Failure is a painful experience and a hard pill to swallow for most.
The pain of failure is difficult to recover from and the memory of it just keeps replaying itself in your mind.
That being said, leaders cannot allow themselves to focus on the past, stay in bed and self-loathe.
Leaders have to find ways to go through life without fearing failure, to learn from their negative experience, to recover from them and to not let failure define them because failure can also be informative and transformative.
Wondering what strategies you can apply to recover from failure?
1. Tell yourself the truth
It is challenging to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself the cold truth.
It is challenging to recognize that you have indeed failed.
It is challenging to admit your shortcomings and implications in your personal failure. Sometimes, it’s not your fault. Sometimes, you have just been passive. Other times, you have brought it down on yourself.
You have to take a good look at the facts, events and at your pain.
You have to stand in your truth. Otherwise, someone else will use it against you, or worse you will never grow.
2. Know your Why
In Start With Why — How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action, Simon Sinek defines your why as your origin story. “By looking to our past and teasing out the most significant threads—the experiences we’ve had, the people we’ve been influenced by, the lives we’ve touched and the highs and lows we’ve faced—we can identify patterns.”
Your Why is a collection of your standout memories and defining moments. If you don’t know your Why, you must find it. it will give meaning to every single one of your failures and help you cope with them.
Knowing your Why will help you define your personal mission statement that you can review on a daily basis.
With your Why in mind, you will be able to surmount just about anything in life.
3. Don’t take failure personally
Failure happens to just about everybody and as hard as you try, there is not much you can do to avoid it.
So, there is no need to take it personally.
Don’t get distracted by your failure, focus on something greater than yourself and acknowledge that you cannot change the past.
Instead, prepare yourself for upcoming success. If you have missed an opportunity, prepare yourself for another one instead of dwelling on your mistakes.
4. Be kind to yourself
It is easy to self loathe, dwell in your pain and replay your failures.
By doing so, you are not only attracting similar events to you but you are not allowing yourself to grow or to move on.
You will unfortunately stay stuck in the same pattern of behavior and thought.
The best and healthiest way you can internally deal with failure is to forgive yourself, stop beating yourself up and to use past events as fuel. You can use your failure to become stronger, more disciplined and kinder to yourself.
5. Take time to take care of yourself
Sometimes, we need to take a step back and put some distance between yourself and your failure.
You can take time off to exercise, eat right, see family and friends, do something you love, go on a trip or do something that you have always wanted to do.
Nobody can make you feel better about yourself but yourself. It is up to you to seek the comfort or the happiness that you need.
6. Embrace gratitude
Another way to get over your pain and some of your problems is to be grateful for what you have and the problems that you don’t have.
Gratitude is a great way to focus on the positives, celebrate past successes and build a success mindset.
Failure is only temporary and there are different ways that you can bounce back.
7. Face your fears head on
You don’t want to stay stuck in your failure and avoid the pain at all cost.
Facing your fears head on is a great way to move on from your failures and empower yourself.
8. Help someone other than yourself
Failure can be distracting and make you self-absorbed.
Get out of your head and see if someone around you needs assistance.
Last Words Of Advice!
It is Ok to fail.
It is not OK to repeat the same mistakes and expect a different result.
Just remember that every failure brings you closer to success.
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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