Amy Cuddy

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Amy Cuddy is a social psychologist who studies prejudice. Amy Cuddy is also the author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges.

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Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean By Kim Scott

Being a boss is a full-time job and is not as easy as it seems.

The truth is, being the boss can be an emotional rollercoaster.

It requires maturity, focus and emotional discipline, especially when dealing with people.

That is why Kim Scott has established a few principles that can help bosses create a culture of candor, build stable relationships and evolve into great bosses.

According to Kim Scott, managers, leaders or bosses:

  1. Achieve results.
  2. Deal with people.
  3. Express what they think.
  4. Build and guide cohesive teams.
  5. Accept and give fair and candid feedback.

As you can see, Kim Scott makes no distinction between a boss, a leader and a manager because eventually, they have to assume different roles and master different skills at different moments.

They all have to find out a way to get what they want by saying what they mean.

Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean

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Why and how to build relationships?

The relationships you have with your team determine your level of success, company culture, and performance.

To build great relationships that will help your business:

  • Take care of yourself first.
  • Stay centered and create a healthy work life balance.
  • Find out what works best for you and apply it.
  • Care personally about people.
  • Respect boundaries and people physical space. It is detrimental to find a balance between creating personal yet professional bonds.
  • Spend time alone with your team members.
  • Stay true to your values and share them if possible.
  • Be transparent and aware of your emotions.
  • Discipline your reactions. Learn to respond and not react.

Why and how to build a great team?

People’s motivations are personal.

Every team member can be exceptional, they just have to find the right fit and the right motivations.

Needless to say, work life is better when your team loves what they do.

To build a great team:

  • Get to know the people on your team. Focus more on them than on results.
  • Understand people’s strength and weaknesses, identify how they tick and how their job fits into their life plan.
  • Avoid micromanaging or ignoring your team members.
  • Allocate as much time to those who are struggling as the top performers.
  • Listen to your team members, learn to incorporate their thinking into yours, and give them the opportunity to complain, share ideas, and raise issues. This way, you will create a culture of innovation.

Why and how to accept/give feedback?

Feedback is an uncomfortable process. To accept and give proper feedback:

  • Earn your team’s trust.
  • Listen more than you speak.
  • Understand what motivates your team and help them avoid burnout or boredom.
  • Understand your audience and adapt to it.
  • See feedback as an act of guidance and don’t make it personal.
  • Solicit feedback especially in private conversations and outside of meetings.
  • Voice your own disagreements. Speak up when things are not going well.
  • Take responsibility fo your actions and admit when you have made a mistake
  • Discern the truth from a lie when it comes to feedback.
  • Be humble in your delivery and state that you want to help.

Why and how to achieve results?

Every boss wants results. To achieve results:

  • Have frequent one on one conversation with your team and with a positive mindset. Have a one on one conversation with your team members to get to know them, to solve problems effectively and to help you understand what is working and what is not.
  • Create key metrics to measure progress. Write down any possible updates.
  • Create meetings where you can debate, encourage new ideas and make big decisions.
  • Test out the feasibility of the ideas you have received.

Review

Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean By Kim Scott is a step by step guide on how to be a candid boss.

It is about building candid relationships with the people you work with and about using your humanity as a leadership tool.

Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean By Kim Scott essentially takes the pressure off leaders.

The principles shared expose candor as a management tool, put bosses at ease and help them understand that there is more to being a boss than giving orders.

In addition, the principles shared remove fear, self-doubt and anxiety, then create an understanding regarding the role of a boss.

Furthermore, Kim Scott uses her own experiences at Google and Adsense to drive the conversation and to illustrate her ideas about radical candor.

She provides amazing tools and techniques to implement in order to be a great boss and to have a healthy relationship with your direct reports.

Her tools and techniques are detailed and are not exclusive to bosses.

Finally, the best thing about this book is that you can tell that Kim Scott cares about the career advancement and the emotional health of every boss.

Through radical candor, she demonstrates how to improve all aspects of your work life.

You don’t have to implement every tool or technique right away.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

In order to build a great team, you need to understand how each person’s job fits into their life goals

The way you treat people determines whether you’ll get their best effort, a perfunctory effort, or an effort to sabotage you.

Ratings 3/5

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Kim Scott

12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

Unfortunately, we have all experienced toxic leadership at some point in our career.

Toxic workplaces and toxic leadership foster because the leader is either encouraging it, participating in it or ignoring it.

Toxic leaders are corrosive on the long run. They erode their employees confidence, motivation, productivity, trust, loyalty and respect.

Wondering if you are a toxic leader or are in the presence of one?

12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

#1. Toxic leaders retain useful information

Knowledge is power and toxic leaders know that.

The longer they can keep you in the dark, the longer they have control over you and the longer they stay in power.

In fact, leaders who retain information are insecure and are afraid of being replaced.

#2. Toxic leaders abuse their power and authority

Any chance that they get, toxic leaders need to remind you that they are in power and that they have leverage (financial leverage most of the time) over you.

This type of leaders have huge egos, consider that their employees are subordinates, and do not care who they have to step over to get what they want.

#3. Toxic leaders micromanage their employees

They don’t give people the time or the space to do their job. Instead, they breath down people’s neck.

In fact, micromanaging leaders are counterproductive and create a stressful work environment.

Which, in turn, slows down team work and efficiency.

#4. Toxic leaders condone poor behavior

They accept poor behavior from their team as long as the team produces results.

For example, they would tolerate workplace bullying if it would bring their team closer together.

In turn, they use fear and diverse punishments to incentivize their team.

#5. Toxic leaders manipulate and play aggressive office politics

They play mind games, use information about you against you, love to manipulate and gas light their own team just to stay in power and to advance their career.

#6. Toxic leaders shift responsibility

They talk about accountability but when push comes to shoves they avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

Besides, when things are great, they take credit for your success. When things go bad, they question your abilities and your failures.

#7. Toxic leaders give orders and don’t expect feedback

Forbthem, it is their way or the high way.

They expect you to follow orders whether that order is right or wrong, whether that order benefits them or not.

The truth is they think that they know best but they actually don’t.

#8. Toxic leaders lie for no reason

They backtrack, bend the rules, adjust procedures, make up stories and rumors to for their needs.

They do not care aboitbthe impact of their words and create a culture of distrust.

#9. Toxic leaders protect the status quo

They deeply believe in hierarchy.

They don’t promote change or push innovative ideas.

In addition, they are locked in a particular era, in a particular setting. They don’t wish to modernize or adapt to change.

#10. Toxic leaders are overly emotional

They dramatize everything, have a temper and haven’t got a hold of it.

Their mood usually fluctuates throughout the day.

As a result, their behavior makes people walk on eggshells around them.

#11. Toxic leaders are passive aggressive

Either they play nice to your face and stab you in the back.

Or, they hold their feelings in and act it out instead.

Passive aggressivity is very difficult to deal with as they don’t offer you any type of resolve.

#12. Toxic leaders lack core values

These leaders are entitled and self serving.

They do not care about people and put their own interest first, no matter what.

Last Words Of Advice!

Toxic leaders often scare away their best employees.

Toxic leaders are simply fooling themselves because they live in constant fear.

They are afraid of losing control, of losing power, of seeming inferior, of being replaceable…

Furthermore, they let their fear control them and influence their behavior.

It is not necessary for you to play into their hands:

  • Learn from your experiences, about yourself and your limits. You can always extract lessons from a negative experience.
  • Emotionally and physically discipline youserlf. Don’t lose your cool. By loosing your cool, you are giving them power over you.
  • Don’t take things personally and don’t let their problems become yours. It’s not about you but it’s all about them.
  • Find emotional support outside of work.
  • Keep your dignity. Don’t let other people actions define your character.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    10 Things Every New Leader Should Do

    When you are a leader, people will be watching your every moves like a hawk.

    So, there are a couple of things to do and not to do in order to be unimpeachable and to represent your true self well.

    Sometimes, the novelty of the job, the number of people you meet, the quantity of information transiting in your direction, the new type of pressure tend to make you forget your role as a leader.

    The truth is that you do during your first few days as a leader will mark memories in the long run.

    10 Things Every New Leader Should Do

    10 Things Every New Leader Should Do

    #1. Create work-life balance

    Congratulations on your new position!

    1. Take a moment to drain it all in and celebrate success. When you access a new position, you are either frightened or excited.
    2. Take some time to assess your new role and the advancement in your career, on your success.
    3. Get your personal life together. Have hobbies and a strong support system in place.
    4. Prepare your transition to your new position.

    #2. Mind your character

    When you meet someone for the first time, they will have a tendency to test you, your principles, character, core values and boundaries.

    For example, from your boss to the cleaning lady, they will all check if you get angry easily or his much patience you have.

    It is important to always be developing yourself as a leader.

    #3. Check your attitude

    A positive attitude is everything and will determine your heights to success. During the first few months, it is detrimental to:

    1. Stay visible.
    2. Adopt a winning strategy.
    3. Be aware of your actions. You are now a role model.
    4. Keep a positive attitude and body language, even when you don’t feel like it.

    #4. Be approachable

    Sometimes, it’s important to seem approachable:

    1. Introduce yourself to people even if you don’t know them or are not introduced. Don’t wait too long before introducing yourself or else it will quickly get awkward.
    2. Remember names when you are being introduced.
    3. Try to get along with people for the first few days.
    4. Help others find their motivation.

    #5. Groom yourself and dress like a leader.

    No matter what people say, first impressions matter unfortunately. Dressing like a leader will help you feel confident and will in consequence increase your ability to lead.

    Even though you know that clothes don’t define your character, most people make snap judgments.

    Also, observe the company’s dress code and dress accordingly.

    #6. Keep learning

    Learning is a humbling process. Even though new leaders think that they can handle their position with their old skills and their old knowledge, most of them don’t have the necessary skills to be a leader.

    1. Make sure that you study and learn the corporate culture.
    2. Evaluate what you have learned from your previous jobs and from the previous one in your position.
    3. Ask questions even if they make you look or feel incompetent.
    4. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform.
    5. Don’t stop learning. Not because you have reached a leadership position that you have to stop learning and stop asking questions.

    #7. Build relationships

    Building the right relationships is a cultural key to success.

    To quickly build relationships and to grow your network, put your interpersonal skills to the test and make a positive first impression.

    #8. Watch out for office politics

    Office politics in the first few days is risky.

    1. Be mindful of office politics and the cliques that already exist.
    2. Choose your clicks wisely you want to belong to. Do not try to belong to a group in particular or try to be friends with their former colleagues.
    3. Keep your opinion about your colleagues and your work to yourself. There is nothing more disgraceful than a gossiping leader that nobody can trust.
    4. Find out how your new team operated in the past.

    #9. Assess your strengths and weaknesses 

    You do not want to reach these heights and find out that the positions is not made for you, that you are not capable of achieving success, job fulfillment, job satisfaction.

    1. Understand that different skills will be demanded in your new role. What got you here won’t get you there.
    2. Make sure that you really want this position and that it’s right for you.
    3. Get a hold on your purpose. You will know if you are walking in your purpose by the amount of joy you experience while executing your purpose.

    #10. Earn your respect

    In your first few months:

    1. Do not try to be liked but to be respected. This is an advice for mostly women who have to annoyingly smile and forcefully be polite.
    2. Don’t be too quick to use your new authority or power.
    3. Start taking responsibility for your actions.
    4. Share your core values and set high expectations for performance, results, conduct, alignment and engagement.
    5. Give respect. Find out where your role starts and ends. There is no need to step on anybody’s toes.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    The first months are the right time to set right habits.

    1. Don’t stop growing and expect discomfort.
    2. Remember that you are the one who makes the decision.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    13 Signs That You Are A Trailblazing Leader

    Pioneering or trailblazing leaders are the firsts to do anything in any field.

    Indeed, they initiate, innovate, explore and thrive in uncharted territory. They face obstacles before anyone else.

    Furthermore, they are always learning, growing and getting out of their comfort zones.

    Needless to say, the job of the pioneering or trailblazing leader is hard. 

    Wondering what makes you a trailblazing leader?

    13 Signs That You Are A Trailblazing Leader

    13 Signs That You Are A Trailblazing Leader

    Being a pioneer or trailblazer requires courage, grit, commitment and responsibility.

    #1. You have a clear vision

    You have a clear vision for your future.

    Your vision is a dream that encompasses their values and morals, that seems unrealistic but that is yet anchored in reality, that is ingrained in your DNA.

    You are confident about it and you can communicate it easily.

    You aim to build a company culture that promotes curiosity, imagination and brainstorming.

    However, you do not need to have a clear step by step plan.

    In addition, you are always frustrated because your reality doesn’t match your vision. Your progress doesn’t seem enough and you believe that you can be better, do better, do more and do faster.

    #2. You know your worth

    You are aware of your strengths and weaknesses, of your limitations and your uniqueness.

    You value your originality and you hate imitating others.

    You don’t try to blend in because you understand your value resides in standing out.

    #3. You are pathologically curious

    You are eager to learn and cannot stop asking questions.

    Without fearing repercussions, you ask questions that no one has never asked before.

    You understand that the possibilities are endless and you are never done exploring them.

    You experiment with things that excite or scare you. By facing your fears, you evolve and learn important information about yourself.

    #4. You embrace change

    You embrace change and innovation. Matter of fact, you love to lead in tumultuous waters, you are the first to say or do anything and you adapt easily to change.

    Great leaders know that they have to embrace change in order to stay competitive and relevant.

    Moreover, you see life as an adventure. For example, you are unafraid of uprooting and moving to a strange place.

    You love experimenting, taking risks and can’t stand routine.

    You enjoy trying new thing and seeing what will happen next.

    #5. You are creative

    You are creative and your need to create overpowers all your fears.

    You can’t help that you:

    1. Require creative freedom.
    2. Are entirely consumed by your creations.
    3. Care more about the content than the format.
    4. Care more about creating than being right or clever.
    5. Care more about creating or innovating than selling or untroducing it to the world.

    #6. You need freedom

    Your freedom means everything to you.

    You hate structure, rules, paperwork because you believe that all these are processes stifle your creativity, delay your pioneering moves and slow you down.

    #7. You challenge the status quo

    You are unpredictable. Your forward-thinking disrupts, challenges the status quo and pushes people out of their comfort zone.

    Consequently, your presence and your perspectives make people uncomfortable.

    You wish that they can see what you see and understand what you believe in.

    #8. You attract the right people

    You love to explore and to meet new people.

    A trailblazing leader goes first and leads by example. By going first, you will attract the right type of followers and you will be able to feed from their energy to keep pursuing your vision.

    At the end, you will build a team that is unconventional but has the right skills to reach your vision.

    #9. You take self-motivated action

    You constantly take action and need to move forward.

    Indeed, you are always on the move, looking for the next new thing. You are always looking for new opportunities.

    Furthermore, you are self-motivated. You do not need someone to encourage you or push you towards your goals.

    You are goal-oriented: you have a tendency to focus on your vision and unfortunately forget your relationships.

    Hiwever, with your actions, you will inspire others to take action.

    #10. You are resilient

    You are persistent and resilient. You see challenges as opportunities and courageously face adversity.

    You are also committed to your vision and are willing to see a problem through.

    By now, You have thick skin because people have tried to shut you down so many times.

    Do not fear the winds of adversity. Remember, a kite rises against the wind rather than with it.” - Winston S. Churchill Click To Tweet

    #11. You are solution-oriented

    Because you usually blaze a trail, you have become resourceful and solution-oriented.

    You are able to make quick decisions and bring new solutions to your organization by solely relying on your gut for the next direction to take.

    In addition, you are able to find different solutions to one problem because you are confident about the future.

    #12. You are optimistic

    You stay positive as a life and leadership strategy.

    You are optimistic and excited about all the possible positive outcomes.

    Furthermore, you don’t complain. You understand that life is made of ups and downs, that complaining amplifies the issues and weigh you down.

    #13. Your work ethic is unheard of

    You have a strong work ethic.

    You believe that if you put the work in, your vision will come to life.

    You are committed to your vision and have laser focus.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    Remember, most people will feel uncomfortable in your presence because you question their reality and their systems of belief.

    It becomes critical to remember who you are and what you stand for.

    It becomes detrimental to be patient with people, to stand alone than to stand in the midst of people who group-think.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone

    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is a guide to set goals, reach and retain success in any area of your life.

    The 10X Rule will help you to define your version of success and to repetitively create extraordinary levels of success.

    What is the 10X Rule?

    The 10X Rule is achieving success by putting in 10 times the effort and the action that the average person would.

    The 10X Rule means acting towards your goals with 10 times the right mindset.

    Why is the 10X Rule vital?

    Estimating the  right amount of effort and time to invest in your goals will help you reach your target without moving the finish line.

    Furthermore, multiplying your effort by 10 will allow you to predict issues and to be prepared.

    By using the 10X Rule, you will be able to:

    • Stick to your guns and not be distracted.
    • Define your own version of success.
    • Make a plan for your life.
    • Filter out goals that have been imposed on you.
    • Set your own limits and aim for the impossible.
    • Set a positive and sustainable mindset.
    • Implement your own system of belief.
    • Properly estimate your abilities.
    • Tap into your full potential.
    • Work without it feeling like work.

    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone

    How to achieve higher levels of success?

    Success is having a purposeful life and its realization is your responsibility.

    In addition, success is important for your personal growth, for your sense of self and for your well-being. 

    Success depends on your stage in life and shouldn’t be minimized.

    Success is not a popularity contest. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet

    To achieve higher levels of success:

    1. Do not play the victim or make excuses

    It is detrimental to take responsibility for your actions, to find solutions, take action and gain more control of your life.

    2. Relinquish control

    In life and at work, you will not control everything. However, you can control how you respond to everything.

    3. Be the solution

    Understand that you can be the solution and the problem to your situation, at the same time.

    4. Do not try to be average

    Being average and facing average difficulties will not lead you to success.

    People who operate on the average level tend to try to overestimate results, underestimate difficulties, steal success from those who operate at the 10X level.

    5. Do not rest on your laurels

    Resting on your laurels is the surest way to get overpowered and to lose sight of your goals.

    6. Set your goals

    Goal-setting plays an important part in your success.

    • Set your goals high enough so you do not fail, so you resist adversity and maintain your enthusiasm.
    • Speak your goals into reality on a daily basis.
    • Align your goals with your purpose.
    • Clearly define your goals.
    • Verify that your goals are equal to your potential.
    • Understand that your goals are personal.

    7. Avoid competing with others

    When you compete with others, you spend more time watching what someone else is doing rather than creating and setting the pace.

    It becomes critical to find your niche, dominate your field and do what others are not willing to do.

    8. Be mindful of the company you keep

    The people you associate with determine your level of success.

    Before joining a group, analyze the pros and the cons of belonging to this group.

    9. Get obsessed over success

    Obsession is not all negative. Obsession can be converted into action and can be conveyed.

    Being obsessed will push you to make things work.

    Get obsessed over success.

    Get obsessed over every possibilities and every action that will take you towards your goals.

    10. Go all in

    Going all in means fully committing to your goals and possibly over-delivering.

    No matter what, understand that:

    • It is OK put all your eggs in one basket and to over-commit.
    • You can and will fail as many times as you will and can succeed.

    11. Embrace fear

    Take fear as a sign to keep doing what you actually fear and to keep applying the 10X rule because:

    • Fear means that you are growing.
    • Fear means you are doing something uncomfortable.
    • Your moment is now. There isn’t a good time to take action.

    12. Value your time

    Time is of the essence. To achieve success: manage your time effectively, maximize your time, set your priorities, create a healthy work-life balance.

    13. Do not be afraid of criticism

    Criticism means that you are on your way to success when you start taking action.

    The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet

    Review

    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is an inspirational and motivational book, written for leaders, entrepreneurs and anyone who wishes to be successful.

    It forces you to reevaluate your goals, your purpose and your definition of success.

    It encourages you to take risks, “act, produce and create in massive quantities regardless of the situation or circumstances.”

    It demonstrates how to be and stay the leader in any field. The 10X Rule focuses on your character, your mindset and your goal-setting skills.

    Most of the time, we struggle to reach our goals and don’t understand why. But, Grant Cardone makes it very clear that:

    • You must be self-aware and self-assured.
    • You are the only one that stands  in front of your goals.
    • Success depends integrally on the effort, time and energy that you put in.
    • Most of what society claims to be wrong is an inherent part of success.

    To Grant Cardone  success is a mindset and is determined by your purpose.

    The 10X Rule is not a get rich quick trick. Remember:

    • All goals are difficult to achieve.
    • You will always face some type of adversity.
    • You must assess your abilities and your resources.
    • Your goals must be extraordinary, appropriate and require motivation.
    • Success must be constantly maintained.
    • You current state doesn’t matter.
    • The way you are perceived doesn’t matter.

    Let me know below what you think about this book!

    Favorite quote(s)

    When you have underestimated the time, energy, and effort necessary to do something, you will have “quit” in your mind, voice, posture, face, and presentation. You won’t develop the persistence necessary to get your mission accomplished.

    Never take the position that things just happen to you; rather, they happen because of something you did or did not do.

    Until a person is done being a victim, he or she is unable to create solutions and success. That person only has problems.

    The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity.

    If you are not creating new problems for yourself, then you aren’t taking enough action.

    Success is not a popularity contest.

    Ratings 4/5

    Author

    Grant Cardone

    Grant Cardone

    MEET THE AUTHORGrant Cardone is an internationally renowned speaker on leadership, real estate investing, entrepreneurship, social media and finance. Grant Cardone is also the author of The 10X Rule.