Mindset: The New Psychology of Success By Carol S. Dweck

According to Carol S. Dweck in Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, children are eager to learn and never worry about failing.

It is only when they grow up that they don’t want to look foolish, and start defining themselves by their failures and successes.

However, the most successful people don’t worry about failing and have developed a Growth Mindset.

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What is a Growth Mindset?

Mindsets are just beliefs. They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind. - Carol S. Dweck Click To Tweet

The Growth Mindset can be applied to different areas of our lives.

Growth Mindset consists in converting your past failures into successes.

It shows us how to:

  • Love and cope with failures.
  • Turn failures into a learning experience.
  • Cultivate your intelligence and most skills through failures and perseverance.
  • Challenge and stretch yourself.
  • Do your best and put forth the effort where there needs to be.
  • Change the beliefs about yourself and identify your personal qualities.
  • Avoid a life of regrets.

On the other hand, the Fixed Mindset limits our achievements.

The Fixed Mindset has been instilled in us, unbeknownst to us, since our tender childhood.

When you don’t have a Growth Mindset, you tend to:

  • Show more depression.
  • Believe that you possess fixed traits.
  • Look for outside validation or for people who are worse off than you are.
  • Feel an urge to succeed and to prove yourself.

How leaders grow their mindset?

Fixed Mindset leaders only hire people who can boost their ego and make them feel superior. They use their company as a display of their superiority.

They tend to compare themselves to others, to become abusive and controlling, to pick on people who perform at their best.

  1. Monitor your surrounding and your thought patterns. Then, understand the implications and what you can learn from your experience.
  2. Learn to maintain a sense of confidence and devote yourself to growing.
  3. Make concrete plans that you can visualize.
  4. Understand that your plans will fail from time to time and that you will have to develop strategies to maintain your Growth Mindset.
  5. Don’t hide your mistakes and don’t be defensive about it.
  6. Take care of your people.
  7. Don’t allow groupthink and allow dissenting voices to speak up.
  8. Don’t feel threatened by high performing employees and help your employees improve on the job.
  9. Ask for feedback and for more information to learn.
  10. Stop beating yourself up when you have failed.
  11. Remember that everyday is an opportunity to learn.

Review

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck is a self-help book that encourages introspection and teaches us how to develop a “Growth Mindset”.

In Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck shares poignant examples of people who have embraced the Growth Mindset, overcome challenges and achieved personal success.

In addition, Carol S. Dweck recaps all the ways we can be harboring a fixed mindset in our parenting, relationships and leadership.

She also asks significant questions to help us determine whether or not we have a Growth or Fixed Mindset.

I wish there were more detained and practical advice or a step by step guide on how to acquire a Growth Mindset.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

People may start with different temperaments and different aptitudes, but it is clear that experience, training, and personal effort take them the rest of the way.

Mindsets are just beliefs. They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind.

Even in the growth mindset, failure can be a painful experience. But it doesn’t define you. It’s a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from.

Real self-confidence is not reflected in a title, an expensive suit, a fancy car, or a series of acquisitions. It is reflected in your mindset: your readiness to grow.

Ratings 3.5/5

Author

Carol S. Dweck

 

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Carol S. Dweck is a PH.D and researcher in the fields of personality, social psychology, and developmental psychology. Carol S. Dweck is also the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

101 Powerful Leadership Quotes To Inspire Success

When the going gets tough, there is nothing better than a powerful quote to re-energize you, to remind you of who you truly are to give you back courage, to teach you how to lead an to sustain your leadership.

I have gathered 101 great leadership quotes that will inspire you to increase your personal power and achieve success.

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1

The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes. It is very easy to say yes.

Tony Blair

2

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

John Quincy Adams

3

Leadership is a choice, not a position.

Stephen Covey

4

Leaders live by choice, not by accident.

Mark Gorman

5

Trust is the essence of Leadership.

Colin Powell

6

A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way.

John C. Maxwell

7

What you do has far greater impact than what you say.

Stephen Covey

8

A leader is best when people barely know he exists…when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will all say: We did it ourselves.

Lao-Tzu

9

People who are truly strong lift others up. People who are truly powerful bring others together.

Michelle Obama

10

Always be the person you would want to work for.

Liz Brenner

11

To handle yourself, use your head; to handle other, use your heart.

Eleanor Roosevelt

12

He who asks a question is a fool for a minute; he who does not remains a fool forever.

Chinese Proverb

13

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Dalai Lama

14

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

Albert Einstein

15

Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

George Addair

16

Nothing will work unless you do.

Maya Angelou

17

Don’t find fault, find a remedy.

Henry Ford

18

Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.

Henry Ford

19

Leadership is a series of behaviors rather than a role for heroes.

Margaret J. Wheatley

20

Find the smartest people you can and surround yourself with them.

Marissa Mayer

21

Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.

Tina Fey

22

Well-behaved women rarely make history.

Eleanor Roosevelt

23

Leaders have the courage to make unpopular decisions and gut calls.

Jack Welch

24

People buy into the leader before they buy into the vision.

John C. Maxwell

25

I believe in a quiet, strong and grounded leadership. I think some of the best leaders are those whose work is widely known and respected but who, themselves, are relatively unknown.

Rachael Chong

26

A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others.

General Douglas MacArthur

27

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Theodor Seuss Geisel

28

To lead people, walk behind them.

Lao Tzu

29

Don’t follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you.

Margaret Thatcher

30

Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.

Robert Louis Stevenson

31

Lead me, follow me, or get the hell out of my way.

George S. Patton Jr.

32

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

33

Be with a leader when he is right, stay with him when he is still right, but, leave him when he is wrong.

Abraham Lincoln

34

You do not lead by hitting people over the head — that’s assault, not leadership.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

35

Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway.

Eleanor Roosevelt

36

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: Try to please everybody.

Herbert Swope

37

Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.

Warren Bennis

38

A leader is a person you will follow to a place you would not go by yourself.

Joel Barker

39

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.

Abraham Lincoln

40

A leader is one who sees more than others see, who sees farther than others see, and who sees before others see.

Leroy Eimes

41

Become the kind of leader that people would follow voluntarily; even if you had no title or position.

Brian Tracy

42

People buy into the leader before they buy into the vision.

John Maxwell

43

A ruler should be slow to punish and swift to reward.

Ovid

44

Lead and inspire people. Don’t try to manage and manipulate people. Inventories can be managed but people must be led.

Ross Perot

45

What you do has far greater impact than what you say.

Stephen Covey

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46

One of the tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency.

Arnold Glasow

47

A competent leader can get efficient service from poor troops, while on the contrary an incapable leader can demoralize the best of troops.

John J Pershing

48

There are three essentials to leadership: humility, clarity and courage.

Fuchan Yuan

49

A cowardly leader is the most dangerous of men.

Stephen King

50

I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples.

Mother Teresa

51

A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.

Martin Luther King

52

The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have.

Sheryl Sandberg

53

Efficiency is doing the thing right. Effectiveness is doing the right thing.

Peter F. Drucker

54

Leadership is unlocking people’s potential to become better.

Bill Bradley

55

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10000 ways that won’t work.

Thomas A. Edison

56

The only way to do great work is to love what you do.

Steve Jobs

57

Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.

Buddha

58

Believe you can and you’re halfway there.

Theodore Roosevelt

59

Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego.

Jocko Willink

60

Leadership distilled down to 3 words: Make a difference.

Robin Sharma

61

A winner is a dreamer who never gives up.

Nelson Mandela

62

Leadership is a mindset in action. So don’t wait for the title. Leadership isn’t something that anyone can give you – you have to earn it and claim it for yourself.

Travis Bradberry

63

Leaders don’t force people to follow – they invite them on a journey.

Charles S. Lauer

64

Show me the man you honor and I will know what kind of man you are.

Thomas John Carlisle

65

Leadership is not just about giving energy… it’s unleashing other people’s energy.

Paul Polman

66

The leaders who get the most out of their people are the leaders who care most about their people.

Simon Sinek

67

I think leadership is service and there is power in that giving: to help people, to inspire and motivate them to reach their fullest potential.

Denise Morrison

68

Being humble doesn’t mean that you lack self-confidence, or that you never stand up for your own opinions or principles. It does mean recognizing that you don’t know everything – and that you’re willing to learn from others.

Justin Bariso

69

A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

70

If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.

Henry Ford

71

My jobs as a leader is to make sure everybody in the company has great opportunities, and that they feel they’re having a meaningful impact.

Larry Page

72

I know of no single formula for success. But over the years I have observed that some attributes of leadership are universal and are often about finding ways of encouraging people to combine their efforts, their talents, their insights, their enthusiasm and their inspiration to work together.

Queen Elizabeth II

73

When people talk, listen completely.

Ernest Hemingway

74

Leadership is an ever-evolving position.

Mike Krzyzewski

75

What you do has far greater impact than what you say.

Steven R. Covey

76

Inspiring conduct has so much more of an impact than coercing it.

Thomas Friedman

77

Real leaders are ordinary people with extraordinary determinations.

John Seaman Garns

78

True leadership lies in guiding others to success–in ensuring that everyone is performing at their best, doing the work they are pledged to do and doing it well.

Bill Owens

79

It’s impossible to engage people when you’re not engaged yourself, and if you’re not engaged then why should they be.

Gordon Tredgold

80

But to practice leadership, you need to accept that you are in the business of generating chaos, confusion, and conflict.

Ronald Heifetz

81

Leaders should be able to stand alone, take the heat, bear the pain, tell the truth, and do what’s right.

Max De Pree

82

A leader must have the courage to act against an expert’s advice.

James Callaghan

83

No pressure, no diamonds.

Thomas Carlyle

84

Some people dream of success, while other people get up every morning and make it happen.

Wayne Huizenga

85

The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.

Oprah Winfrey

86

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Winston S. Churchill

87

Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.

George Bernard Shaw

88

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.

Joyce Brothers

89

Successful people have no fear of failure. But unsuccessful people do. Successful people have the resilience to face up to failure—learn the lessons and adapt from it.

Roy T. Bennett

90

Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.

Sam Walton

91

Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy.

Norman Schwarzkopf

92

In a moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing.

Theodore Roosevelt

93

A leader has the vision and conviction that a dream can succeed.

Ralph Nader

94

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again. This time more intelligently.

Henry Ford

95

Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.

Jack Welch

96

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

Dale Carnegie

97

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.

Albert Einstein

98

Success isn’t about how much money you make; it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.

Michelle Obama

99

The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority.

Ken Blanchard

100

Successful leaders see the opportunities in every difficulty rather than the difficulty in every opportunity.

Reed Markham

101

The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.

Epictetus

 

 

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13 Leadership Books Every Up&Coming Leader Should Read To Achieve Success

There comes a time when leaders feel stuck in a rut, unable to solve problems or constantly being blindsided by events.

That is because they lack wisdom and character, they don’t have the appropriate knowledge of themselves and of the situation.

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Books provide valuable information for leaders to grow and to improve themselves.

Reading has to play an important part in leadership.

The following books will help you improve your self-awareness, develop your character, build your vision and your purpose.

1. The Alchemist

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Author: Paulo Coelho

Ratings: 4.5/5

The Alchemist outlines the journey of a leader.

It teaches us to be ourselves and to follows our heart and gut.

It reminds us that failure always brings us closer to our success and that all we need is already within us.

 

2. The Four Agreements

 

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz

Ratings: 4.5/5

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz gathers four “agreements” to live by to ensure a better lifestyle, a deeper understanding of life, a life in the moment.

He encourages us to be impeccable with our words, to not take anything personally, to not making assumptions and to do our best.

3. Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean

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Author: Kim Scott

Ratings 3/5

In Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean, Kim Scott reveals ways to be truthful, to develop candid relationships.

Being truthful without being a bully is difficult. Candor comes with risks but it will determine your level of success in the long run.

4. Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

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Author: Amy Cuddy

Ratings: 3.5/5

Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges, Amy Cuddy gives advice on managing nonverbal cues to induce Presence, identifying your best authentic self, nurturing your boldest self, and creating personal power.

It is useful for leaders who want to get in touch with their best self.

5. H3 Leadership: Be Humble. Stay Hungry. Always Hustle.

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Author: Brad Lomenick

Ratings: 4/5

H3 Leadership: Be Humble. Stay Hungry. Always Hustle.Brad Lomenick draws conclusions from his personal leadership style and allies spirituality with leadership.

He shares various tips on being a better leader. He also urges us to define who we are, to identify where you are going and how you will get there.

6. Principles: Life and Work

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Author: Ray Dalio

Ratings: 3/5

Dalio shares many principles to navigate life and work.

Ray Dalio encourages us to stay open-minded, to find and speak truth in order to live a healthier lifestyle, to meet our goals and to handle setbacks.

 

7. Tribes: We need you to lead us

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Author: Seth Godin

Ratings: 3/5

In Tribes: We need you to lead us, Seth Godin declares that everybody wants and needs to belong to a tribe.

He also demonstrates how challenging the status quo is a simple way to create your own tribe, to build your fellowship, to define your leadership without forcing people.

 

8. No One Understands You and What To Do About It

 

Author: Heidi Grant Halvorson

Ratings: 4/5

In No One Understands You and What To Do About It, Heidi Grant Halvorson explores the prominent reasons why we are often misunderstood.

She also gives useful advice on how to clean up our reputation, to clarify a difficult situation.

 

9. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful

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Author: Marshall Goldsmith

Ratings: 4/5

In What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More SuccessfulMarshall Goldsmith helps you identify all the 21 bad behaviors that are currently holding you back from success.

He also provides different solutions so you develop your character and be your best self at work.

 

10. Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

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Author: Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg

Ratings 3/5

Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg list all the common self-defeating habits that we have acquired in life and have brought to work.

In order to achieve success, they show us how to get out our own way, how to stop self-sabotaging, how and what to change.

11. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less

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Author: Greg Mckeown

Ratings: 4/5

Essentialism is a thought process that drives success, that improves your decisions making and time management skills.

In Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less, Greg Mckeown replaces the false assumptions that we can do it all, that being busy means being productive, that we must accept every single opportunity that comes our way.

12. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us

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Author: Daniel H. Pink

Ratings: 4/5

In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, Daniel H. Pink shows us that people are not motivated by common external factors such as money or fame. 

Daniel H. Pink reveals that people’s behaviors are mostly driven by purpose, passion, autonomy, a need for self-improvement and for self-imposed goals.

Leaders can use that innate drive to increase productivity, improve performance and build stronger teams.

13. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

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Author: Angela Duckworth

Ratings 3/5

In Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, Duckworth defines Grit as a combination of resilience, determination, purpose and passion. 

According to Angela Duckworth, anyone can acquire grit. Furthermore, people with grit are more successful than people who are talented but who don’t put in work.

 

 

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8 Ways Great Leaders Deal With Disappointment

Recently, I have made solid plans around an opportunity that didn’t turn out. Thou I didn’t care much about the opportunity, I was frustrated that the plans that I carefully hatched fell through.

In order to find out why the opportunity fell off, I had a conversation with a toxic individual who spewed lies and venom and with whom I happened to get out of character.

Because I lost my plans for the future and gave away my personal power, I was deeply disappointed in myself and in the circumstances.

If you are a trailblazing leader, are goal-oriented or enjoy making plans for the future, these moments happen often and you will face a lot of disappointments in your life.

That is why, you simply have to learn to cope with it.

Wondering how leaders overcome disappointment in life?

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The importance of disappointments

Disappointment is defined as feelings of sadness or displeasure caused by feelings of unfulfilled hope and failed expectations.

Sometimes, an opportunity that we wished for just doesn’t turn out; A person we are hoping for doesn’t show up or act right.

However, life never goes according to plans. Eventually, you will make new plans, you will realize that not every opportunity is a good opportunity and not everyone is good for you.

Feelings of disappointment are hard to get rid off at first but are ephemeral. Those feelings will go away with time.

Once you have overcome these feelings, you will finally understand who you truly are, you can grow as a person, become a stronger person, and build up your character.

How to overcome disappointment?

1. Accept your emotions

Disappointment is part of life and everyone will experience it at some point in life.

Disappointment can trigger a vast array of emotions that you cannot run away from or cover up.

It becomes critical to acknowledge your feelings and find out what exactly triggered it.

Refusing to analyze, confront and discipline your emotions can cause long-term damage on your health.

2. Forgive yourself

Learning to forgive yourself is the hardest part of dealing with disappointment because we are grasping our errors and what we “should” have done instead.

You are only human. You have made mistakes and you will probably make some more.

So, be compassionate with yourself, avoid shifting blame and take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well and exercise.

3. Reframe your mindset

Now, that you have dealt with your raw emotions, it is time to restructure your mindset, improve on yourself, analyze your situation and mentally distance yourself from your past expectations.

This is the moment when you get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable, when you accept disappointment as a part of life and as a challenge, when you use it to improve yourself and to change the way you have been doing things.

While you are reframing your mindset:

  • Monitor your self-talk.
  • Don’t expect to be constantly disappointed because you attract what you think.
  • Practice self control to make better decisions, to nurture healthy thoughts because you are responsible for yourself.

4. Shift your focus

Now that you have reframed your mind, you have to trust that positivity can result from a negative situation and focus on turning your negative situation into a positive one.

The best way to keep moving forward and to making the best out of any situation is to  stay busy, positive, focused and on purpose, to focus on your strengths and on who you want to be.

You can also find out what you could have done differently and make your goals more achievable.

5. Stay present

Your disappointment happened in the past and it’s time to move on.

There is no sense in replaying a situation in your mind over and over again.

It becomes detrimental to your health to be present and be grateful for what you currently have.

If you cannot remain in the present and keep ruminating, it is best to quickly analyze your feelings until you get closure.

6. Surround yourself with positive people

Disappointment can turn into a burden that can be too heavy for one person.

It can be helpful to share your disappointment with people you trust and who care about you.

As a general notice:

  • Be careful who you surround yourself with.
  • Stay away from people who constantly disappoint you or who hurt you on purpose.

7. Let go control

In life, you must always remember that you cannot control everything that happens to you or around you.

Therefore, 

  • Don’t worry about the circumstances outside your control. It won’t change anything.
  • Trust that life has a better plan and solution for you.
  • Remember that there are many more opportunities out there.
  • Don’t get too attached to your plans and expectations.
  • Expect setbacks in life.

8. Grow!

Remember that life is a journey and that every failure brings you closer to your success.

We can learn something from every life experience, even from our disappointments.

Last Words Of Advice!

No matter the situation, always maintain your personal power.

There is no need to always throw yourself a pity party.

Once you have given yourself time to heal and when you get over your feelings of disappointment, you must think about what you could have done differently and implement the new solution the next time you face a similar situation.

Now that you know better, do better!

 

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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Best Self: Be You, Only Better By Mike Bayer

In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer encourages people to be their Best Self.

What is your Best Self?

Your Best Self is unique, positive, evolved and aligned with your truth.

When you are being your best self, you are being your most authentic and at your core.

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How to connect with your Best Self?

Connecting with your Best Self takes time and requires patience. To get in touch with your Best Self:

  • Express gratitude frequently to get out of a negative space. Make a gratitude list of everything that puts you in a good mood or elevates you in any kind of way.
  • Embrace change. Everybody can change if they want to, they just have to apply the right motivations.
  • Identify your fears. Once you have identified your fears, put them to the test to see if your assumptions are true, if they are rational, if they help you succeed, or if they serve your best interests.
  • Recognize any signs of egotistical behavior. Once you have acknowledge your behavior, assess the origins of it and get your ego in check.

Assessing your Best Self

“SPHERES stands for Social life, Personal life, Health, Education, Relationships, Employment, and Spiritual life”.

The SPHERES tool, create by Mike Bayer, is a screening tool used to assess your Best Self in all areas of your life.

Your social life 

In the SPHERES tool, your social situation determines how well you project your Best Self to the world.

It then becomes imperative to analyze how you interact with people. You can also assess your ability to send clear messages, to listen to others, to embrace human emotions, to handle highly charged situations, to give and receive feedback.

Your personal life

Your personal life contains your self-image, your self-talk, the level of compassion and respect you have for yourself.

To create the personal life that you want, you will have to:

  • Rewire your brain to think positively by challenging your internal dialogue.
  • Get familiar with what you are constantly telling yourself.
  • Identify the messages you tell yourself when you are under pressure.
  • Log your thoughts and your self-talk, identify the common themes and tones.
  • Be compassionate with yourself. Take care of yourself and monitor your stress levels before they snowball. If you take care of yourself, you will definitely be able to take care of others.
  • Connect with your passions. Your passions will vary throughout your life. Your passions will allow you to express yourself, to strengthen your bond with your Best Self and vibrate at a higher frequency. To find your passions, explore new things, challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

Your health

Prioritizing your well-being allows you to be present, keep a clear mind and achieve your Best Self.

Your education

Remaining in a “lifetime learning mode” will help you evolve into your Best Self and become more self-aware.

Once you find your passions, you will take pleasure in acquiring knowledge in that field.

Your relationships

Your relationships reflect who you are as a person.

Your Best Self will gauge who you want to be around, judge the health of a relationship and help you make the tough decisions.

In order to stay connected to your Best Self in all relationships, you must define your core values, exercise them and identify the people who live up to them.

Your employment

We spend most of our days at work.

So, when we are not able to fully be ourselves, our work life tends to become draining.

It somehow becomes important to nurture our Best Selves at work or create a career path that allows us to maximize our potential at work.

Review

In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer shares tips and tools to help you achieve your Best Self. He helps you make a diagnostic of all the aspects of your life and provides practical solutions to your problems.

Furthermore, Best Self: Be You, Only Better is a workbook that teaches you how to fix what’s inside to fix outside. It is on point when it comes to assessing people’s behavior and can conveniently be revisited several time in your life.

Best Self: Be You, Only Better is ideal for leaders who want to improve their leadership skills and bring their best selves at work. It becomes clear that if you are your best self, you can create the best teams, take care of others and create the best organization.

With this workbook:

  • Get in touch with your Best Self.
  • Reach your highest potential.
  • Find more balance in your life.
  • Evolve, change, reinvent yourself and improve your life.
  • Learn to handle adversity and crisis.
  • Discover your truth and your purpose.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

Many of society’s “rules” simply don’t apply to us as individuals, and if we spend all our energy on trying to be, do, say, and act like society wants us to, we are simply wasting time we could be spending on discovering and connecting with our Best Self.

Self-care is foundational to living your ideal life.

Ratings 4/5

Author

Mike Bayer

Mike Bayer

MEET THE AUTHOR

Mike Bayer is a professional personal development coach, CEO and founder of CAST Centers. Mike Bayer is also the author of Best Self: Be You, Only Better.