The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever By Michael Bungay Stanier

Building a coaching habit, as difficult as it is, is an “essential leadership behavior” that should be adopted by most managers in order to:

  • Help their team unlock their true potential.
  • Make their team members more confident and therefore self-sufficient.
  • Provide purpose and value to their team on a daily basis.

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Seven Essential Questions

Leaders and managers often admit that they don’t get or give effective coaching.

Most often, coaching is too theoretical, too boring, unpractical and not empowering enough. The greatest reason why coaching doesn’t seem to work is because it is difficult to shake off old habits.

There are seven questions that you can pose, one at a time, to coach someone in seven minutes or less. These seven questions will assist you in leading a full conversation and successfully coaching yourself and your team.

1. The Kickstart Question: “What’s on Your Mind?”

The Kickstart question breaks the ice and helps you start an opened and focused conversation.

It allows people to easily talk about the things that matter to them the most.

2. The AWE Question: “And What Else?”

The advice that leaders and managers gives is not always the best.

The AWE question restrains the need to give advice and instead helps you to stay quiet, curious and genuine.

It stops you from offering up advice in the form of a question.

3. The Focus Question: “What’s the Real Challenge Here for You?”

Leaders may want to always have the solution and be able to fix the problem without identifying it or having their team fix the problem.

The Focus questions helps you help your team identify the challenge that needs sorting out

4. The Foundation Question: “What Do You Want?”

It takes courage to ask for what you want knowing that the answer can be possible be no, that your question can be misinterpreted.

The Foundation question is a direct question that gives people the “responsibility for their own freedom” which is difficult to do.

5. The Lazy Question: “How Can I Help?”

Leaders and managers love to step in, be helpful and feel needed. However, this need to help gradually becomes the root of their frustration.

With the Lazy question, you get a clear and direct request. Then, you stop helping for no reason and you save up on time.

6. The Strategic Question: “If You’re Saying Yes to This, What Are You Saying No To?”

Leaders have to be clear about their boundaries which means they have to know how and when to say yes or no.

The Strategic question allows you to be clear about what you want, to be committed to your “yes” and definitive to your “no”.

7. The Learning Question: “What Was Most Useful for You?” 

Leaders need to create learning spaces for their teams.

The Learning question is a great way for you to finish the conversation and leave people with a sense of empowerment.

Review

The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier is easy and fast book to read, with great tips for managers who are looking to improve their leadership and communication skills.

The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier is written for on the clock managers who have no time for long-winded trainings.

The seven questions are direct and allow leaders to minimize their stress and to improve the interaction with their team.

Furthermore, The Coaching Habit presents several tips and scenarii to help managers specifically identify their emotional, situational or locational triggers. With The Coaching Habit, managers are able to pick up some new skills and define different habits in less than 10 minutes.

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Tell less and ask more.
Your advice is not as good
As you think it is.

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18 Things Leaders Do While In Lockdown

Whether you have been infected, lost a loved one, lost your job, are working from home or simply stuck in one place, the pandemic is affecting everyone…

There are different things that leaders can do to get their mind of the news and still stay productive, especially in this day and age where we are always connected thanks to the internet.

I have compiled a list of introspective and extrospective activities to do at work or at home. This way, you can grow as a leader and have fun at the same time.

Wondering what activities you can take up to keep you busy during lockdown?

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1. Stay connected

Quarantine can be rough… especially if you are an extrovert. If you’re an introvert, it is a walk in the park.

It is important to stay connected with your support system and with your team at work.

Setting up your network and allowing your team to work from home will be more effective and ensure social connection. Posting short videos about the state of the company can keep your team alert and boost morale.

If you have done all this and still feel bored, you can:

  • Join live parties online.
  • Start conversations with random people on social media.

You will quickly notice that you are not the only one that is going through it.

2. Stay informed

It just seems that every way we turn we are being submerged with information of the pandemic arousing fear and a general sense of anxiety. 

It becomes vital for your mental health to find balance and:

  • Not give in to fear.
  • Detach yourself from the news.
  • Get your information from trusted news outlets.
  • Fact check the information that you are receiving.

3. Take care of business as usual

Being at home, doesn’t mean that you can rest on your laurels and ignore your business.

If you are still employed, you have to stay disciplined. You may also want to get ahead and anticipate needs:

  • Assess your current work situation and plan for the future.
  • Look at your career and see if there is something you can improve.
  • Hold business meetings online per usual.
  • Go through your emails and clear them out.
  • Be grateful that you are still employed.
  • Don’t break down your standards.
  • Improve work processes.

4. Stay transparent

Some leaders will get laid off or will have to lay some people off.

It is detrimental for you to be transparent with your team about the actions that will be taken next.

5. Delegate

During this time, leaders lose control of some activities, have to delegate and trust their team with some tasks.

Leaders will have to check in with their team more often to measure progress. 

6. Stick to a schedule

To keep calm, you may want to stay busy, create a list of priorities and keep a morning routine.

Your schedule will keep you accountable and will get you out of bed. 

7. Stay clean

This is not the end of the world and you don’t have to give up on yourself.

What you need to do is maintain basic hygiene:

  • Groom yourself.
  • Wear clean clothes.
  • Clean and declutter your house.
  • Fix something around the house.

8. Take care of your mind

Now, more than ever, your ability to stay calm and be at peace with yourself will be tested:

  • Pray or meditate.
  • Embrace solitude.
  • Relax and sleep.
  • Do some gardening.
  • Spend time with yourself and your thoughts. resolve internal conflict.
  • Adopt an attitude of gratitude. Be grateful that you are safe and doing OK.
  • Assess your strengths and weaknesses. Then realign yourself with your goals and purpose.

9. Take care of yourself

You are still allowed to exercise. If you don’t want to go out and exercise, you can go on youtube and mimic a dance or fitness video. 

Don’t take this time to slum it up in your house.

  • Boost your immune system.
  • Don’t abuse substances to cope  with the situation.

10. Try something new

You have a lot of free time to try new things, to take risks and to do something you always wanted to do.

For example, if you have lost your job, start the business you have always wanted or try a sport that you have never done before that can help you relax.

11. Learn something new

You have got a lot of time on your hands to acquire knowledge.

From the comfort of your home, you can take the opportunity to learn a new language, learn a new instrument, take an online course, stay on top of the latest technology, perfect a skill or a process.

12. Help someone other than yourself

You can try lifting other people’s spirit by helping someone other than yourself:

  • See if your neighbor needs anything.
  • Give to charity and feed those who are in need.
  • Protect the vulnerable and take care of the people who cannot take care of themselves. 

13. Binge your favorite show, book or podcast

  • Watch your favorite TV shows, movies or discover new ones.
  • Read that book that you always wanted to read.
  • Listen to music or leadership podcasts.
  • Play memory or board games.

14. Sharpen your culinary skills

Even if you are not the best cook, you can make your own meals and:

  • Try different recipes.
  • Turn them into special events.
  • Eat healthy and enjoy every meal like it was your last.

15. Look outside your window

The important part is that you stay home and stay safe.

However, you can look outside and watch people going about their lives.

16. Shop online

You don’t have to purchase what is in your cart.

But, affecting to shop online will take your minds out of things.

17. Find ways to make money online

There are realistic ways to make money online nowadays.

You can start a blog, do a podcast, sell services online, take surveys or even get paid for searching the web.

18. That’s all I got

Do whatever you want…just stay safe and stay home.

Last Words Of Advice!

Anxiety is at an all time high. People are worried for their safety and health, for their job security, and for the well-being of their loved ones.

It becomes important to maintain a positive if not healthy mindset during this time and do our best to protect those who cannot protect themselves.

Finally, there isn’t just bad news out there: pollution levels have receded in many countries and some wars have paused across the globe.

 

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The Importance Of Kindness In Leadership

Kindness is extremely hard to implement in the world we live in today because according to popular belief, kindness is weakness…

However, in the workplace, kindness is essential to leadership success.

Furthermore, genuine acts of kindness in the workplace don’t go unnoticed as people tend to pay it forward.

Indeed, most people who have been through fire in their personal and professional life appreciate serenity and kindness. They would try everything to maintain their self-worth and peace of mind.

Wondering how to develop kindness in the workplace?

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Benefits Of Kindness in Leadership

Kind leaders act with the best interest and on behalf of their team and organization. They are authentic, humble, have high morals and a sense of decency.

In kind organization, leaders believe that the people are the heart of the organization.

Furthermore, leaders are able to increase engagement and empower team members who gradually grow in confidence.

In addition, being kind doesn’t mean that you are soft, a pushover, that you are avoiding conflict, that you lack boundaries, that you are people pleasing or that you have to put up with bad behavior.

It means that you take time to listen and understand the people around you before acting or making a decision. It also means that you analyze the consequences of your decisions. 

1. Kind leaders are kind to themselves

Kind leaders are firstly kind to themselves and the people closest to them.

They celebrate their own success, forgive themselves when they make mistakes and set clear boundaries.

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. - Lao Tzu Click To Tweet

2. Kind leaders use the Golden Rule

The best and strongest leaders put people first and treat their team with kindness.

They acknowledge people, show respect and demonstrate that they care. They simply treat people the way they want to be treated. They understand that they can get more things done, they have to treat people like people.

For example, they have face to face conversations and ask people how they are doing. They can be generous with their time and actively listen to people.

3. Kind leaders set clear expectations

They let people know what needs to be done to avoid miscommunication, misinterpretation, misdirections.

They don’t give out false objectives and avoid sending their team members on a wild goose chase. They celebrate their success and the success of others..

Team members will then commit to their work and reach their goals.

4. Kind leaders tell the truth

Telling the truth encourages growth within the team and builds up the leader’s credibility and respect.

They understand that the truth comes with consequences but they also want the best out of their teams so they overpass their need for self-preservation or self-interest.

They place people in the right positions and give honest feedback to help people perform at their best.

5. Kind leaders agree to disagree

A difference in opinion doesn’t dictate their character.

They have great communication skills and can handle tough conversations.

They don’t ostracize or belittle people who don’t like them.

6. Kind leaders believe in equality and equity

They treat everyone equally, regardless of their personal bias, stereotypes, personality, character and performance.

They are culturally sensitive and advocate for inclusion.

7. Kind leaders create a safe environment

Kind workplaces increase productivity and improve the company culture.

Leaders understand that employees need to feel safe in order to be productive.

Unkind leaders instill fear and use their power and position to make their employees comply. Employees feel unsafe and tend to quit their jobs or resort to the same bad behavior to survive.

Last Words Of Advice!

What of being kind requires too much time and effort that I don’t have? Kindness is a long term investment that requires authenticity, strength and courage.

There are some people who will create chaos, use fear and anger as a management, and try to discourage you from being kind.

 

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19 Signs You Are Meant To Be A Self-Employed Leader

If you are reading this, chances are that you have been pondering for a long time whether or not you should go out on your own or keep your 9-to-5 leadership job…

Making the decision to be self-employed is a difficult one since everyone is not cut out to go out on their own and the risks are extreme.

However, staying in your current 9-to-5 contains risks of its own:

  • You are not sure if you will get laid off or not.
  • You are financially dependent.  
  • You are responsible for things that you don’t really care about.
  • You are in a cubicle and around people you don’t care about.
  • You suffer from a unhealthy work-life balance.
  • You are being underutilized, under-challenged and are underperforming.

Wondering if you are meant to work for yourself?

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1. You are all about growth

You are focused on yourself, on your growth and on the expansion of your business.

When others create drama or partake in office politics, you are too busy listening to books, reading my blog, self-development and business books.

2. You think as a brand

You need to start thinking about yourself as a brand and as a business.

Everything you say or do is connected to your brand and purpose.

3. You enjoy taking risks

The people closest to you will try to talk you out of being self-employed because they are afraid of the unknown.

If you have to take risks, it is better and safer to bet on yourself.

4. You love to learn

Whether you are reading books or taking classes, you are always open to learn.

You believe that there is always room for improvement.

5. You are good at many things

You don’t want to be stuck in one position or with the same role.

Your skillset is transverse, you want to apply yourself in different fields and you often outdo your job description.

6. You understand sacrifice

Sacrifice is necessary to get where you cant to go.

You won’t be able to go out or stay in bed as much as you want to because you are willing to get down in the trenches and put in the hard work.

7. You require flexible hours

You want to be able to handle your own hours and not punch in.

You want a healthy work-life balance.

The tricky part about this is that you are your own boss, wont take much time off, have to be self-disciplined enough to follow your schedule and achieve your goals.

8. You make your own rules

If you have been in the workplace, you will encounter rules that don’t make sense, that consistently protect one group or people and that create or encourage bias.

You want to walk to the beat of your own drums without having to be like other people or having to comply to crazy and counterproductive rules.

You want to create a culture with clear guidelines that makes more sense and that will help people succeed.

9. You want more control and visibility

You don’t want to constantly look for validation or permission.

You need all the information you can get to make the best decisions.

You need control and visibility to perform at your best. 

10. You want ownership of your work

You are sick and tired of giving away your ideas, intellectual property, time and energy for a small paycheck.

Thanks to ownership over your work, you take pride in what you produce daily.

11. You cannot hold down a regular job to save your life

Because you follow your own rules, are good at many things and are frustrated with the status quo, it is hard for you to keep a job.

You don’t like taking orders, are uncomfortable with the status quo, you get fired a lot or quit often.

12. You value financial independence

You respect money and enjoy making money.

You don’t like depending on someone else than yourself for income.

13. You don’t fit in

You are not a team player, have a hard time getting along with others or stand out like a sore thumb.

You generally speak your mind and end up leading a project.

You have and value your own mind.

14. You genuinely love what you do

You want to do your best in your field of expertise.

However, in the workplace, you have no room to explore your passions or to demonstrate full enthusiasm for your field.

15. You take responsibility for your actions

You enjoy making your own decisions and understand that there are consequences for their actions.

When you make wrong decisions, you don’t shift blame, you learn from your failures and you are able to move on.

16. You are self-disciplined

You don’t want for people to tell you what to do or when to do it.

Even when you don’t feel like it, you manage your tile effectively, don’t procrastinate and go through your task list.

17. You enjoy working alone

Working alone is scary for some people but you embrace freedom and solitude.

You know that you can achieve more in less time when you are on your own.

18. You are resilient and resourceful

You expect the unexpected and believe that there is room for everybody to succeed in this world.

You see obstacles as challenges and are able to face different situations on a daily basis.

You don’t dwell on your failures, you celebrate your success and push through.

19. You are burning out

Your work environment has become toxic and is burning you out.

Your stress levels are very high and you feel like you are leaving your best self at work.

Something or someone at work is draining all your energy.

Last Words Of Advice!

If you are considering going out on your own, you have to be honest with yourself and assess your character and skills.

Before leaving your 9-to-5, make sure that you can survive without a job income or that your side hustle is making enough money.

 

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Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline By Peter Hollins

Following through is hard but gratifying in the long run…

Some people usually don’t follow through because they self-sabotage, misuse their time and energy by procrastinating, setting impossible goals, managing their time poorly, yielding to temptations and distractions.   

Other people have internal roadblocks that impede them from taking action because they are either lazy, lack discipline and willpower, fear judgement, rejection or failure, try to be perfect, are too insecure, lack self-awareness, are unconsciously protecting themselves.

Indeed, people who have interval roadblocks and who fail to follow through:

  • Set unrealistic expectations for themselves and end up underachieving or underperforming.
  • Overthink everything and lean towards negative thoughts which paralyzes them. Making a decision becomes difficult because they don’t have clear rules and priorities.
  • Worry too much. They ruminate on past, present, future, real, fictitious problems that are most likely out of their control.
  • Don’t know themselves well enough to create the best goals and environment for themselves.

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The Requirements of Following Through

Following through requires four elements: focus, self-discipline, action and persistence.

With focus, you are able to keep “your head in the game and your eyes on the prize”. You concentrate all your effort and energy onto achieving your goals. 

With self-discipline, you are bale to regulate your thoughts, control your focus and to work regardless of your emotions and your circumstances.

With action, you are able to get closer to the finish line, execute the plan and translate your intentions.

With persistence, you will develop resilience and be able to push through until you have achieved success.

How To Start Following Through?

To start following through, you have to take a good look at yourself, build a better relationship with yourself, develop the right mindset and equip yourself with the best tools to succeed.

To develop the mindset, you must believe that:

  • You are capable and hard work leads to success.
  • The steps that you take are purposeful and fit into a bigger picture.
  • Discomfort is necessary to success. Following through will require you to get out of your comfort zone and do things that you have never done before.
  • The information and knowledge you acquire increase with the steps that you take. You learn more about yourself on top of learning new skills and life lessons.
  • Taking care of your mental health will reinforce your willpower and discipline.

Is Following Through Good For You?

Sometimes, you will have to make the decision to follow through or to give up.

To make the best decisions, you have to create a set of rules that will serve as a guideline, a code of conduct, a task roadmap and a mission statement.

Methods For Following Through

To stay motivated enough to follow through, you must identify the things that motivate you.

Some people want to avoid negative consequences at all cost and will do everything in their power to succeed.

Others are pushed forward by the need and desire to improve their lives.

To stop procrastinating and to follow through:

  • Associate your present goals with an activity that provides instant gratification.
  • Break down huge goals in small manageable steps.
  • Evaluate the risks of inaction.
  • Create an environment free from distractions and temptations.
  • Avoid multitasking and focus on one single task at a time.
  • Group similar tasks together and accomplish them all in one batch.
  • Create lists of tasks that don’t add value or that are out of your control in order to discharge your mental load.
  • Acquire between 40% and 70% of information.
  • Allow yourself to recover mentally from time to time to avoid burnout.

Review

There are many reasons why people stay stagnant in life. In Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline, Peter Hollins breaks down the psychology and the art of following through on your goals.

Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline is recommended for people who struggle to get things done and is full of powerful tools to help you take action and achieve your goals.

Peter Hollins jumpstarts you towards your dreams, shares several tactics to execute whatever you set your mind to and makes some very good points when it comes to the mistakes people make when pursuing their goals.

Following through boils down to extracting lessons from past failures and knowing yourself well enough to create the best environments, rules and roadmaps for you to succeed. 

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Focus guides your thoughts in figuring out how to follow through and directs your actions toward achieving your vision.

Leisure is an important part of life, but if it’s excessive and takes the place of reasonable productivity, then it becomes a vice.

Follow-through is 100% mental. It takes a cognitive effort to follow through on something, especially when you hit discouraging obstacles.

Stop judging yourself and others for being different. We are all different.
Our productivity is very fragile and requires particular care to flourish. Treat yourself to what helps you thrive if you want to follow through.

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MEET THE AUTHORPeter Hollins is a bestselling author and a human psychology researcher, dedicated in the study of the human condition.

Peter Hollins is also the author of Finish What You Start: The Art of Following Through, Taking Action, Executing, & Self-Discipline.

9 Office Rules That Kill Productivity

In the workplace, rules and common practices are necessary to create order, maintain standards, increase productivity, solve punctual problems or improve the image of the company… 

Most rules are fundamentals principles of life and go without saying. However, some rules are too restrictive and damage the general morale.

Subsequently, productivity suffers, company culture worsens and employees resentment and mental load increase.

Wondering what are the rules that kill workplace productivity?

9 Office Rules That Kill Productivity

1. Hiring on bias and first impressions rule

I have been to  interviews where your first impression controls the whole interviews.

Companies want to hire the most competent applicants who will fit the company culture. 

Some companies or hiring personnel tend to hire one type of people and miss out on great applicants because of hearsay, bias, first impressions and their system of beliefs.

People value companies that believe in diversity.

2. Hiring over a keyword search

These days, the hiring process is done over the internet using keyword search algorithms. This practice leads to hiring personnel contacting applicants who have nothing o do with the position.

3. No individuality

Most companies have a pack mentality. To build a cohesive image, they require a strict dress code and a certain level of decorum from their employees.

However, people can be ethical and should have enough liberty to express themselves at a minimum. They should be able display personal items and wear the clothes that they want.

4. No communication tools

Some companies ban the use of cell phones and regulate the use of internet. However, these practices are antiquated and will not retain millennial employees.

Some companies fail to see that technology is a new way of life and has become necessary. For example, to do their jobs appropriately, employees surf the internet for advice, for tutorials or need to stay connected with their families and other professionals.

Furthermore, every employee handle their break differently: some go to the bathroom for some quiet time, some like to get the gossip at the water cooler, some enjoys conversing over coffee, some make a phone call and others simply enjoy staying at their desk browsing social media.

Sure, there are definitely some sites that are inappropriate for the work environment and that need restriction.Sure, spending more time on the internet and on your cell phone that you do on your job is unprofessional.

For the most part, the internet and cell phones are great communication tools and can improve productivity. Like everything else, they should be used in moderation. 

5. No Bathroom Breaks

Now, that’s a counterproductive rule!

In a day, you cannot predict or control how many times and how long someone will have to go to the bathroom. Limiting bathroom break goes against basic human rights.

6. No time off

Nowadays, people value companies who allow telecommuting and provide flexible hours. 

Most professionals don’t need to be told at what time to show up to work and how long they should stay.

People generally want to honor their time at work. They should be able to regulate their own hours and take time off when they need it.

Cutting the salary of someone who is a few minutes late just seems petty.

7. No autonomy

We live in an age where team work makes the dream work and is mandatory to get a job.

However, most people value autonomy and tend to work alone at their desk anyways.

Forcing people to collaborate will most of the time breed conflict and often times reduce productivity.

8. No meetings

Unless there is an urgent matter to discuss, meetings are generally pointless and kill overall productivity.

Some companies schedule weekly meetings where you have to endlessly listen to people who are not adding value to the conversation and are not solving the problem, if there is even a problem to be solve.

9. Performance review rule

Feedback is constructive criticism and can improve productivity.

However, performance review makes people uncomfortable because they tend to:

  • Evaluate performance using an inaccurate list of criteria.
  • Bring employees back to their student day and make them feel like a number.
  • Generate the fear of being judged, getting fired or speaking up. 

Last Words Of Advice!

Employees have to remember that they have signed a contract, trading their time and effort for salary. If they are not honoring that contract, they must assume the consequences.

In addition, leaders who often break the rules themselves have to acquire the skills to deal with employees  who underperform or who violate general work ethics.

It’s all about trust, common sense and giving people a sense of freedom.

 

 

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