are

16. Here is the plan

17. Here are the objectives

18. What are we learning from this?

19. Help me understand

20. Let’s talk about it!

21. Why don’t you tell us?

22. What do you think?

23. How can we improve this?

24. Let’s find a solution to your problem

25. We did it!

26. Congratulations!

Last words of advice!

It always help to be sincere in your delivery!

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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Quiet Girls Can Run the World : Owning Your Power When You’re Not the “Alpha” in the Room By Rebecca Holman

A good leader can either be an alpha or a beta woman.

The truth is that being an alpha or a beta leader doesn’t really matter and is just a way to box people in. 

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1. The influence of popular culture and unconscious biases

Popular culture creates the definition of alpha and beta and shapes unconscious biases. 

In popular culture, women have been portrayed very differently. Movies have become critical in the opinions that women form of themselves and have about their ambitions and aspirations. 

Indeed, movies and popular culture create unconscious gender and racial biases in the workplace. 

On one hand, alpha women are all we see in the media world today. Alpha women are presumably in control, career driven and are not as lovable as beta women. They are either difficult, evil or unhappy.

On the other hand, beta women are supposedly not career-driven. They would use their job to fill a void until a man comes along to improve their lives.

In reality, beta women are not necessarily timid or introverted. They just don’t push their own agenda, intend to fit in at work and bypass their own ego. They also tend to reserve their opinion for themselves, give constructive criticism, and take time to make decisions. In addition,  they are emotionally intelligent, flexible, pragmatic and are able to work with different personality types. 

Most of the time, if the male counterparts watch these movies or conform to popular beliefs and if women don’t exhibit leadership traits as seen on TV, then they don’t believe that women possess any leadership traits. 

Furthermore, according to recent studies, alpha women who participate in meetings are seen as dominating when being dominating is a key component in alpha men leadership style. Beta men who are relaxed leaders are seen positively whereas beta women who exhibit the same trait are not even seen as leaders. 

To overcome these biases, popular culture needs to be updated.

2. Success for women in the workplace

As hard as it is to quantify success, both women and men generally get confused about what success really looks like.

Often, a job and the level of success are directly related to a personality even though the personality doesn’t do the job.

Women generally set the bar too high for themselves and are unable to emulate the standard of perfection. For instance, successful women are expected to be in charge of the room, of the conversation and meetings.  

Moreover, the only two women in the workplace are usually pitted against each other because men decided that there can only be one successful woman in the room. 

Before rushing towards success, women need to:

  • Understand what success actually looks like and take steps towards success.
  • Watch their presentation, protect their identity and don’t let their workplace define them.
  • Check the standards set by employers, themselves and others. 
  • Beat to the sound of their own drum.
  • Stay authentic. Authenticity allows you to retain a sense of self. Authenticity has allowed many people to achieve success and connect with others.
  • Take time to do nothing and don’t spread themselves thin. 

Review

Quiet Girls Can Run the World : Owning Your Power When You’re Not the “Alpha” in the Room by Rebecca Holman is exploring the various ways that women can deal with different types of environments without compromising their sense of self.

The roles of women in the workplace lack so much nuance. Rebecca Holman is attempting to figure out if beta women can be as successful as alpha women in the workplace by comparing the traits of alpha and beta women without placing one above the other. 

Quiet Girls Can Run the World : Owning Your Power When You’re Not the “Alpha” in the Room is also a hilarious guide on how to embrace who you are, how to find out what works for you without faking it, how to navigate office politics, various bosses without suppressing your identity, ambitions, needs and wants.

Being an alpha or beta leaders does not matter. What really matters is that you get to know yourself and what works for you.

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Success at work only looks one way. And a successful woman? She’s shouting louder than everyone else in the room. She’s stubborn and argumentative because these are signs that she’s passionate about the project at hand and cares about its success above all else. Ergo, she’s good at her job.

“the media is selling the idea that girls’ and women’s value lies in their youth, beauty, and sexuality and not in their capacity as leaders. Boys learn that their success is tied to dominance, power, and aggression. We must value people as whole human beings, not gendered stereotypes.”

It matters because women’s voices simply aren’t being heard on their own terms. Numerous studies have shown that women are interrupted far more often in meetings than men, as well as in the classroom—as a 2004 study from Harvard Law School demonstrated. And, according to a study by Princeton and Brigham Young University, if women talk 25–50 percent of the time in a professional meeting, they are seen as “dominating the conversation.

Similarly, studies show that while men in leadership positions are seen in a positive light when they demonstrate traditionally Alpha leadership traits (such as being decisive, dominating the conversation, being dogged and dogmatic in the pursuit of goals), women who demonstrate traditional Alpha leadership traits are viewed negatively by both men and women. And while men who have a more relaxed or Beta style of management are still seen in a positive light, female Beta managers aren’t considered at all—because Beta women can’t be managers. But why are we so unwilling to compare the relative merits of different personality types in female managers?

[…] our view of what a good leader looks like is limited, which can leave women feeling boxed in.

“Because, actually, if you’re looking at this volatile, complex, ambiguous world, where everything is so unpredictable, the only thing you can do is work on yourself and your own resilience to be able to cope and keep up and roll with the punches.”

How do you show the world how Alpha you are? You talk a lot and criticize everyone else. It’s a ruse as old as time (probably) and, often, it works. Most people are busy dealing with their own stuff, so they tend to assume that if people are busy dealing with their own stuff, so they tend to assume that if someone is vocal, self-assured, and sounds knowledgeable (read: has a loud voice), they must know what they’re talking about.

It’s hard to realize when you’re in an office environment that has a steep, sometimes toxic hierarchy how much time people spend trying to shore up their own positions, rather than focusing on the task at hand. When you grasp that the vast majority of office interactions are nothing to do with you, it can feel incredibly freeing.

And always remember the golden rule of office politics, which will stand you in good stead through most work crises: it’s not you, it’s them.

You just know as a black girl that you’re not allowed to be outspoken, you just know. When I had my first job, I worked for a magazine and I learned very quickly that the girls that were my age who were white were allowed to speak out. But when I did the same, there would be a throwaway comment like, ‘You don’t need to have that attitude.’ That was when I was twenty-one and I just learned very quickly that I’m not allowed to have the same sort of opinion as my white female counterparts.”

Ratings 3/5

Author

Rebecca Holman

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Rebecca Holman

Meet the author #author #biography #book #books #bookreviews #leadership journeytoleadershipblog.comRebecca Holman is the editorial director of Grazia online in the UK.

Rebecca Holman is also the author of Quiet Girls Can Run the World : Owning Your Power When You’re Not the “Alpha” in the Room.

Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs By Eric Yaverbaum

The best experts are the people who have both studied and experienced leadership. 

Only a CEO would know what it takes to become a successful leader…

Leadership Secrets of the World's Most Successful CEOs By Eric Yaverbaum

Below are the 25 best leadership advice and strategies to train yourself and steer you toward success.  

1. Seek out leadership experience because experience is the best teacher 

2. Become a people person

Essentially, becoming a people person consists in getting to know people on a personal level. 

3. Improve your listening and communication skills

Listening and communication skills are easily upgraded by connecting with people on a personal level, clearly communicating visions and values and holding regular meetings. 

4. Surround yourself with the right people

Leaders don’t suddenly possess all the knowledge in the world.

They have to rely on the expertise of their employees, delegate tasks and allow employees to come up with solutions to their problem. 

5. Put the right people in the right position 

6. Invest in employees personal success and well-being 

7. Treat your employees well

Your personal and organizational success depends on who well you treat your employees. In return, your employees will take better care of the customers and clients.  

8. Promote humane and holistic values

Leaders must be as humane and holistic as possible.

They understand that their employees are integral people with needs and wants. 

9. Actively manage your relationships

Help and support is always needed and can come from anywhere and anyone. 

10. Maintain healthy work-life balance for yourself and everyone else

11. Empower your employees

Leaders are enablers and facilitators.

They empower and help their team grow. 

In addition, they teach people how to be successful and how to take risks. 

12. Rally everyone around a common goal 

13. Embrace change and use it to your benefit

14. Infuse your vision into the culture

15. Be quick to recognize opportunities and challenges

16. Have a greater sense of purpose

17. Learn to make sound and ethical decisions

18. Avoid following conventional wisdom

19. Always plan and focus on the most important priorities

20. Be passionate about what you do and have fun when you do it

21. Learn continually

Leaders continually ask questions. Most leaders learn to be good learners by working for good leaders. 

22. Practice, practice, practice

Leaders can be trained and find ways to practice their skills on a daily. 

23. Be open to feedback 

24. Innovate

Leaders stay on the brink of innovation and know how to articulate their ideas.

25. Rely on core values

Leaders have strong sets of core values that are the organization mission statement, set the standard, set the premise for all processes and sip into the culture. 

Review

Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs by Eric Yaverbaum is a self-help book that gathers the experience of successful CEOs and that shares invaluable leadership lessons.

There are many characteristics that make leaders be great such as authenticity, honesty and kindness. In Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs, Eric Yaverbaum essentially states that great leaders can be trained.

According to him, leaders are people who generally have a multitude of skills but who are mostly service-oriented and people-oriented.

Indeed, every advice and leadership strategy is aimed to develop the steadiest and most effective leader. Every advice and leadership startegy is geared towards employee well-being and relationship building.

Leaders are not self-centered. They must always be focused on how they make other people feel and how they can move them towards a unique and common goal.   

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Favorite quote(s)

There’s an old saying: “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime”.
There are so many characteristics that make a person a good leader: a leader should be authentic, a listener, stand for values, lead by example, be honest, provide direction, and—most important—be daring, take risks, and develop and empower others. This combination of techniques is what makes a true leader.
If you are not a “born leader”, you can develop your leadership abilities through training and experience

Ratings 3.5/5

Author

Eric Yaverbaum

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Eric Yaverbaum

Meet the author #author #biography #book #books #bookreviews #leadership journeytoleadershipblog.comEric Yaverbaum is the CEO of Ericho Communications, a communications, media, and public relations expert.

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