Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want By Michael Hyatt & Daniel Harkavy

In Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want, Michael Hyatt & Daniel Harkavy suggest that we define a plan for our lives.

They introduce us to the concept of Life Planning and show us how to implement the process.

Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want By Michael Hyatt & Daniel Harkavy

What is a Life Plan?

According to Hyatt and Harkavy, “A Life Plan is a short written document, usually five to fifteen pages long“.

The Life Plan is personal, describes your priorities, the steps to reach your goals and the legacy you want to leave.

It is a life long process, that can continually be adjusted and improved. A Life Plan doesn’t shield you from life challenges and failures. Instead, it will help you create intention for your life.

It is common to have a career plan but no Life Plan. The Life Plan enables you to:

  • Set priorities and stick to them.
  • Stop sacrificing yourself, to stop trading health and time for work, career advancement, accolades or money.
  • Filter out opportunities. As you get older and as you get experiences, opportunity coming your way will multiply. It is therefore important to know where your priorities lie and what opportunity to choose.
  • Avoid distractions, confront and deal with reality.
  • Avoid the feeling of being stuck and allow you to keep your eyes on the future.
  • Avoid regrets and increase your level of control.

The drift and its consequences

Most people drift away from their dreams because:

  • They are unaware that their ideas and assumptions are inaccurate and harmful.
  • There is a discrepancy between their beliefs and reality.
  • They are distracted, are spread too thin or too busy to focus on their lives and to start prioritizing.
  • They don’t understand that there is hope, that they can change and that they have more control over their lives than they think.

When you drift away from your dreams and when you don’t have a Life Plan, you tend to:

  • Lack meaning and purpose.
  • Waste your time and other valuable resources on meaningless tasks.
  • Lose opportunities and their sense of urgency. People who drift away procrastinate and are unable to discern a good opportunity from a bad.
  • Experience trouble more intensely because they are unprepared.
  • Take a passive approach to life, shift blame and live in regrets.

Designing and implementing your Life Plan

To design your Life Plan, it is necessary to outline your legacy, to set your priorities, get clarity on your objectives and to reserve one day to build your Life Plan.

Outlining your legacy

To design your Life Plan, keep in mind that everybody leaves a legacy, face your mortality and begin with the end in mind.

It is critical to write your Life Plan like you are writing your eulogy, to imagine how you want others to remember you and to stay committed to the process.

Setting your priorities

Getting more clarity on your objectives will definitely increase your commitment. To do so, you must steer clear from external expectations and do what is right for you.

Getting clarity on objectives

  • Identify your purpose.
  • Project yourself into the future, picture yourself in it and imagine all the different positive outcomes. To make your vision much more compelling, write down in the present tense what you hear, feel, see, smell and taste.
  • Find and apply a quote that inspires you.
  • Make an honest assessment of your current progress.
  • Commit to specific, measurable, actionable, realistic and time-bond goals.

Devote one day to your Life Plan

Hyatt & Harkavy recommend that you schedule one day to create your Life Plan. Needless to say, the Life plan should be implemented starting the next day.

It is necessary to allow yourself to dream, to not expect perfection and to not get distracted.

Implement your plan

Implementing the Life Plan is the most challenging part. It is necessary to:

  • Include your Life Plan in your everyday routine.
  • Fight the feeling of being overwhelmed by life’s drama.
  • Don’t be afraid to say no or to disappoint others.
  • Read your plan daily and review it often.

Review

Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want by Michael Hyatt & Daniel Harkavy is an easy to read self-help book that is based on some of their traumatic experiences.

It is destined to increase our focus, to helps us find out what matters most, to acquire meaning and fulfillment in our everyday life, to allow us to prioritize our lives and to contribute effectively,

This book is written for people who are looking for a better direction for their life because they are either:

  • unsatisfied with the current state of their lives,
  • lack purpose,
  • seeking more balance,
  • unable to overcome life challenges,
  • noticing that their lives don’t fit their vision or dream,
  • not reaching their full potential.

The earlier we start creating and implementing a Life Plan, the better.

Favorite quote(s)

Living Forward will heighten your sense of what’s truly possible for you in life. If you feel out of balance, aware that your current pace is unsustainable; if you are making great gains professionally but don’t want to neglect personal priorities; if you want to have better focus to succeed financially; if you have gone through a recent tragedy and suddenly become aware that life is short; if any of those are true, this book is for you.

I know that how we lead ourselves in life impacts how we lead those around us. Self-leadership always precedes team leadership. We must have a balanced approach to accumulating net worth in all of the critical accounts in our lives, not just one or two. Ultimately this allows us to make the greatest difference and adds the most value to those around us. It is possible to grow at work without diminishing other areas of our lives. Living forward helps us find and maintain our balance.

Ratings 4/5

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Daniel Harkavy

Michael Hyatt

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10 Proven Ways To Shift Perspective

We are often faced with stressful situations in our personal and professional lives…

Unfortunately, perception is reality.

That means that our perception of the situation will most of the time determines our reaction.

Shifting perception doesn’t mean switching viewpoint or distorting the truth but broadening your understanding of all facets of the situation.

Wondering how to shift your perspective?

10 Proven Ways To Shift Perspective

Perception is a combination of the information collected, your experience and system of belief.

To shift it, there are some steps that you can take.

1. Put some distance between you and the drama

Sometimes, we get caught up in negative situations whether we want to or not or we stay in toxic environments longer than we should.

Removing yourself from that environment is the best way to change perspective.

If you are consistently surrounded by negative people, your thoughts will sooner or later become negative.

You may wonder whether you are creating or amplifying the negativity but if you remove yourself from it and it still goes on, you have nothing to do with it.

You probably just got caught up in someone else’s crazy.

2. Change your programming

You must be aware of the type of content that you allow to program your subconscious mind.

If you aren’t able to find the perspective you are looking for, seek out content that comforts you and that is similar to the perspective you wish to achieve or to the attitude you wish to emulate.

You may need to gather different sources of positivity around you like podcasts, books or movies.

3. Pay attention to self-talk

You are in control of your thoughts and of the way you react to situations.

In order to help your self-talk, you can use words of affirmation.

4. Adjust your expectations

Most drama in life comes from having too high expectations for people.

If someone has disappointed you or created unnecessary drama, you need to reset and lower your expectations for them.

5. Limit your time

If you are unable to physically remove yourself from drama, you can limit your time there while attempting to find a solution.

By doing so, you will gradually:

  • Prioritize the essentials.
  • Understand that everything is temporary.
  • Acknowledge that you don’t have to stay in it longer than necessary.

6. Find the lesson

Find the lesson and focus on the positives.

Finding the lesson in a negative situation allows you to look past yourself, to grow and to not be the victim.

7. Take a step back

Sometimes, we create our own drama or participate at some level in someone else’s.

According to Miguel Ruiz in The Four Agreements, taking someone else’s drama personally will only make things worse.

It then helps to take a step back to gather yourself and to evaluate the situation.

By doing so, you can also make sure that the story you tell yourself isn’t laced with elements of your past.

8. Change your reaction

You may no be able to shift your perspective just yet but you can change your reaction.

The truth is if you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result.

So, when faced with a situation that seems consistently challenging, try doing something different.

It may not solve the situation but you will get a different result and therefore gain more perspective.

9. See the bigger picture

Drama and the way we think about it can cause serious repercussions on your life.

Visualizing the bigger picture reframes the negative situation and reduces its impact.

Will this matter in the long run? In 5 days, 5 months or 5 years, will you remember this person or that job?

10. Forgive yourself

Staying in a negative situation, talking to negative people or walking around thinking about negative situation is damaging to your health and will only amplify the drama.

So, take the time to process the negative emotions, forgive yourself for staying in a bad situation for too long and hold on to the glimmer of hope.

Last Words Of Advice!

The circumstances of the situation you are dealing with depend on your perspective and your reaction.

Shifting perspective is a mind trick that allows you to better face challenges and that relies on the principal that you have the power to control your thoughts.

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life By Jen Sincero

We create our own reality…

Our reality first starts in our subconscious mind.

1. Upgrade your mindset

Our subconscious mind has accumulated so much information around us from our childhood and has formatted our current system of belief.

No matter how much your conscious mind thinks that it is in control, it’s not. It is your subconscious mind that rule your life and manifest itself in your decisions.

The key is to unblock yourself by fixing your subconscious belief, to set your mind on what you truly want, to start present, quiet the ego, step out your comfort zone, and getting past your fears and the fears of those around you.

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2. Work on loving yourself

After upgrading your mindset, the second to creating the life that you want is to love yourself no matter what.

When you truly love yourself, you do not bother people and you do not want to be bothered by nonsense. To fall in love with yourself:

  • Understand and appreciate your uniqueness.
  • Use words of affirmation and rephrase your negative self-talk.
  • Do things you love and put yourself first.
  • Avoid comparing yourself to others and always do your best whatever the circumstances.
  • Learn to forgive yourself.
  • Stop caring about what others think of you.
  • Change your habits, try new things and step out your comfort zone.
  • Trust your intuition.

3. Set your mind on your goals

Our mind is our most powerful tool.

So much so that what we chose to focus on become our reality.

Therefore, once you have learned to love yourself, to rewire your grain and quiet the mind, it is time to set your mind on what you truly want, attract it and work towards it.

While you do so, it is important to give, to practice an attitude of gratitude, learn to forgive yourself and others, and to surround yourself with like-minded people.

When you start creating your own reality, life will get bad before it gets better!

Review

You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero is a regular self-help book with known and effective Principles to improve your life and to live the one you want.

Except that Jen Sincero has an upbeat delivery, puts a funny spin to these principles and adds personable examples.

She forces you to look within, to challenge your perception of reality, your circumstances and your role in creating your circumstances.

You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero promotes life improvement from the inside out and is centered around love.

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Favorite quote(s)

You’ll have to believe in things you can’t see as well as some things that you have full-on proof are impossible. You’re gonna have to push past your fears, fail over and over again and make a habit of doing things you’re not so comfy doing. You’re going to have to let go of old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it.

If you want to live a life your never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.

You are responsible for what you say or do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.

What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

We’ve made being in fear a habit.
We’re pumped full of it as children, like sugar, then as we grow we continued to take in the bad news on TV and the horror in the papers and the violence in books and films and video games and all this junk that fills us to the brim with fear about the world. We’re taught to play it safe and not take risks, and to caution everyone around us to follow suit.
And it becomes such an accepted part of our social conditioning that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.

Ratings 3.5/5

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Jen Sincero

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Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking By S.J. Scott & Barrie Davenport

Our thoughts are a way for us to process our experiences and deal with our emotions…

Our thoughts are necessary  for us to understand our situation, to find solutions, to make decisions and to plan for the future.

Our thoughts plague us with negative emotions, stop us from leaving in the present, steal our joy and peace of mind.

It just seems that we just don’t stop thinking and our mind is constantly cluttered.

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Four Reasons For Mental Clutter

Mental clutter can trigger several mental illness and physical symptoms. It may cause us to react and to respond in an unconventional manner.

There are four main reasons for mental clutter.

1. Life stress

We are stresses by our jobs, the daily headlines or social expectation. The first reason for mental clutter comes from our everyday life.

2. Too many choices

Having to choose between too many options can be a great source of anxiety, indecision, paralysis, and dissatisfaction. 

3. Too much clutter

Our home is filled with things that we don’t need.

Our mind is filled with data that doesn’t serve us.

Our time is filled with distractions and trivialities.

After a while, we start being too busy to declutter and start thinking negatively.

4. Negativity as reality

We react to negative events more easily, quickly and intensely than positive ones.

That is because we are “hardwired to overthink, worry, and view situations more negatively than they are in reality”. 

Therefore, we accept negative thoughts as being reality, we see “threats as more threatening and challenges as more challenging.”

Habits To Help You Declutter Your Mind

Mindfulness is the art of staying present, of identifying your thoughts and decluttering.

It requires a lot of patience, practice and building specific habits.

1. Deep breaths

Our breathing habits is directly connected to our thinking habits. Whenever we feel anxious or overwhelmed, our breathing changes immediately.

However, we have the power to adjust our breathing to control our thoughts.

To regulate your breathing, several times a day, you can:

  1. Adapt your posture. Sometimes, the way we stand or sit constricts the air in our lungs. It is imperative to sit up straight or to relax your body.
  2. Pay attention to your breathing pattern throughout the day. 
  3. Use abdominal breathing techniques.
  4. Practice slow and deep breathing. Deep breathing relaxes the body, improves general health, quiets the inner dialogue and forces you back in the present.

2. Meditation

Meditation, practiced for thousands of years and originated in ancient Buddhist, Hindu, and Chinese traditions, can be used as a tool for exercising and decluttering your mind.

Meditation reduces negative thinking, redirects to the present moment and improves creativity. To see the benefits of meditation, you must:

  1. Practice meditation daily or in stressful times.
  2. Find a quiet place and a adequate position to practice meditation.
  3. Let your mind wander but always bring back the focus on deep breathing.

3. Mindset monitoring

Many people fall victim to their negative thoughts. They believe the negativity and think that they have no control over what they think.

however, our thoughts are not our identity and we have the power to challenge and reframe them. To do so:

  1. Be aware of your thought pattern. You can witness them without judging  or becoming them.
  2. Give a name to your negative thoughts in order to seperate yourself from them. 
  3. Interrupt them before spiralling. You have the power to say no to the flood of thoughts coming your way. You can also use the rubber band technique to interrupt your thoughts. 
  4. Identify your triggers. 
  5. Distract yourself with positive thoughts and projects.

4. Mindset improvement

After decluttering your mind from negative thoughts, you need to fill your mind with new positive ones.

To integrate a new mindset:

  1. Challenge the negative thoughts whenever they happen and replace them with positive ones.
  2. Accept the negative situation that you are in instead of mentally fighting it. This will give you more control over your thoughts and the situation.
  3. Take positive action that aligns with your values, goals and priorities.
  4. Don’t stay too long in your head. Instead, set a timeframe where you can expand on your worries. Then, find something to distract yourself from your worries.

Review

Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking is a collection of several blog posts from S.J. Scott & Barrie Davenport.

It is written for people who want to become more productive, who have problems focusing and finding their peace of mind.

Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking frees you from addiction, distractions, overthinking, from negative and unproductive feelings.

It gives you tips to help you save time, build up your priorities and set the proper boundaries. The tools given are common knowledge and may not work for everyone. I find that the rubber band technique is painful for no reason, is not discreet and is not helpful when it comes to reducing negative thoughts.

However, there are different options that can work for you and your situation.

Furthermore, there is no reason to get discouraged because these techniques require huge commitment and have to be practiced quasi daily for you to see results.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

Our powerful brains are constantly processing all sorts of experiences and
analyzing them in the form of thoughts. Thoughts form what we perceive to
be reality.

We worry about our health, our jobs, our kids, the economy, our relationships, how we look, what other people think of us, terrorism, politics, pain from the past, and our unpredictable futures. Our thoughts about these things make us suffer and undermine the happiness we could experience right now if we didn’t have that constant voice in our heads stirring things up.

Ratings 3/5

Author

S.J. Scott

Barrie Davenport

 

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130 Motivating Quotes For The New Year

This year went by quickly… Am I right?

We barely had the time to breathe or to make sense of everything.

Here are a few quotes to get yourself back together and motivate you for the New Year.

This year is going to be your best year yet. Each step that you take will help you overcome your fears and lead you closer to your goals and make you more excited for the year to come.

  1. Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. – Carl Bard

  2. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing.  That’s why we recommend it daily. – Zig Ziglar

  3. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

  4. The most successful people reach the top not because they are free of limitations, but because they act in spite of their limitations. – Michael K. Williams

  5. Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life. – Robin Sharma

  6. Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill

  7. Anyone who has ever made anything of importance was disciplined. – Andrew Hendrixson

  8. Creativity is intelligence having fun. – Albert Einstein

  9. The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. – Lao Tzu

  10. Dream big and dare to fail. – Norman Vaughan

  11. Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other. – Brian Tracy130 Motivating Quotes For The New Year #newyear #motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes

  12. Always keep your eyes open. Keep watching. Because whatever you see can inspire you. – Grace Coddington

  13. What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

  14. You must be the change you wish to see in the world. – Gandhi

  15. Tough times never last, but tough people do. – Dr. Robert Schuller

  16. Keep your face to the sunshine and you can never see the shadow. – Helen Keller

  17. The power of imagination makes us infinite. – John Muir

  18. Once you choose hope, anything’s possible. – Christopher Reeve

  19. Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail. – Charles Kettering

  20. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. – Mary Kay Ash

  21. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. – Theodore Roosevelt

  22. Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. – Napoleon Hill

  23. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. – George Addair

  24. A year from now you may wish you had started today. – Karen Lamb

  25. It is never too late to be what you might have been. – George Eliot

  26. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. – Teddy Roosevelt

  27. If there is no struggle, there is no progress. – Frederick Douglass

  28. What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do. – Tim Ferriss

  29. To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. – Elbert Hubbard

  30. Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions. – Albert Einstein

  31. Even if you fall on your face, you’re still moving forward. – Victor Kiam

  32. The best way to predict the future is to invent it. – Alan Kay

  33. Change your thoughts and you change your world. – Norman Vincent Peale

  34. Action is the foundational key to all success. – Pablo Picasso

  35. Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. – Jim Rohn

  36. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. – Wayne Gretzky

  37. It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up. – Vince Lombardi

  38. What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. – Napoleon Hill

  39. Never let your memories be greater than your dreams. – Doug Ivester

  40. The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests. – Epictetus

  41. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines. – Robert Schuller

  42. It is only in our darkest hours that we may discover the true strength of the brilliant light within ourselves that can never, ever, be dimmed. – Doe Zantamata

  43. If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit130 Motivating Quotes For The New Year #newyear #motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes

  44. It doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you don’t stop. – Confucius

  45. Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain. – Vivian Greene

  46. Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow. – Mary Anne Radmacher

  47. Think big and don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. Life is too short to think small. – Tim Ferriss

  48. The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one’s destiny to do, and then do it. – Henry Ford

  49. The real opportunity for success lies within the person and not in the job. – Zig Ziglar

  50. Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all. – Helen Keller

  1. If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor. – Eleanor Roosevelt

  2. Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. – Albert Einstein

  3. If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. – Jim Rohn

  4. If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. – Albert Einstein

  5. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. – Oscar Wilde

  6. You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated. – Maya Angelou

  7. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

  8. Life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent of how I react to it. – Charles Swindoll

  9. I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. – Jimmy Dean

  10. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. – Theodore Roosevelt

  11. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. – Les Brown

  12. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. – Albert Einstein

  13. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. – Stephen Covey

  14. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. – Henry Ford

  15. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. – Amelia Earhart

  16. Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant. – Robert Louis Stevenson

  17. Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact. – William James

  18. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. – Dalai Lama

  19. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein

  20. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

  21. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. – George Addair

  22. We become what we think about. – Earl Nightingale

  23. Eighty percent of success is showing up. – Woody Allen

  24. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. – Steve Jobs

  25. Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. – Vince Lombardi

  26. Either you run the day, or the day runs you. – Jim Rohn

  27. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. – Mark Twain

  28. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. – Henry David Thoreau

  29. Start where you are. Use what you have.  Do what you can. – Arthur Ashe

  30. First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. – Aristotle

  31. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained. – Marie Curie

  32. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. – Joshua J. Marine

  33. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein

  34. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. – Tony Robbins

  35. You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it. – Robert Anthony

  36. Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything. – Napoleon Hill

  37. Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong. – Ella Fitzgerald

  38. Ones best success comes after their greatest disappointments. – Henry Ward Beecher

  39. The first and most important step toward success is the feeling that we can succeed. – Nelson Boswell

  40. Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. – Mahatma Gandhi

  41. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. – Friedrich Nietzsche

  42. We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us. – Virginia Satir

  43. If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way. – Napoleon Hill

  44. If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door. – Milton Berle

  45. The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same. – Colin R. Davis

  46. Life has no limitations, except the ones you make. – Les Brown

  47. He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life. – Muhammad Ali

  48. You will succeed because most people are lazy. – Shahir Zag

  49. The grass is greener where you water it. – Neil Barringham

  50. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway. – Earl Nightingale

  51. Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from. – Seth Godin

  52. If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try. – Seth Godin 

  53. If you can dream it, you can do it. – Walt Disney

  54. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney

  55. Press forward. Do not stop, do not linger in your journey, but strive for the mark set before you. – George Whitefield

  56. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. – Eleanor Roosevelt

  57. You just can’t beat the person who never gives up. – Babe Ruth

  58. Knowing Is Not Enough; We Must Apply. Wishing Is Not Enough; We Must Do. – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

  59. When you know what you want,and you want it badly enough,you’ll find a way to get it. – Jim Rohn

  60. Every great story on the planet happened when someone decided not to give up, but kept going no matter what. – Spryte Loriano

  61. If you’re going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill

  62. You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them. – Michael Jordan

  63. Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out. – Robert Collier

  64. ll progress takes place outside the comfort zone. – Michael John Bobak

  65. Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today. – Benjamin Franklin

  66. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

  67. Don’t count the days, make the days count. – Muhammad Ali

  68. Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. – Tony Robbins

  69. You can’t give up! When you give up, you’re like everybody else! – Chris Evert

  70. When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. – Paulo Coelho

  71. Victory is not always winning the battle…but rising every time you fall. – Napoleon Bonaparte

  72. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway. – Earl Nightingale

  73. Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you. – Mary Lou Retton

  74. Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy. – Leo Buscaglia

  75. One finds limits by pushing them. – Herbert Simon

  76. A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. – Sir Winston Churchill

  77. If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. – Katharine Hepburn

  78. Success is not what you have, but who you are. – Bo Bennett

  79. Good is the enemy of great. – Jim Collins

  80. There is nothing impossible to him who will try. – Alexander the Great

 

Last Words Of Advice!

The above quotes from famous and successful people are meant to motivate and inspire you.

You should read them when you feel demotivated or lost.

Did we miss one of the best quotes of all time? Let us know which quote is your favorite in the comment section.

 

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18 Innovative Approaches To Improve Your Positive Thoughts, To Change Your Work Life And Your Leadership

Thoughts, positive or negative, influence our character, our behavior, our vision, how we deal with setbacks, how we build and maintain relationships, has direct impact on our body and health, emotions.

For instance, negative thoughts affect our daily lives more than we think and can send us down a spiral of despair, depression, insecurity, anxiety and self-sabotage.

Needless to say, most people want to improve themselves, to evolve, to get ahead in their work life but have a tendency to welcome negative thoughts or ignore how to shut them down.

Unfortunately, they end up hindering their accomplishments and career advancements.

That is why it is necessary to control the damage caused by our mind, to discipline our thoughts and emotions, to build up a robust positive attitude and to find peace of mind.

Wondering how to process and control negative thoughts, emotions and how to use a positive mindset to get ahead at work?

18 Innovative Approaches To Improve Your Positive Thoughts, To Change Your Work Life And Your Leadership

Thoughts automatically appear in our mind. They come from past experiences and from the fact that we believe what people have previously said about us. They can be brought up by a word, an image or a memory and employ torture words that decrease our self-esteem, worsens situations, such as “should”, “must” and “have to”.

Because they are spontaneous, we think that they are true. In the long run, thoughts sometimes become rigid beliefs, absolute truths.

Therefore, it becomes an imperative to gain control over them. Disciplining your mind, controlling your thoughts and generating emotions regardless of your environment, regardless the level of attack help you become more mature, make healthier decisions, become more creative, escape, heal bad memories.

Maintaining A Positive Mindset

Positive attitudes can become difficult to maintain in challenging situations in the workplace. But once acquired, it is a habit that can help you overcome bad situations.

Indeed, positivity ensures progress, diffuses situations, alleviates stress, reduces fear, increases endurance, increase self-esteem, attracts positive results and better opportunities. It requires inner work and is independent of external circumstances of the outcome.

There are many ways to bring positivity into the workplace and into your mind:

  1. Identify the source of your thoughts and check the memories that you store in your brain. Be selective about the information that come into your mind. Stay away from the news because they will negatively affect you. Have a joke of the day and send it to people who matter to you. Watch shows, listen to podcasts, audio books that will uplift you, inspire you and motivate you.
  2. Identify triggers, patterns in your thought process. How do they start? What my thoughts say about me? What are the consequences of my thoughts? What do you say regularly to yourself?
  3. Be aware of the content of your thoughts. Therefore, you will be able to interrupt them whenever they don’t help you, to delete the negative ones and replace them with forward-looking ones. Changing thought patterns is difficult because our brain generally resist change.
  4. Understand that you are not the prisoner of your thoughts. Be the one to change the atmosphere in the workplace. Don’t allow the environment to drain you or define who you are. Don’t let someone else control your behavior.
  5. Think about who you want to become and how you want to affect people. Write down 5 dreams that you have ever have, find 5 words to describe yourself and think about it several a day.
  6. Select and force your brain to redirect negative thoughts toward more pleasant alternatives. For example, think about the opposite of the negative thought, attach constructive emotions to an outcome, visualize a positive outcome for the situation or visualize the perfect life every day before you got to bed and everyday when you wake up.
  7. Focus on what is going right instead of what is going wrong. People give negative emotions more importance than the positive ones, which conditions our brain to bring up negative thoughts automatically and repetitively for a long period of time. You have the power to choose and train your brain to give positive emotions more attention.
  8. Accept the present moment and understand that it is inevitable. How to focus and stay in the present? Understand that panicking and worrying is useless, that the past is unchangeable and the future uncontrollable, that every experiences have made you who you are today.
  9. Give your thoughts a name and call them out whenever they send us down a negative spiral and challenge every single thought by speaking them out loud.
  10. It is easy to complain and whine, so be grateful that you have a job and show appreciation in your contribution.
  11. Learn to discern toxic coworkers. Don’t tolerate or focus on negative people.
  12. Get up early and work out before going to work to release the endorphins throughout the day.
  13. Create a positive work zone by insulating yourself with headphones for example. Also, avoid gossip at all cost, put up motivational objects around your desk. Take regular breaks from your cubicle to stop thinking, to meditate and go to the bathroom.
  14. Create a better work life balance to protect your home life. Leave the drama at work, be strict with your hours, avoid staying late and taking work at home.
  15. Behave positively as well. Meaning fake it until you make it.
  16. Separate yourself from the negativity and surround yourself with open-minded people with a positive mindset. Stick positive quotes on your wall of your cubicle or on your desk.
  17. Take a class after work or find a hobby so you have something to look forward to at the end of the day.
  18. Discreetly find a more comfortable and productive workplace.

Last Words Of Advice!

There is a need for Positive Leadership.

Positive leaders have a moral compass, are purpose driven, communicate effectively, exhibit integrity and provide emotional safety. Because they inject good energy into the team, they instill an atmosphere of trust and openness they rip enthusiasm, motivation, transparency from their team.

Positive leaders are able to impact their company culture, improve results, increase performance and enhance job satisfaction.

18 Innovative Approaches To Improve Your Positive Thoughts, To Change Your Work Life And Your Leadership

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12 Ways Leaders Live Life To The Fullest

Leaders are generally very busy and have a tendency to spread themselves pretty thin.

They dabble in multiple activities but don’t take the time to relax and to smell the flowers.

While achieving their goals, it seems that they forget to live life to the fullest and can hardly make the difference between Monday, Friday or Saturday.

Wondering how leaders live their life to the fullest?

Living life to the fullest means that you go after what you want without letting fear get in the way.

12 Ways Leaders Live Life To The Fullest #positivity #leadership

1. Leaders focus on themselves

Leaders work towards their goals everyday, focus on themselves and not on others.

Leaders who live their life to the fullest focus their time and energy on things that matter.

In Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less, Greg Mckeown urges us to discipline ourselves, to be selective of the activities that you partake in. 

2. Leaders give way to their imagination

Leaders don’t downsize their dreams.

Instead, they dream so big that it scares them.

They expect great things from themselves.

They are just convinced that they will succeed no matter what.

3. Leaders are self-assured

They don’t care what others think about them and don’t live by other people’s expectation.

In addition, they say yes to opportunities that they want, they don’t settle for less, for people or a job they don’t respect.

Furthermore, leaders don’t complain, make excuses, or procrastinate.

4. Leaders go after what they really want

Life is shorter than we think. Years go by in a blimp and leaders know that. 

I can hardly remember what happened last year and the year before that.

All I know is that I didn’t do what I really wanted to do.

To go after what they really want, leaders:

  • Maximize their potential
  • Choose their job and activities carefully (if they can).
  • Are selective of whom and what they give their energy to.

5. Leaders do something that they really enjoy everyday

If you like to read like I do, you can take time off at lunch or in the commute to read and to unwind.

Their life choices are not tied to monetary issues.

6. Leaders don’t take life too seriously

Leaders have huge responsibilities.

Paradoxically, they don’t take life too seriously.

Leaders learn to laugh at themselves and their circumstances.

They relax when they have to, and don’t succumb to negative emotions and behaviors.

For them, being positive is a state of mind but most importantly it’s a choice.

7. Leaders walk in their purpose

Leaders live life from the inside out: they know that how they think will demonstrate itself.

Therefore, Every little thing that they do had purpose.

They stick to their system of values and live in alignment with their purpose.

They have clear defined values and a personal mission statement that they live by.

8. Leaders are present

Leaders consider everyday to be a new day.

They don’t let life rule them, they stay present and don’t look back at the past failures.

9. Leaders are forgiving

They do not hold on to past hurts, memories and to people who degrade them.

10. Leaders are authentic

They are committed to grow.

They don’t want to live someone else’s life.

They don’t want to be surrounded by people they don’t like or respect.

11. Leaders are people persons

They enjoy alone time.

They surround themselves with people who push them to grow, to be better and to do better.

12. Leaders are curious

Leaders get out of their comfort zone.

They seek to know more and to upgrade their mindset.

Last Words Of Advice!

We all have an idea of the person we want to become in life.

Don’t wait to have everything 100% in place to behave like your ideal self.

Remember, it’s your life and you create your own life experiences.

 

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10 Ways Leaders Manifest Their Visions

Everyone has the ability to manifest their vision. 

With that knowledge, leaders just don’t dream about their goals.

Against all odds, they are able to attract what they want.

They support their dreams with actions, put forth the time and energy towards their goals. They watch what they say to themselves about themselves.

Wondering how leaders attract what they want and need out of life?

10 Ways Leaders Manifest Their Visions #vision #purpose #success #lawofattraction #leadership

We have all heard of the Law of Attraction.

It consists in bringing your deepest desires into reality by focusing your thoughts on them. To manifest your vision, you have to strongly believe that this is what you really want and this is your true purpose.

For example, you can manifest the perfect relationship or on the job you want by focusing positive thoughts and sending positive intentions its way.

1. Leaders are honest with themselves

Be honest with yourself because the truth will set you free.

Everything around is only a reflection of who you truly are. So be who you want go attract.

If you are not aware of your strengths and weaknesses, you will not achieve your goals.

If you are not an improved person you cannot expect the best of the best. You will only get the best for your level.

2. Leaders are grateful for what they have

They are always grateful for what they have no matter how small their possession.

They let go of control and are open to receive what is coming to them. 

You can cultivate the habit of making a gratitude list. A simple list can be:

I am grateful for the clothes on my back.

I am grateful to be alive.

I am grateful for my serenity.

I am grateful for my health.

I am grateful for my team and business.

After writing your list, read it everyday and change your mindset instantly.

3. Leaders value their imagination

Leaders are naturally dreamers.

They allow themselves to dream big.

They use their imagination for their benefit.

Indeed, your imagination is the best tool that you have at your disposal that nobody can take away from you.

Leaders use their imaginations all the time to escape, to motivate their team and to build products, companies. 

Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand. - Albert Einstein Click To Tweet

4. Leaders live as if their dreams have come through

Because the universe conspires with you on what you want to attract, they act up as if they have already achieved their required level if success.

They fake it until they make it. For example, they will dress for the position they want to have.

5. Leaders focus on their goals

Leaders place their focus on the essentials.

Furthermore, they focus on themselves and don’t compete with others.

They understand that whatever they put their attention on is what is going to grow.

They have a vision or dream board that help them see things more clearly.

They tend to place them in the area that you can always see and visualize yourself in that situation.

6. Leaders believe in intuition

They trust their intuition.

They listen to their feelings and do whatever resonates with them.

If they have negative vibes about a situation, they immediately take a step back and analyze the situation.

7. Leaders monitor their thoughts

They meditate and actively monitor their thoughts.

When a thought comes through that bring up negative emotions, they are instantly aware. Then they fight their negative voice in their head or sleep to give their mind a rest or exercise to get rid of cortisol. 

In addition, leaders constantly elevate their own mood. To make themselves feel better, they use positive words of affirmation.

To elevate your mood, you can read books that comfort you and make you feel better about yourself.

You can carefully choose your activities, music and TV shows, screen what you put in your mind because it programs you. 

8. Leaders live a life of abundance

They are conscious of their personal power and are at peace with themselves.

Furthermore, they walk with integrity, don’t harm anyone and mind their actions. They believe that what they put out is what they will come back to them. 

They are conceived that they will succeed. They are cognizant that something great is on its way.

They don’t set your thoughts on want is missing or on want others want from them.

They are not easily offended or don’t think that they are victims of their circumstances.

9. Leaders know that words have power

They are conscious of the power of their words and choose their words carefully.

Indeed, if you say, “I’m so tired” you will eventually be exhausted for the whole day. If you say, “I’m stressed out” you will definitively be overwhelmed by stress.

To manifest what you really want, start saying and doing how you want to feel and what you want to do.

10. Leaders are altruistic

They care for people other than themselves.

The process of caring for others take them out of their negative space and environment.

For instance, they help their team and people in their communities. 

Last Words Of Advice!

When things are not going your way or you are not achieving your goals, know that you can always turn things around, improve your mindset, achieve your purpose and find your peace.

Fight negativity. Show yourself some love.

 

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15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

We all have been exposed during a period of time to annoying, hateful, toxic coworkers that can drive us crazy.

Sometimes, bringing us to ask ourselves whether they’re the problem or we are.

Wondering how to spot these toxic coworkers from afar and how to handle them?

Every workplace has difficult employees and we all have been, to some extent, in different situations with hateful coworkers. I do believe that we all, partially or fully, demonstrate some level of toxicity towards a third party in the workplace.

Below, are the 15 worst toxic coworkers that I have already met and have had to deal with.

Case Study #1: ​The Delicate

Key Symptoms

The Delicate is a sensitive person with vain imagination that constantly and easily feels under attack, and that takes things deeply and personally. The Delicate thinks that people are looking, gossiping and criticizing him or her!

Treatment

  • Keep the conversation on superficial topics and crack jokes about him or her.
  • Avoid using sarcasm, making dry remarks, directly confronting this person. Instead, try to sugarcoat things and to give indirect constructive criticism.

Case Study #2: The Slacker

Key Symptoms

The Slacker is mostly concerned about personal life and regulating it during working hours.

The Slacker does not take his or her work seriously, spends his or her working life over the internet, cannot make a deadline to save his or her life, is not punctual even absent, unapologetically displays a lack of motivation.

The Slacker is visibly unfulfilled in his or her current position but won’t do anything about it.

Treatment

  • Impose a deadline or better yet let him or her publicly impose a deadline.
  • Pick up the slack with the rest of the team and keep quiet.
  • This individual will sink himself or herself. Otherwise, this individual will eventually have to get up and swim, explain their behavior, their performance and their results to upper management.

Case Study #3: The Rocket Scientist

Key Symptoms

The Rocket Scientist is the individual on the team that is full of knowledge but who is in search for recognition for his superior intellect and who demands an immense respect for his expertise.

The Rocket Scientist will feel insulted and will almost become passive aggressive if his or her ideas and point of view are being questioned.

Treatment

  • Avoid comparing his expertise to anyone on the team.
  • Avoid diminishing his knowledge and ideas in front of the team or behind closed doors.
  • Avoid criticizing his work and intellect.
  • Instead, tap into his range of knowledge by placing him or her in the role of a counselor but not a decision maker.

Case Study #4: The Gossiper

Key Symptoms

The Gossiper is an individual that enjoys gossip, that emphasizes and embellishes a rumor.

The Gossiper is nosy and loves to keep the rumor mill spinning. This person is even capable of destroying someone’s reputation in the office.

Treatment

  • Listen to the rumor without adding any input. The information may not be malicious but indicative of office politics or of a situation that you can take advantage of.
  • However, learn to separate useful information from the gossip.
  • If this person only brings negative void information, crafted gossip, signal your disinterest by not responding or responding with monosyllables or challenging the facts in the story line, discreetly remove yourself from the circle, avoid participating in the rumor mill.
  • Be careful not to offense this person, for they would drag your name in the mud. If this person is actually gossiping about you, avoid any interaction and adding fuel to fire by striking back with gossip before damaging your reputation.
  • Confront this person in a non threatening and diplomatic way, in a private setting by stating that you are aware of the gossip and everyone is saying that she is a liar and the bearer of the negative information but you know that is not true.

Case Study #5: The Bulldozer

Key Symptoms

The Bulldozer is an individual that believes wrongly in his intelligence. The Bulldozer doesn’t hesitate to make everybody’s life miserable if things don’t go his way.

The Bulldozer threatens, bullies, intimidates, steps on toes and remains on the verge of harassment in order to get things his way. “It’s my way or the high way!”.

The Bulldozer imposes his way of doing things even if it is not the best way of doing them.

They make the worst managers ever but are the most common managers found in corporate.

Treatment

  • Cultivate your emotional intelligence in order not to respond to negativity with negativity.
  • listen to this person point of view from beginning to end without uttering a word, then summarize their position and calmly expose yours.

Case Study #6: The Work-To-Rule

Key Symptoms

The Work-To-Rule discards any part of responsibility in a situation, does not understand tram work and does exactly what is stated in their contracts and no more.

In fact, the Work-To-Rule insists on not taking on more responsibilities than his or her job description.

Treatment

  • Stress the importance of team work and the value of this individual contribution at work.

Case Study #7: The Overly Friendly

Key Symptoms

The Overly Friendly is an individual that thinks that his coworkers are his extended family and that doesn’t mind sharing extra personal details of his or her life. These details will make you uncomfortable.

Treatment

Explain that you don’t want to hear the gruesome details of his or her life.

If his or her behavior are too intimate, it can be considered as harassment and can be reported to human resources.

Case Study #8: The Naysayer

Key Symptoms

The Naysayer is an individual that irritatingly pinpoints everything negative in a situation and predicts problems before they happen, without proposing an alternative and constructive solution to the situation at hand.

Treatment

Position that person in roles that require to see problems before they occur.

No need to argue and show the positive side of an idea.

To inhibit this behavior, request an explanation why the situation would not work and a thought-through plan for the solution

Case Study #9: The Blameshifter

Key Symptoms

The Blameshifter is an individual that points the finger at everyone else but themselves and that comes up with very creative excuses to completely remove the blame from themselves.

It is a form of narcissism: the Blameshifter is afraid of confronting themselves.

Treatment

  • Come prepared with evidence.
  • If the blame is pointed at you and you know that it is not your fault, give proof of your innocence without accusing this individual.
  • If this individual comes to you with an object of complaint on someone else, in order to avoid being put in the middle, claim that this is none of your business and suggest that they have a conversation with the alleged culprit.

15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

Case Study #10: The Neophobe

Key Symptoms

The Neophobe is an individual that doesn’t deal well with change. The Neophobe is capable of refusing it, sabotaging it or even halting it.

Treatment

  • Demonstrate to him or her that change isn’t traumatic and can be positive.
  • Provide proof and facts that the change eminent is positive.
  • Help that person embrace change.

Case Study #11: The Chatterbox

Key Symptoms

The Chatterbox is an individual that drops by your workspace and starts chatting without solicitation about anything and everything.

This individual does not necessarily partake in gossip, but volunteers to share their point of view.

This individual tends to makes you unproductive and inefficient.

Treatment

  • Avoid using words of exclamation or affirmation to not encourage this person to keep on talking.
  • Avoid making eye contact when this person is passing through.
  • Politely and respectfully explain that you are on schedule.

Case Study #12: The Martyr

Key Symptoms

The Martyr is a dedicated employee, willing to “die” for their company without being asked to do so, and that searches for recognition and validation.

For example, the Martyr does extra hours at work and manipulate the boss when someone else get a promotion.

Treatment

  • Show appreciation for this employee and value their work within the company.

Case Study #13: The Stealer

Key Symptoms

The Stealer constantly steals coworkers ideas, takes credit for them and denies it when confronted.

Treatment

  • Hold back on your ideas and opinions when having a conversation with this individual. Listen more than you speak.
  • Avoid confronting this fool but bite your tongue instead because he or she might not know how to implement your ideas.
  • Don’t report it to upper management before appearing to be salty.

Case Study #14: The Snake

Key Symptoms

The Snake is an overly ambitious — almost sociopathic — coworker that smiles to your face and that stabs you and everyone else in the back. The Snake will claim that your ideas are wonderful but will degrade them when you are not looking.

Treatment

  • Keep your personal information, brilliant ideas to yourself.
  • Listen more than you speak.
  • Stay socially engaged and involved in office politics.

Case Study #15: The Ultra Competitive

Key Symptoms

The Ultra Competitive is an individual that is prepared to step over your dead body to succeed or to get recognition in the workplace.

Treatment

  • Focus on your work or get involve in a project where the Ultra Competitive person is not involved in.
  • Stay socially engaged with your other coworkers and keep networking.
  • Consider the company culture, compare them to your values and figure out whether or not you fit in.

How do I deal with other difficult personalities?

Last Words Of Advice!

Toxic coworkersMost coworkers use extreme tactics to get advancements in the workplace and would do anything to trigger you, to demean you or sabotage your own progress.

Some take job positions where they do not belong and that they cannot handle.

Others are misusing their strengths and transforming them into flaws that are not accepted in the environment they choose to work in. Others are even responding to an already toxic workplace.

Lastly some coworkers are oblivious to their visible flaws and practice them outside of work.

In order to deal with other toxic coworkers:

  • cultivate emotional intelligence,
  • listen more than you speak,
  • look for the positive or the humour in negative circumstances.

No matter the reasons, you have to learn how to insulate yourself emotionally and spot a hateful coworker from a distance.

 

 

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How To Successfully Identify & Deal With Your Emotional Triggers : 8 Proven Strategies That Leaders Use

Triggers? Everybody has them whether we want to admit or not, whether we know they exist or not.

Triggers are natural and there for self preservation purposes.

However, they show up anywhere at an inopportune time.

They make us react in appropriate ways, get us out of character and acting like a child again.

It is therefore detrimental for leaders to identify and control their triggers so that they cannot be controlled by them or someone.

Wondering how leaders identify and control their triggers?

How To Identify & Deal With Your Emotional Triggers (1)

What are TRIGGERS?

A trigger can be a person, a place, an object or an event.

Trauma is a major cause of triggers. Triggers are made of:

  • Situations that threaten your well being.
  • Conflicts in core values. Differences in ideas, beliefs and point of views.
  • Powerlessness from physical or emotional abuse.

For example, we can be triggered when:

  • We want to make a logical & rational point in serious conversation.
  • We are in a safe place and having fun with friends and family.
  • We are alone in a peaceful room.
  • We think about the past or the future.

Triggers just like intuition are nor good or bad: they have the ability to transform us into children again but they also warn us that something around us is wrong.

Furthermore, triggers allow us to become more self-aware and to discover the true meaning behind your actions. 

In addition, triggers can be stimulated internally or externally. They generally manifest themselves into:

  • Eating disorders,
  • Tears, fear or sadness,
  • Anger, rage or other emotional outburst,
  • Cold sweat and heart palpitations,
  • Inability to speak (out).

How to identify your TRIGGERS?

The problem with triggers is that they don’t allow us to achieve our purpose and get what we want out of life.

Triggers set you off path. They make you wonder “What the hell was I thinking?”, “I can’t believe I just did that!!!”.

For leaders triggers can cost you your character, your credibility, your team and your money.

That is why leaders have to become aware of themselves and the systems of beliefs that are driving their behavior.

There are a few strategies leaders can adopt to identify their triggers. While you are being triggered …

 

1. … Pause

When you are feeling heightened emotions, pause and analyze the situation.

Where am I? What am I doing? What was said? What is the meaning of this?

3. … Be still

Learn to be still in situation of turmoil.

Feel your emotions but don’t get stuck in them.

You don’t need to react but you need to learn to respond.

2. … Gain perspective

Acknowledge whether that trigger is positive or negative.

Does it help you to make positive or negative choices? Is it serving you

If it is not, it is time to let of go or turn it around to achieve a better life.

How to control your TRIGGERS?

Triggers of managed appropriately can intuitively guide us and warn us when something is wrong or too toxic for us.

Undisciplined triggers ruin great relationships, can hurt you physically and mysteriously hijack your life.

1. Traumas are real

Everything that you see in someone is only a mere reflection of yourself.

For instance, you don’t like being ignored at work because your parents ignored you growing up.

So now, you have to examine yourself first.

Then, take responsibility for your life, traumas and for your emotions.

2. Don’t take things personally

Understand that everyone has their own insecurities.

If they trigger you even purposefully, don’t take it personally.

You cannot control people nor are you responsible for their mental and emotional health.

3. Learn to change 

Not because you have been acting the same way for the last 20 years that you cannot change.

Change is possible. Change is good.

Don’t do the same thing every time you are being triggered or being triggered all the time is the right choice.

4. Be more present

Be more present to help you exercise continuous self-awareness.

This will help you monitor your thoughts and behaviors in challenging or regular situations.

By being present you stop experiencing your last threat.

5. Be more compassionate 

Be compassionate with yourself.

Appreciate your peace and don’t allow anyone to control you.

You are only human and cannot be in control of your entire self 24/7.

However, forgive yourself and always do your best.

6. Remember to exercise

Exercising keeps your mind clean and puts in control of your own body.

This way, when you are triggered, you can feel the symptoms acting out throughout your body.

You will then have enough control to acknowledge and minimize these symptoms.

7. Write down your emotions and your triggers

Make a list of the things that trigger you. This way, you will know which personality type or environment to avoid.

Write down your triggers and the reasons and histories around them. Then change the story and take back control. Why do they exist? Where do they come from?

8. Learn from your experiences

When you are triggered, remember that you are not defined by your last experience and that controlling your trigger is a learning process.

Acknowledge that the opinion of others don’t matter.

Allow your experiences to make you a better and optimized version of yourself.

You will do better next time FOR SURE!

Last Words Of Advice!

You attract what you think.

Therefore, take care of your mind so that you can live an optimized and meaningful life.

 

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