Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds By David Goggins

Western society has an obsession for mediocrity and complacency even though we have great resources to excel and even though our minds are strong and are built to endure whatever challenges we face.

Succeeding and functioning at your highest potential is all a matter of detaching yourself from that system of belief, gaining self-awareness and conquering the mind.

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#1: Self-limiting beliefs

Inequalities in the system, systemic oppression will always exist but are not the core reason why you are not excelling and functioning at your highest potential.

The truth is you are the one limiting yourself.

That is why you must imperatively identify what is holding you back in life.

To do so, you can:

  • Get a journal and write down your pain, the list of things that are causing you pain.
  • Give shape and name to what is bothering you.
  • Create rituals where you call yourself out, face the hard truth.
  • Set tangible goals for yourself and keep yourself accountable.

By identifying what is limiting you and creating rituals, you will be able to renew your purpose and reinvent yourself.

#2: The path of most resistance

You must understand that in life, there will always be pain. But if you have a purpose, you can overcome that pain and borrow the path of most resistance.

Before starting your mission, you will have to objectively assess your current situation and abolish your ego for it is the cause of all your problems.

On your mission and on the path of most resistance, you might get depressed and discouraged but you have to be convinced that your depression is a sign that you are no longer in your comfort zone.

#3: Taking Souls

In life, you will be confronted with your own demons, bullies who will oppose you for no reason and will face many other challenges.

You have to prepare your mind for eventual opposition and understand that:

  • Challenges reveal your character and your mindset.
  • Pain is finite and you can take on any challenge you want.
  • You must defeat your own demons before you can defeat your opponent.

The Taking Souls strategy is a game that you play with yourself and yourself only by tapping into your own reserve of energy and power. It allows you to easily defeat your opponent and find your inner beast:

  • Know who you are and why you are here and why you are fighting.
  • Find areas in your life that need improvement.
  • Take on tasks that you deem impossible or that make you uncomfortable.
  • List your strengths and weaknesses. Turn your weaknesses into your strengths.
  • List the strengths and weaknesses of your opponent or bully. Bullies are already insecure and unstable so it’s easy to get into their heads.
  • Remember that the easiest way to fight a bully is to help them.

#4: Flipping the script

Every negative experience creates callouses in the mind. When you know how to avoid negative self-talk, to manage your mind and your callouses, then you can choose fight over flight, push through any obstacles and overcome self-doubt.

To build the most stable callous mind there is, to acquire mental toughness and to improve your character, you need to accept your Self, stop running away from your past, face the source of your wounds, fear and insecurities.

For this reason, when you are facing opposition or a negative situation, you have to:

  • Flip the script and stop seeing yourself as the victim of your circumstances.
  • Work the hardest when you want to the least.
  • Seek excellence to outdo your competition.
  • Make your competition admire you and your abilities.

#5: Attaining your goals

Now that you are comfortable with the concept of pain and possess the ability to flip your negative experience, it is time for you to start:

  • Feeding off your pain to overcome challenges and to live the life you want.
  • Painting a picture of what success feels and looks like.
  • Visualizing yourself achieving your goals or overcoming the obstacles standing in your way.
  • Using your past achievements to fuel your news goals.
  • Putting in the work to succeed.

When all is said and done, don’t forget to take the time to celebrate your success.

Review

Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds is David Goggins’ raw and uncut autobiography.

In Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds, David Goggins aims to help you use your setbacks as fuel for your success, live a bolder life to your fullest potential, master the mind and use it to its maximum capacity.

David Goggins, intense and pragmatic, shares his hardships and successes in his civilian and military lives. Through his story, he encourages people to stop playing the victim and making self-limiting choices.

To make this short, his story is rooted in pain, very dramatic and hard to read. You basically need to brace yourself for the first chapters where David Goggins recalls his childhood.

Throughout his autobiography, we can observe:

  • The evolution of his relationship with pain and suffering. He went from enduring pain, to insulating himself from it, to embracing it, to enjoying it a little bit too much, to diligently seeking it, to understanding that he is immune to suffering and finally using his pain as a pillar for his success.
  • The shift from Victim to Warrior mentality.
  • The catharsis from depicting his life and transferring his knowledge in a book.
  • His willingness to open old wounds and repair the broken pieces of his life.
  • His weight loss, brutal honesty, resilience, confidence and individual growth.

Furthermore, I couldn’t help to wonder about military life and how they recruit their candidates.

On one hand, does the military hire people who don’t know what to do with their lives, who completely lack purpose or are at their wit’s end? Then, the military breaks them down, builds them up into superhumans, gives them a patriotic purpose, and pours into them their way of thinking to get these superhumans to obey them and do whatever they want without asking questions?

On the other hand, according to David Goggins, “Hell Week is designed to show you that a human is capable of much more than you know. It opens your mind to the true possibilities of human potential, and with that comes a change in your mentality.”.

Needless to say, it’s amazing what these soldiers put their mind and body through but still survive. I wonder if they know how much they lose or gain mentally and emotionally doing so? If they are able to function outside of that institution and with that level of trauma?

Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds should definitely be called “How to make the best out of the worst”.

While reading this book, you will experience a lot of sadness, twisted experiences, inspirational and funny perspectives on life. Just life!

As much as I had a hard time reading this book, I couldn’t put it down.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

Nobody likes to hear the hard truth. Individually and as a culture, we avoid what we need to hear most. This world is fucked up, there are major problems in our society. We are still dividing ourselves up along racial and cultural lines, and people don’t have the balls to hear it! The truth is racism and bigotry still fucking exist and some people are so thin-skinned they refuse to admit that.

There is no more time to waste. Hours and days evaporate like creeks in the desert. That’s why it’s okay to be cruel to yourself as long as you realize you’re doing it to become better. We all need thicker skin to improve in life.

I looked at the people who were making me feel uncomfortable and realized how uncomfortable they were in their own skin. To make fun of or try to intimidate someone they didn’t even know based on race alone was a clear indication that something was very wrong with them, not me.

Self-improvement takes dedication and self-discipline.

The first step on the journey toward a calloused mind is stepping outside your comfort zone on a regular basis.

Until you experience hardships like abuse and bullying, failures and disappointments, your mind will remain soft and exposed. Life experience, especially negative experiences, help callous the mind.

Ratings 4.5/5

About the author

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MEET THE AUTHORDavid Goggins is a retired Navy SEAL who has earned many accolades and who has participated in more than sixty marathons.

David Goggins is also the author of the Amazon Best Seller Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds.

11 Signs Of An Ego-Tripping & Power Hungry Leader

Leadership is all about character, integrity and guiding your team in the right direction.

Even if this job requires a sense of humility, some leaders can get ahead of themselves, let their ego run their world, crave and abuse their power.

Unfortunately, without even knowing it, the best leaders can also get consumed by ego and power.

Wondering if you are ego-tripping or if you are a power hungry leader?

We have all worked in environments where leaders have completely lost their minds, letting their ego drive their decisions, searching for power or being completely drunk on power.

These leaders are said to be ego-tripping, power-tripping or power-hungry.

Below are the 11 signs revealing whether or not you are power hungry or ego-tripping.

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1. Power-hungry leaders are bullies

They bully their team members to ensure dominance and to kill any potential that would threaten their sense of power.

They overtly criticize others, take cheap shots and undermine the success of the entire team by creating chaos.

They are known to sabotage their team members because they think that they will move forward without them.

2. Power-hungry leaders are empty individuals

They are not whole individuals.

Truth is, they have a heightened sense of self, very low self-esteem and need to constantly feed their ego.

Furthermore, they are not self-aware, mindful of their actions, have low self-esteem and an unhealthy work life balance.

3. Power-hungry leaders hide deep insecurities

Ego tripping and power hungry individuals are weak minded and will give anything to fill that inner void. For most, ego tripping and power hungry people are people who have felt powerless while growing up.

Deep inside, they are weak, are cowards, fear their own shadow, don’t have real power and they know it. They are unstable and easy to break.

To the world, they act tough and search for the weaknesses of everyone.

4. Power-hungry leaders jealousy has no bound

They get jealous when other people do better than they do or hold the position they want. They want to be the only one to shine and won’t hesitate to dim the light of others.

5. Power-hungry leaders think rank is enough

They think that their rank and role in the organization is enough to command respect.

Indeed, they pull rank whenever they feel threatened. Unfortunately, they tend to lose all the respect that they so crave.

6. Power-hungry leaders shut down dissenting voices

They remove dissenting voices or anyone who would oppose them.

Instead, they favor yes men, force people to bow down, to submit to their will, to agree with them, to follow them even if they are wrong.

Basically, it’s their way or the high way.

7. Power-hungry leaders believe status is everything

They often remind everyone around them of their titles and past accomplishments. They overshare and over-exaggerate their achievements.

They demonstrate a sense of superiority and use their status to build up their sense of self-worth.

8. Power-hungry leaders always compete with others

To feed their ego, they compete with people or powerful leaders whom may not know that they are competing.

They think life is a competition. Even worse, some believe that life is a game and people are pieces on their chess board.

9. Power-hungry leaders only social climb

They only network with powerful people and use them to social climb.

They look to climb the social ladder, thirsty for notoriety and take part in the most influential situations. They name drop powerful leaders they know in order to get respect and to feel superior.

10. Power-hungry leaders want to control everything and everyone

They tend to micromanage and don’t trust the people around them.

For this reason, they constantly seek control and leverage over others.

11. Power-hungry leaders encourage toxicity

They thrive in chaos, encourage toxic behavior and competition.

They may even gossip and create false narratives to foster a negative environment.

Last Words Of Advice!

Wanting and having power is not always a negative thing. You simply have to want it for the right reasons in order to go the distance. Otherwise, you will rapidly crash and burn.

If you come across one of those power hungry leaders, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself.

 

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Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones By James Clear

Atomic Habits are small habits that are essential to your overall improvement and that seem insignificant at first sight but that can create powerful outcomes if practiced regularly…

Atomic Habits help you grow in confidence, overcome setbacks and fulfill your potential.

Habits create freedom by removing the need to make decisions about simple tasks and by allowing your mind to focus on other challenges.

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1. Improvements & Atomic Habits

There is tremendous value in improving incrementally thanks to the power of small habits.

Truthfully, incremental improvements are not noticeable right away but become meaningful and make a difference in the long run.

That’s because, small good habits compound themselves into big results and bad habits into toxic results. However, these habits will place you on the path to success.

The only thing, to see the results of your habits, to track your progress, you need to implement these habits long enough in order to cross what James Clear calls the Plateau of Latent Potential.

To get over the Plateau of Latent Potential, you need to avoid setting goals. Instead, you may have to set up a system to make actionable progress and to create better habits.

2. Building & Changing Habits

Changing habits is difficult because we try to change the wrong thing or we try to change the wrong way.

Furthermore, change is especially difficult when your identity is in direct conflict with the habit you want to develop, if you are too attached to your identity or believe that your identity is set in stone.

To change the right way, you need to make a shift in your identity, rework your system of belief and make this habit become an intrinsic part of your identity.

In turn, your identity will gradually be molded by your habits and the belief that you have the power to change whichever habit you want.

3. The Four Laws of Behavior Change

Before trying to change, we must be aware of the old habits that have held you back and have most likely become automatic and unconscious.

You can make a list of your habits and ask yourself objectively whether or not these habits help you become the person you want to be. You don’t need to evaluate, congratulate or criticize yourself while doing so. 

To create better habits, you can follow the Four Laws of Behavior Change:

  1. Make the habit obvious
  2. Make the habit attractive
  3. Make the habit easy
  4. Make the habit satisfying

1. Make the habit obvious

You can make it obvious by clarifying the habits you want to acquire.

You have to make it clear when, where and how you want this new habit to take place.

You can set your habits at a particular time and location, you can group them with other habits or you can set up your environment to stimulate the said habit and to encourage self-discipline

2. Make the habit attractive

Habits become more attractive if you can associate them with things you already enjoy, if you surround yourself with people who already have that attractive habit or if you shift your perspective and change the way you talk to yourself.

Making your habits attractive motivates you to act because you definitively expect a reward.

3. Make the habit easy

To build up a habit, it is important to practice. To make practicing effective, you must make it easy because it is human nature to preserve energy, reduce the amount of work and follow the Law of Least Effort.

Therefore, to make a habit easy, you canu must make it easy because it is human nature to preserve energy, reduce the amount of work and follow the Law of Least Effort.

Therefore, to make a habit easy, you can remove any element of friction associated with the habit, set up your environment to ease yourself into the habit or practice a small habit for at least 2 minutes that will progressively grow into the habit that you desire.

4. Make the habit satisfying

People are more likely to repeat a habit if the experience was satisfying.

However, people often look for immediate satisfaction even if most satisfactions in society are delayed and even if a fundamental truth for success states that delayed gratification leads to greater rewards.

So to build a successful habit, you need to ensure to receive immediate gratification once in a while.

Review

Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones, James Clear shares his traumatic story of how he recovered in his youth from an accident and how he realized, through this experience, that small good habits can help you overcome setbacks and fulfill your potential.

Moreover, it shows you that if the reason for building a habit is strong enough then you can bear anything to succeed.

Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones should be called “How to develop the best habits the best way possible”. Every single sentence made for a great quote.

This book has been eye opening in understanding my habits and their in the affirmation of my identity.

Very insightful, it makes you analyze your present, think about the meaning and the impact of your actions on your future life. To develop new habits is very much a self-awareness exercise.

In addition, James Clear provides fundamental principles that you can rely on. He teaches you how to provoke good habits and destroy bad ones, to shift your focus from your goals towards building a structure, system and habits to achieve said goals

I recommend it for anyone who is struggling to get it together and don’t know where to start. For anyone seeking to rework their habits, it is imperative to get an accountability partner, track your habits and measure your progress.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement.

Success is the product of daily habits—not once-in-a-lifetime transformations.

Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good habits make time your ally. Bad habits make time your enemy.

All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny
decision. But as that decision is repeated, a habit sprouts and grows stronger. Roots
entrench themselves and branches grow.

A habit is a behavior that has been repeated enough times to become automatic.

Our preference for instant gratification reveals an important truth about success:
because of how we are wired, most people will spend all day chasing quick hits of
satisfaction. The road less traveled is the road of delayed gratification. If you’re willing to wait for the rewards, you’ll face less competition and often get a bigger payoff. As the saying goes, the last mile is always the least crowded.

Ratings 4/5

About the author

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MEET THE AUTHORJames Clear is an expert on habits and a keynote speaker.

James Clear is also the author of the New York Times bestseller Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones.

6 Leadership Books To Read While Social Distancing

There is nothing like a good book to anticipate difficulties, to lazily and passively kill time, to help you nurture your mental health and to increase your understanding of yourself and life…

Needless to say, books are essential for growth and contain invaluable life principles.

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The books selected, geared towards self-improvement, share useful principles to get inspiration and broaden your mindset.

1. Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action By Simon Sinek

Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action provides a leadership framework for leaders and organizations.

Indeed, this book invites people to look within and back up each action with an intention. Great leaders know why they do what they do.

It also explains how people won’t buy into an idea, a product or a person until they know the story and the reason behind it.

2. Mental Toughness: Essential Principles of Leadership and Success By Mak Hill

If you intend to live your life to the fullest and to pursue your goals, mental toughness is required at all cost.

Mental Toughness: Essential Principles of Leadership and Success, Mak Hill states that leaders who are mentally tough are generally successful because they:

  • Have been through a lot in life.
  • Acknowledge that their attitude determines their altitude.
  • Understand that their circumstances don’t determine your mindset or your level of success.
  • Face their fears, overcome self-doubt and are at peace with their past.

3. Ego Is The Enemy By Ryan Holiday

Ego Is The Enemy, Ryan Holiday states that you have to remain humble in your aspiration in order to succeed and the way people treat you don’t determine your worth.

This books teaches you to discipline your ego during your moments of success and failure. Challenges come and go but you must always be mindful of your attitude towards these challenges.

4. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success By Carol S. Dweck

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck invites us to move from a Fixed Mindset to a Growth Mindset in order to perform to out highest level, to stop worrying about what others think of us, to let go of fears and past failures.

Leaders who adopt a Growth Mindset are open to learning, are at peace with themselves and have achieved personal success.

5. Good To Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…And Others Don’t By Jim Collins

In Good To Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…And Others Don’t, by surveying different companies to understand what makes them great, Jim Collins offers a complete roadmap to success.

Jim Collins stresses the importance of self-discipline in order to become great.

6. Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline By Peter Hollins

Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline, Peter Hollins provides us with different strategies to help us achieve anything we want to.

Leaders who follow though on their goals and dreams have taken a good look at themselves first, then have worked to improve their mindset. They believe that they are capable, have purpose, are continual learner and that discomfort is inevitable. 

 

While everyone is social distancing, taking time off to take care of themselves, you can always take away something from books.

Books can reduce your stress levels, improve your communication, emotional intelligence, self-awareness and self-discipline.

Let me know below what you think about our book selection!

 

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9 Ways To Grow As A Leader In The Age Of Social Distancing

As a leader, you are really spread thin and barely have time for yourself. It is good to take this opportunity to relax.

You might want to use this time to reflect on your life. There are many activities that you can do to get back into the growth mindset.

You want to improve yourself and get you act together to reach your goals and insulate yourself from further failure.

Wondering what you can do as a leader to grow during the era of social distancing?

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1. Communicate with your inner self

You can start the self-improvement process during quarantine by checking in on your inner self so you can to come out quarantine better than when you entered.

Sometimes, we are so busy that we don’t take the time to slow down, breath, embrace solitude and see how we are mentally doing.

Some choose to meditate and others to journal. Journaling is a great way to communicate with yourself. By writing down your thoughts, you free up you mind, confront and let go of past troubling experiences.

2. Make an honest assessment of yourself

When you know who you are and where you are, you will know which steps to take to reach your goals.

It requires real honesty and an ability to confront every part of yourself — the best parts as much as the horrible parts of yourself. 

Doing that will give you a sense of who you are. Assessing yourself will help you gauge your strengths and weaknesses, get i touch with your purpose, identify the situations and opportunities that fit you. 

3. Understand your worth

You have to believe that you are worthy as a person and still have room for improvement.

Furthermore, as you improve yourself, you will realize your worth, become wiser and make better decisions. 

4. Reevaluate

You can use this moment to reevaluate, reset yourself and organize yourself for the future. You will know how to tackle your goals as soon as things get back in order. To do so effectively:

  • Think about all the things you have to do.
  • Write down your goals and tasks. Then, set a time-frame, a level of impact, an order of importance and emergency.
  • Foresee the potential obstacles that are ahead of you. 

Not because you are cozy at home or remotely working that you have to let yourself go or give up on yourself or your goals.

5. Learn to compete with yourself

Nobody really knows what to do in life but the first step you can take is evaluating yourself and ensuring that your future self is better than your older self. 

To compete with yourself, it helps to think as yourself as a brand, to have a prioritized task list and to regularly track your progress.

6. Unclutter your space

You may not be able to immediately improve on yourself but you can fix small problems around you that will free up some mental load and enhance your mental health. 

The clutter around you occupies the space in your mind. To unclutter, you may want to organize your room or repair things around your house for example.

7. Do something worthwhile

To grow and get out of a somewhat negative space, it is imperative that you take responsibility for yourself.

Besides, you cannot stay in one place self-loathing or blaming someone else for your situation.

There is no need to dwell on your problems and go down the rabbit hole. Instead, figure out your purpose and do something with meaning that can outweigh your negative situation.

8. Connect with others

While you are bored in the house, we can get activated and still improve ourselves indoors or while social distancing.

For those who love to be social, you can use all this time to your advantage, connect more deeply with your entourage and build deeper trust.

You can talk to someone, who will help you grow, about your inner turmoils or your dreams.

9. Read all the books you can

Sometimes, we are stuck in one way of thinking. 

It takes an external event or person with deeper knowledge to promote our mindset.

Books contain knowledge that you couldn’t acquire on your own, events that probably have or won’t happen to you. Either way, books will broaden your sense of self and open up your mind.

Nowadays, podcast and audiobooks provide us with the same purpose as books.

Last Words Of Advice!

Social distancing is hard for some.

As you use the era of social distancing as an advantage, be very careful on what you focus your mind on.

 

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12 Signs You Are Loving Yourself Just Right

If we listen to Society, we would constantly be hating ourselves, changing ourselves to fit in and show that we are worthy of belonging when there is naturally nothing wrong with us.

The truth is there is more things that are right with you than there is wrong.

You have to take a good look at yourself, acknowledge that you are good enough and figure whether or not you are loving yourself the right way.

Wondering what are the signs showing that you are loving yourself the right way?

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In life, many things that would make us question ourselves and not love ourselves. However, there are a few signs that show that you are on the path of self-love.

1. You put yourself first

You take care of your people, make place for the essentials but you make time for yourself.

In addition, you prioritize your health, needs and wants no matter what.

2. You are authentically yourself

You cannot fake your way through life or spend your time fulfilling someone else’s expectations of you.

You must believe that you are free to be yourself because who you are is beautiful and are good enough.

3. You are honest with yourself

You know and value your flaws, qualities, strengths, weaknesses, limitations and blindspots.

4. You express yourself freely

You express your thoughts and opinions freely without holding back and without fear.

Furthermore, you are not ashamed of your ideas because you understand that they are valuable and worth sharing.

5. You trust your abilities

You have learnt a lot through the years.

When push comes to shove, you are able to hone your skills and employ your abilities where you need to.

6. You trust your intuition

How many times have you felt something in your gut, not listened to it and ended up in a problematic situation?

Trust your intuition. It will never steer you the wrong way.

7. You quiet your inner critic

You don’t listen to your inner critic and to the lies you tell yourself.

Furthermore, you don’t beat yourself up when you have failed.

Instead, you pull yourself back up by your bootstraps, forgive yourself and keep it moving.

8. You embrace solitude

You are capable of spending quality time with yourself.

You are at peace with yourself, you enjoy yourself alone and use that time to recharge.

9. You treat yourself

You take care of your mind, body and soul.

For instance, you enjoy grooming yourself and buying yourself some gifts. 

10. You celebrate success

You celebrate your successes and those of others.

You take time to acknowledge your achievements, give yourself full credit for your success and focus on more than your failures.

11. You have a strong support system

You refuse to surround yourself with toxic people.

You have been able to build healthy relationships with people who you confide in, who act as your sounding board and who you lean on.

12. You are independent

Basically, you don’t need other people to help you feel good about yourself.

You believe that you are good enough and can stand on your own two feet.

You don’t need validation from others and have stopped worrying about what other people think about you.

You don’t compete or compare yourself with others.

Finally, you don’t trash people to make yourself feel better.  

Last Words Of Advice!

If you don’t love yourself, nobody else will!

When you love yourself, you will be able to handle life better, focus on your personal progress and achieve your goals.

 

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The Importance of Accountability In Leadership

Right now, there is a serious need for accountable leaders in all aspects of the world and at all levels of life.

Accountable leaders are responsible for their team and organization.

In reality, accountability goes beyond responsibility.

Accountable leaders have a sense of ownership that has been developed for tasks, decisions and actions. It is intrinsic to each leader and is independent of the outcomes of said tasks, decisions and actions.

Wondering why accountability is so important and how leaders can develop a sense of accountability?

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Accountability is important, hard to define and even harder to implement.

1. Get To Know Yourself

I will never cease to repeat that to lead others, you must first lead yourself.

Before you become a leader or an accountable leader, it is also important to know your why.

2. Become Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

You are going to experience the unexpected, be constantly reviewed under a microscope and have to handle an extreme amount of pressure.

You have to develop enough resilience and determination to seek discomfort and be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

3. Acknowledge Failure

There is no room for victim mentality or the blame game.

Accountable leaders are not victims of their circumstances.

Accountable leaders are willing to acknowledge their past failures. They know when, how and why they failed in the past. Most importantly, they know how to repair their mistakes, forgive themselves and move forward.

4. Understand Your Impact

Accountable leaders know the influence they have on their team and in their organization.

That is why, most of the time, they will need to demonstrate strong leadership skills, a lot of professionalism, a high level of maturity and self-awareness.

5. Look Out For Temptations

There are so many temptations that come with the money and power of leadership.

Accountable leaders know their shortcomings. They are humble, ethical and disciplined enough to control themselves.

To avoid temptations, it can be helpful to have a strong support system and a healthy work-life balance.

6. Create A Culture Of Accountability

To create a culture of accountability, leaders need to:

  • Increase employee commitment and engagement.
  • Allow employees to make decisions for themselves.
  • Build long term trust.

Last Words Of Advice!

You have to be accountable to yourself first before demanding that others are.

Being a mediocre leader is no longer acceptable. You don’t have to stay in a bad situation under bad leadership.

 

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103 Questions Every Leader Should Answer To Get To Know Themselves Better

We spend most of the time with ourselves.

We go through life’s pains and joys with ourselves.

We are out best friend or worst enemies but we don’t really take the time to get to know ourselves.

How can we lead the way if we don’t  really know ourselves?

Indeed, leadership is all about self-improvement.

To be a great leader, you need to start by leading yourself.

Below are 50 questions that will send you on the path of self-discovery.

Wondering which questions you should pose to get to know yourself better?

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Childhood

1. What is your best childhood memory?

2. What is your worst childhood memory?

3. Which best describes how you were as a child?

4. What advice would you give your younger self?

5. What is the best advice you have ever received growing up?

6. If you went back to school, what would you major in?

Self-Image

7. How do you visualize yourself?

8. What do you like the most about yourself?

9. If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

10. What makes you unique?

11. What is your best quality?

12. What would you say is your kryptonite?

13. What are your skills, strengths and weaknesses?

14. What personality traits do you value the most in yourself?

15. What character traits do you value the most in yourself?

16. What personality or character traits turn you off?

17. What would you like to improve about yourself?

Mindset

18. What is your system of belief?

19. What are your 5 main core values?

20. Who and what fulfills you?

21. How well do you embrace solitude?

22. What do you think of before you go to bed?

23. If you had one last day to live, what would you do?

24. What do you believe to be true about the world?

25. If you could know the absolute truth to one question, what would you ask?

Comfort Zone

26. Where do you feel most comfortable?

27. What gets you out of your comfort zone?

28. How would you describe your perfect day?

29. What makes your day better?

30. What inspires you the most?

Life & Self-Actualization

31. What would you do differently if you could go back in time?

32. What is the worst that ever happened to you?

33. What is the most insane thing you have ever done in life?

34. What was one of the most amazing moments in your life?

35. What is the most valuable lesson have you learned in life?

36. What is the most valuable lesson you have learned about yourself?

37. What do you want to achieve next year? In five years?

38. Where do you see yourself in the next ten years?

39. What would you say is your purpose is in life?

40. What do you expect most from yourself?

41. What do you look forward to the most in life?

42. What do you think is missing in your life?

43. What area of your life would you like to improve the most?

44. What legacy do you want to leave on the world?

45. When do you have the most energy?

46. Where would you ideally want to live?

Career

47. What is your best work experience?

48. What is your worst work experience?

49. What was your childhood dream profession?

50. Are you sure about your current career path?

51. What is your dream job and is it attainable? 

52. If you didn’t have a care in the world, what would you do?

Skillset

53. Are you comfortable with change?

54. What’s your decision-making style?

55. What is your leadership style?

56. What is your communication style?

57. When you have something exciting to share, how do you tell people?

Goals & Success

58. How do you define success?

59. What are your greatest accomplishments?

60. What do you want to accomplish someday? 

61. What are the obstacles that you regularly face?

62. What is one obstacle that you have overcome?

63. If money wasn’t an object, what would you do?

64. What is holding you back from achieving your goals?

65. What are your greatest regrets in life?

66. What keeps you up at night?

67. Has there been a time where you felt like a failure before?

68. How did you handle being or feeling like a failure?

69. Where do you get your best ideas?

Habits

70. How do you start your day? 

71. How do you rate your health habits?

72. What bad habit would you like to eliminate and why?

73. What good habits would you like to acquire?

74. Are your habits helping or hindering you from reaching your goals?

Emotions

75. What are your emotional triggers?

76. What really makes you angry?

77. What emotionally charges or drains you?

78. What is your worst fear?

79. When and why did you last cry?

Fun Activities

80. What is the most beautiful place you have ever been to?

81. What is your favorite or ideal travel destination?

82. What is your favorite way to travel?

83. Which movie title best describes your life?

84. Which TV shows or genres describe you the most?

85. What is your favorite book to read?

86. Which quote or lyric resonates most with you?

87. What is your favorite joke?

88. What are your favorite meals?

89. What activity brings you the most joy?

90. What are your passions and hobbies?

91. Which hobby or activity you would like to take on?

92. What is you favorite thing to do on a given day?

93. If you had to eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Your Interactions With Others

94. What do you like the most about your support system?

95. Do you enjoy giving or accepting compliments?

96. Who are you closest to?

97. Who is closest to you?

98. How would your friends describe you?

99. What do you think people misunderstand about you?

100. What is the question you would like to ask people but are too afraid to do so?

Mentorship

101. Who inspires you?

102. Who is your ideal mentor?

103. Who do you model your behavior after and why?

Last Words Of Advice!

You may not be able to answer all these questions in one sitting.

However, you can always come back to these questions and work on your answers.

Just the mere fact that you are reading this says that you are on your way to self-discovery.

 

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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