12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

Unfortunately, we have all experienced toxic leadership at some point in our career.

Toxic workplaces and toxic leadership foster because the leader is either encouraging it, participating in it or ignoring it.

Toxic leaders are corrosive on the long run. They erode their employees confidence, motivation, productivity, trust, loyalty and respect.

Wondering if you are a toxic leader or are in the presence of one?

12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

12 Signs Of A Toxic Leader

#1. Toxic leaders retain useful information

Knowledge is power and toxic leaders know that.

The longer they can keep you in the dark, the longer they have control over you and the longer they stay in power.

In fact, leaders who retain information are insecure and are afraid of being replaced.

#2. Toxic leaders abuse their power and authority

Any chance that they get, toxic leaders need to remind you that they are in power and that they have leverage (financial leverage most of the time) over you.

This type of leaders have huge egos, consider that their employees are subordinates, and do not care who they have to step over to get what they want.

#3. Toxic leaders micromanage their employees

They don’t give people the time or the space to do their job. Instead, they breath down people’s neck.

In fact, micromanaging leaders are counterproductive and create a stressful work environment.

Which, in turn, slows down team work and efficiency.

#4. Toxic leaders condone poor behavior

They accept poor behavior from their team as long as the team produces results.

For example, they would tolerate workplace bullying if it would bring their team closer together.

In turn, they use fear and diverse punishments to incentivize their team.

#5. Toxic leaders manipulate and play aggressive office politics

They play mind games, use information about you against you, love to manipulate and gas light their own team just to stay in power and to advance their career.

#6. Toxic leaders shift responsibility

They talk about accountability but when push comes to shoves they avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

Besides, when things are great, they take credit for your success. When things go bad, they question your abilities and your failures.

#7. Toxic leaders give orders and don’t expect feedback

Forbthem, it is their way or the high way.

They expect you to follow orders whether that order is right or wrong, whether that order benefits them or not.

The truth is they think that they know best but they actually don’t.

#8. Toxic leaders lie for no reason

They backtrack, bend the rules, adjust procedures, make up stories and rumors to for their needs.

They do not care aboitbthe impact of their words and create a culture of distrust.

#9. Toxic leaders protect the status quo

They deeply believe in hierarchy.

They don’t promote change or push innovative ideas.

In addition, they are locked in a particular era, in a particular setting. They don’t wish to modernize or adapt to change.

#10. Toxic leaders are overly emotional

They dramatize everything, have a temper and haven’t got a hold of it.

Their mood usually fluctuates throughout the day.

As a result, their behavior makes people walk on eggshells around them.

#11. Toxic leaders are passive aggressive

Either they play nice to your face and stab you in the back.

Or, they hold their feelings in and act it out instead.

Passive aggressivity is very difficult to deal with as they don’t offer you any type of resolve.

#12. Toxic leaders lack core values

These leaders are entitled and self serving.

They do not care about people and put their own interest first, no matter what.

Last Words Of Advice!

Toxic leaders often scare away their best employees.

Toxic leaders are simply fooling themselves because they live in constant fear.

They are afraid of losing control, of losing power, of seeming inferior, of being replaceable…

Furthermore, they let their fear control them and influence their behavior.

It is not necessary for you to play into their hands:

  • Learn from your experiences, about yourself and your limits. You can always extract lessons from a negative experience.
  • Emotionally and physically discipline youserlf. Don’t lose your cool. By loosing your cool, you are giving them power over you.
  • Don’t take things personally and don’t let their problems become yours. It’s not about you but it’s all about them.
  • Find emotional support outside of work.
  • Keep your dignity. Don’t let other people actions define your character.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone

    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is a guide to set goals, reach and retain success in any area of your life.

    The 10X Rule will help you to define your version of success and to repetitively create extraordinary levels of success.

    What is the 10X Rule?

    The 10X Rule is achieving success by putting in 10 times the effort and the action that the average person would.

    The 10X Rule means acting towards your goals with 10 times the right mindset.

    Why is the 10X Rule vital?

    Estimating the  right amount of effort and time to invest in your goals will help you reach your target without moving the finish line.

    Furthermore, multiplying your effort by 10 will allow you to predict issues and to be prepared.

    By using the 10X Rule, you will be able to:

    • Stick to your guns and not be distracted.
    • Define your own version of success.
    • Make a plan for your life.
    • Filter out goals that have been imposed on you.
    • Set your own limits and aim for the impossible.
    • Set a positive and sustainable mindset.
    • Implement your own system of belief.
    • Properly estimate your abilities.
    • Tap into your full potential.
    • Work without it feeling like work.

    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone

    How to achieve higher levels of success?

    Success is having a purposeful life and its realization is your responsibility.

    In addition, success is important for your personal growth, for your sense of self and for your well-being. 

    Success depends on your stage in life and shouldn’t be minimized.

    Success is not a popularity contest. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet

    To achieve higher levels of success:

    1. Do not play the victim or make excuses

    It is detrimental to take responsibility for your actions, to find solutions, take action and gain more control of your life.

    2. Relinquish control

    In life and at work, you will not control everything. However, you can control how you respond to everything.

    3. Be the solution

    Understand that you can be the solution and the problem to your situation, at the same time.

    4. Do not try to be average

    Being average and facing average difficulties will not lead you to success.

    People who operate on the average level tend to try to overestimate results, underestimate difficulties, steal success from those who operate at the 10X level.

    5. Do not rest on your laurels

    Resting on your laurels is the surest way to get overpowered and to lose sight of your goals.

    6. Set your goals

    Goal-setting plays an important part in your success.

    • Set your goals high enough so you do not fail, so you resist adversity and maintain your enthusiasm.
    • Speak your goals into reality on a daily basis.
    • Align your goals with your purpose.
    • Clearly define your goals.
    • Verify that your goals are equal to your potential.
    • Understand that your goals are personal.

    7. Avoid competing with others

    When you compete with others, you spend more time watching what someone else is doing rather than creating and setting the pace.

    It becomes critical to find your niche, dominate your field and do what others are not willing to do.

    8. Be mindful of the company you keep

    The people you associate with determine your level of success.

    Before joining a group, analyze the pros and the cons of belonging to this group.

    9. Get obsessed over success

    Obsession is not all negative. Obsession can be converted into action and can be conveyed.

    Being obsessed will push you to make things work.

    Get obsessed over success.

    Get obsessed over every possibilities and every action that will take you towards your goals.

    10. Go all in

    Going all in means fully committing to your goals and possibly over-delivering.

    No matter what, understand that:

    • It is OK put all your eggs in one basket and to over-commit.
    • You can and will fail as many times as you will and can succeed.

    11. Embrace fear

    Take fear as a sign to keep doing what you actually fear and to keep applying the 10X rule because:

    • Fear means that you are growing.
    • Fear means you are doing something uncomfortable.
    • Your moment is now. There isn’t a good time to take action.

    12. Value your time

    Time is of the essence. To achieve success: manage your time effectively, maximize your time, set your priorities, create a healthy work-life balance.

    13. Do not be afraid of criticism

    Criticism means that you are on your way to success when you start taking action.

    The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet


    The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is an inspirational and motivational book, written for leaders, entrepreneurs and anyone who wishes to be successful.

    It forces you to reevaluate your goals, your purpose and your definition of success.

    It encourages you to take risks, “act, produce and create in massive quantities regardless of the situation or circumstances.”

    It demonstrates how to be and stay the leader in any field. The 10X Rule focuses on your character, your mindset and your goal-setting skills.

    Most of the time, we struggle to reach our goals and don’t understand why. But, Grant Cardone makes it very clear that:

    • You must be self-aware and self-assured.
    • You are the only one that stands  in front of your goals.
    • Success depends integrally on the effort, time and energy that you put in.
    • Most of what society claims to be wrong is an inherent part of success.

    To Grant Cardone  success is a mindset and is determined by your purpose.

    The 10X Rule is not a get rich quick trick. Remember:

    • All goals are difficult to achieve.
    • You will always face some type of adversity.
    • You must assess your abilities and your resources.
    • Your goals must be extraordinary, appropriate and require motivation.
    • Success must be constantly maintained.
    • You current state doesn’t matter.
    • The way you are perceived doesn’t matter.

    Let me know below what you think about this book!

    Favorite quote(s)

    When you have underestimated the time, energy, and effort necessary to do something, you will have “quit” in your mind, voice, posture, face, and presentation. You won’t develop the persistence necessary to get your mission accomplished.

    Never take the position that things just happen to you; rather, they happen because of something you did or did not do.

    Until a person is done being a victim, he or she is unable to create solutions and success. That person only has problems.

    The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity.

    If you are not creating new problems for yourself, then you aren’t taking enough action.

    Success is not a popularity contest.

    Ratings 4/5


    Grant Cardone

    What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful By Marshall Goldsmith

    What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith serves as a roadmap  to help you get where you want to go in life and at work.

    What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith helps people:

    • Get into leadership position.
    • Put your vision into action.
    • Identify and change bad habits.
    • Succeed and reach higher heights of success.
    • Understand that the same skills that got you previous success and won’t get you to the next level.

    What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful By Marshall Goldsmith

    Why is it so hard to stop a bad habit?

    It is not easy for successful people to change their behavior because their past successes have acted as positive reinforcement and have solidified some of your behaviors.

    Furthermore, stopping a bad behavior isn’t as rewarded as you would think but it detrimental to success.

    Indeed, we don’t get as much credit for stopping something as much as starting something.

    Successful people either assume that:

    • They are right and everybody else is wrong.
    • People who want them to change are confused.
    • What you think about them doesn’t matter to them.
    • Their behavior is not hindering their success.
    • Changing their behavior is not worth it.

    To get people to change their behavior, it is important to have them identify what they value most and somewhat “threaten” that value.

    21 Habits That Got You Here But Won’t Get You There

    Some people are successful in spite of their behavior.

    • Understand that you can be successful in spite of your flaws.
    • Recognize our bad behavior.
    • Examine your behaviors to see what feelings are attached to them.
    • Avoid attacking value to the bad behavior that you associate with success.
    • Find a reason to change, an example that will act as a positive reinforcement.

    Marshall Goldsmith exhibits 21 behaviors that alienate people, that you need to stop and that are simple to correct.

    Habit #1. Winning too much

    In the case, the urge to win is strong and is triggered in any situation, whether it matters or not.

    However, the need to win can limit your success because it can destroy relationships.

    Habit #2. Adding too much value

    Another habit of smart people is always feeling the need to add value to every discussion, to run the show.

    They need to let everybody know that they already know or that they knwo a better way.

    The need to add value is simple a variation of the need to win.

    Habit #3. Passing judgment

    Passing judgement pushes people away because people do not like to be rated or critiqued.

    Imposing your standards on people, approving or disapproving of people’s decision will make you seem unwelcoming and disagreeable.

    Habit #4. Making destructive comments

    Some people make destructive comments without thinking: they put people down, they hurt them or assert themselves as their superiors.

    This habit of making hurtful and sarcastic remarks quickly erodes teamwork and cooperation.

    It can stem from a habit of always being candid or from a need to sound sharp and witty.

    Habit #5. Starting with “No”, “But” or “However”

    Starting with “No”, “But” or “However” says that whatever the other person is saying is wrong and what you are saying is right.

    The use of these negative qualifiers comes from a need to win and defend your position.

    Habit #6. Telling the world how smart we are

    The need to demonstrate how smart you are is a variation of the need to win, to gain people’s admiration and to communicate that you are two steps ahead of everyone else.

    Habit #7. Speaking when angry

    Anger can be a valuable management tool but it does not guarantee how people will react to your emotional outbursts.

    However, anger is not a leadership tool. Using anger as a tool says that you are out of control and that you cannot lead. It stifles your ability to change and brands you as being emotionally volatile.

    Habit #8. Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”

    Everybody avoids negative people in the workplace.

    Negative people find problems to every one of your solutions.

    They are not helpful. They don’t add value but they want to demonstrate that their knowledge is superior to everybody else’s.

    Habit #9. Withholding information

    Withholding information is part of corporate culture and is used to gain power.

    People who withhold information answer questions with a question, tend to be passive aggressive and promote mistrust.

    It becomes important to improve your communications skills, to make sharing information a priority, and to inform people what you are up to.

    Habit #10. Failing to give proper recognition

    People who are unable to praise and reward, who don’t recognize the contribution of others technically withhold information.

    People who are not recognized feel unsuccessful, unappreciated, forgotten and ignored.

    Habit #11. Claiming credit that we don’t deserve

    : The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.

    People who claim credit withhold praise and congratulations, overlook the right people, deprive them from recognition.

    People who claim credit are thieves and need to win. Whether you are the perpetrator or the victim of credit hogging:

    • Write down every time you congratulate yourself per day.
    • Review your list and discern who deserves credit.

    Habit #12. Making excuses

    Making excuses is not a viable leadership strategy and stops self-development.

    Excuses are different from explanation. However, most people use excuses to explain their failures.

    Habit #13. Clinging to the past

    The past explains a lot of our behavior.

    Most people live in the past because they can blame others for things that happened to them.

    However, clinging to the past is unhealthy. The past cannot be changed, rewritten or excuses. It can only be accepted.

    Habit #14. Playing favorites

    Some leaders unknowingly play favorites.

    They encourage people who serve them, praise them and admire them unconditionally.

    Playing favorites is dangerous because you select the wrong people, you favor people who don’t necessarily like you, you fail to recognize the people who deserve it.

    Habit #15. Refusing to express regret

    People who refuse to express regret are unable to forgive, to apologize, to admit their wrongs, to cede power or control.

    Refusing to apologize can create a toxic workplace. However, apologizing is powerful tool.

    Habit #16. Not listening

    Lack of attention is one of the most common bad habits in the workplace.

    Not listening to someone demonstrates that you are impatient, don’t care about what they are saying, that they are wasting your time, that you don’t understand what they are saying.

    Habit #17. Failing to express gratitude

    Expressing gratitude is a powerful and essential tool to success.

    Habit #18. Punishing the messenger

    Punishing the messenger tend to attack those who blow the whistle and who bring bad news to us.

    Habit #19. Passing the buck

    : The need to blame everyone but ourselves.

    Passing the buck means finding a scapegoat, blaming others for our mistakes.

    Leaders who pass the buck are difficult to follow because they don’t take responsibility for their actions.

    Habit #20. An excessive need to be “me”

    People who feel the need to be themselves hold on to behaviors they think intrinsically define them.

    They refuse to change because they see it as being inauthentic.

    The truth is they have a limited definition of themselves.

    Habit #21. Goal obsession

    Goal obsession can drive to success but it can also drive to failure.

    Goal obsession or obsessing over the wrong goals become negative when you force yourself to achieve your goals in spite of the bigger picture, of your manners and your character.

    How To Overcome These 21 Habits?

    To dispel these habits, it is important to learn what type of information is appropriate to share, when and how to convey information, who to ask for information, how to discern useful information.

    To overcome these 21 habits:

    1. Ask for feedback. Change does not happen with negative feedback but with honest and helpful feedback.
    2. Get feedback on your own from your surroundings and from how people react to you.
    3. Learn to apologize for your bad behavior to the people who matter most to you. By apologizing, you mend broken relationships and overcome negative emotions.
    4. Demonstrate changed behavior or your intention to change your behavior.
    5. Listen more than you speak and listen with respect.
    6. Express gratitude.
    7. Follow up on your progress by asking your coworkers.
    8. Discuss the behavior you are changing to one person and ask them for suggestions in the future.

    What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful By Marshall Goldsmith


    What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith is a very insightful book. It serves as a workplace guide of the things not to do.

    It is written for leaders and for people who want to move up in life and at work.

    According to Marshall Goldsmith, everybody has a at least six to eight habits that need to be stopped. From the look of it, we are all guilty of these habits.

    What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith is definitely a good place to start when you are looking to improve, when you are looking to understand the people and the different dynamics in the workplace.

    Let me know below what you think about this book!

    Favorite quote(s)

    We have to stop couching all our behavior in terms of positive or negative. Not all behavior is good or bad. Some of it is simply neutral. Neither good nor bad.

    the higher you go, the more your problems are behavioral.

    As we advance in our careers, behavioral changes are often the only significant changes we can make.

    If we can stop excusing ourselves, we can get better at almost anything we choose.

    Gratitude is a skill that we can never display too often. And yet for some reason, we are cheap and chary with gratitude—as if it were rare Bordeaux wine that we can serve only on special occasions. Gratitude is not a limited resource, nor is it costly. It is as abundant as air. We breathe it in but forget to exhale.

    Ratings 4/5


    Marshall Goldsmith

    15 Edifying Experiences That Help Leaders Learn To Lead

    The best leaders develop their skills on the field and learn from their experience.

    They acknowledge that they do not know everything, that their learning process is singular but they are curious and are open to learn.

    It is common knowledge that experience is the best teacher. Your experiences will help you develop a leadership style, a communication style, core values, purpose, character and emotional discipline.

    Wondering how and which experiences can teach you how to lead?

    15 Edifying Experiences That Help Leaders Learn To Lead

    25 Edifying Experiences That Help Leaders Learn To Lead

    Through your experiences, if you take time out to extract the lessons from your experiences, you will become a wiser and successful leader.

    #1. When You Fail

    At some point in your career, you will fail as a leader or as a person. You will fail to meet deadlines, to perform or to succeed.

    However, every leader knows that you cannot let failure define you and that you must go on.

    Indeed, failure is most often seen in a negative light but shows you what you are really made of.

    Failure are inevitable, are a factor for change, redirects your career, helps you change procedures and your character.

    Experiencing failure teaches you to:

    • Be more self-aware.
    • Identify the cues of failure.
    • Don’t punish yourself for failures and forgive yourself.
    • Measure the consequences of the mistakes and take responsibility for the failure.
    • Encourage constructive criticism as much as feedback is given.
    • Make immediate analysis and changes to fix the mistakes.
    • Be smart and learn from the mistakes made.
    • Be wise and learn from the mistakes of others.
    • Create an environment that is safe to make mistakes and to recover from them.
    Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward. - John C. Maxwell Click To Tweet

    #2. When You Get Familiar With Positivity & Success

    Positive experiences are highly memorable and can change your life forever.

    Positive attitudes can become difficult to maintain in challenging situations in the workplace. But once acquired, it is a habit that can help you overcome bad situations.

    Indeed, positivity ensures progress, diffuses situations, alleviates stress, reduces fear, increases endurance, increase self-esteem, attracts positive results and better opportunities.

    There are many ways to bring positivity into the workplace and into your mind. When you get familiar with positivity and success, you learn to:

    #3. When You Promote Forgiveness

    Forgiveness is often seen as weakness in the workplace. However, it is an efficient tool to avoid toxic conflicts, boost productivity, motivation and well-being.

    Truthfully, in the workplace, people are sensitive about their work, feelings get hurt easily and emotions get high. It becomes essential to:

    • Forgive yourself when you have wronged someone or yourself.
    • Forgive others for their wrongdoings as well.

    Becoming a forgiving person will teach you to:

    • Be compassionate and to let things go.
    • Not define yourself by your mistakes.
    • Not focus on the past and to be present.
    • Do your best next time.

    #4. When You Find A Role Model

    A role model can be a family member, a friend, a coworker, or another leader.

    Role models provide sound advice, ongoing feedback, emotional support, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, higher self-esteem, better focus, stronger confidence.

    Emulating their thoughts and behavior can improve your mind and teach you how to lead.

    Keep in mind that you can learn from a bad leader as much as a good leader.

    #5. When You Enjoy Solitude

    Solitude and leadership often go hand in hand.

    That is because, though leaders have family, friends, mentors and large network, they are the ones making the ultimate decision for their organization and not everyone will agree with their decisions.

    However, solitude can give you time to think, to understand who you are and how you want to lead.

    Leadership is also having the power to stand alone.

    Leadership is also having the power to stand alone. - Vanessa Sylvester Click To Tweet

    #6. When You Find Your Purpose or Renew Your Vision

    You need to know why you work and your team needs to know why they work for you.

    It is the vision that leads you and propels you forward, that wakes you up in the morning, that drives your performance, that is communicated to your employees, that gives meaning to your actions and decisions, and that leans on your belief systems.

    Leaders with a vision are ambitious and satisfied with their lives, become hopeful and optimistic about the future, invite change, and select their employees according to their strengths and not their weaknesses.

    They are also daring and don’t fear failure, are emotionally invested in their goals, flexible, persistent, resistant to social pressure and are convinced of their future success.

    With purpose, leaders can easily overcome adversity. - Vanessa Sylvester Click To Tweet

    #7. When You Have To Chose Being Like Vs. Being Respected

    I am sure that at some point, you have realized that you get more things done when your coworkers like you.

    However, in these situations, you can quickly become a people pleaser and lose the respect of your coworkers.

    There comes a time when you have to decide whether you want to be liked or to be respected.

    #8. When You Experience Different Cultures

    You have experienced different cultures and are now culturally sensitive.

    Cultural sensitivity is being aware that everyone is not the same. It means being able to learn from different people, to understand their backgrounds, to collaborate and cooperate with them, without being judgmental.

    Cultural sensitivity means viewing everyone as a unique individual. It promotes unity and has become a skill that is most useful in the world of today.

    You are now capable of adapting your leadership and communication style to every single member of your team.

    You are also capable of shifting the focus from yourself to your team.

    #9. When You Thought You Knew It All 

    Not because you are the leader, that you have all the solutions or are always right.

    In fact, being a leader is being placed in a position of service and humility.

    To be a humble leader:

    • Be confident about your own capabilities.
    • Take the time to think and to come up with a solution.
    • Understand that being a leader is not about being right.
    • Give people the time to think for themselves and to make their own mistakes.
    • Acknowledge that someone on your team may have better ideas than you do.
    • Learn to ask for help and to detect if someone needs help.
    • Learn to ponder your responses.

    #10. When You Have Foot In The Mouth Syndrome

    Sometimes, we say whatever comes to our mind.

    Other times, we blurt out things that we don’t mean but we haven’t measured the real impact of our words.

    In these moments, we understand that we should be quiet, that we should learn to speak less and listen more.

    #11. When You Get Caught Up In Office Politics

    Office politics is often badly perceived because it can be cruel, calculated and manipulative.

    Sometimes, office politics is a dangerous and corrosive game but it is a game. It is part of human nature, a social activity, a marathon and not a sprint.

    Other times, properly navigating office politics can give you access to leadership opportunities and promotion.

    Once you have experienced office politics, you become aware of the power play, of how you speak and listen to people.

    You start making sure that you are robust, are not dependent on people or other external factors, that you are emotionally detached from your work and that you can clearly separate your identity from your job.

    #12. When You Have To Deal With Toxic Coworkers

    We all have been exposed during a period of time to annoying, hateful, toxic coworkers who can drive us crazy.

    Whether it’s confronting a team member about their behavior or their performance, toxic coworkers can take a toll on you.

    However, it can also help you grow and become a better leader.

    #13. When You Have Identified Your Core Leadership Values

    Core values are principles that build your character and that define who you are deep down.

    In life and in the workplace, your core values will definitely be put to the test.

    For example, some people will not hesitate to lie on you or to sabotage your work to advance their career.

    Consolidating your core leadership values requires hard work, determination, daily practice and self-discipline.

    #14. When You Welcome Change

    If you have experienced drastic change in the workplace, you know that is better not to resist it.

    Change is a part of life, is a constant and is inevitable. Change shakes things up, disrupts old habits, breathes new life into the workplace and into any project.

    Furthermore, it has the ability to stimulate interest in your job. It also creates an opportunity for promotion and to develop new skills.

    Welcoming change teaches you to:

    • Be a catalyst for change and to champion innovation.
    • Regularly get outside of your comfort zone.
    • Handle feedback, setbacks and opportunities.

    #15. When You Assist Training Programs

    You have been to different seminars and courses and realized that you have acquired so much skills and tools in such short time.

    You have also met like-minded people who understand you vision.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    There are various ways that a leader can learn new skills and can learn how to lead.

    Every experience is an opportunity to test your skills and to learn some new ones.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    11 Best Strategies For Leaders To Fight Workplace Stress

    Have you ever noticed that no matter how much you are successful, how much you wish to be happy or to have peace of mind, life has a way of placing you in the same stressful situations?

    That is because, until you have learnt to deal with these stressful situations, they will keep showing up.

    For example, if you try to avoid someone who stresses you out, you will constantly run into that same person until you deal with your feelings about that person.

    It is therefore important to learn how to cope with these situations and find the right methods to address your stress.

    Wondering how to cope and effectively fight workplace stress?

    11 Best Strategies For Leaders To Fight Workplace Stress

    Why are leaders stressed in the workplace?

    Stress is inherently part of life and stressed leaders have seemed to become the norm. Leaders are mostly stressed at work due to:

    • interpersonal conflicts,
    • poor time management,
    • poor work performance,
    • a lack of financial freedom,
    • drastic and sudden changes,
    • excess meetings, policies and procedures.

    Stress has a direct impact on the corporate culture, on the leader’s leadership style, performance, and health.

    People express stress differently: some people get angry, some get exhausted and withdrawn, and others go into fight or flight mode.

    11 Best Strategies For Leaders To Fight Workplace Stress

    There are several ways to remain calm under pressure, manage your stress and use it to your advantage.

    #1. Be more self-aware & develop your emotional discipline

    It becomes critical to always take a step back from a situation, seek deeper insights in your thoughts and behaviors to identify stress triggers, weigh out the outcomes of the situation. How important is this situation for you?

    To be more self-aware and develop emotional disciplined:

    • Confront your painful situation and identify your triggers.
    • Identify your strength, weaknesses and limitations.
    • Be aware of the first physical symptoms of stress. Observe how your body responds to stress. During stressful times, some people are tense, can’t sleep, can’t eat.
    • Control your emotional reaction to the situation.
    • Write down the things that bother you.
    • Put a name to your emotions.

    #2. Change your mindset

    Your mind has everything to do with your behavior. To change your mindset:

    • See stress as a motivation.
    • Influence your brain to accurately interpret a high pressured situation. We have a tendency to distort situations through our lenses and either make them grander than they are.
    • Assume strictly positive outcomes of the stressful situation and speak positivity into reality.
    • Be open to new opportunities and new experiences.
    • Stay calm and positive. Positive attitudes can become difficult to maintain in challenging situations in the workplace. But once acquired, it is a habit that can help you overcome bad situations.
    Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. - Hans Selye Click To Tweet

    #3. Be grateful

    No matter how hard it gets, you are still breathing. This means that you have one more day to change your situation and to create a better life.

    To dispel stress:

    • Be grateful for your day to day.
    • Make a gratitude list to remind yourself of what you are thankful for.
    • Appreciate where you are in life, even where it’s not where you want to be.

    #4. Prioritize & stick to the essentials

    When deadlines are set and cannot be moved, when we are late we tend to stress out.

    Prioritizing is all about honing your decisions making and time management skills in order to achieve more. To do so:

    • Understand that it’s OK to miss out on things.
    • Learn how to say no and to set boundaries.
    • Learn to prioritize. When you have your priorities in check, you are able to know what is essential, what you are able to handle in your work day and who you are able to see.
    • Apply the 80/20 principle.
    • Don’t try to be perfect.

    #5. Create a better work-life balance

    Your professional and your personal lives are tightly intertwined. Creating work-life balance is not giving equal attention to both work and life.

    However, it means that you are satisfied with your contributions to your life and work, that you are able to create a sustainable synergy between both so that you are fueled by them on a daily basis.

    To create a better work-life balance:

    • Don’t stay too long at work.
    • Don’t take your stress at home.
    • Take long drives before getting home.
    • Spend more time with family and friends.
    • Figure out if you can work from home.
    • Create a morning routine to kick off your day on the right foot.
    • Take care of yourself first and boost your leadership self-esteem.
    • Align your daily activities in life and work with your values, principles.

    #6. Learn how to delegate 

    Most leaders want to control people, do everything themselves, be on top of everything all at once and find it hard to delegate.

    However, to remove stress due to work overload, it is important to learn how to delegate and automate some of your activities.

    Delegating will allow you to take all the load off your shoulders. To delegate:

    • Demonstrate confidence in yourself and in your team.
    • Select experts in their field, clarify their roles, give them the authority to do their jobs, allow them to fail and to grow.
    • Create clear progress measurement tools and milestones.
    • Avoid micromanaging people but measure their advancement.

    #7. Learn to communicate

    Great communication skills will improve your leadership credibility, your self-confidence, your relationships with others, your feelings of belonging and will decrease your stress level.

    They will also drive change and increase team motivation.

    To decrease your stress level:

    • Learn to effectively communicate your grievances.
    • Remember that everyone is different and won’t communicate the way you do.

    #8. Emotionally detach yourself from your job.

    Obsessing about work is problematic and unhealthy. Most of the time, being emotionally attached leads to being sensitive to feedback and to being unable to see the bigger picture.

    Unfortunately, most people who succeed are those who put in work and yet are detached from their work.

    #9. Filter out your entourage

    Leaders and employees have to make quick decisions while getting along with everyone, in multicultural contexts, with people from various backgrounds.

    So, if your relationships brings you more stress than necessary:

    • Surround yourself with people you can trust. Build real connections and learn to discern the authentic relationships by observing their actions.
    • Confide in your mentor and ask for advice.
    • If you can, get rid of toxic coworkers or relationships.
    • Isolate yourself if needed. Sometimes, it is good  to remove yourself from society, to contemplate solitude in order to enjoy yourself, your thoughts.
    • If you are unable to avoid negative interactions, isolate the information that you need from the interaction. Write down that information and do not rely on memory or distorted thoughts.
    • Do not compete with people and stay focused on your job.

    #10. Exercise and take regular breaks

    Exercise and regular breaks will allow you to break your routine and mindless actions.

    • Plan your breaks.
    • Take time off to disconnect and enjoy your holidays.
    • Listen more than you speak to give your brain a break.
    • Make sure that your habits and exercise routine fit your lifestyle.
    • Do activities that you enjoy in the middle of the work day and on weekends.
    • Unplug from the internet and from your phone on your breaks and on the weekends.

    #11. Let go & let God

    At some point in life, you must:

    • Understand that you cannot control everything.
    • Control the controllable factors (like your reactions to the situation) and release what you cannot control. Worrying about people or events beyond your control is a waste of energy.
    • Know that your situation is temporary and that you will come through the other side. Meanwhile, be kind to somebody and help someone.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    Remember that, as a leader, people are closely monitoring your behavior.

    They will be looking to you for inspiration and for a sense of calm in challenging situations.

    Finally, make sure that your passion for your job outweigh your level of stress on the job. If it doesn’t, then it’s time to quit.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    14 Common Mistakes That New Leaders Make

    New leaders get into leadership positions by demonstrating greater skills, higher levels of emotional intelligence, better expertise than the teams they were in.

    However, for new leaders, mistakes are common and quasi inevitable.

    Mistakes show you what you are made of, what you need to succeed, what you need to redirect your career, what you are missing to improve your character.

    Wondering what are the common mistakes to avoid as a new leader?

    Mistakes don’t directly lead to success but it can show you the way. It is best when they come to light rather than going unnoticed.

    When mistakes are made, it makes sense for us to focus on what we have done right, on our strengths rather than our weaknesses.

    14 Common Mistakes That New Leaders Make

    14 Common Mistakes That New Leaders Make

    #1. New leaders ego-trip

    Some new leaders want to bring attention to themselves, to demonstrate their self-importance and their superiority.

    They usually overstep their boundaries, put down their “subordinates” and come off as arrogant. It is safe to say that:

    • They lack self-confidence and self-awareness.
    • Their ego is fragile. They surround themselves with yes men and people who strike their ego.
    • They are entitled to their position and don’t understand that the position requires work and humility.

    #2. New leaders power-trip

    Leaders who power-trip lack humility and self-discipline.

    They use their new position to impose their authority, to remind their “subordinates” that they have power over them and to exact revenge on coworkers that they didn’t like.

    Needless to say, power tripping can damage trust and workplace morale.

    #3. New leaders don’t deal with their imposter syndrome

    New leaders let their imposter syndrome sabotage their efforts.

    Leaders with imposter syndrome don’t believe that they are due to their position, don’t believe that they have succeeded thanks to their gifts.

    Some of them are insecure, tend to feel like frauds and are afraid of being unmasked.

    Some are overzealous. They want to do things their way, be the catalysts of change, challenge the status quo almost immediately.

    Some overwork, they show off their skills and try to prove themselves.

    Others expect perfection and not excellence.

    #4. New leaders don’t know who they are

    New leaders are generally unaware of who they are, how they are seen, how they should contribute and of what they now represent.

    That is because new leaders:

    #5. New leaders don’t update their mindset

    Becoming a leader is a long and never-ending process.

    However, new leaders have to quickly update their mindset to keep up with their teams.

    They have to change their focus from frontliner to strategist, to doing from ordering, to performing a task to planning meetings.

    Firstly, they must make a pact with themselves to grow and to improve.

    Secondly, they must constantly monitor their words, attitudes and actions.

    #6. New leaders don’t understand the requirements of their position

    Leadership is not about the title or the position. It is about character, attitude and influence. New to their roles, most leaders:

    • Don’t grasp that being a boss, being a manager and being a leader are different.
    • Think “position” automatically implies “authority”.
    • Don’t understand their job description.
    • Don’t fully understand or commit to their role.
    • Fail to see the bigger picture.
    • Get overwhelmed by their positions.
    Leadership is not about the title or the position. It is about character, attitude and influence. - Vanessa Sylvester Click To Tweet

    #7. New leaders stop learning

    Even though new leaders think that they can handle their position with their old skills and their old knowledge, most of them don’t have the necessary skills to be a leader.

    New leaders face new responsibilities that they don’t have the skills for and :

    • Are too afraid to ask questions and to ask for help.
    • Take too long before initiating leadership training.
    • Have to learn new skills quickly, autonomously, and most importantly apply them.

    #8. New leaders stick to traditional leadership styles

    Autocratic and commanding leadership styles, though common and easy, are outdated, are rigid, and don’t work anymore, especially with millennials.

    People are more comfortable and are able to perform at their best with a democratic leadership style.

    Today, millennials expect validation, recognition, rewards, a more deconstructed workplace that is fun, relaxed, motivational yet productive and structured.

    They want to understand their role, the impact of their contributions at work, to be involved in the decision-making process, to learn continually and to own their work.

    #9. New leaders don’t cater to their past and present relationships

    Some leaders stop valuing people, start ignoring their teams and their past relationships. Instead, they tend to:

    • Disconnect from their teams. For instance, they don’t listen to their team and don’t measure their words.
    • Avoid conversations, small talk and nurturing new relationships.
    • Avoid collaboration and do everything themselves.
    • Focus on the results.

    Leaders who don’t focus on people are seen to be snobs, insensitive, inattentive.

    Dismissing relationships can easily create misunderstandings and conflicts because people have no barometer to measure your intentions, speech or behavior.

    #10. New leaders run away from conflicts

    New leaders aim to please at first. They sugarcoat, don’t address awkward dynamics, avoid conflicts, run away from difficult conversations, want to be liked and not respected.

    They don’t speak up when they have to. For example, they don’t communicate expectations don’t correct employee mistakes when they have to, are no longer transparent because they are afraid of judgement and of losing their position.

    In addition, they comply too often because they are not confident about their abilities.

    Even if it is sometimes wise to avoid conflict, this strategy is not sustainable.

    #11. New leaders shut down dissenting voices

    New leaders must get comfortable with people who cause dissent even though the latter are natural catalysts, and easily take risks.

    Dissenting voices within the organization usually have a bad reputation.

    They are not welcomed in groups, go against the grain, are seen as not playing by the rules, are stifled, are the ones that end up being fired.

    #12. New leaders don’t delegate

    At entry level, we want to control people, do everything ourselves, be on top of everything all at once and find it hard to delegate.

    Some leaders don’t know how to delegate, don’t want to delegate or just find it plain hard to do so. Indeed, it is a hard task because it requires that they:

    • Give instructions to their employees.
    • Have faith in the workers, be comfortable depending on others and believe that the work will be up to standards.
    • Have confidence in their personal abilities and do not be afraid of being upstaged.
    • Do not feel guilty that they are giving too much work to their employees because they were once in their place.

    #13. New Leaders fail to navigate office politics

    They don’t fully understand the politics at work and don’t take time to grasp it.

    It is important that they:

    • Address internal conflicts and discontinue previous leadership issues.
    • Stay aware of the new power struggles. Indeed, they will be compared to previous leaders and compare themselves to previous leaders, have to deal with jealousy and insubordination at first, have to face judgement and backlash from their coworkers.
    • Avoid talking negatively about the previous leader, gossiping about their coworkers with the coworkers.
    • Do not try to belong to a group in particular or try to be friends with their former colleagues.

    #14. New leaders don’t take accountability for their actions

    They don’t take accountability for their own actions.

    Instead, they tend to shift blame, find a scapegoat, are afraid of the words “I don’t know”.

    Furthermore, they take credit and don’t shine light on their high performing employees.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    Mistakes are inevitable, are a factor for change and for:

    • Humbling us and discovering our authentic selves.
    • Exhibiting our vulnerabilities, limitations and blind spots.
    • Showing us what works and what doesn’t.
    • Removing us from our comfort zones.
    • Helping us prioritize and go to the essentials.
    • Teaching us to forgive and to be less hard on ourselves, how to explore and experiment in life, how to learn and change.
    • Making us more resourceful, more resilient, more self-disciplined and building our problem solving skills.

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    15 Signs It’s Time To Quit Your Job

    Though people have to be financially responsible, they give themselves the opportunity to explore and to search for a job that will make them happy.

    Needless to say, quitting your job is a big decision, an exciting yet scary endeavor.

    On one hand, we remember that we have to survive and pay the bills. On the other hand, we no longer have to put up with bad decisions, poor workmanship and slow processes.

    Wondering how to recognize when it’s time to quit your job and how to effectively develop an exit strategy?

    15 Signs It's Time To Quit Your Job

    People give themselves the opportunity to explore and to search for a job that will make them happy. Click To Tweet

    15 Signs It’s Time To Quit

    Sometimes, we are in way over our heads, other times we just want to collect that paycheck and nothing else. It becomes hard to notice the signs that it’s time to quit.

    You know it’s time to quit when:

    #1. You Desperately Look For Reasons To Quit

    Your job has become a problem and is weighing heavy on your shoulder. You feel it in your bones and your desire to quit roams your brain all day.

    At this point, anything would justify your desire to quit.

    If you don’t get your morning coffee, then it’s time to quit.

    If your train runs late, then it’s time to quit.

    If there is too much traffic today, then it’s definitely time to quit.

    #2. You Believe The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side

    You are low-key envious of people who quit their job and who start their own business ventures.

    #3. You Are Burnt Out

    When it’s time to quit, your intuition will usually let you know in advance that something is wrong.

    If you don’t pay attention to your intuition, your mind ill start to go in overdrive.

    Finally, your body will suffer the repercussion.

    You are burnt out if:

    • You are doing your best on the job but your best doesn’t seem to be enough.
    • You don’t have the energy or the time to do your work.
    • Your physical health suffers. working out doesn’t help anymore and you have probably put on weight.
    • You don’t pay attention to your personal grooming.

    #4. You Require A Better Work Life Balance

    You bring your job home and incessantly complain about it.

    You don’t take care of yourself or your family.

    You believe that you deserve a better work-life balance.

    #5. You Are Depressed Every Sunday Night

    Sunday nights are extremely depressing because you remember your past week and  because you dread Monday mornings.

    #6. You Are Underperforming

    You are underperforming and are making too many mistakes on things that you used to be good at.

    You have been unable to reach deadlines, to defend your progress and perspectives.

    You constantly look for distraction from your work environment whether you are on or off the job.

    Furthermore, you don’t care about your workplace performance, your reputation, your well-being, the opinion of your coworkers, and the respect for our boss is gone.

    #7. You Are Undervalued And Underutilized

    You feel underappreciated and are bored to death.

    You have no voice within the organization.

    You don’t feel like your strengths and weaknesses are being adequately used.

    #8. You Take Too Many Breaks

    You have been absent and keep taking more absence leaves that you used to.

    Basically, you cannot wait for the day to end.

    You plan your breaks, your lunches and your vacations before you even start your workday. You obsess about your vacations and your mental health depends on them.

    You go to the bathroom too often and take too many calls out of your office.

    #9. You Just Don’t Fit In

    Working gives us the means to survive and is quasi inevitable.

    You need more freedom to express yourself and the company culture does not allow your form of expression.

    #10. Your Job Does Not Align With Your Life Purpose

    You spent time studying for a degree, graduated and your college degree doesn’t match your job description.

    In addition, you don’t understand your task, get no satisfaction from doing your job and you start questioning the purpose of your job.

    #11. You Cannot Project Yourself In The Future

    There are no growth opportunities to evolve, to move towards a new position, to learn new skills.

    You cannot project yourself in the future because you have other plans for your future, your leadership vision is not being executed, your life is changing but your salary isn’t, your colleagues are getting better paid than you do or because you have been passed up for promotion too many times.

    #12. Your Social Life Is Affected

    Your social life is stunted and your relationships are strained.

    You don’t want to bring up work with your friends and family.

    Conversations about work with people you enjoy depress you, project you in negative thoughts and negative emotions overwhelm you.

    You are not a complainer but you start complaining NON STOP about your job. You bring up the subject with whomever even when it doesn’t matter.

    #13. The Ethics On Your Job Are Questionable

    You work in a toxic environment:

    • Your higher-ups and your organization generally lack ethics.
    • Your core leadership values don’t align with those of your organization.
    • You experience an emotional rollercoaster daily.
    • You are perpetually in fight or flight mode. You are either looking for conflict or hiding from everyone and everything.
    • You are being bullied, your self-esteem is continually being attacked and your ethics are daily challenged.
    • You suddenly cannot stand your colleagues and find faults in everything that they do.

    #14. Your Leader Is Out Of Control

    Employees don’t leave a job, they leave bad bosses. 

    You don’t admire or respect your leaders. You don’t ask them for advice anymore and question their decisions.

    #15. Your Organization Is Laying People Off

    Your organization is facing serious financial difficulties and you think that you will get laid off.

    You have to financially take care of yourself and quit.

    There are two options after quitting your job: either you find another one or you create one. Just remember that not all workplaces are the same.

    Developing An Exit Strategy

    Sometimes, we have reached our limits and it’s time to quit. However, it’s always important to develop an exit strategy.

    1. Examine your mental, physical and emotional health.
    2. Take time off to think about yourself. Identify your core values, your purpose, your strengths and weaknesses.
    3. Evaluate your motivations to stay on the job. Look around for clues that it’s time to quit your job. You can do a pros and cons list.
    4. Think about the consequences of leaving your job.
    5. Plan your future before quitting. It is imperative that you:
      • Analyze your skill sets and check which ones you wish to develop.
      • Find out which field you wish to work in and discuss it with people who are in your field of preference.
      • Proactively look for another job. Keep looking for job and applying online while you are still employed. It is recommended to discreetly find a new job before moving on to the new one.
      • Pick your next profession with care.
      • Build a solid vision.
      • Prepare yourself for the next opportunity and get rid of past baggage.
    6. Be comfortable with change and embrace the unknown.
    7. Speak to your close friends and family about your decision. Ultimately, you know what is best for you.
    8. Be confident in your decision, acknowledge that there is no shame in quitting and understand that there is no perfect time to quit.
    9. Leave on good terms even though you hated your job.

    Last Words Of Advice!

    Quitting your job doesn’t mean being jobless, giving up on yourself or that you have failed altogether. During the quitting process, it is detrimental to grow internally, to keep yourself busy and stay on purpose.

    Furthermore, you can either go after your dreams or help someone else build their own.

    If you don't build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs.” Tony Gaskins Click To Tweet

    Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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    The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k: A Counterintuitive Approach To Living a Good Life By Mark Manson

    All day, we are bombarded with things that we are supposed to care about. In the end, we are made to think that we should care about those things.

    Therefore, we constantly feel the need to look for better in order to impress, to feel insecure, to fake emotions, to compare ourselves with others and to live a “good” life.

    Truthfully, to be successful, to live a good life and to overcome those feelings, it is detrimental to confront painful emotions, to care less about pain and to care more about what is important.

    The Meaning To Not Giving A F**k

    Caring too much about futile things is a sign that you don’t have anything better going on in your life. However, not caring is liberating. By caring less, Mark Manson means:

    • Stop trying so hard and stop investing too much energy in things.
    • Pursue failures and not  success, pain and not pleasure. Failures eventually lead to success and confronting negativity leads to growth.
    • Embrace negative emotions and use your pain as a tool.
    • Take action even though your circumstances and emotions are overwhelming.
    • Discern the situations and the people who matter.
    • Understand that life is short and there is no time to waste on futility.
    • Be authentic and “comfortable with being different”.
    • Choose something to care about that matters more than adversity.

    The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k: A Counterintuitive Approach To Living a Good Life By Mark Manson

    How To Not Giving A F**k?

    There are a few principles to practice in order to care less:

    1. Understand that pain is inevitable, incessant yet it is necessary. It triggers change and helps us avoid making the same mistakes.
    2. Understand that you cannot control everything and that life will always throw you curve balls. Everything in life requires sacrifice.
    3. Understand that you’ll be fine no matter what.
    4. Don’t base your life and reactions on your emotions.
    5. Don’t repress your emotions. Instead, use your negative emotions to motivate you and to do better.
    6. Take action in order to create positive emotions.
    7. Accept yourself. Get comfortable with yourself and with failure. It doesn’t make sense to avoid failure. Failure is painful but it boosts change and welcomes success.
    8. Control your thoughts.
    9. Change your values to build your character.
    10. We all care about something and it’s impossible not to. You must just figure out what level of pain you are willing to sustain.
    11. Acknowledge that if some people take you seriously and consider you as a change agent, others will make fun at you and see you as an embarrassment.
    12. Take responsibility for your problems and for your experiences.
    13. Acknowledge your ignorance or lack of knowledge. Invest in your personal growth nad challenge your beliefs.
    14. Don’t avoid rejection. Learn to handle rejection and to say no in return.
    15. Be conscious of your own death. Don’t be afraid of your own death. Let the possibility of death transform you and give your life meaning.


    To be frank, I heard a lot about The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k By Mark Manson. Not only was I intrigued by the title but by the press around this book.

    As the year goes by, we see the emergence of a lot of books with a colorful language. The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k By Mark Manson is a motivational book that encourages transformation. It promotes the need to be honest with yourself, to determine your limitations, your strengths and weaknesses.

    The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k is a funny book with far-fetched metaphors. Yet, it is honest about itself. It:

    • Warns us to be selective on the things that we care about.
    • Promotes the concept of not caring about what people think, of not letting people or our emotions overwhelm you.
    • Denounces life’s false expectations and disillusion.
    • Demonstrates how life is imperfect.
    • Stops you from seeking for outside validation, searching for bigger and better, living in the superlatives, from trying to impress, from maintaining appearances, feeling the need to prove ourselves to society and from promoting a fake life on social media.

    Besides the use of colorful language, it is very similar to the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less by Greg Mckeown.

    It is written as motivation for millennials, for overthinkers, for chronic worriers and for the overly emotional for whom not caring would be liberating.

    Let me know below what you think about this book!

    Favorite quote(s)

    Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing.

    The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And,
    paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive

    This book will help you think a little bit more clearly about what you’re choosing to find important in life and what you’re choosing to find unimportant.

    We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change.

    Ratings 3/5


    Mark Manson