12 Annoying Things That Smart Leaders Say

Words are powerful and can have a long-lasting effect on people…

Leaders are responsible for employee engagement, for setting goals, giving feedback and reinforce positive feedbacks.

Therefore, leaders have to be careful of the words that come out their mouth.

On one hand, they can say annoying things from time to time.

On the other hand, it’s not always easy to find the right thing to say.

Wondering what are the most annoying things that leaders usually say? 

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1. “It’s my way or the high way!”

Leaders who want everything they way tend to hire talented individuals to do the job but don’t trust them to do so or don’t give them the opportunity to exercise their expertise. By doing so, their team gradually lose confidence and morale.

2. “You’re wrong” or “Why didn’t you do this instead?”

There is more than one solution to a problem and there is more than one way than doing things.

3. “It’s none of your business” or “Stay in your lane”

Leaders who pull rank or hold back information try to retain power as much as they can and wish to establish a certain distance between themselves and their team.

4. “Let me finish…” or Interrupt people while the are talking…

It is important for leaders to actively listen before they speak and to value their team’s knowledge.

5. “I don’t pay you to think!”

By saying that, leaders reduce their team members to mere tools or objects.

6. “I’m not going to do your job for you” 

Team members usually come to leaders for advice and reassurance but don’t require those same leaders to do their job for them.

7. “Don’t waste my time”

Time is indeed a precious commodity but by saying that leaders impeded their team from suggesting innovative ideas.

8. “I don’t have time right now”

Leaders are definitely busy bodies but they make time for what is important.

9. “That’s not important…”

This statement has a tendency of devaluing team members.

10. “I don’t care” or “That’s not my problem”

Helping team members find solutions to problems is part of the job description of leaders.

11. “You are not as good as you think” or “You are lucky to even be here”

If a leader needs to remind a team member how great his or her job is then it is not that great to begin with.

12. “We have always done it that way”

Through that statement, leaders emphasize that there is no room for improvement or innovation.

Last words of advice!

When you have said a few annoying things, you can always recover by:

  • Being aware of your words.
  • Observing the impact of your words
  • Admitting your mistakes.
  • Calmly explaining yourself.
  • Letting go and moving on.

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3 Easy Ways Leaders Regain Power Over Destructive Habits

To understand your own habits and to gain power over them, leaders need to identify these triggers, routine and rewards… 

Once these habits have been understood, leaders will be able to take a destructive habit and embed a good one.

Wondering how to give up destructive habits? 

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1. Identify the What?

At the core of every habit, there are a triggers, a routine and a reward.

The What consists in the routine, in the behavior you would like to change.

2. Identify the Why?

The next step is answering Why? It includes figuring out what gets you to behave the way you do, why it drives the havit, why it procures satisfaction and which benefits you reap from it.

Often times, we develop patterns of habits without even noticing it.

We are not conscious of our own behavioral triggers or even of the rewards we are seeking.

3. Identify the How?

Identifying the How involves identifying your triggers.

Triggers can be a particular location, time, person, an emotion or another habit.

Whenever you feel the urge to indulge in a bad habit, take a moment to breathe and to write down your triggers.

Last words of advice!

Changing habits can be difficult and take longer than expected.

 

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Meet the author #author #biography #book #books #bookreviews #leadership journeytoleadershipblog.comEric Yaverbaum is the CEO of Ericho Communications, a communications, media, and public relations expert.

Eric Yaverbaum is also the best-selling author of Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs.

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25 Lessons to Crisis-Proof Your Leadership in Uncertain Times

If anything, we should come out the pandemic wiser and savvier than when it all began…

Indeed, people now think, consume data and goods differently than before the pandemic.

Furthermore, there is a shift in the way people perceive leadership and their job.

No situation is permanent and to every negative situation, there are always lessons that every leader can use.

It serves to think about these unprecedented times as a way to grow, to learn and to strengthen your leadership.

Wondering what leaders can take away from these uncertain times? 

Below are 10 lessons that will crisis-proof your leadership in uncertain times.

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Leadership lessons for personal use

1. Protect your emotional, physical and mental health.

2. Value who you are and what you have.

3. Embrace solitude: the best company you can find is your own.

4. Live in the present.

5. Avoid worrying about the future and what others think of you.

6. Avoid competing and comparing yourself to others.

7. Make time for what is important.

8. Take time for self-reflection, to focus on yourself and to take care of yourself.

9. Start making decisions on your own term.

10. Avoid procrastinating and go after what you want because life is too short. The best time to start is now!

11. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Leadership lessons for work

12. Learn as much as you can and leverage that knowledge for career advancement.

13. Stay in environments that will value you.

14. Avoid relying on one stream of income.

A lot of people have lost their jobs and have started their own business during the pandemic.

Undoubtedly, they have discovered numerous ways of making money and have realized that there is no point in putting all their eggs in one basket.

Creating several streams of income allows them to become robust to every situation and to take more risks.

15. Realize that there is more to life than work.

Leadership lessons for life

16. Enjoy every single moment in life.

17. Everything is temporary. Whatever you are going through, it will pass.

18. Develop critical thinking and do your own research.

19. Pay attention to people’s actions because actions speaks louder than words.

20. Become emotionally disciplined. We cannot control what happens to us but we can control how we react to it.

21. Stay positive. We cannot predict the future but we can always hope for the best.

Leadership lessons for relationships

22. Treat everybody differently. Everybody is different and everybody learns at their own rate.

23. Apply the Golden Rule. The people you step on your way up are the people you will pass on your way down.

24. Choose your friends wisely and avoid taking anyone for granted.

25. Do your best to build strong and long-lasting relationships.

Last words of advice!

No matter what you have endured during these past few months, there is always room for improvement, opportunities to grow and to adjust to these uncertain times.

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Leadership Vs Management: 6 Differences That Set Them Apart

Every leader has their own leadership style and every manager their own management style.

Managers tend to manage goals, budgets, deadlines, clients, people and projects.

Whereas, leaders influence, empower, guide a team or a group of people towards a specific vision.

Most for the time, these terms are used interchangeably. 

Sometimes, the line between managers and leaders get blurred because both leaders and managers have to make sure that their teams are successful and that their organization benefit from their intervention.   

Wondering whether are the traits that set managers and leaders apart?

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1. Short-term vs Long-term z

Managers oversee the short-term metrics, execute tasks and help others execute tasks in order to reach these metrics. 

On the contrary, leaders pay attention to long-term goals, overall progress and drive change.

2. Problem-oriented vs Solution-oriented

Managers punctually correct mistakes and set people back on track. 

Leaders value growth and provide solutions so that their team don’t make the same mistakes.

3. Task-oriented vs. People-oriented

On one hand, managers are task-oriented individuals. They encourage their team to achieve each tasks and reach each goals.

On the other hand, leaders are people-oriented. They delegate tasks and trust that their team will achieve them.

4. Trust building vs Team building

Managers build team-cohesion and motivate people to do their job.

However, leaders build trust, motivate and encourage others to contribute to the team and to the organization.

5. Title vs Exemplarity

Managerial roles usually come with a title and expect team members to individually take care of their problems. 

Leaders are able to do the opposite and to lead without a title. Leaders lead by example, advice their team and transform problems into solutions. 

6. Maintaining culture vs Building culture

Managers impregnate themselves with the company culture and the vision for the organization. They help their team members align themselves with the principles of the organization and to maintain the company culture. 

Contrarily, leaders have purpose, have a vision, core beliefs for themselves and their organization that they are able to share with their team. They build the culture. 

Last Words Of Advice!

Leadership and management are not mutually exclusive.

Sometimes, managers and leaders have overlapping yet critical roles.

Furthermore, there is no right or wrong way to lead or to manage:

  • Everybody is different and has a personal approach to dealing with other people.
  • Everybody has to figure out at some point how they want to be handled and how they wish to handle people, whether or not a managerial or leadership is more suitable. 

Are you a manager or a leader? 

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Are You Self-Sabotaging at Work? 18 Tips to Learn to Improve Your Work Performance and Climb the Corporate Ladder

We all have dreamt of outperforming ourselves at work and staying consistent and moving up in our career…

However, we have difficulties bringing our wishes and expectations to life.

Furthermore, in the fast and highly competitive corporate world, some of our attitudes, assumptions, values, flaws often render us completely ineffective.

They can obstruct the way of us being the best version of ourselves, from learning new skills and from developing our talents.

In reality, despite our best intentions, we are often our worst enemies.

We become unable to improve our career, to achieve our definition of success and to satisfy our higher purpose.

We thereby harbor dissatisfaction, self-defeating thoughts and resort to self-sabotaging actions.

Wondering how to become a better performer, a better contributor, a better leader in the workplace and control the self-sabotaging tendencies?

Most of the time, self-sabotage takes roots from collaborators sometimes abusing substance, and striving too hard for materialistic success.

Self-sabotage also stems from an inability to control extreme negative thoughts and emotions such as anger, guilt or resentment.

Furthermore, it also emanates from an inability to control other people.

Indeed, in the workplace, low performing employees and leaders tend to either:

  • Be addicted to praise, complain too much about circumstances,
  • Act impatient and avoid taking action or initiative,
  • Misinterpret the image they have of themselves, doubt their capabilities or feel rejected or reject their own being,
  • Struggle to live up to other people expectations. Not pursuing your true purpose and implementing somebody else dream cause you to subconsciously rebel against your current situation.
  • Have difficulties following rules or respecting authority figure,
  • Be incapable of handling the pressures of responsibility;
  • Be busy or lack time management skills,
  • Lack conflict resolution skills,
  • Dread the unknown, change or success,
  • Worry about criticism, looking ridiculous, being judged or embarrassed,
  • Fear failure. Failures are usually blessings in disguise.

How to improve these bad habits and become an effective member of the workforce?

Becoming a better performer and contributor in the workplace doesn’t end at solely executing your duties and providing acceptable results.

It starts by working on your character and core values.

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To enable effective performance in the workplace, it is necessary to:

1. Assess your strengths and weaknesses and ground them into reality.

I cannot stress enough how self-discovery is an important and long life process that allows to:

    • Upgrade your moral compass and create new ethical standards,
    • Accept our unique distinctions,
    • Evaluate your role and contributions at work,
    • Assist, be assisted by coworkers or team members with a complementing set of skills.

2. Understand your interests and abilities.

This way you are able to develop your core capabilities, to choose the work that stimulates you the most, the workplace in which you best fit in and the team that complements you the best.

3. Keep learning, grow your knowledge and your emotional intelligence

Continual learning and an increase in emotional intelligence constitutes an interesting approach to increase satisfaction at work, to envision greater possibilities, to overcome obstacles and to be successful in every area of your life.

You can achieve this by:

    • Doing something new, something different, challenging your thoughts and your routine,
    • Nurturing your natural curiosity about the world, about what you don’t know,
    • Breaking routine and mindless actions to stimulate your imagination,
    • Tackling your fears and negative emotions head and listing the consequences of your actions.

4. Adjust your self-image to reality by writing down

Adjust your self-image to reality by writing down:

    • The qualities you have about yourself and the ones you want to acquire,
    • Your trigger points.

Don’t let identifying your trigger points to get discouraged and give up on yourself.

Noticing your self-sabotaging habits is actually beneficial to you: you are probably not in the walk of life that you wish or supposed to be in.

5. Act responsibility, be proactive, take initiative

You can always take on more responsibility and assignments or perform them with enthusiasm and motivation in order to become more confident in your abilities, autonomous, dependable, to demonstrate emotionally maturity and trustworthiness.

Indeed, the more you take on responsibility, the more you learn about yourself.

Proportionally, the more you understand the consequences of your actions, the faster you admit your mistakes as soon as you notice them.

Subsequently, the better you remain accountable especially when things go wrong, the more you grow, the more you gain competencies, the more you are willing to take initiative and even risks.

6. Discipline yourself

Disciplining yourself is a matter of inspecting and readjusting your thoughts, actions and behaviors to set standards.

It is also about dominating your immediate desires and impulses.

7. Stay authentic

Staying authentic is connected to staying true to yourself and avoiding comparing yourself to others and competing with others.

8. Give yourself time to think

Allowing yourself to think is the best thing you can do for yourself.

In silence, without looking for distractions, observing silence helps to

  • Confront yourself,
  • Make peace with yourself,
  • Strengthen your decision-making skills,
  • Observe bad habits, and therefore learn more about yourself,
  • Find your true purpose, learn to trust your intuition and inner feelings.

In addition, meditation, quiet contemplation and introspection are the key to staying alert and to increase your performance at work

These methods can also help you to develop and recognize good ideas, to stay engaged and become more conscious of your life.

9. Set goals

Defining clear goals and seeking better methods are great ways to become more productive, more competent in the workplace.

10. Find a quiet place

Learning to insulate yourself from the noise in the workplace is important to preserve your energy and sanity.

11. Get out of your comfort zone

Varying your experiences and getting out your comfort zone is part of your personal growth and leadership development.

12. Exercise regularly

Self-care is all about taking care of your physical health and influences your everyday mood in the workplace.

13. First Impression is a lasting impression

Making a good impression from day one is more than useful.

Certainly, the first impression is indeed a lasting impression.

That is why authenticity is importance and there is no need to overdo it and run a political campaign.

14. Apply the Golden Rule

It serves a purpose to uplift people instead of bringing them down or being considered as a toxic coworker in the workplace, to develop relationships and properly manage people emotions, avoid imposing your emotions on others, and transform enemies into supportive friends.

At this point, the Golden Rule is valuable: Respect and treat people the way you would like to be respected and treated.

As a result, you can become a good contributor and a valuable team member.

15. Embrace change

To improve your work performance and climb up the corporate ladder, embrace change, renew your coping and self-defense mechanism.

16. Don’t avoid failure

During your journey of self-improvement, expect to make mistakes, to learn from them and keep it moving.

17. Avoid negative people

Avoid naysayers and haters like the plague.

Change your circle of friends if they are the ones bringing you down.

18. Service others

Finally, servicing others doesn’t mean that you have to submit to everyone and to every order.

This only means doing your best to get along with one another.

Last words of advice!

If you happen to abuse substance or are in emotional distress in the workplace, don’t be ashamed, you are not alone.

Please talk about it to your closest family and friends, or find the nearest Workplace Help Center.

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20 Most Classic Quotes About Leadership

Leadership is a long standing institution.

It is also one of the most contemporaneous and most talked about topic…

Below, we have gathered 20 of the most classic quotes about leadership.

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1. You are what you believe yourself to be. – Paulo Coelho

2. Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. – Albert Einstein

3. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. Stephen Covey

4. Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. – Og Mandino

5. Take action, an inch of movement will bring you closer to your goals than a mile of intention. – Steve Maraboli

6. If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit

7. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. – Confucius

8. I walk slowly but never backwards. – Abraham Lincoln

9. The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus. – Bruce Lee

10. Well done is better than well said. – Benjamin Franklin

11. I’m not afraid of dying, I’m afraid of not trying. – Jay-Z

12. Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. – Og Mandino

13. Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. – Mark Twain

14. If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right. – Henry Ford

15. Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you. – Jim Rohn

16. I like criticism. It makes you strong. – LeBron James

17. When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful. – Eric Thomas

18. Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise. – Kobe Bryant

19. You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated. Maya Angelou

20. Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. – Confucius

Last Words Of Advice!

The principles of leadership have been studied for a long time. 

These leadership quotes are meant to inspire you, conquer your circumstances and keep moving forward.

 

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13 Leadership Tips For Your First Day On The Job

Congratulations. You have just been hired, after an incessant job search and multiple job interviews.

Now, the real work has just started!

Wondering how to build a positive professional image as soon as you arrive on the job and to sustain it throughout your whole career?

13 Leadership Tips for Your First Day on the Job #work #career #careeradvice #job #leadership #success From your first day on the job, your colleagues will definitely be judging you and your capabilities as a leader, as a team member or as a threat to their current position.

Meanwhile your employer will evaluate your abilities to integrate the organization and to quickly adapt, to learn the job skills. You have to be ready to handle the pressure and to measure up to the job.

And unfortunately, I learnt that there aren’t any do-overs when it comes to making a first impression of your professional image.

On the first day on my first job, I showed up on the first day with a negative attitude: I was anxious, unconsciously rejecting the fact that I had to work corporate and work for someone else.

Therefore, in the long haul, I started involuntarily rebuffing the idea of getting along with people, learning new skills and focusing on my job.

As a result, I integrated an unfavorable perception of my environment and I certainly believe that I left a negative impression of myself in the workplace.

This stuck to me for a while until I quit the job and was able to start over elsewhere with a better knowledge of both corporate and leadership. At the same time, to survive, I did what my elders told me: “work hard and keep your head down!”.  But this brought on additional issues.

Why? Because, according to Daniel Goleman, in Working With Emotional Intelligence,  the “rules for work are changing. We’re being judged by a new yardstick: not just by how smart we are, or by our training and expertise, but also by how well we handle ourselves and each other.[…] These rules have little to do with what we were told was important in school; academic abilities are largely irrelevant to this standard.”.

In order for you to steer clear from the same issues that I have experienced, to develop a leadership image from the start, follow the tips below:

1. Arrive to work early and leave late on your first day

Arriving early to work demonstrate your motivation, your eagerness to learn and gives you more credit as a professional.

In addition, arriving early will allow you to get a general feel of your new colleagues’ arrival time, schedules, morning procedures.

It will also give you a time to which you will be expected to show up at work.

On your first day, at least, make sure to leave the office after a few coworkers have left the office and not before everyone else does.

2. Dress appropriately and to look your best

Undeniably, your coworkers will make snap decisions about you without getting to know or understanding your core values.

Subsequently, they will judge your book by its cover, no matter how you feel or what you say.

Dressing appropriately, without drawing attention to yourself,  gives the perception that you fit in, that you are the right person for the job, and that you care about yourself and others.

At your job interview, you had the time to consider the company culture and to take notes on the proper attire to fit in.

Even on casual Fridays, groom yourself, do your best to look the part, and to dress for  the job you want and not for the one you have.

3. Be confident, positive and prepared for a full-blown interview from your colleagues

After the job interview, take heed of the coworkers interviews.

Most likely, they will ask about your education, your professional experience, your professional competencies for the job, a description of your current position, and the members of your team. Prepare a short presentation of yourself to introduce yourself confidently.

4. Assume also that some of your coworkers won’t bother to get to know you

So, you will have to take initiative and make the first steps.

Extend a firm handshake, smile and proactively introduce yourself by using the short presentation about yourself and to control the message regarding yourself.

Also, prepare a set of probing questions for your coworkers.

5. Observe your coworkers in return, their behavior towards one another, towards their boss

Don’t be fooled, on your first day, most of your coworkers will be on their best behavior around you and will try their best for you to like them.

Withal, you can discreetly notice the clicks and the areas and subjects that bring tension.

6. Pay attention to company culture

Who gives orders, who is the unofficial leader, who arrives early and who arrives late, who takes coffee breaks and how often, who start the lunch process, where lunch takes place and for how long…does everyone work out? Should you go to the after works?

Take a moment to understand the rules, on your own, without referring to any coworker just yet.

7. Remember the names of the people you meet

I am not a name person but you should not ask for names that were already given. Wait a few days and someone will throw a name out there.

8. Cultivate emotional intelligence

Even though your coworkers will be on their best behavior for the first few days, there is ALWAYS someone to come around and test you for fun.

Your reaction to his or her obnoxious behavior will market your capabilities and your personal qualities, for future career success.

9. Communicate effectively, listen more than you speak and observe your body language

Listen actively and with intention of asking probing questions. Ask for people opinions before you give yours.

10. Show interest in your new tasks

The responsibilities that you are given on your first days are boring and minimal: you will most likely be reading job regulations, technical documents and implementing basic tasks.

Nonetheless, ask pertinent questions, take notes, commit to the task at hand and don’t expect your boss or your coworkers to hold your hand.

11. Be open to correction, advice and guidance

Even though you have some experience under your belt, stay humble instead of showing off your knowledge, listen to what your coworkers have to tell you

Thank people for their help and own up to your mistakes. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know. Let me find out and get back to you.”.

12. Accept invitations for coffee, to smoke or to lunch with your coworkers

Mind you, I don’t drink coffee, I don’t smoke and I only take lunch breaks alone during my working hours.

But those breaks are essential to show that you are social and willing to integrate and share their habits.

Use those breaks to your advantage to get to know your coworkers.

13. Don’t indulge in office politics and gossip on your first day or ever

Avoid people who partake in gossip and employ aggressive methods of office politics.

To not be implicated in the rumor mill, don’t expose your personal life. According to Daniel Goleman, pay attention to “what to say, what not to say, and what to call it” throughout your entire career.

Last Words Of Advice!

Building a strong professional image and leader brand, as soon as you step into your new position, is detrimental to career success.

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15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

We all have been exposed during a period of time to annoying, hateful, toxic coworkers that can drive us crazy.

Sometimes, bringing us to ask ourselves whether they’re the problem or we are…

Wondering how to spot these toxic coworkers from afar and how to handle them?

15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them #toxiccoworkers #leadership #leadershipdevelopment https://journeytoleadershipblog.com Every workplace has difficult employees and we all have been, to some extent, in different situations with hateful coworkers.

I do believe that we all, partially or fully, demonstrate some level of toxicity towards a third party in the workplace.

Below, are the 15 worst toxic coworkers that I have already met and have had to deal with.

Case Study #1: ​The Delicate

Key Symptoms

The Delicate is a sensitive person with vain imagination that constantly and easily feels under attack, and that takes things deeply and personally. The Delicate thinks that people are looking, gossiping and criticizing him or her!

Treatment

  • Keep the conversation on superficial topics and crack jokes about him or her.
  • Avoid using sarcasm, making dry remarks, directly confronting this person. Instead, try to sugarcoat things and to give indirect constructive criticism.

Case Study #2: The Slacker

Key Symptoms

The Slacker is mostly concerned about personal life and regulating it during working hours.

The Slacker does not take his or her work seriously, spends his or her working life over the internet, cannot make a deadline to save his or her life, is not punctual even absent, unapologetically displays a lack of motivation.

The Slacker is visibly unfulfilled in his or her current position but won’t do anything about it.

Treatment

  • Impose a deadline or better yet let him or her publicly impose a deadline.
  • Pick up the slack with the rest of the team and keep quiet.
  • This individual will sink himself or herself. Otherwise, this individual will eventually have to get up and swim, explain their behavior, their performance and their results to upper management.

Case Study #3: The Rocket Scientist

Key Symptoms

The Rocket Scientist is the individual on the team that is full of knowledge but who is in search for recognition for his superior intellect and who demands an immense respect for his expertise. The Rocket Scientist will feel insulted and will almost become passive aggressive if his or her ideas and point of view are being questioned.

Treatment

  • Stop comparing his expertise to anyone on the team.
  • Avoid diminishing his knowledge and ideas in front of the team or behind closed doors.
  • Avoid criticizing his work and intellect.
  • Instead, tap into his range of knowledge by placing him or her in the role of a counselor but not a decision maker.

Case Study #4: The Gossiper

Key Symptoms

The Gossiper is an individual that enjoys gossip, that emphasizes and embellishes a rumor.

The Gossiper is nosy and loves to keep the rumor mill spinning. This person is even capable of destroying someone’s reputation in the office.

Treatment

  • Listen to the rumor without adding any input. The information may not be malicious but indicative of office politics or of a situation that you can take advantage of.
  • However, learn to separate useful information from the gossip.
  • If this person only brings negative void information, crafted gossip, signal your disinterest by not responding or responding with monosyllables or challenging the facts in the story line, discreetly remove yourself from the circle, avoid participating in the rumor mill.
  • Be careful not to offense this person, for they would drag your name in the mud. If this person is actually gossiping about you, avoid any interaction and adding fuel to fire by striking back with gossip before damaging your reputation.
  • Confront this person in a non threatening and diplomatic way, in a private setting by stating that you are aware of the gossip and everyone is saying that she is a liar and the bearer of the negative information but you know that is not true.

Case Study #5: The Bulldozer

Key Symptoms

The Bulldozer is an individual that believes wrongly in his intelligence.

The Bulldozer doesn’t hesitate to make everybody’s life miserable if things don’t go his way.

The Bulldozer threatens, bullies, intimidates, steps on toes and remains on the verge of harassment in order to get things his way. “It’s my way or the high way!”. The Bulldozer imposes his way of doing things even if it is not the best way of doing them.

They make the worst managers ever but are the most common managers found in corporate.

Treatment

  • Cultivate your emotional intelligence in order not to respond to negativity with negativity.
  • listen to this person point of view from beginning to end without uttering a word, then summarize their position and calmly expose yours.

Case Study #6: The Work-To-Rule

Key Symptoms

The Work-To-Rule discards any part of responsibility in a situation, does not understand tram work and does exactly what is stated in their contracts and no more. In fact, the Work-To-Rule insists on not taking on more responsibilities than his or her job description.

Treatment

  • Stress the importance of team work and the value of this individual contribution at work.

Case Study #7: The Overly Friendly

Key Symptoms

The Overly Friendly is an individual that thinks that his coworkers are his extended family and that doesn’t mind sharing extra personal details of his or her life. These details will make you uncomfortable.

Treatment

Explain that you don’t want to hear the gruesome details of his or her life. If his or her behavior are too intimate, it can be considered as harassment and can be reported to human resources.

Case Study #8: The Naysayer

Key Symptoms

The Naysayer is an individual that irritatingly pinpoints everything negative in a situation and predicts problems before they happen, without proposing an alternative and constructive solution to the situation at hand.

Treatment

Position that person in roles that require to see problems before they occur. No need to argue and show the positive side of an idea. To inhibit this behavior, request an explanation why the situation would not work and a thought-through plan for the solution

Case Study #9: The Blameshifter

Key Symptoms

The Blameshifter is an individual that points the finger at everyone else but themselves and that comes up with very creative excuses to completely remove the blame from themselves.

It is a form of narcissism: the Blameshifter is afraid of confronting themselves.

Treatment

  • Come prepared with evidence.
  • If the blame is pointed at you and you know that it is not your fault, give proof of your innocence without accusing this individual.
  • If this individual comes to you with an object of complaint on someone else, in order to avoid being put in the middle, claim that this is none of your business and suggest that they have a conversation with the alleged culprit.

15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

Case Study #10: The Neophobe

Key Symptoms

The Neophobe is an individual that doesn’t deal well with change.

The Neophobe is capable of refusing it, sabotaging it or even halting it.

Treatment

  • Demonstrate to him or her that change isn’t traumatic and can be positive.
  • Provide proof and facts that the change eminent is positive.
  • Help that person embrace change.

Case Study #11: The Chatterbox

Key Symptoms

The Chatterbox is an individual that drops by your workspace and starts chatting without solicitation about anything and everything.

This individual does not necessarily partake in gossip, but volunteers to share their point of view. This individual tends to makes you unproductive and inefficient.

Treatment

  • Avoid using words of exclamation or affirmation to not encourage this person to keep on talking.
  • Avoid making eye contact when this person is passing through.
  • Politely and respectfully explain that you are on schedule.

Case Study #12: The Martyr

Key Symptoms

The Martyr is a dedicated employee, willing to “die” for their company without being asked to do so, and that searches for recognition and validation. For example, the Martyr does extra hours at work and manipulate the boss when someone else get a promotion.

Treatment

  • Show appreciation for this employee and value their work within the company.

Case Study #13: The Stealer

Key Symptoms

The Stealer constantly steals coworkers ideas, takes credit for them and denies it when confronted.

Treatment

  • Hold back on your ideas and opinions when having a conversation with this individual. Listen more than you speak.
  • Avoid confronting this fool but bite your tongue instead because he or she might not know how to implement your ideas.
  • Don’t report it to upper management before appearing to be salty.

Case Study #14: The Snake

Key Symptoms

The Snake is an overly ambitious — almost sociopathic — coworker that smiles to your face and that stabs you and everyone else in the back. The Snake will claim that your ideas are wonderful but will degrade them when you are not looking.

Treatment

  • Keep your personal information, brilliant ideas to yourself.
  • Listen more than you speak.
  • Stay socially engaged and involved in office politics.

Case Study #15: The Ultra Competitive

Key Symptoms

The Ultra Competitive is an individual that is prepared to step over your dead body to succeed or to get recognition in the workplace.

Treatment

  • Focus on your work or get involve in a project where the Ultra Competitive person is not involved in.
  • Stay socially engaged with your other coworkers and keep networking.
  • Consider the company culture, compare them to your values and figure out whether or not you fit in.

How do I deal with other difficult personalities?

Last Words Of Advice!

Toxic coworkersMost coworkers use extreme tactics to get advancements in the workplace and would do anything to trigger you, to demean you or sabotage your own progress. Some take job positions where they do not belong and that they cannot handle. Others are misusing their strengths and transforming them into flaws that are not accepted in the environment they choose to work in. Others are even responding to an already toxic workplace. Lastly some coworkers are oblivious to their visible flaws and practice them outside of work. In order to deal with other toxic coworkers:

  • cultivate emotional intelligence,
  • listen more than you speak,
  • look for the positive or the humour in negative circumstances.

No matter the reasons, you have to learn how to insulate yourself emotionally and spot a hateful coworker from a distance.

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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