Resetting is waking up with a clear mindset, freed from the clutter of yesterday…
Resetting is also an opportunity to shift perspective, to see things with new eyes, to take things with a grain of salt, to get a fresh start, to pivot into something you’ve always wanted to do or be.
1. Be willing to be a beginner every single morning. – Meister Eckhart
2. Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. – Carl Bard
3. Every sunset is an opportunity to reset. Every sunrise begins with new eyes. – Richie Norton
4. We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come. – Joseph Campbell
5. I hope you realize that every day is a fresh start for you. That every sunrise is a new chapter in your life waiting to be written. – Juansen Dizon
6. Life is a progress, and not a station. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
7. I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become. – Carl Gustav Jung
8. A year from now you may wish you had started today. – Karen Lamb
Last Words Of Advice
Resetting does not necessarily mean starting over.
It means what was once a problem no longer is to you, whether the problem is existant or non existant.
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Congratulations, you’ve made it through another year!
To start this new year empowered, we have put together a few affirmations for you to improve your leadership journey.
Wondering how leaders welcome the New Year?
1. I love my life, who I was, who I am and who I’m about to become.
2. I believe in myself.
3. I have the ability to succeed.
4. I am worthy of success.
5. I am resilient and self-sufficient.
6. I have a positive mindset and attitude.
7. I release negative self talk and beliefs.
8. I am enough and I accept myself.
9. I respect myself.
10. I am focused on my goals and my personal success.
11. I do my best every day.
12. I am open to learn.
13. I live in the present and look forward to my future.
14. My past will not dictate my future.
15. I can do anything I set my mind to.
16. I am willing to step out of my comfort zone.
17. I see obstacles as challenges and failures as an opportunity to grow.
18. I have the energy to achieve my goals.
19. I possess the knowledge to achieve my goal.
20. I have the confidence to achieve my goals and to stand by my personal choices.
21. I make good use of my time.
22. I am in full control of my life.
23. I don’t have to justify myself to anyone.
24. I am honest with myself.
25. I trust myself and my abilities.
26. I do not need validation from others.
27. I am willing to face my fears.
28. I am grateful for my life and my achievements.
29. New ideas come to me regularly.
30. Abundance flows freely through me.
31. I make sound decisions.
32. I am at peace in my life.
33. My life is abundant and full of joy.
34. Possibilities are endless and I am limitless.
35. I am unafraid of taking risks.
36. I am able to achieve a work-life balance.
37. I am in control of my thoughts and emotions.
38. I am surrounded by people who encourage me to be my best and true self.
39. I am able to foster true connections with others.
40. I live up to my full potential.
41. I express my true and best self.
42. Everything is going according to plan.
43. I create the life of my dreams.
44. I attract the right people and opportunities.
45. Prosperity and wealth flow to and through me.
46. All my problems have a solution.
47. I am living my best life.
48. There is nothing I am not able to overcome.
49. Each and everyday is an opportunity for improvement.
50. I already possess everything I need for success.
Last Words Of Advice!
Affirmations seems simply but are highly effective.
You just have to pick at least one affirmation to repeat each day in front of the mirror or before you take a step outside.
Everyday, thanks to affirmations, you have the ability to become a better version of yourself.
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People are therefore prone to negative thinking. However, negativity destroys performance and brings down your energy.
In order to find a positive focus and gain mental control:
Be aware of your negativity. To become self-ware, practice silence, define your passion, principles and purpose.
Prohibit the negative self-talk.
Focus on positive self-talk or affirmations. Add positive imagery and feelings to those affirmations.
Find a mantra or an affirmation that will run in the background of your mind.
How to gain mental toughness?
Mental toughness is sustaining positive focus on one task, on the one thing that keeps you going. Mental toughness helps you concentrate on your tasks for long periods of time without any distractions.
To develop mental toughness:
Practice concentration on a daily basis.
Understand that your overall success depends on every single choice that you make.
Acknowledge that the small choices lead you towards excellence and shape your life the most.
Educate yourself on how stress works, how you react to it and learn to eliminate it from your life.
Develop the disciplines of a Warrior
According to Mark Divine, Warriors are those who have achieved mental control and mental toughness.
They have learnt to discipline their mind so they can focus on the things that matter most, maintain positive focus when they need it most, avoid being distracted by negative emotions and negative beliefs.
Since the Warrior is committed to mastering himself or herself, he or she has mastered the following disciplines:
Simplicity. They have learnt to detach themselves from material things that they don’t need.
Dedication. They apply themselves daily but don’t take themselves too seriously.
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine is a great guide for being and maintaining positivity no matter what.
Mark Divine gives sound and practical advice, using his 20 years of experience as a Navy Seal.
Mark Divine applies what he learnt with the NAVY to his regular life and work. He teaches you how to:
Discipline yourself and manage your emotions.
Reject mediocrity.
Build up your resilience.
get the life and career you want.
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level is useful for leaders, corporate teams and all those who want to condition their mind, body and soul.
I definitively loved the military aspect, principles and parallels in the book. However, because of his experience, some of his analogies are extreme and unrelatable.
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Consistency is the omnipotent force behind change.
We are rarely, if ever, encouraged to spend time in silence or get to know the depth of our character.
Negativity destroys performance in the short term and precludes success and happiness in the long term.
Lack of meaning and purpose is a major cause of despair and despondency in the world.
Although, most women remain underpaid and make 50% to 80% of what men make, more and more women are earning high salaries.
Women who underearn operate below their potential, have negative beliefs about money, work more for less pay without making the “conscious choice to live with less”.
The reality is that underearning affects your self-confidence, breaks down your lifestyle and limit your opportunities.
To start earning more and to make the right decisions, women need to change the way they think about themselves and their relationship with money.
SECRET 1 “Financial Success Is Possible in Almost Any Field, and Lack of Education Doesn’t Have to Hold You Back.”
Six-Figure women get credentials and go for the highest level of education they can possibly get.
However, they don’t let credentials stop them from achieving success.
SECRET 2 “Working Hard Doesn’t Mean Working All the Time.”
Six-Figure women take pleasure in their work and they work smart.
At the very least, they find jobs that are stimulating and fulfilling.
SECRET 3 “Focus on Fulfilling Your Values Rather Than Financial Gain.”
Women feel that they have to overwork themselves, stay longer hours than their male counterparts in order to attain their ambitions or to compete with men.
However, that lifestyle is not sustainable. High earning women look for signs of fatigue, burnout, a way to get more done in less time, to up their focus and for a way to balance their personal and professional life.
SECRET 4 “Loving What You Do Is Much More Important Than What You Do.”
The put their visions and values before financial gain.
Moreover, they want to live on their own terms.
Focusing on making money only creates an internal void that could never be filled.
SECRET 5 “Feel the Fear. Have the Doubts. Go for It Anyway.”
They are confident and believe in themselves.
They believe that they can do anything they set their minds to.
Of course, they struggle with self-doubt and fears but they somehow manage to overcome those fears or to fake it until they make it.
SECRET 6 “Think in Terms of Trade-offs, Not Sacrifices, to Find a Workable Equilibrium.”
Six-Figure women deal gracefully with social injustices.
They have figure out ways to deal with biases, injustices, racism and sexism with their sense of humor.
SECRET 7 “Sometimes You Just Have to Shrug It Off and Have a Good Laugh.”
They are grateful for what they have and how far they have come.
SECRET 8 “Appreciate Abundance.”
Six-Figure women are not victim of their circumstances.
They refuse to be beaten down or depressed for extended periods of time. Instead, they remain positive and optimistic against all odds.
Review
Secrets Of Six Figure Women: Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life by Barbara Stanny identifies the secrets of six-figure women, understand the traits and the principles that these women live by, so that we can apply these principles to our personal lives.
Secrets Of Six Figure Women: Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life helps you grow internally, expand your mindset, remove self-limiting beliefs, become self-aware, become financially aware and boost your income.
Furthermore, Barbara Stanny aims to shift the mindset from overcoming obstacles to finding in opportunities to increasing your earnings.
She shifts the focus from wage gap to wage gain, from lack to abundance.
Barbara Stanny, a new aged woman with a lot of questions when it comes to the process of women earning six figures, interviews and introduces us to the mindset of high powered and high earning women from all professional background.
I enjoyed the fact that she gave easy and achievable steps into earning more.
I also appreciated that Barbara Stanny tackled the fact that almost every woman and monorities experience the same hardships in the workplace.
Unfortunately, in 2020, not much has changed in corporate. Racism and sexism are still present in most organizations.
Do you have the same experience at home or in the workplace? Has earning a high income created any backlash at home or in The workplace?
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Was holding a high-paying job even worth what I imagined it would entail? Did six-figure women have to work absurdly long hours, forfeit their femininity, forgo their happiness, give up all semblance of a personal life? Did their marriages hold up? Did their children suffer? Did they bear lasting scars from breaking glass ceilings or battling gender bias? Was it possible for anyone to become a high earner? Could I?
What if we shifted the spotlight from women’s plight to women’s progress? What if we turned our attention from what’s wrong with the system and instead analyzed what’s working for those who are succeeding? We’re not ignoring the problem; we’re merely shifting our perspective.
Lawyer Tracy Preston told me the same thing. “If I internalized every time someone said something racist or sexist I wouldn’t be able to function. There’s always some incident that’ll be jarring, but I recognize it’s people’s ignorance. How do I deal with it? As they say, being black in America isn’t easy, so you have to have a sense of humor. Otherwise you’d go crazy.”
Like it or not, money affects virtually every area of your life. Lack of it leads to dependency and hardship. It can limit your access to health care and lifestyle choices. It can keep you in an unhappy marriage and an unsatisfying job. It perpetuates the cycle of poverty and debt, of discontent and chronic stress.
Our state of mind, however, often resembles a rearview mirror. We head toward the future seeing only the images from our past, and then wonder why nothing ever changes. I once heard insanity defined as doing the same thing over and over and expecting it to be different. Given that definition, I can safely say underearning is a form of financial insanity.
The real work in raising the bar is to stop doing the same old thing you’ve always done, to try out new strategies, to ignore false alarms, to resist the urge to quit, and to refuse to fall back into familiar terrain. The ability to tolerate discomfort—doing what might not feel good, but doing it anyway—is the only way you’ll ever complete the path to financial success. It helps to keep in mind that the discomfort is temporary, but the payoff is extraordinary.
You must let go of where you are to get to where you want to go.
men got high marks from their bosses when they were forceful and assertive, but women were downgraded for displaying the same qualities. To be quite candid, the double standard is alive and kicking—assertive men are respected, assertive women are resented.
No matter your decisions in life, obstacles will always present themselves. You will have to be able to build up your resilience and your ability to solve challenges.
For that reason, mental toughness is required in all areas of life.
Mental toughness is the inner drive to push through and pursue your goals.
Furthermore, it is an integral part of your character and prevents you from being a quitter. It gets you places that your personal skills, strengths and talents cannot.
Mental Toughness Leads to Success
Mental toughness is a “muscle that needs occasional flexing”.
Mental toughness constantly requires nurturing your self-esteem and improving your attitude.
In addition, it involves letting go of fears, taking on challenges, staying focused and failing up.
Mental toughness keeps you motivated, overcomes self-doubt, helps you face your fears, regulate your emotions, listen to your inner voice, accept, learn and bounce back from your mistakes.
The Habits Of Mentally Tough Leaders
Leaders have to handle difficult situations on a daily basis in the workplace and still have to make space for their personal lives.
Furthermore, they have to build a vision from the ground up, communicate and maintain their vision. At the end of the day, to be successful and efficient, leaders need to be mentally tough.
Generally, mentally tough leaders have been through challenging situations and came out stronger.
2. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Able to Manage Their Emotions
They are able to control their emotions. Furthermore, they are selective of the people around them. They share their emotions only with the people they can trust.
3. Mentally Tough Leaders Face their Fears and Take Action
They overcome their fears and risk failure to achieve success.
4. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Selective Of Whom They Associate With
They patiently select their support system. Their support system is positive, will celebrate their success, and share their vision and mindset.
5. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Self-Disciplined
They maintain a routine, a healthy diet and exercise regularly to secure their health and wellness.
6. Mentally Tough Leaders Know how and when to say No
They don’t people please and say no without feeling guilt or regret.
7. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Independent
They do not compare their progress with that of others. They are their own competition. They mind their own business, don’t care about people’s opinion of them and are accountable for their decisions.
8. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Ready and Equipped for Anything
They don’t operate out of fear or under pressures of office politics. They do the right thing and keep their conscience clear at the risk of losing their job.
9. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Obsessed with Productivity and Positive Outcomes
They are focused on becoming more productive and successful.
10. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Strong
They are ready to fight for what they want until the end.
11. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Responsive
They aim to make a sound decision whether it is under pressure or not.
12. Mentally Tough Leaders Are Willing to Learn
They need to keep learning, evolving, and adapting to changes.
13. Mentally Tough Leaders Possess Control
They have control over themselves, their thoughts and circumstances.
14. Mentally Tough Leaders Focus On the Right Priorities
They value quality of work over quantity.
15. Mentally Tough Leaders Realize the Likelihood of Developing Decision Fatigue
They know that they can burnout so they maintain a healthy lifestyle and keep making the best decisions for their teams. every task takes away energy and a fatigued mind is ineffective.
16. Mentally Tough Leaders Build Themselves Up
They maintain a flexible schedule for activities meant to build up their mental toughness. They take care of themselves with specific and routine activities.
17. Mentally Tough Leaders Stay Positive
They are positive in their way of thinking and associate themselves only with positive things. They think positively about themselves and their team. They believe that they are what they think.
18. Mentally Tough Leaders Put Quality first
They delegate and encourage their team to produce quality work.
How do you become mentally strong?
To become mentally strong, there are several skills you need to acquire. Suitable skills are developed after many trials and failures. After years of training yourself, you can develop:
A Hyper Focus Mindset. You don’t allow distractions to clutter your mind and take you out of your zone.
A Winning Mindset. You must believe in your expertise and believe that you will succeed no matter what.
Willpower. You must be able to stay on to of your goals until you have achieved them, despite the obstacles or your fears. Your willpower has to be maintained through relaxation methods and healthy activities.
An Ability to Handle Failure. You must acknowledge that a mentally strong person can fail too. If you have failed, you must extract a lesson from it.
Accountability. You must own up to your mistakes, overcome negative emotions, learn from failure and move on.
Preparedness. You must plan and prepare for the unexpected.
A Readiness to Take On the Challenge. You must face and embrace whatever challenge comes your way.
An Ability to Optimize Stress. You are able to take advantage of a stressful environment and still reach your objectives.
A Capability to Stretch Out the Limits. You stretch your limits and are able to achieve your objectives in spite of physical discomfort or mental stress.
The Qualities Needed to Develop Mental Toughness
Mentally tough people possess numerous qualities too that shine through when push comes to shove.
These qualities are ingrained in their personalities and in their character. In general, mentally tough people:
Are Self-Motivated. Your drive to succeed comes from within and you are capable to endure for what you love to do.
Maintain Positivity. You are able to get in the zone, to stay focused on positive thoughts amid the chaos or in high pressure situations.
Visualize The Life They Want. You visualize the outcome of a task from beginning to end before performing it which makes it easier to implement.
Meditate. Meditation reduces stress, clears your mind and allows you to relax.
Talk Positively To Themselves. You can coach and motivate yourself with your own words.
Constantly Seek Discomfort. You get out your comfort zone frequently and are able to handle whatever life throws at you.
Are Prepared For The Unexpected. You will have to be prepared and have experienced everything in life in the worst possible conditions so you don’t break or have to be taken by surprise.
Review
Mental Toughness: Essential Principles of Leadership and Success by Mak Hill is an easy to read and straight to the point motivational book.
Truthfully, I had this book on my shelf and was eyeing it for a very long time.
Though the principles in this book are known, this book has put a lot of things in perspective for me and has reminded me that perseverance is key to success.
I truly recommend this if you are seeking more for yourself, want to quiet their mind and take back control, are going through challenges or have taken heavy hits lately.
As cliché as it may sound, it teaches you that:
You have to believe in yourself and stand up for what you want.
When life gives you lemon, you have to make lemonade.
Quitting should not be made a habit.
Try one principle at a time and observe the results. Every time, you acquire a skill, move on to the next one until you become mentally strong.
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Mental toughness for an individual is his ability to deal with pressures, stressors, and challenges, and to give the best possible results, in spite of the circumstances that individual finds himself in. Others define it as the ability to rise after failures and setbacks, and the resolve to spot and take hold of the opportunities that come up.
Experts swear by the fact that grit, or mental toughness, plays a critical role in your achievement of anything in life. This is excellent news to many of us who desire success in some activity but do not carry the genes. We can still be top achievers, if only we become mentally tough.
In itself, success is not an event that finds you; it is a state of mind. The courage and strength to win develop internally, in the brain. If you want to reach your goals and become a success, you must learn how to get that mental strength by yourself.
Keep in mind that calm, smooth seas do not make adept sailors; it is the violent and turbulent ones that do.
The challenge you encounter in the course of your life will not matter, what matters is the reaction you will have towards it. Developing the right attitude towards failure will require you to know that failure does not condemn your abilities; it is merely a reaction or feedback to the effort put.
Our thoughts are a way for us to process our experiences and deal with our emotions…
Our thoughts are necessary for us to understand our situation, to find solutions, to make decisions and to plan for the future.
Our thoughts plague us with negative emotions, stop us from leaving in the present, steal our joy and peace of mind.
It just seems that we just don’t stop thinking and our mind is constantly cluttered.
Four Reasons For Mental Clutter
Mental clutter can trigger several mental illness and physical symptoms. It may cause us to react and to respond in an unconventional manner.
There are four main reasons for mental clutter.
1. Life stress
We are stresses by our jobs, the daily headlines or social expectation. The first reason for mental clutter comes from our everyday life.
2. Too many choices
Having to choose between too many options can be a great source of anxiety, indecision, paralysis, and dissatisfaction.
3. Too much clutter
Our home is filled with things that we don’t need.
Our mind is filled with data that doesn’t serve us.
Our time is filled with distractions and trivialities.
After a while, we start being too busy to declutter and start thinking negatively.
4. Negativity as reality
We react to negative events more easily, quickly and intensely than positive ones.
That is because we are “hardwired to overthink, worry, and view situations more negatively than they are in reality”.
Therefore, we accept negative thoughts as being reality, we see “threats as more threatening and challenges as more challenging.”
Habits To Help You Declutter Your Mind
Mindfulness is the art of staying present, of identifying your thoughts and decluttering.
It requires a lot of patience, practice and building specific habits.
1. Deep breaths
Our breathing habits is directly connected to our thinking habits. Whenever we feel anxious or overwhelmed, our breathing changes immediately.
However, we have the power to adjust our breathing to control our thoughts.
To regulate your breathing, several times a day, you can:
Adapt your posture. Sometimes, the way we stand or sit constricts the air in our lungs. It is imperative to sit up straight or to relax your body.
Pay attention to your breathing pattern throughout the day.
Use abdominal breathing techniques.
Practice slow and deep breathing. Deep breathing relaxes the body, improves general health, quiets the inner dialogue and forces you back in the present.
2. Meditation
Meditation, practiced for thousands of years and originated in ancient Buddhist, Hindu, and Chinese traditions, can be used as a tool for exercising and decluttering your mind.
Meditation reduces negative thinking, redirects to the present moment and improves creativity. To see the benefits of meditation, you must:
Practice meditation daily or in stressful times.
Find a quiet place and a adequate position to practice meditation.
Let your mind wander but always bring back the focus on deep breathing.
3. Mindset monitoring
Many people fall victim to their negative thoughts. They believe the negativity and think that they have no control over what they think.
however, our thoughts are not our identity and we have the power to challenge and reframe them. To do so:
Be aware of your thought pattern. You can witness them without judging or becoming them.
Give a name to your negative thoughts in order to seperate yourself from them.
Interrupt them before spiralling. You have the power to say no to the flood of thoughts coming your way. You can also use the rubber band technique to interrupt your thoughts.
Identify your triggers.
Distract yourself with positive thoughts and projects.
4. Mindset improvement
After decluttering your mind from negative thoughts, you need to fill your mind with new positive ones.
To integrate a new mindset:
Challenge the negative thoughts whenever they happen and replace them with positive ones.
Accept the negative situation that you are in instead of mentally fighting it. This will give you more control over your thoughts and the situation.
Take positive action that aligns with your values, goals and priorities.
Don’t stay too long in your head. Instead, set a timeframe where you can expand on your worries. Then, find something to distract yourself from your worries.
Review
Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking is a collection of several blog posts from S.J. Scott & Barrie Davenport.
It is written for people who want to become more productive, who have problems focusing and finding their peace of mind.
Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking frees you from addiction, distractions, overthinking, from negative and unproductive feelings.
It gives you tips to help you save time, build up your priorities and set the proper boundaries. The tools given are common knowledge and may not work for everyone. I find that the rubber band technique is painful for no reason, is not discreet and is not helpful when it comes to reducing negative thoughts.
However, there are different options that can work for you and your situation.
Furthermore, there is no reason to get discouraged because these techniques require huge commitment and have to be practiced quasi daily for you to see results.
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Our powerful brains are constantly processing all sorts of experiences and analyzing them in the form of thoughts. Thoughts form what we perceive to be reality.
We worry about our health, our jobs, our kids, the economy, our relationships, how we look, what other people think of us, terrorism, politics, pain from the past, and our unpredictable futures. Our thoughts about these things make us suffer and undermine the happiness we could experience right now if we didn’t have that constant voice in our heads stirring things up.
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