Ego Is The Enemy By Ryan Holiday

In Ego Is The EnemyRyan Holiday teaches you to stay humble in your aspirations, gracious in your success and resilient in your failures.

How to achieve your aspirations?

Ego is your worst enemy and can easily sink your ship. Ego blocks your progress in life and sometimes fast tracks your downfall. To improve and fight your ego, you must:

  • Be open to feedback but learn to evaluate your own abilities.
  • Practice detachment, tame your imagination before it runs wild and go through life with a quiet confidence.
  • Don’t stay stuck in your head. Instead, participate in what is going on around you.
  • Try staying silent in conversation. Silence can be strategic and is sustainable.
  • Always seek to learn. When you are a student, you absorb what is going on around you, you are focused on gaining knowledge and improving yourself.
  • Avoid being passionate. Instead, favor purpose and realism.
  • Ignore when people slight you and brush off the pain. Just think of it as you paying your dues.
  •  Avoid being prideful. Pride leads to arrogance. It impedes your ability “to learn, to adapt, to be flexible, to build relationships”.
  • Doing ever stop working.

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How to maintain success?

You have aspirations and you have worked so hard to climb the ladder of success. However, when you start succeeding, you will start facing new ego problems that can quickly erode your success. To maintain long-term success:

  • Don’t pretend that you know what you are doing. Instead, keep learning, stay focused on facts and do your best.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others or try to keep up with the Joneses because you will end up doing things you don’t want to do.
  • Always remember your purpose and what is important to you before saying yes to opportunities.
  • Don’t be paranoid, entitled or controlling.
  • Learn to organize your thoughts, manage yourself and others.
  • Understand that selflessness and humility are strengths and not weaknesses.
  • Don’t try to be the center of attention, hug the spotlight and take credit for something you didn’t do or deserve.
  • Patiently progress towards you goals. It is better to go at it slow and steady.

How to handle failure?

Ego, power and success can make you delusional. You have to constantly self-monitor and stay attentive for your own downfalls. Moreover, everybody goes through setbacks in life. Failure is not fair and happens to good people too. But with a big ego, you tend to get caught by surprise. Your ego will make it hard for you to handle rock bottom. To be resilient in your failures:

  • Know your worth.
  • Stay humble and on purpose.
  • Don’t abandon your principles and maintain your character.
  • Don’t depend on recognition and reward.
  • Make use of your environment and transform your failures into something positive.
  • Understand that, even if you do everything right and perfect, you still will experience failure.
  • Discipline yourself to do the right thing. It will be hard but it will makes you less self absorbed on the long run.

Review

Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday is short, practical and direct self-development book. According to Ryan Holiday, there are three stages in life: aspirations, success, failure. You will have to discipline your ego in all three stages if you want to get somewhere. Ego is our own worst enemy. It becomes detrimental to suppress or manage our ego before we develop bad habits. For example, he warns us against common knowledge:

  • Don’t be passionate or you will fail. It is better to be apathetic and acknowledge the realities of your passions.
  • Don’t flatter your ego.
  • Don’t think you know everything.

Ego Is The Enemy is ideal for leaders who want to tame their ego, improve their leadership and relationships.

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Favorite quote(s)

Ego is stolen. Confidence is earned. Ego is self-anointed, its swagger is artifice. One is girding yourself, the other gaslighting. It’s the difference between potent and poisonous. Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote. For your work to have truth in it, it must come from truth. We will learn that though we think big, we must act and live small in order to accomplish what we seek. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation. Silence is the respite of the confident and the strong. All of us waste precious life doing things we don’t like, to prove ourselves to people we don’t respect, and to get things we don’t want.

Ratings 4/5

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Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs By Eric Yaverbaum

The best experts are the people who have both studied and experienced leadership. 

Only a CEO would know what it takes to become a successful leader…

Leadership Secrets of the World's Most Successful CEOs By Eric Yaverbaum

Below are the 25 best leadership advice and strategies to train yourself and steer you toward success.  

1. Seek out leadership experience because experience is the best teacher 

2. Become a people person

Essentially, becoming a people person consists in getting to know people on a personal level. 

3. Improve your listening and communication skills

Listening and communication skills are easily upgraded by connecting with people on a personal level, clearly communicating visions and values and holding regular meetings. 

4. Surround yourself with the right people

Leaders don’t suddenly possess all the knowledge in the world.

They have to rely on the expertise of their employees, delegate tasks and allow employees to come up with solutions to their problem. 

5. Put the right people in the right position 

6. Invest in employees personal success and well-being 

7. Treat your employees well

Your personal and organizational success depends on who well you treat your employees. In return, your employees will take better care of the customers and clients.  

8. Promote humane and holistic values

Leaders must be as humane and holistic as possible.

They understand that their employees are integral people with needs and wants. 

9. Actively manage your relationships

Help and support is always needed and can come from anywhere and anyone. 

10. Maintain healthy work-life balance for yourself and everyone else

11. Empower your employees

Leaders are enablers and facilitators.

They empower and help their team grow. 

In addition, they teach people how to be successful and how to take risks. 

12. Rally everyone around a common goal 

13. Embrace change and use it to your benefit

14. Infuse your vision into the culture

15. Be quick to recognize opportunities and challenges

16. Have a greater sense of purpose

17. Learn to make sound and ethical decisions

18. Avoid following conventional wisdom

19. Always plan and focus on the most important priorities

20. Be passionate about what you do and have fun when you do it

21. Learn continually

Leaders continually ask questions. Most leaders learn to be good learners by working for good leaders. 

22. Practice, practice, practice

Leaders can be trained and find ways to practice their skills on a daily. 

23. Be open to feedback 

24. Innovate

Leaders stay on the brink of innovation and know how to articulate their ideas.

25. Rely on core values

Leaders have strong sets of core values that are the organization mission statement, set the standard, set the premise for all processes and sip into the culture. 

Review

Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs by Eric Yaverbaum is a self-help book that gathers the experience of successful CEOs and that shares invaluable leadership lessons.

There are many characteristics that make leaders be great such as authenticity, honesty and kindness. In Leadership Secrets of the World’s Most Successful CEOs, Eric Yaverbaum essentially states that great leaders can be trained.

According to him, leaders are people who generally have a multitude of skills but who are mostly service-oriented and people-oriented.

Indeed, every advice and leadership strategy is aimed to develop the steadiest and most effective leader. Every advice and leadership startegy is geared towards employee well-being and relationship building.

Leaders are not self-centered. They must always be focused on how they make other people feel and how they can move them towards a unique and common goal.   

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Favorite quote(s)

There’s an old saying: “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime”.
There are so many characteristics that make a person a good leader: a leader should be authentic, a listener, stand for values, lead by example, be honest, provide direction, and—most important—be daring, take risks, and develop and empower others. This combination of techniques is what makes a true leader.
If you are not a “born leader”, you can develop your leadership abilities through training and experience

Ratings 3.5/5

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25 Lessons to Crisis-Proof Your Leadership in Uncertain Times

If anything, we should come out the pandemic wiser and savvier than when it all began…

Indeed, people now think, consume data and goods differently than before the pandemic.

Furthermore, there is a shift in the way people perceive leadership and their job.

No situation is permanent and to every negative situation, there are always lessons that every leader can use.

It serves to think about these unprecedented times as a way to grow, to learn and to strengthen your leadership.

Wondering what leaders can take away from these uncertain times? 

Below are 10 lessons that will crisis-proof your leadership in uncertain times.

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Leadership lessons for personal use

1. Protect your emotional, physical and mental health.

2. Value who you are and what you have.

3. Embrace solitude: the best company you can find is your own.

4. Live in the present.

5. Avoid worrying about the future and what others think of you.

6. Avoid competing and comparing yourself to others.

7. Make time for what is important.

8. Take time for self-reflection, to focus on yourself and to take care of yourself.

9. Start making decisions on your own term.

10. Avoid procrastinating and go after what you want because life is too short. The best time to start is now!

11. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Leadership lessons for work

12. Learn as much as you can and leverage that knowledge for career advancement.

13. Stay in environments that will value you.

14. Avoid relying on one stream of income.

A lot of people have lost their jobs and have started their own business during the pandemic.

Undoubtedly, they have discovered numerous ways of making money and have realized that there is no point in putting all their eggs in one basket.

Creating several streams of income allows them to become robust to every situation and to take more risks.

15. Realize that there is more to life than work.

Leadership lessons for life

16. Enjoy every single moment in life.

17. Everything is temporary. Whatever you are going through, it will pass.

18. Develop critical thinking and do your own research.

19. Pay attention to people’s actions because actions speaks louder than words.

20. Become emotionally disciplined. We cannot control what happens to us but we can control how we react to it.

21. Stay positive. We cannot predict the future but we can always hope for the best.

Leadership lessons for relationships

22. Treat everybody differently. Everybody is different and everybody learns at their own rate.

23. Apply the Golden Rule. The people you step on your way up are the people you will pass on your way down.

24. Choose your friends wisely and avoid taking anyone for granted.

25. Do your best to build strong and long-lasting relationships.

Last words of advice!

No matter what you have endured during these past few months, there is always room for improvement, opportunities to grow and to adjust to these uncertain times.

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Leadership Vs Management: 6 Differences That Set Them Apart

Every leader has their own leadership style and every manager their own management style.

Managers tend to manage goals, budgets, deadlines, clients, people and projects.

Whereas, leaders influence, empower, guide a team or a group of people towards a specific vision.

Most for the time, these terms are used interchangeably. 

Sometimes, the line between managers and leaders get blurred because both leaders and managers have to make sure that their teams are successful and that their organization benefit from their intervention.   

Wondering whether are the traits that set managers and leaders apart?

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1. Short-term vs Long-term z

Managers oversee the short-term metrics, execute tasks and help others execute tasks in order to reach these metrics. 

On the contrary, leaders pay attention to long-term goals, overall progress and drive change.

2. Problem-oriented vs Solution-oriented

Managers punctually correct mistakes and set people back on track. 

Leaders value growth and provide solutions so that their team don’t make the same mistakes.

3. Task-oriented vs. People-oriented

On one hand, managers are task-oriented individuals. They encourage their team to achieve each tasks and reach each goals.

On the other hand, leaders are people-oriented. They delegate tasks and trust that their team will achieve them.

4. Trust building vs Team building

Managers build team-cohesion and motivate people to do their job.

However, leaders build trust, motivate and encourage others to contribute to the team and to the organization.

5. Title vs Exemplarity

Managerial roles usually come with a title and expect team members to individually take care of their problems. 

Leaders are able to do the opposite and to lead without a title. Leaders lead by example, advice their team and transform problems into solutions. 

6. Maintaining culture vs Building culture

Managers impregnate themselves with the company culture and the vision for the organization. They help their team members align themselves with the principles of the organization and to maintain the company culture. 

Contrarily, leaders have purpose, have a vision, core beliefs for themselves and their organization that they are able to share with their team. They build the culture. 

Last Words Of Advice!

Leadership and management are not mutually exclusive.

Sometimes, managers and leaders have overlapping yet critical roles.

Furthermore, there is no right or wrong way to lead or to manage:

  • Everybody is different and has a personal approach to dealing with other people.
  • Everybody has to figure out at some point how they want to be handled and how they wish to handle people, whether or not a managerial or leadership is more suitable. 

Are you a manager or a leader? 

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6 Timeless Books That Every Leader Should Read

We are currently living in uncertain times…

We find ourselves developing new habits in an effort to adapt to changing circumstances and look towards more stable institutions.

The advice contained in these books demonstrate how to thrive as a leader in uncertain times, have stood the test of time, are collection of fundamental principles of leadership and of success.

Below is our selection of 6 timeless leadership books that every leader needs to read !

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1. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey is one of the most classic book on leadership that divulges pragmatic guiding principles.

Stephen R. Covey encourages people to create habits to helps them face obstacles, master themselves, grow consistently professionally and personally.

2. The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier

The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier is all  about asking more questions and talking less are ways to become a better leader.

Indeed, the loudest voice in the room is not necessarily the best leader or the only leader in the room.

Michael Bungay Stanier suggests 7 hard questions to help leaders unlock their true potential, to coach themselves and their team.

3. Leaders Eat Last — Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t by Simon Sinek

Leaders Eat Last — Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t by Simon Sinek defines the greatest qualities of leadership.

For Simon Sinek, in order to be successful, leaders have to sacrifice themselves for the benefit of the team and create a healthy company culture.

A healthy company culture is an environment where trust is central, where employees can collaborate, develop their knowledge, are able to conquer anything, become leaders themselves and do remarkable things.

4. Developing the Leader Within You by John C. Maxwell

In Developing the Leader Within You, John C. Maxwell introduces us to the 11 internal shifts or Leadershifts that leaders should implement in order to achieve career advancement and real success.

For John C. Maxwell, leaders are continual learners, they learn from everyone and everything.

They get out of their comfort zone, know how to get information and are selective with the information they intake.

5. The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow by John C. Maxwell

In The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow, John C. Maxwell shares and explains the 21 rules on effective leadership.

Thanks to these irrefutable laws, leaders are able to learn, apply what they learn, attract talent, manage and lead teams, and plan their legacy ahead of time.

6. How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends & Influence People illustrates different ways to build healthy relationships.

According to Dale Carnegie, leaders are those who are able to communicate effectively with their team, promote, persuade, empower and influence others.

Last Words Of Advice!

These of the most famous and most classic books on leadership.

Each anecdote, principle, and sentiment remain true to this day.

These books will not create instantaneous change within yourself but will gradually change your perspective on life and encourage you to pursue continual learning.

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20 Most Classic Quotes About Leadership

Leadership is a long standing institution.

It is also one of the most contemporaneous and most talked about topic…

Below, we have gathered 20 of the most classic quotes about leadership.

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1. You are what you believe yourself to be. – Paulo Coelho

2. Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. – Albert Einstein

3. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. Stephen Covey

4. Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. – Og Mandino

5. Take action, an inch of movement will bring you closer to your goals than a mile of intention. – Steve Maraboli

6. If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit

7. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. – Confucius

8. I walk slowly but never backwards. – Abraham Lincoln

9. The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus. – Bruce Lee

10. Well done is better than well said. – Benjamin Franklin

11. I’m not afraid of dying, I’m afraid of not trying. – Jay-Z

12. Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. – Og Mandino

13. Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. – Mark Twain

14. If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right. – Henry Ford

15. Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you. – Jim Rohn

16. I like criticism. It makes you strong. – LeBron James

17. When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful. – Eric Thomas

18. Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise. – Kobe Bryant

19. You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated. Maya Angelou

20. Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. – Confucius

Last Words Of Advice!

The principles of leadership have been studied for a long time. 

These leadership quotes are meant to inspire you, conquer your circumstances and keep moving forward.

 

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15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

We all have been exposed during a period of time to annoying, hateful, toxic coworkers that can drive us crazy.

Sometimes, bringing us to ask ourselves whether they’re the problem or we are…

Wondering how to spot these toxic coworkers from afar and how to handle them?

15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them #toxiccoworkers #leadership #leadershipdevelopment https://journeytoleadershipblog.com Every workplace has difficult employees and we all have been, to some extent, in different situations with hateful coworkers.

I do believe that we all, partially or fully, demonstrate some level of toxicity towards a third party in the workplace.

Below, are the 15 worst toxic coworkers that I have already met and have had to deal with.

Case Study #1: ​The Delicate

Key Symptoms

The Delicate is a sensitive person with vain imagination that constantly and easily feels under attack, and that takes things deeply and personally. The Delicate thinks that people are looking, gossiping and criticizing him or her!

Treatment

  • Keep the conversation on superficial topics and crack jokes about him or her.
  • Avoid using sarcasm, making dry remarks, directly confronting this person. Instead, try to sugarcoat things and to give indirect constructive criticism.

Case Study #2: The Slacker

Key Symptoms

The Slacker is mostly concerned about personal life and regulating it during working hours.

The Slacker does not take his or her work seriously, spends his or her working life over the internet, cannot make a deadline to save his or her life, is not punctual even absent, unapologetically displays a lack of motivation.

The Slacker is visibly unfulfilled in his or her current position but won’t do anything about it.

Treatment

  • Impose a deadline or better yet let him or her publicly impose a deadline.
  • Pick up the slack with the rest of the team and keep quiet.
  • This individual will sink himself or herself. Otherwise, this individual will eventually have to get up and swim, explain their behavior, their performance and their results to upper management.

Case Study #3: The Rocket Scientist

Key Symptoms

The Rocket Scientist is the individual on the team that is full of knowledge but who is in search for recognition for his superior intellect and who demands an immense respect for his expertise. The Rocket Scientist will feel insulted and will almost become passive aggressive if his or her ideas and point of view are being questioned.

Treatment

  • Stop comparing his expertise to anyone on the team.
  • Avoid diminishing his knowledge and ideas in front of the team or behind closed doors.
  • Avoid criticizing his work and intellect.
  • Instead, tap into his range of knowledge by placing him or her in the role of a counselor but not a decision maker.

Case Study #4: The Gossiper

Key Symptoms

The Gossiper is an individual that enjoys gossip, that emphasizes and embellishes a rumor.

The Gossiper is nosy and loves to keep the rumor mill spinning. This person is even capable of destroying someone’s reputation in the office.

Treatment

  • Listen to the rumor without adding any input. The information may not be malicious but indicative of office politics or of a situation that you can take advantage of.
  • However, learn to separate useful information from the gossip.
  • If this person only brings negative void information, crafted gossip, signal your disinterest by not responding or responding with monosyllables or challenging the facts in the story line, discreetly remove yourself from the circle, avoid participating in the rumor mill.
  • Be careful not to offense this person, for they would drag your name in the mud. If this person is actually gossiping about you, avoid any interaction and adding fuel to fire by striking back with gossip before damaging your reputation.
  • Confront this person in a non threatening and diplomatic way, in a private setting by stating that you are aware of the gossip and everyone is saying that she is a liar and the bearer of the negative information but you know that is not true.

Case Study #5: The Bulldozer

Key Symptoms

The Bulldozer is an individual that believes wrongly in his intelligence.

The Bulldozer doesn’t hesitate to make everybody’s life miserable if things don’t go his way.

The Bulldozer threatens, bullies, intimidates, steps on toes and remains on the verge of harassment in order to get things his way. “It’s my way or the high way!”. The Bulldozer imposes his way of doing things even if it is not the best way of doing them.

They make the worst managers ever but are the most common managers found in corporate.

Treatment

  • Cultivate your emotional intelligence in order not to respond to negativity with negativity.
  • listen to this person point of view from beginning to end without uttering a word, then summarize their position and calmly expose yours.

Case Study #6: The Work-To-Rule

Key Symptoms

The Work-To-Rule discards any part of responsibility in a situation, does not understand tram work and does exactly what is stated in their contracts and no more. In fact, the Work-To-Rule insists on not taking on more responsibilities than his or her job description.

Treatment

  • Stress the importance of team work and the value of this individual contribution at work.

Case Study #7: The Overly Friendly

Key Symptoms

The Overly Friendly is an individual that thinks that his coworkers are his extended family and that doesn’t mind sharing extra personal details of his or her life. These details will make you uncomfortable.

Treatment

Explain that you don’t want to hear the gruesome details of his or her life. If his or her behavior are too intimate, it can be considered as harassment and can be reported to human resources.

Case Study #8: The Naysayer

Key Symptoms

The Naysayer is an individual that irritatingly pinpoints everything negative in a situation and predicts problems before they happen, without proposing an alternative and constructive solution to the situation at hand.

Treatment

Position that person in roles that require to see problems before they occur. No need to argue and show the positive side of an idea. To inhibit this behavior, request an explanation why the situation would not work and a thought-through plan for the solution

Case Study #9: The Blameshifter

Key Symptoms

The Blameshifter is an individual that points the finger at everyone else but themselves and that comes up with very creative excuses to completely remove the blame from themselves.

It is a form of narcissism: the Blameshifter is afraid of confronting themselves.

Treatment

  • Come prepared with evidence.
  • If the blame is pointed at you and you know that it is not your fault, give proof of your innocence without accusing this individual.
  • If this individual comes to you with an object of complaint on someone else, in order to avoid being put in the middle, claim that this is none of your business and suggest that they have a conversation with the alleged culprit.

15 Hateful Coworkers and How to Deal with Them

Case Study #10: The Neophobe

Key Symptoms

The Neophobe is an individual that doesn’t deal well with change.

The Neophobe is capable of refusing it, sabotaging it or even halting it.

Treatment

  • Demonstrate to him or her that change isn’t traumatic and can be positive.
  • Provide proof and facts that the change eminent is positive.
  • Help that person embrace change.

Case Study #11: The Chatterbox

Key Symptoms

The Chatterbox is an individual that drops by your workspace and starts chatting without solicitation about anything and everything.

This individual does not necessarily partake in gossip, but volunteers to share their point of view. This individual tends to makes you unproductive and inefficient.

Treatment

  • Avoid using words of exclamation or affirmation to not encourage this person to keep on talking.
  • Avoid making eye contact when this person is passing through.
  • Politely and respectfully explain that you are on schedule.

Case Study #12: The Martyr

Key Symptoms

The Martyr is a dedicated employee, willing to “die” for their company without being asked to do so, and that searches for recognition and validation. For example, the Martyr does extra hours at work and manipulate the boss when someone else get a promotion.

Treatment

  • Show appreciation for this employee and value their work within the company.

Case Study #13: The Stealer

Key Symptoms

The Stealer constantly steals coworkers ideas, takes credit for them and denies it when confronted.

Treatment

  • Hold back on your ideas and opinions when having a conversation with this individual. Listen more than you speak.
  • Avoid confronting this fool but bite your tongue instead because he or she might not know how to implement your ideas.
  • Don’t report it to upper management before appearing to be salty.

Case Study #14: The Snake

Key Symptoms

The Snake is an overly ambitious — almost sociopathic — coworker that smiles to your face and that stabs you and everyone else in the back. The Snake will claim that your ideas are wonderful but will degrade them when you are not looking.

Treatment

  • Keep your personal information, brilliant ideas to yourself.
  • Listen more than you speak.
  • Stay socially engaged and involved in office politics.

Case Study #15: The Ultra Competitive

Key Symptoms

The Ultra Competitive is an individual that is prepared to step over your dead body to succeed or to get recognition in the workplace.

Treatment

  • Focus on your work or get involve in a project where the Ultra Competitive person is not involved in.
  • Stay socially engaged with your other coworkers and keep networking.
  • Consider the company culture, compare them to your values and figure out whether or not you fit in.

How do I deal with other difficult personalities?

Last Words Of Advice!

Toxic coworkersMost coworkers use extreme tactics to get advancements in the workplace and would do anything to trigger you, to demean you or sabotage your own progress. Some take job positions where they do not belong and that they cannot handle. Others are misusing their strengths and transforming them into flaws that are not accepted in the environment they choose to work in. Others are even responding to an already toxic workplace. Lastly some coworkers are oblivious to their visible flaws and practice them outside of work. In order to deal with other toxic coworkers:

  • cultivate emotional intelligence,
  • listen more than you speak,
  • look for the positive or the humour in negative circumstances.

No matter the reasons, you have to learn how to insulate yourself emotionally and spot a hateful coworker from a distance.

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Best Self: Be You, Only Better By Mike Bayer

What is your Best Self?

Your Best Self is unique, positive, evolved and aligned with your truth.

When you are being your best self, you are being your most authentic and at your core.

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1. How to connect with your Best Self?

Connecting with your Best Self takes time and requires patience. To get in touch with your Best Self:

  • Express gratitude frequently to get out of a negative space. Make a gratitude list of everything that puts you in a good mood or elevates you in any kind of way.
  • Embrace change. Everybody can change if they want to, they just have to apply the right motivations.
  • Identify your fears. Once you have identified your fears, put them to the test to see if your assumptions are true, if they are rational, if they help you succeed, or if they serve your best interests.
  • Recognize any signs of egotistical behavior. Once you have acknowledge your behavior, assess the origins of it and get your ego in check.

2. Assessing your Best Self

“SPHERES stands for Social life, Personal life, Health, Education, Relationships, Employment, and Spiritual life”.

The SPHERES tool, create by Mike Bayer, is a screening tool used to assess your Best Self in all areas of your life.

Your social life 

In the SPHERES tool, your social situation determines how well you project your Best Self to the world.

It then becomes imperative to analyze how you interact with people. You can also assess your ability to send clear messages, to listen to others, to embrace human emotions, to handle highly charged situations, to give and receive feedback.

Your personal life

Your personal life contains your self-image, your self-talk, the level of compassion and respect you have for yourself.

To create the personal life that you want, you will have to:

  • Rewire your brain to think positively by challenging your internal dialogue.
  • Get familiar with what you are constantly telling yourself.
  • Identify the messages you tell yourself when you are under pressure.
  • Log your thoughts and your self-talk, identify the common themes and tones.
  • Be compassionate with yourself. Take care of yourself and monitor your stress levels before they snowball. If you take care of yourself, you will definitely be able to take care of others.
  • Connect with your passions. Your passions will vary throughout your life. Your passions will allow you to express yourself, to strengthen your bond with your Best Self and vibrate at a higher frequency. To find your passions, explore new things, challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

Your health

Prioritizing your well-being allows you to be present, keep a clear mind and achieve your Best Self.

Your education

Remaining in a “lifetime learning mode” will help you evolve into your Best Self and become more self-aware.

Once you find your passions, you will take pleasure in acquiring knowledge in that field.

Your relationships

Your relationships reflect who you are as a person.

Your Best Self will gauge who you want to be around, judge the health of a relationship and help you make the tough decisions.

In order to stay connected to your Best Self in all relationships, you must define your core values, exercise them and identify the people who live up to them.

Your employment

We spend most of our days at work.

So, when we are not able to fully be ourselves, our work life tends to become draining.

It somehow becomes important to nurture our Best Selves at work or create a career path that allows us to maximize our potential at work.

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In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer encourages people to be their Best Self.

In addition, Mike Bayer shares tips and tools to help you achieve your Best Self. He helps you make a diagnostic of all the aspects of your life and provides practical solutions to your problems.

Furthermore, Best Self: Be You, Only Better is a workbook that teaches you how to fix what’s inside to fix outside. It is on point when it comes to assessing people’s behavior and can conveniently be revisited several time in your life.

Best Self: Be You, Only Better is ideal for leaders who want to improve their leadership skills and bring their best selves at work. It becomes clear that if you are your best self, you can create the best teams, take care of others and create the best organization.

With this workbook:

  • Get in touch with your Best Self.
  • Reach your highest potential.
  • Find more balance in your life.
  • Evolve, change, reinvent yourself and improve your life.
  • Learn to handle adversity and crisis.
  • Discover your truth and your purpose.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

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Many of society’s “rules” simply don’t apply to us as individuals, and if we spend all our energy on trying to be, do, say, and act like society wants us to, we are simply wasting time we could be spending on discovering and connecting with our Best Self.

Self-care is foundational to living your ideal life.

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Examining the Other Side & What to Do About It: 3 Best Apps to Use When Leadership Takes its Toll Mentally

Leadership is generally regarded as a positive trait…

Leaders are important in all aspects of our society as they help to motivate and direct people. Most of the information that you’ll find online about leadership sets a similar tone: that leadership is a positive and desirable trait that one should aspire to.

However, what many of these articles fail to discuss is the darker side of leadership. Being a
leader can be mentally draining and can cause a number of difficulties for those who have taken on a leadership role.

These challenges are often underrepresented. It’s important to be aware of these difficulties so
that you can prepare for a leadership role if you’re planning to take one on.

Awareness is the first step towards sound mental health.

At the end of the article we’ll also provide some information about some of the best apps and
tools that you can use if you find that leadership is starting to take a toll on you.

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Challenges With Leadership

Being a leader can be tremendously rewarding.

Still, leadership also comes with a number of challenges. Some of these challenges can be tough to cope with, but all of them can be surmounted.

Here are a few examples of leadership challenges and what you can do to manage them.

Constant Pressure

Leaders are almost always under a great deal of pressure.

Whether these are leaders in the workplace, activists, or leaders in a military campaign, all leaders are generally being put under a huge amount of pressure.

Rather than just being accountable for themselves, they are accountable for all those who look to them for leadership.

They constantly feel pressured to make the right choices and decisions to avoid creating problems for themselves and others.

Motivation

A leader must always remain motivated.

Should their motivation falter, then the motivation of their entire team will falter.

This can create additional pressure and can also lead to leadership burnout which we’ll discuss in more detail later.

Humility

As a leader, it can be very hard to remain humble.

If you become too prideful or gloating with your leadership, then you stand to lose followers or elicit problems among those who you are trying to lead.

Leadership Burnout

Anyone who works hard — whether it’s at the office, as a part of your family, or as someone
building a life — is vulnerable to burnout.

Leaders are no exception to this rule, and in fact, leaders may be even more vulnerable to burnout than others.

Leaders are constantly under pressure and forced to remain motivated even amidst dire
circumstances. This can put constant strain on their adrenaline system which can lead to
burnout.

Leaders must also remain vigilant and composed even in times of chaos and disorder,
which can take a serious psychological toll.

Signs of Leadership Burnout

Here are a few signs of leadership burnout:

  • Having a hard time getting up and going to work.
  • Feeling incredibly exhausted and fatigued beyond what would be considered normal for
    missing a few hours of sleep.
  • Changes in mental health, experiencing frequent changes in mood, irritability, or other
    abrupt or difficult feelings that are hard to manage.

Causes of Leadership Burnout

Leadership burnout can result from any sort of experience that one must lead.

However, certain things can aggravate the speed at which one burns out:

  • Having an improper schedule, or a schedule that is constantly compromised.
  • Not getting enough physical or mental rest.
  • Meeting constant resistance when trying to achieve your goals, difficulties with the
    people that you’re leading.
  • Not taking care of yourself mentally (allowing yourself to ruminate, worry, and overthink).

Best Apps & Tools for Improving Mental Health for Leaders

If you’re struggling with your mental health as a leader, fear not!

There are some apps and tools that can help you bounce back:

  • Monday is an app that allows leaders to quickly check out the status of projects and
    contact other team members involved. You’ll have easy access to all the available
    information and people working on the projects.
  • MapMyFitness is an app that helps busy people maintain a good physical exercise
    routine. Regular exercise helps to reduce stress and anxiety and can help you stay
    composed.
  • Headspace is an app designed to help bring meditation to everyday people, including
    professionals. Meditation is one of the best ways to help you manage your stress levels
    so that your leadership role doesn’t get out of hand.

Nobody said leadership was easy and not everyone knows how common and serious leadership burnout can be.

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Your First Leadership Job: How Catalyst Leaders Bring Out the Best in Others by Tacy M. Byham and Richard S. Wellins

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Your First Leadership Job: How Catalyst Leaders Bring Out the Best in Others acknowledges the hardship of a first-time leadership position plus strives to guide and assist new leaders in:

  • Becoming “Catalyst Leaders”. “Catalyst leaders represent the gold standard—energetic, supportive, forward-thinking mentors who spark action in others”.
  • Coping with the transition from contributor to leader, dealing with the uncertainty of the new position
  • Building or improving leadership skills,
  • Communicating effectively with your team and your bosses,
  • Working with members of your team, coaching them, engaging with them and motivating them in order to obtain results,
  • Navigating organizational politics.

Several self-assessment tests, quizzes and diagnostics are implemented in the book to make light of a challenging situation, to evaluate and enhance your leadership skills.

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According to Your First Leadership Job, the catalyst leader should follow the following steps to ensure success:

  1. Learn your organization’s culture and get to know your team and your bosses to get a better understanding of your role, your priorities, the expectations from your team and from upper management, the current reputation of your team, their preferred communication methods and finally, their good and bad habits.
  2. Make a first good impression the moment you step into your new role. Judgement by your team will instantly be formed about your capabilities to lead.
  3. Develop a leadership brand. In order to develop a leadership brand, be authentic (show your integrity through your actions), bring out the best in people (understand and improve your team skills, encourage, motivate and coach them), be receptive to feedback.
  4. Address and meet your team personal needs. To do so, use the five Key Principles: Maintain or enhance self-esteem motivate the team. Listen and respond with empathy to diffuse negative energy and create a positive environment.Ask for help and encourage involvement to show that you respect and value your team’s opinion, knowledge and skills.Share thoughts, feelings, and rationale to build trust. (to build trust)Provide support without removing responsibility. (to build ownership)
  5. Implement or improve your common leadership interaction styles.
  6. Start seeking performance results and meeting the company’s requirements/needs by developing an execution strategy (focus on the three major priorities at a time, manage time accordingly and measure task progress with indicators, create milestone for the team, by holding your team accountable for their own results)
  7. Learn how to hire new candidates for a job by asking the right questions during the interview.
  8. Develop a good working relationship with your boss.
  9. Master meetings and make them meaningful.  Your ability to lead will be estimated by your ability to organize and run a meeting.
  10. Give positive or developmental feedback.
  11. Learn to handle difficult employees.
  12. Delegate tasks and the authority associated to the task accordingly to achieve results faster and more effectively. Delegating also helps to save up your time for higher priorities a tasks.

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Your First Leadership Job: How Catalyst Leaders Bring Out the Best in Others  by Tacy M. Byham and Richard S. Wellins is a self-help book destined to potential, first-time or frontline leaders.

Your First Leadership Job: How Catalyst Leaders Bring Out the Best in Others is a clear and methodical how-to book that does not only define leadership but also shares tips on how to become a “Catalyst Leader” and how to withstand challenging situations that most first-time leaders encounter.

I largely recommend it to introverted, shy, unexpected leaders who don’t always know how to navigate office politics along to women who are ambitious but not confident in their leadership skills.

For my part, as an introvert and a woman, I have been in three unofficial leadership positions that started successfully but ended in failure. Before reading this book, I was not able to pinpoint my weaknesses nor able to fix my situation.

Your First Leadership Job has been resourceful, reassuring and has given me hope that I can still pursue my journey towards leadership. I now have a positive perspective on my experiences.

As a result, I am currently learning how to earn my team’s trust, convey a message and share a vision with my team.

Favorite quote(s)

“Catalyst leaders represent the gold standard—energetic, supportive, forward-thinking mentors who spark action in others”.

Earlier in this book we pointed out that what makes you a successful leader may have nothing to do with what made you successful in the past. The challenges you face as a leader are much different—and they can be extra tough.

Ratings 4/5

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Tacy M. Byham

Richard S. Wellins

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