When you know who you are, you immediately become confident and feel empowered.
Indeed, you stop looking for external validation.
You start experimenting and looking for validation from only yourself.
Wondering how to figure out who you are?
1. Take an assessment test
Sometimes, you just don’t know where to start.
The good news is that there are several self-assessment tools out there to help you figure out who you are, your personality type, your core values, your strengths and weaknesses.
2. Take time off
Leaders have been conditioned through their role to take care of everyone else.
Taking time off in solitude does wonder for self-care, self-awareness and leadership development.
Solitude scares most people because they lack the courage to confront themselves.
However, only in solitude will you be able to observe yourself, identify all facets of your personality, discipline your thoughts and emotions.
3. Review your life
Writing things down allows you to review your life, keep track of your habits and observe your patterns of behavior.
It also allows you clarify and analyze your thoughts.
In addition, journaling is a great way to extact the essence of who you are and the lessons from past experiences whether they’ve been positive or negative.
4. Explore
Trying new things is a great way to explore and find out what you really like and don’t like, what you’re good or bad at, what feels right or wrong, what fuels your fire or what drains you.
Besides, this will help you acknowledge your differences, set healthy boundaries, become more discerning and do the things that you really want to do.
5. Observe your relationships
They say that you are the sum of the 5 closest people to you.
If you pay attention to your relationships, you’ll notice what you share in common and what you are made of.
Furthermore, you’ll notice who you look up to, who you relate to, what you tolerate and what you imitate.
Last Words Of Advice
Remember that an original is more valuable than a copy.
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz gathers four “agreements” to live by to ensure a better lifestyle, a deeper understanding of life, a life in the moment.
He encourages us to be impeccable with our words, to not take anything personally, to not making assumptions and to do our best.
3. Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean
He shares various tips on being a better leader. He also urges us to define who we are, to identify where you are going and how you will get there.
6. Principles: Life and Work
Author: Ray Dalio
Ratings: 3/5
Dalio shares many principles to navigate life and work.
Ray Dalio encourages us to stay open-minded, to find and speak truth in order to live a healthier lifestyle, to meet our goals and to handle setbacks.
7. Tribes: We need you to lead us
Author: Seth Godin
Ratings: 3/5
In Tribes: We need you to lead us, Seth Godin declares that everybody wants and needs to belong to a tribe.
He also demonstrates how challenging the status quo is a simple way to create your own tribe, to build your fellowship, to define your leadership without forcing people.
12. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
Author: Daniel H. Pink
Ratings: 4/5
In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, Daniel H. Pink shows us that people are not motivated by common external factors such as money or fame.
Daniel H. Pink reveals that people’s behaviors are mostly driven by purpose, passion, autonomy, a need for self-improvement and for self-imposed goals.
Leaders can use that innate drive to increase productivity, improve performance and build stronger teams.
13. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance
Author: Angela Duckworth
Ratings 3/5
In Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, Duckworth defines Grit as a combination of resilience, determination, purpose and passion.
According to Angela Duckworth, anyone can acquire grit. Furthermore, people with grit are more successful than people who are talented but who don’t put in work.
Give people the opportunity to make decisions for themselves and to correct themselves.
Don’t hurt people’s self-esteem and don’t diminish them in their own eyes
Review
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie aims to educate adults into building healthy relationships and climbing up the social ladder.
Dale Carnegie shares contemporaneous and pragmatic principles that serve as guidelines for leaders who wish to network and grow their social capital.
Most of these principles are essential to life as much as the business world and will increase your skill in human relationship.
However, Dale Carnegie promotes the praising or “sucking up” game and uses the term “friend” very loosely.
That is because most of the principles are geared towards the business world and most of his examples are taken from people who have successfully implemented these principles.
Unfortunately, praises don’t work on everybody and is not a solution to all problems.
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Favorite quote(s)
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.
Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.
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