Jen Sincero wrote You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life at a time when she needed help, wanted to change and to find a deeper purpose.
In her book, Jen Sincero shares a few concepts that will help you become a bad*ss. Which means, you will be able to:
- Believe in your vision and manifest it.
- Overcome your fears.
- Be comfortable with your failures and not feel guilty about your current situation. You will come to the realization that you can do more with your life, that you are capable to do better, that you don’t have to wait for failure or for the perfect situation to get started.
- Takes risks, live large and understand that you have nothing to lose.
- Love and forgive yourself.
The Mind Games You Play With Yourself
Parents, from the day you were born, pass down their beliefs to their children.
The truth is our subconscious mind, filled with beliefs from our childhood, rules our lives.
Unfortunately, those beliefs are limiting and false. However, we don’t know better when we are younger.
Besides, our conscious mind actively jump from one random thought to another, is not in full control of our lives. In fact, our subconscious mind and our conscious mind are constantly in conflict but the subconscious mind always win. To solve that conflict:
- Become more aware of your subconscious beliefs.
- Identify what is blocking you from the life you want to live.
- Invite new positive beliefs into your life.
The Bad*Ass Concept For Purpose & Goal-Setting
Jen Sincero encourages us to believe that there are greater things out there, to get a deeper understanding of your spirituality, to set your goals, to activate the law of attraction and manifest what you want in life.
- Believe what you want and it will come through.
- Ask for what you want, act as if you have already received what you have asked for.
- Keep your thoughts on your goals.
- Manage your time appropriately. Get organized and stay organized.
- Create a vision board.
- Surround yourself with people who will help you become the person you aspire to be and who share your mentality.
How To Become A Bad*ss?
One moment we think we’re feeling fantastic, other times we are feeling real insecure. One must come to conclusion, see themselves the way they want to be, and look at themselves through the eyes of someone you admire.
Discovering your “bad*ssery” is all about finding out who you really are and living our best life. We must get in touch with our inner self, the person we were when we were born and love that person. To become a bad*ass:
- Identify and appreciate your gifts and talents. Everyone is unique and has unique gifts.
- Share your talents and gifts with the world.
- Rewire your brain with positive affirmations and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. At some point, you must choose to let go of wrong beliefs and of decisions that hold you back. To identify your fears and negative thoughts, when you are working, observe the type of thoughts when you suddenly stop, when you get discouraged.
- Do activities that you enjoy.
- Try new activities and get out your comfort zone.
- Avoid self-deprecating humor and practice self-love.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. Watching someone go after their dream, after what they truly want can make others uncomfortable and trigger insecurities.
- Forgive yourself for past and future mistakes. You must forgive yourself before you end up hurting yourself.
- Stay in the present. Take example on animals and babies that are not concerned about the past or the future.
- Don’t worry about what people think of you.
- Be responsible for what you say or do.
- Give more than you take.
- Learn to be grateful for what you have and what has not yet manifested itself because gratitude trumps fear.
- Trust your gut. Do what feels right and what interest you in the moment instead of thinking.
- Always do your best. Your best doesn’t have to perfect.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero is an entertaining, motivational and thoughtful book that encourages you to live your best life and provides a guide map to do so.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life is written for people who are looking to do better, be better and focus on the essentials. It is written for people who refuse to self-loathe, want to change and who want to manifest their purpose.
Furthermore, Jen Sincero makes some great points, is blunt in her delivery yet has an efficient message. She shares relatable topics such as love, purpose, relationship with money, career advancement and what you are willing to do to get ahead.
Matter of fact, her message is all common sense. However, most people are unaware of these principles, forget about them, and forget that what they need is already inside of them.
Jen Sincero keeps it real and positive throughout her book. She places great quotes at the beginning of every chapter and ends every chapter with a call to action to love yourself.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life resembles the principles of The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz in every way.
What this book has to do with being a leader, you ask?
This book is detrimental to leadership and clarifying your principles and core values. Leadership is all about discovering your purpose, the power of your conviction, controlling your subconscious mind, appreciating your strengths and weaknesses.
Let us know what you think about this book!
If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.
We would be wise to take more of our cues from the beasts and babies.
It’s not that the things and opportunities that we want in life don’t exist yet.
It’s that we’re not yet aware of their existence (or the fact that we can really have them).
You are a badass. You were one when you came screaming onto this planet and you are one now. The Universe wouldn’t have bothered with you otherwise. You can’t screw up so majorly that your badassery disappears. It is who you are. It’s who you always will be. It’s not up for negotiation.
We’re born knowing how to trust our instincts, how to breathe deeply, how to eat only when we’re hungry, how to not care about what anyone thinks of our singing voices, dance moves, or hairdos, we know how to play, create, and love without holding back. Then, as we grow and learn from the people around us, we replace many of these primal understandings with negative false beliefs, fear, shame, and self-doubt.
What you choose to focus on becomes your reality.
Jen Sincero is a success coach and speaker. Jen Sincero is also the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life.
Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself by Henri Junttila is a self-help book that encourages people to find their passion and get the life they want.
Finding your passion is about exploration, living the life of your dreams, getting out of your comfort zone, overcoming obstacles and bringing out your inner joy.
To identify and live your passion, Henri Junttila poses 25 questions that will help you assess yourself, overcome roadblocks and successfully create your life goals.
First, you must get to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, your interests.
Your definition of passion
According to Henri Junttila, you must first discover what the word passion means to you and what it means to people around you. You must also be able to envision yourself living a passionate life and find out how it feels to be passionate.
Keep in mind that your passion is personal, internal and intrinsic to your being. It is not what society, friends and family tell you it should be.
Talents, strengths and weaknesses
Everyone has a gift and it is your duty to find out what you are gifted at because most of the time, your passions lie within your gifts.
Besides, tapping into your strengths will make you a happier person. Not doing so will definitely make you feel miserable, out of focus, burnt out.
It is therefore detrimental to:
- Explore every single one of your interests and natural inclinations. For example, what do you find yourself naturally talking about? People can have several passions. They should explore all of them and see which ones resonates the most.
- Remind yourself of your dreams, strengths and passions as a child.
- Analyze the reasons why you are interested in certain activities.
- Evaluate the advice that is requested from you and the advice that you give.
- Take strengths and weaknesses assessment tests.
- Analyze your situation, how people feel about you.
- Do things that are out of your comfort zone.
- Value your natural gifts.
- Find out how you can apply your strengths in different areas of your life.
- Don’t take advice from people but instead follow your gut.
- Strengthen the connection to your inner voice. Your intuition has your best interest and can never lead you astray.
- Determine what angers and disturbs you so you can avoid settling for mediocrity.
Making A Life Plan
Goals ate milestones. They are there to measure your progress and your passion.
- Figure out your life goals in five or ten years.
- Identify the pros and the cons of success. Check if they are worthwhile and if you can tolerate them. Usually the benefits outweigh the drawbacks.
- Work like you will succeed and dream like you cannot fail.
- Visualize your goals, yourself living a successful life and take the steps needed to achieve that.
- Detail your plan and the life you want.
- Improve your problem solving sills.
- Don’t make assumptions.
Finding Your Passion and Self-sabotaging
We are sometimes our worst enemy. Our assumptions about people or about ourselves are hard to shift or to disable. And sometimes, they can hold us back.
To get rid of the debilitating assumptions that you make about yourself:
- Find out what you hate, what would hinder you as a human being, what you wouldn’t do, what would go against your core values.
- Trust your gut.
- Don’t impose limits to your imagination.
- Change your perspective on your problems.
- Review your systems of belief and integrate the ideas needed to succeed.
- Don’t listen to naysayers. This is hard because naysayers are mostly family and close friends who are afraid of facing their own realities and who are afraid that you will outgrow them.
- Dream big but don’t settle.
- Don’t give up on yourself and your dreams.
- Don’t allow yourself to get overwhelmed.
Overcoming Factors Out Of Your Control
In life, there a numerous obstacles to success and to happiness: money, death and other factors.
Indeed, money or lack thereof is limiting. People need money to go after their passion, to recover from failure, to have the opportunity to explore, to remove fear.
However, finding your passion is all about being resilient and understanding that not everything is going to go your way. You must also:
- Understand that to every problem there are multiple solutions.
- Understand that nothing will never be perfect and that there is no right time to start.
- Don’t be afraid of failure or of success. Work like you cannot fail.
- Follow your passion whether you have money or not.
- Even when facing obstacles or feeling stuck, take baby steps no matter what.
- Think about your own death and the legacy you want to leave. Thinking about your own death will help you prioritize and focus on the essentials.
Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself by Henri Junttila is a relatable, quick and easy to read book that helps you to get to know and love yourself just the way you are.
It is primarily written for people who feel lost in the world, who are fearful, who go through life without passion or without a clear purpose. The silver lining is that it’s never too late to find and follow your passions.
In Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself, Henri Junttila was able to share all this useful information in such a concise book. He also provides us with additional insightful questions and a complete workbook, which makes the book completely unreadable without a paper and a pen.
It is imperative that you keep this book close by, that you take your time to answer these questions and that you don’t censor yourself. Your answers may not come to you at first but you can always revisit the book.
Be authentic with the world and with yourself and you will never fail.
When I see people limit themselves, I get angry. I see the potential in people, but they don’t do anything about it. They settle for mediocrity, and they believe they can’t do better.
Living a passionate life doesn’t happen overnight. It’s hard work, and it’s not as glamorous as people make it out to be. However, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go after it. It simply means that it takes more work than you’d expect.
Henri Junttila is the founder of Wake Up Cloud which helps people find and follow their passion. Henri Junttila is also the author of Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself.