From workplace bullying to job loss, from an unsatisfied customer to a tough team, from company crisis to personal drama, adversity often catches us by surprise.
Indeed, we never see it coming. If you are a leader, you will definitely be subjected to it and will have to learn how to wear adversity like a badge of honor.
Wondering how to stay positive in the face of adversity?
Why be positive?
Without adversity, we wouldn’t do, create anything or grow as people.
The most effective way to deal with adversity is to stop worrying, to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude.
People enjoy positive people and are most likely to help them. Positive people:
- Are able to overcome adversity.
- Are high performers.
- Are most satisfied with their relationships.
- Focus on the future and are resilient.
- Focus on their strengths.
- Have clear goals. They actively work towards their goals and understand that they can change the outcome of a situation.
- Have control over their lives and see stress as a small bump in the road.
- Know that their mood can be controlled.
- Don’t waste their time and energy on drama.
There are a few strategies to keep your composure and maintain a sense of self.
#1. Assess the situation
Adverse situations are necessary and often come out of the blue.
Sometimes, the situation is not as bad as it seems.
The first step is to identify the origin of the situation and the possible outcomes.
Then, assess the criticality of the situation.
Finally, come up with different potential solutions to your problem.
#2. Change your mindset
Once, you have assessed the situation, it is detrimental to accept your reality, let go of the past and rework your perceptions of adversity.
You can tell yourself that there are always solutions to a problem, that your situation is not as bad as it seems, is only temporary, or can be an opportunity in disguise.
In addition, to change your mindset:
- Visualize yourself beyond your situation.
- Be grateful for what you have. There are people who are in worse situations than you are.
- Understand that your situation is temporary and that you are passing through and will come out safe.
#3. Gain control over your situation
Staying organized and focused will help you gain more control over your situation.
- Focus on what you can do and measure your progress.
- Write down your task for the day in order of importance so you can focus on it.
- Learn your job and become an expert in your field.
- Learn to say no without having to explain yourself. There are different ways to politely express refusal. “I’ll think about it”, “I’ll get back to you”, “I have a prior engagement”…
#4. Gain control over yourself
Adversity makes everything seems out of control and generates a lot of extreme emotions.
Keeping your composure requires a lot of emotional discipline. To do so, take care of your mind, body and soul.
Take care of body
Exercise to keep your confidence up and to quiet your mind.
Take care of your mental health
- Work on your mental health.
- Take time off and stay in a quiet place to meditate, to make peace with yourself, to cope with your problem, to sleep.
- Quickly identify your thought pattern.
- Express your facts, emotions and your adversity in writing.
- Write down your past achievements and what you did to overcome past obstacles as well.
#5. Keep your vision alive
To stay positive, you must keep your goals and your vision alive.
In doing so, remember your mission statement, your purpose and the reasons why you have joined the company.
#6. Maintain your sense of humor
Making fun of your problems can help you understand them and alleviate your load.
Maintaining your sense of humor in times of adversity is a conscious choice. To do so:
- Have a good laugh and make fun of yourself.
- Try to start your day with a smile on your face.
- Look around and find things that will make you smile.
- Be kind to other people, compliment them and put a smile on their face.
- Give back to your team or to your community.
#7. Muster up a strong support system
Your relationships are what will get you through in hard times. That’s why you don’t have to shut yourself off and you must:
- Surround yourself with successful and positive people.
- Take the time to vent and talk things through with someone you trust.
- Ensure that you make time for intimacy.
Last Words Of Advice!
It is important for you to know when it is time to move on.
Moving on doesn’t mean that you are weak or that you cannot handle yourself.
It simply means that you have control over your decisions, that value your health and sanity more than your job, that you understand life and are at peace with yourself.
Furthermore, remember that:
- You are only human.
- You are not the only one going through adversity.
- Your story can help someone overcome theirs.
- Your past mistakes don’t define who you are.
- You must not take your problems personally.
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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