56 Things Leaders Need To Quit To Simplify Their Lives

It comes a time where we feel overwhelmed by life’s difficulties and desire to simplify our lives but we just don’t know how…

Wondering what are the things that you can stop doing as a leader to simplify your life?

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1. Not being self aware

2. Neglecting your unresolved issues

3. Giving too much importance to your professional life over your personal life

4. Saying yes to everything

5. Doing too many things all at once

6. Working until you burn out.

7. Not making time for yourself or your loved ones

8. Disregarding the essentials and what matters most to you

9. Avoiding your emotions

10. Giving too much room to your emotions

11. Mistreating yourself

12. Mistreating others

13. Stressing out

14. Transfering your emotions to other people who could potentially help you

15. Trying to please people

16. Comparing yourself to people

17. Competing with other people

18. Running someone else’s race

19. Moving at someone else’s pace

20. Trusting the wrong people

21. Micromanaging and not letting people do their jobs

22. Making assumptions about people

23. Spreading and believing rumors about others

24. Making up lies

25. Worrying about your image and reputation instead of the work you produce.

26. Faking it until you make it.

27. Shifting blame

28. Creating drama

29. Stepping on other people to feel better about yourself

30. Wanting to be right all the time

31. Thinking that your solution is the best solution

32. Being resistant to change

33. Being too transparent

34. Being fearful about everything

35. Being overbearing

36. Being crowded all the time

37. Spending time around toxic people

38. Doing things that you hate

39. Getting distracted

40. Avoiding exercise

41. Choosing unhealthy foods

42. Allowing and participating in groupthink

43. Seeking control over other people

44. Seeking only power over others

45. Taking too long in the commute

46. Inviting clutter in your home

47. Holding to clutter on your office space

48. Letting emails stack up

49. Letting small tasks stack up

50. Doing all your tasks all at once

51. Setting boundaries with people

52. Managing your time effectively

53. Giving too much importance to deadlines

54. Constantly tracking progress

55. Not being flexible enough with your time

56. Not taking responsibility for your actions

Last Words Of Advice

Just remember, you cannot stop all these things at once.

But once you start simplifying your life, you won’t want to stop.


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So Smart But…: How Intelligent People Lose Credibility – And How They Can Get It Back by Allen K. Weiner

Credibility, the quality or power to inspire trust and belief, is essential and strategic to career evolution.

Credibility is so difficult to acquire and to maintain but so quick and easy to lose.

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Credibility is 45% how you look, 45% how you sound and 10% what you say.

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In agreement with McCroskey, scholar in West Virginia University, there are five factors of credibility:

1. Competence

This quality is acquired when an employee has succeeded to champion the company’s vision, engage in innovation, focus on performance and results, and to build a high performance organization.

With competence, an employee is able to explain concept with the appropriate message and to calibrate a message to a specific listener.

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Credibility is easily lost if someone:

  • Is not understanding or is reacting inappropriately to an issue at hand.
  • Is lacking better judgement in order to make the right decisions.
  • Reflects too long before making a decision.

2. Character

This quality is acquired when an employee has succeeded to foster a climate of innovation, to foster and model the company’s values.

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Credibility is easily lost if someone:

  • Is lacking passion and drive for their work
  • Is arrogant. This character flaw can be corrected by changing your words when addressing your colleagues, expressing interest in them, asking for advice, listening more in conversations and sharing your personal weaknesses.
  • Cannot manage emotions very well.
  • Has it out for some people in their organization.

3. Composure

This quality is acquired when an employee has succeeded to manage workforce performance and delegate appropriately.

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Credibility is easily lost if someone:

  • Is not timely (not punctual with deliveries, appears frantic and rushing,…).
  • Cannot manage emotions very well.
  • Maneuver their body language to manifest their belonging.
  • Decorate and manage their personal space.
  • Does not look the part by not applying the company’s dress code, by not grooming oneself when coming to work or even by not working out.

4. Sociability

This quality is acquired when an employee has succeeded to demonstrate interpersonal skills.

5. Extroversion

Extroversion as defined in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).

This quality is acquired when an employee has succeeded to passionately drive the company’s strategy.

Review

So Smart But…: How Intelligent People Lose Credibility – And How They Can Get It Back by Allen K. Weiner is a self-development book is very relatable, accurate and was very difficult to read since I have met up with most of the scenarios and possess some of the corporate personality flaws discussed in this book.

Allen N. Weiner, in So Smart But…, provides tips on how to preserve and enhance your credibility in the workplace.

Furthermore, every argument is properly illustrated with realistic workplace scenario and is not gender biased.

According to Allen N. Weiner, to climb the social ladder, it seems that one needs to :

  • comply to too many non written rules, indicative of a rigid and intolerant society that is the corporate world. Is it possible to apply every single one of these rules to the cost of spreading oneself very thinly?
  • be likeable to succeed when, in my opinion, likeability can only take you so far. Indeed, in my experience, it is preferable and more effective to be respected in corporate culture because being liked puts you on equal footing with your pairs, constitutes additional emotional work and subjects you to fluctuating and random external opinion. Nevertheless, according to Allen N. Weiner, people who are not liked are trying to find excuses instead of trying to be liked.
  • adapt, be accepted by your pairs or fitting in. Fitting in is very hard to do but not impossible to do. Check out the article Signs that You are a good fit for your new job.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Ratings 4/5

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12 Things Leaders Do That Demotivate Their Team

Through their actions and decisions, leaders highly impact your overall job experience.

For the most part, they are responsible for your motivation, responsibilities, career prospects, work-life balance, engagement and alignment.

Wondering how leadership can demotivate teams?

12 Things Leaders Do That Demotivate Their Team #team #motivation #leadership journeytoleadershipblog.comMotivation is the combination of traits that drive someone to achieve their goals.

Therefore, demotivation occurs when there is a significant loss of drive, eagerness or willingness to do the work.

The loss of motivation mostly translates itself into:

  • Increased absenteeism,
  • Long lunches and breaks during working hours,
  • Unprofessionalism, distraction and disconnection from the job,
  • Distance and disconnection from others,
  • Desire to distract others.

Unfortunately, toxic leaders are often the cause of said demotivation.

1. Toxic leaders are closed to new ideas

Not only are they closed to new ideas, they will gladly criticize and shut others down.

Furthermore, they do not embrace change. They will usually think that they know best and will follow through on bad ideas despite the evidence of the contrary.

2. Toxic leaders encourage toxicity

They let bad behavior go unchecked.

Illegal behaviors such as toxic competition, sexual harassment, prurient curiosity, invasion of privacy, racism, sexism and discriminatory speeches are ignored, celebrated and are embedded in the company culture.

3. Toxic leaders don’t lead by example

They avoid engaging in difficult tasks or challenging conversations.

They also behave poorly but get away with it because they have the power to do so or because human resources turn a blind eye to their behavior.

4. Toxic leaders pressure their team to meet unrealistic expectations

As a leader, ensuring that your team members meet the bottom line is surely important.

However, employees who cannot meet unrealistic goals tend to get demotivated and quit.

5. Toxic leaders treat their team like a commodity

They feel free to disrespect their team members, take advantage of people or play with their team like pawns.

They also feel free to fire people or demonstrate that they are replaceable.

Demotivated perform at their minimal best but not because they lack discipline.

6. Toxic leaders are in constant competition

Competitive and jealous leaders have huge egos and very low self esteem.

In this scenario, high performers tend to go unrecognized and unrewarded.

Even worse, their ideas are stolen and their achievements ignored.

7. Toxic leaders micromanage

Leaders who micromanage lack trust in the abilities of their team members.

They don’t allow their team to make or correct mistakes.

8. Toxic leaders don’t listen

Bad leaders don’t listen to anyone or anything.

By doing so, they don’t understand their team members potential and don’t adapt projects to them.

The reality is that when teams don’t feel heard, they ultimately get demotivated.

9. Toxic leaders don’t believe in work relationships

They are unaware of their team members responsibilities.

Leaders who don’t work on a relationship with their team members rarely notice when a team member gets demotivated.

10. Toxic leaders don’t communicate objectives

When teams don’t see the bigger picture or feel like they are in the loop, they become unable to measure their performance, involvement and their impact.

11. Toxic leaders brew conflict

They pit employees one against the other, play favorites and treat others unfairly.

That way, while employees are occupied fighting, nobody has the time they question their poor leadership.

In that case, motivation is lossed and employees usually quit.

12. Toxic leaders are not flexible

They don’t allow remote working and don’t encourage a healthy work-life balance.

They are oblivious to the fact that motivated teams contribute twice as more than demotivated ones.

Last Words Of Advice

People don’t leave jobs, they leave terrible leaders.

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Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself By Henri Junttila

Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself by Henri Junttila is a self-help book that encourages people to find their passion and get the life they want.
Finding your passion is about exploration, living the life of your dreams, getting out of your comfort zone, overcoming obstacles and bringing out your inner joy.

Passion is waking up energized and motivated to do the things you love. It means being able to persist through adversity.

To identify and live your passion, Henri Junttila poses 25 questions that will help you assess yourself, overcome roadblocks and successfully create your life goals.

Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself By Henri Junttila

Self-Assessment

First, you must get to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, your interests.

Your definition of passion

According to Henri Junttila, you must first discover what the word passion means to you and what it means to people around you. You must also be able to envision yourself living a passionate life and find out how it feels to be passionate.

Keep in mind that your passion is personal, internal and intrinsic to your being. It is not what society, friends and family tell you it should be.

Talents, strengths and weaknesses

Everyone has a gift and it is your duty to find out what you are gifted at because most of the time, your passions lie within your gifts.

Besides, tapping into your strengths will make you a happier person. Not doing so will definitely make you feel miserable, out of focus, burnt out.

It is therefore detrimental to:

  • Explore every single one of your interests and natural inclinations. For example, what do you find yourself naturally talking about? People can have several passions. They should explore all of them and see which ones resonates the most.
  • Remind yourself of your dreams, strengths and passions as a child.
  • Analyze the reasons why you are interested in certain activities.
  • Evaluate the advice that is requested from you and the advice that you give.
  • Take strengths and weaknesses assessment tests.
  • Analyze your situation, how people feel about you.
  • Do things that are out of your comfort zone.
  • Value your natural gifts.
  • Find out how you can apply your strengths in different areas of your life.
  • Don’t take advice from people but instead follow your gut.
  • Strengthen the connection to your inner voice. Your intuition has your best interest and can never lead you astray.
  • Determine what angers and disturbs you so you can avoid settling for mediocrity.

Making A Life Plan

Goals ate milestones. They are there to measure your progress and your passion.

  • Figure out your life goals in five or ten years.
  • Identify the pros and the cons of success. Check if they are worthwhile and if you can tolerate them. Usually the benefits outweigh the drawbacks.
  • Work like you will succeed and dream like you cannot fail.
  • Visualize your goals, yourself living a successful life and take the steps needed to achieve that.
  • Detail your plan and the life you want.
  • Improve your problem solving sills.
  • Don’t make assumptions.

Finding Your Passion and Self-sabotaging

We are sometimes our worst enemy. Our assumptions about people or about ourselves are hard to shift or to disable. And sometimes, they can hold us back.

To get rid of the debilitating assumptions that you make about yourself:

  • Find out what you hate, what would hinder you as a human being, what you wouldn’t do, what would go against your core values.
  • Trust your gut.
  • Don’t impose limits to your imagination.
  • Change your perspective on your problems.
  • Review your systems of belief and integrate the ideas needed to succeed.
  • Don’t listen to naysayers. This is hard because naysayers are mostly family and close friends who are afraid of facing their own realities and who are afraid that you will outgrow them.
  • Dream big but don’t settle.
  • Don’t give up on yourself and your dreams.
  • Don’t allow yourself to get overwhelmed.

Overcoming Factors Out Of Your Control

In life, there a numerous obstacles to success and to happiness: money, death and other factors.

Indeed, money or lack thereof is limiting. People need money to go after their passion, to recover from failure, to have the opportunity to explore, to remove fear.
However, finding your passion is all about being resilient and understanding that not everything is going to go your way. You must also:

  • Understand that to every problem there are multiple solutions.
  • Understand that nothing will never be perfect and that there is no right time to start.
  • Don’t be afraid of failure or of success. Work like you cannot fail.
  • Follow your passion whether you have money or not.
  • Even when facing obstacles or feeling stuck, take baby steps no matter what.
  • Think about your own death and the legacy you want to leave. Thinking about your own death will help you prioritize and focus on the essentials.

Review

Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself by Henri Junttila is a relatable, quick and easy to read book that helps you to get to know and love yourself just the way you are.

It is primarily written for people who feel lost in the world, who are fearful, who go through life without passion or without a clear purpose.

The silver lining is that it’s never too late to find and follow your passions.

In Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself, Henri Junttila was able to share all this useful information in such a concise book.

He also provides us with additional insightful questions and a complete workbook, which makes the book completely unreadable without a paper and a pen.

It is imperative that you keep this book close by, that you take your time to answer these questions and that you don’t censor yourself. Your answers may not come to you at first but you can always revisit the book.
Be authentic with the world and with yourself and you will never fail.

Favorite quote(s)

When I see people limit themselves, I get angry. I see the potential in people, but they don’t do anything about it. They settle for mediocrity, and they believe they can’t do better.

Living a passionate life doesn’t happen overnight. It’s hard work, and it’s not as glamorous as people make it out to be. However, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go after it. It simply means that it takes more work than you’d expect.

Ratings 4/5

Author

Henri Junttila

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Best Self: Be You, Only Better By Mike Bayer

What is your Best Self?

Your Best Self is unique, positive, evolved and aligned with your truth.

When you are being your best self, you are being your most authentic and at your core.

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1. How to connect with your Best Self?

Connecting with your Best Self takes time and requires patience. To get in touch with your Best Self:

  • Express gratitude frequently to get out of a negative space. Make a gratitude list of everything that puts you in a good mood or elevates you in any kind of way.
  • Embrace change. Everybody can change if they want to, they just have to apply the right motivations.
  • Identify your fears. Once you have identified your fears, put them to the test to see if your assumptions are true, if they are rational, if they help you succeed, or if they serve your best interests.
  • Recognize any signs of egotistical behavior. Once you have acknowledge your behavior, assess the origins of it and get your ego in check.

2. Assessing your Best Self

“SPHERES stands for Social life, Personal life, Health, Education, Relationships, Employment, and Spiritual life”.

The SPHERES tool, create by Mike Bayer, is a screening tool used to assess your Best Self in all areas of your life.

Your social life 

In the SPHERES tool, your social situation determines how well you project your Best Self to the world.

It then becomes imperative to analyze how you interact with people. You can also assess your ability to send clear messages, to listen to others, to embrace human emotions, to handle highly charged situations, to give and receive feedback.

Your personal life

Your personal life contains your self-image, your self-talk, the level of compassion and respect you have for yourself.

To create the personal life that you want, you will have to:

  • Rewire your brain to think positively by challenging your internal dialogue.
  • Get familiar with what you are constantly telling yourself.
  • Identify the messages you tell yourself when you are under pressure.
  • Log your thoughts and your self-talk, identify the common themes and tones.
  • Be compassionate with yourself. Take care of yourself and monitor your stress levels before they snowball. If you take care of yourself, you will definitely be able to take care of others.
  • Connect with your passions. Your passions will vary throughout your life. Your passions will allow you to express yourself, to strengthen your bond with your Best Self and vibrate at a higher frequency. To find your passions, explore new things, challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

Your health

Prioritizing your well-being allows you to be present, keep a clear mind and achieve your Best Self.

Your education

Remaining in a “lifetime learning mode” will help you evolve into your Best Self and become more self-aware.

Once you find your passions, you will take pleasure in acquiring knowledge in that field.

Your relationships

Your relationships reflect who you are as a person.

Your Best Self will gauge who you want to be around, judge the health of a relationship and help you make the tough decisions.

In order to stay connected to your Best Self in all relationships, you must define your core values, exercise them and identify the people who live up to them.

Your employment

We spend most of our days at work.

So, when we are not able to fully be ourselves, our work life tends to become draining.

It somehow becomes important to nurture our Best Selves at work or create a career path that allows us to maximize our potential at work.

Review

In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer encourages people to be their Best Self.

In addition, Mike Bayer shares tips and tools to help you achieve your Best Self. He helps you make a diagnostic of all the aspects of your life and provides practical solutions to your problems.

Furthermore, Best Self: Be You, Only Better is a workbook that teaches you how to fix what’s inside to fix outside. It is on point when it comes to assessing people’s behavior and can conveniently be revisited several time in your life.

Best Self: Be You, Only Better is ideal for leaders who want to improve their leadership skills and bring their best selves at work. It becomes clear that if you are your best self, you can create the best teams, take care of others and create the best organization.

With this workbook:

  • Get in touch with your Best Self.
  • Reach your highest potential.
  • Find more balance in your life.
  • Evolve, change, reinvent yourself and improve your life.
  • Learn to handle adversity and crisis.
  • Discover your truth and your purpose.

Let me know below what you think about this book!

Favorite quote(s)

Many of society’s “rules” simply don’t apply to us as individuals, and if we spend all our energy on trying to be, do, say, and act like society wants us to, we are simply wasting time we could be spending on discovering and connecting with our Best Self.

Self-care is foundational to living your ideal life.

Ratings 4/5

Author

Mike Bayer

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Examining the Other Side & What to Do About It: 3 Best Apps to Use When Leadership Takes its Toll Mentally

Leadership is generally regarded as a positive trait…

Leaders are important in all aspects of our society as they help to motivate and direct people. Most of the information that you’ll find online about leadership sets a similar tone: that leadership is a positive and desirable trait that one should aspire to.

However, what many of these articles fail to discuss is the darker side of leadership. Being a
leader can be mentally draining and can cause a number of difficulties for those who have taken on a leadership role.

These challenges are often underrepresented. It’s important to be aware of these difficulties so
that you can prepare for a leadership role if you’re planning to take one on.

Awareness is the first step towards sound mental health.

At the end of the article we’ll also provide some information about some of the best apps and
tools that you can use if you find that leadership is starting to take a toll on you.

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Challenges With Leadership

Being a leader can be tremendously rewarding.

Still, leadership also comes with a number of challenges. Some of these challenges can be tough to cope with, but all of them can be surmounted.

Here are a few examples of leadership challenges and what you can do to manage them.

Constant Pressure

Leaders are almost always under a great deal of pressure.

Whether these are leaders in the workplace, activists, or leaders in a military campaign, all leaders are generally being put under a huge amount of pressure.

Rather than just being accountable for themselves, they are accountable for all those who look to them for leadership.

They constantly feel pressured to make the right choices and decisions to avoid creating problems for themselves and others.

Motivation

A leader must always remain motivated.

Should their motivation falter, then the motivation of their entire team will falter.

This can create additional pressure and can also lead to leadership burnout which we’ll discuss in more detail later.

Humility

As a leader, it can be very hard to remain humble.

If you become too prideful or gloating with your leadership, then you stand to lose followers or elicit problems among those who you are trying to lead.

Leadership Burnout

Anyone who works hard — whether it’s at the office, as a part of your family, or as someone
building a life — is vulnerable to burnout.

Leaders are no exception to this rule, and in fact, leaders may be even more vulnerable to burnout than others.

Leaders are constantly under pressure and forced to remain motivated even amidst dire
circumstances. This can put constant strain on their adrenaline system which can lead to
burnout.

Leaders must also remain vigilant and composed even in times of chaos and disorder,
which can take a serious psychological toll.

Signs of Leadership Burnout

Here are a few signs of leadership burnout:

  • Having a hard time getting up and going to work.
  • Feeling incredibly exhausted and fatigued beyond what would be considered normal for
    missing a few hours of sleep.
  • Changes in mental health, experiencing frequent changes in mood, irritability, or other
    abrupt or difficult feelings that are hard to manage.

Causes of Leadership Burnout

Leadership burnout can result from any sort of experience that one must lead.

However, certain things can aggravate the speed at which one burns out:

  • Having an improper schedule, or a schedule that is constantly compromised.
  • Not getting enough physical or mental rest.
  • Meeting constant resistance when trying to achieve your goals, difficulties with the
    people that you’re leading.
  • Not taking care of yourself mentally (allowing yourself to ruminate, worry, and overthink).

Best Apps & Tools for Improving Mental Health for Leaders

If you’re struggling with your mental health as a leader, fear not!

There are some apps and tools that can help you bounce back:

  • Monday is an app that allows leaders to quickly check out the status of projects and
    contact other team members involved. You’ll have easy access to all the available
    information and people working on the projects.
  • MapMyFitness is an app that helps busy people maintain a good physical exercise
    routine. Regular exercise helps to reduce stress and anxiety and can help you stay
    composed.
  • Headspace is an app designed to help bring meditation to everyday people, including
    professionals. Meditation is one of the best ways to help you manage your stress levels
    so that your leadership role doesn’t get out of hand.

Nobody said leadership was easy and not everyone knows how common and serious leadership burnout can be.

Fortunately, there are a number of apps that can be useful for helping people bounce back after they’ve burned out!

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The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz gathers four “agreements” to live by to ensure a better lifestyle, a deeper understanding of life, a life in the moment.

What is an agreement?

The four agreements come from the Toltec teachings of wisdom. The goal of this book is to make each agreement a habit.

An agreement is:

  • a programming of the mind.
  • a language, a code that helps us understand each other.
  • a belief system that has domesticated us.

It represents the rules that we abide to, that we pass down from generation to generation.

Unfortunately, we have not chosen the agreements that we live by. Most of the time, they have been chosen for us and have existed longer than we have.

The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz

The First Agreement

The first agreement is to be “impeccable with your words“. This means that you must be careful of not using words against yourself and others.

Indeed, there is power in the words that you use. Matter of fact, it is the most powerful tool at your disposal. 

You can use your words to create beauty or to wreak havoc.

“What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word”.

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Purpose of the agreement

Being “impeccable with your words” helps you suppress any toxicity from your mind, free your mind from fear and doubt, and filter out negativity.

Implementing the agreement

Furthermore, words grow and take root in your mind if you are not careful. So:

  • Be true to yourself.
  • Be careful of the words that you use on yourself.
  • Do not speak against yourself.
  • Avoid gossiping and don’t believe gossip.
  • Accept and love yourself so you can demonstrate love and acceptance toward others.

The Second Agreement

The second agreement is to not “take anything personally”.

Often times, people are preoccupied with their own beliefs, feelings and opinions about themselves that they take out on others.

Even if they insult you directly, it is wise not to take their insult personally.

Purpose of the agreement

This agreement is necessary to avoid burdening yourself with people’s problem, setting “yourself up to suffer for nothing”.

Acquiring this habit will help you free yourself, keep your heart open, see people for who they really are, and be unaffected by fear.

Implementing the agreement

Understand that:

  • All opinions about you are not necessarily true.
  • Opinions about you depends on the person and on their moods.
  • We can choose what to believe and what to agree with.
  • You must trust yourself and don’t need to trust anyone else.

The Third Agreement

The third agreement consists in not making assumptions.

Undeniably, assumptions are not the truth and breeds problems.

Purpose of the agreement

The third agreement will help you build better relationships and increase your communication skills.

Implementing the agreement

To properly implement this agreement:

  • Ask for clarifications rather than making assumptions.
  • Remember that it is OK to ask questions.
  • Collect the right data about people and situations first.
  • Don’t assume that people can read your mind.
  • Ask for what you want, expect yes or no. Understand that you can say yes or no as well.

The Fourth Agreement

This fourth agreement encourages you to always “do you best” and consolidates all previous three agreements.

Purpose of the agreement

Forming the habit of always doing your best will:

  • Save you from harsh self-judgement.
  • Increase your production.
  • Mature your self-love.

Implementing the agreement

Keep in mind that:

  • Your best will fluctuate all the time. It will depend on your mood, on your energy level, on your health and on your situation.
  • You must take action without expecting any rewards. This way, you will be able to enjoy your actions better.

Review

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz provides a very powerful perspective on life. It encourages self-transformation, self-awareness, self acceptance, and the understanding of others.

I found out briefly that The Four Agreements, yet short, is thoughtful and goes straight to the point. It calls out society’s hypocrisy, fear and domestication.

Everyone I know who have read this book has felt elevated. It was therefore hard to resist reading it and I have to say that I did not regret it.

As you read, you will find that you already had the knowledge and the wisdom within you but have been holding it back. You will learn to trust yourself and set yourself free.

Favorite quote(s)

The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life.

Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally.

Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.

All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally.

Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life. Inaction is sitting in front of the television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you are.

Ratings 4.5/5

Author

Don Miguel Ruiz

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7 Tips To Successfully Manage A Healthy Work-Life Balance

Work is an integral part of life: we spend most of our waking hours at work more than anything else.

Lack of work-life balance has direct repercussions on our health, finances and families, creates fatigue, poor judgement, and poor performance.

Creating work-life balance means that you are satisfied with your contributions to your life and work, that you are able to create a sustainable synergy between both, and that you are fueled by them on a daily basis.

Wondering what you can do to create a healthy work-life balance?

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1. Take care of yourself

In order to manage a healthy work life balance, you have to put yourself first, value your health and well-being, and boost your leadership self-esteem from time to time.

It is cliché but it is true: when you fly on airplane, you must put your mask on first before assisting others.

2. Be clear about your purpose

A healthy work-life balance can be motivated by life changing events or by a desire to do better.

It helps to identify the reasons why you are working, and to establish a personal mission statement.

Then, you can set specific goals for yourself to increase motivation, to build up confidence and to stay focused.

3. Assess your strengths and weaknesses

Assessing your strengths and weaknesses is a great way to figure out where and how to apply them, to know when and how to say no and to get the most out of your work day.

If your aren’t applying your strengths and interests at work, find areas outside of work to do so.

4. Be mindful of your core habits

Implementing a successful work-life balance can be overwhelming at first but it makes sense in the long run.

You can start by:

  • Challenging your core habits and deal with change one at a time.
  • Prioritizing what matters most, avoid multitasking, pay attention to the vital few, keep your life simple and don’t be afraid of missing out.
  • Being more disciplined. In order to make your life worthwhile, avoid distractions. This means that you have to shut down your phones, your television and avoid checking your emails outside of work.

5. Get rid of stressors and useless activities

Some activities are useless when they don’t align with your values and principles.

Others create more stress than expected or wanted.

It becomes detrimental to identify these stressors, the things that fulfill you the most and those that don’t. What activities engage you the most?

6. Manage your time effectively

A healthy work-life balance involves wise time management, self-discipline, and creates a better quantity to quality ratio.

If you are allowed flexible hours or remote working, put the power of internet to good use and work from home.

Employees working from home are more productive, have reduced commuting time, have less stress, are not constantly bothered by events in the office.

Remote working also allows the organization to save money on energy consumption and office space.

7. Learn to fully disconnect

During the day, clear out at least one hour to relax and empty out your mind through meditation or by exercising.

After work, learn to disconnect, leave work for the workplace and concentrate on your family and friends when you are with them.

Dedicate more hours to sleep. Sleep is a cure for many diseases. It helps to eliminate bad toxins, to increase your focus and your job performance.

Furthermore, promote well-being in the workplace and take vacations.

Last Words Of Advice!

Finally, give yourself the space and the time to explore new things and to see what works for you.

 

Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!

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