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4 Proven Strategies Leaders Use To Overcome Fear
Leaders often have to make tough calls, take huge risks and face their deepest fears on a daily basis.
Fear has been infused into us since childhood, is often employed as an employee management tool, and guarantees a unique and universal experience at the same time.
Indeed, the same fear can manifest itself differently, can be based on different experiences and interpretations of events.
The truth is fear can be a friend or an enemy, can have a positive or negative impact, can be a motivator or an hindrance.
It all depends on your understanding of your emotions, of fear itself and your level of self-control.
Wondering what are the best strategies to overcome your fears?
Most of the time, fear is standing right in front of our personal goals.
Hopefully, to every problem there is a solution.
Below are 4 proven strategies leaders use to overcome their fears.
1. Leaders identify their fears
Before overcoming your fears, you first have to identify them.
When you do identify them, it is time to write them down.
If you are unable to identify them, try journaling and describing on paper the situation that is bringing you fear to see if you can uncover a pattern or try asking the people closest to you.
Furthermore, journaling is a great way to acknowledge experiences, detach yourself from the fearful situation, log your thoughts during challenges, and to label your emotions.
2. Leaders get in touch with their inner self
Most people spend their entire life being completely disconnected with their inner self, without getting to know who they truly are and without achieving their life’s purpose.
That is how some many fears remain hidden and and it becomes necessary to get in touch with your inner self to overcome them.
Through exercise, meditation, visualization and deep breathing techniques, you can unclutter your mind and access your intuition.
3. Leaders upgrade their mindset
During difficult and fear inducing situations, it becomes detrimental to analyze your thoughts and feelings.
When you catch yourself thinking negatively, it helps to stop that thought, rewire your brain and replace that thought with a positive one.
After a while, you will come to understand yourself, fear and all its intricacies.
4. Leaders directly confront their fears
The best way to overcome your fears is to face them head on. Avoiding them might only increase your anxieties and your fears.
Once you face them, you will realize that there wasn’t really much to be afraid of.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You… Click To Tweet
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Once you have identified your fears and the triggers associated to them, you will have more control over yourself, see the situation clearly and understand that these feelings often times don’t make sense.
Control your fears before they control you!
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Quote Of The Week #260
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Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway By Susan Jeffers
Everybody is susceptible to experiencing fear at some point in their life…
Some fears are critical to your survival.
Others hinder your success in life.
Some people consider the feelings of fear as a signal to distance themselves from a situation and others as a sign to keep going.
Some people are paralyzed by their fear and others manage to get things done despite their fears.
Which means that fear in itself is not the real problem.
The real problem resides in the way you manage it.
Pushing Past Fear
There are major benefits to pushing past your fears. You will be able to:
- Let go of a negative mindset.
- Surpass mistakes and bad decisions.
- Boost your self-esteem and become more assertive.
- Find your purpose and achieve your goals.
- Take back control of your life and take action.
The Truth About Fear
Behind every fear, there is the belief that you don’t have the abilities to handle whatever life throws your way.
However, your skills can always be developed.
That means that you won’t need to run away from your fears or work hard at getting rid of them.
That also means that in order to diminish your fears, you will have to developed the abilities to handle whatever life throws at you.
How Do You Manage Fear?
As long as you live and continue to grow as a person, fear can never be totally eradicated.
There are a few steps you can take to better manage your feelings.
1. Connect with your Higher Self
Get in touch with your Higher Self and tap into your intuition.
2. Say Yes
Saying Yes consists in going with the flow and accepting what Life has to offer.
It is an effective coping mechanism an antidote for fear.
3. Take action
People who live in fear feel more helpless than those who actually push through and take risks.
It becomes detrimental to identify your goals and motives to get unstuck.
4. Mind your self-talk
To begin to shift your mindset and to empower yourself, you must monitor the words that you use and the way you address yourself.
You may want to discipline your self-talk and use the power of positive affirmations.
5. Avoid playing the victim
Playing the victim signifies that you have no control over your life, that you have given your power away to someone or something else, and have progressively become paralyzed in your ability to deal with your fears.
In reality, you are the one who chooses the way you feel or act in any given situation.
6. Reclaim your power
Reclaiming your power entails being aware of any disempowering behavior and taking responsibility for your life.
Reclaiming your power means avoiding blaming yourself, blaming your past, present and future, or any other external factors for your life experiences.
Reclaiming your power is understanding that everything you experience is part of your journey.
Review
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway is a comforting book as Susan Jeffers exposes fear as a learned human condition that can be unlearned.
Furthermore, Susan Jeffers shares powerful and practical tools to fight and overcome fear.
She continually reminds us to take it easy on ourselves and that our good and bad decisions are part of our journey.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway shows us how to get the life we truly want, how to face new life situations and adapt to change.
The truth is everyone experiences fear, especially when they are in unfamiliar territory.
The trick consists in feeling the fear… And doing whatever it takes anyway…
Favorite quote(s)
The “doing it” comes before the feeling better about yourself. When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a big bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence.
We can’t escape fear. We can only transform it into a companion that accompanies us in all our exciting adventures; it is not an anchor holding us transfixed in one spot.
A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet. She is so filled with positive energy that people want to be around her.
There is absolutely no need to be upset with your past, present, or future behavior. It is all simply part of the learning process[…].
Ratings 3/5
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Susan Jeffers
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Start.: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average, and Do Work That Matters By Jon Acuff
In life, we must always take a step back and ask ourselves the following question: “Where am I?“.
Everybody successful person who has accomplished something in life went through the following 5 stages in life: Learning, Editing, Mastering, Harvesting and Guiding.
Most people don’t follow these 5 stages and instead choose the Average Path. Why?
Because the Average Path is comfortable and effortless. People who go down the average path are just existing and don’t make decisions.
How to get away from the Average Path?
To get away from the Average Path, you just need to Start no matter how old you are.
In reality, the way you Start your journey in 100% in your control. You are sure of your Start but you will not know how it will end.
To have a good Start, you must first be realistic about your current situation and your goals in life.
You have to be focused and work hard on your Start.
You must also recover a childlike perception of yourself all while using the tools you have gained as an adult.
Do I Need To Know My Purpose To Start?
You don’t need to figure out your purpose to Start.
You don’t need to determine the end results before taking your first step because doing so puts too much pressure on you.
Furthermore, you will not want to do anything and will not want to fix your life before finding it.
The truth is you don’t need to find your purpose but just do everything with purpose. You can start anything you want without a purpose.
What Happens When I Start?
When you start going after the things you want, fear will show its ugly face.
It will make you question your self-worth and make your journey more torturous.
It will make you think that it’s too late and that you are behind in schedule.
It will tell you that everything needs to be perfect.
You honestly have to find a way to deal with your fears.
You have to live your life without regrets.
The Learning Stage
At this stage, you are in your 20’s.
You are still testing the waters and trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life.
The Editing Stage
In your 30’s, you start looking back at your 20’s.
You select what matters most to you and going after what worked for you in the past.
You start focusing on your career and relationships.
To edit your life, value what you have, search for your passions, find out what brings you the most joy and what activities align most with who you are at your core.
You don’t have to wait for outside to live the life you really want to live.
You don’t have to stay places where you grow as a person or where you have no passion for.
The Mastering Stage
In your 40’s, you mastered every thing that is important to you.
You are more self-assured and are certain about where you are going.
To master your life, you have to put in the hours and hone your craft by volunteering, taking up part time jobs and participating in hobbies that bring you closer to your goals.
In mastering your life, you will face many obstacles and challenges.
The Harvesting Stage
In your 50’s, you reap what you have sowed in your 30’s and 40’s.
In this stage, it is wise to:
- Treat people right
- Not get complacent or lazy
- Treat your accomplishments as rewards and not reasons for what you do.
The Guiding Stage
At this stage, your are in your 60’s.
You are retired and enjoying the fruits of your labor.
You start mentoring, helping people on their journey and start giving back to your community.
But once you are in this stage, you have to return to the Learning Stage and start all over again. To guide people, you must ask people questions and listen to their stories.
Then, you can tie your guiding experiences to something you were always interested in.
Review
Start.: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average, and Do Work That Matters by Jon Acuff is a funny book with great life lessons.
The principles behind the Start.: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average, and Do Work That Matters are very similar to those in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
Jon Acuff‘s examples and introspective comments are hilarious but also liberating. He shares his strengths, his weaknesses and doesn’t take himself too seriously.
I truly recommend this book because it provides comfort and encouragement. In addition, at the end of the book, Jon Acuff shares a practical step by step guide for you to overcome fear and escape average.
Let me know below what you think about this book!
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the surprises life gives are always better than the things you think you see coming.
Average is so popular because average is familiar. We all know how to do average. Ninetynine percent of the people on the planet do average. The road is well worn, the decisions are obvious, and the next steps are crystal clear.
Every journey has a first step. Every dream has a first destination.
No matter what fear and doubt tell you, your identity is not at stake with the decisions you make and the actions you take as you learn.
Don’t buy the lie that changing the world has to be a chore or make you miserable. Be brave enough to have fun with whatever you whittle down in your life.
Ratings 4/5
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The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone
The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is a guide to set goals, reach and retain success in any area of your life.
The 10X Rule will help you to define your version of success and to repetitively create extraordinary levels of success.
What is the 10X Rule?
The 10X Rule is achieving success by putting in 10 times the effort and the action that the average person would.
The 10X Rule means acting towards your goals with 10 times the right mindset.
Why is the 10X Rule vital?
Estimating the right amount of effort and time to invest in your goals will help you reach your target without moving the finish line.
Furthermore, multiplying your effort by 10 will allow you to predict issues and to be prepared.
By using the 10X Rule, you will be able to:
- Stick to your guns and not be distracted.
- Define your own version of success.
- Make a plan for your life.
- Filter out goals that have been imposed on you.
- Set your own limits and aim for the impossible.
- Set a positive and sustainable mindset.
- Implement your own system of belief.
- Properly estimate your abilities.
- Tap into your full potential.
- Work without it feeling like work.
How to achieve higher levels of success?
Success is having a purposeful life and its realization is your responsibility.
In addition, success is important for your personal growth, for your sense of self and for your well-being.
Success depends on your stage in life and shouldn’t be minimized.
Success is not a popularity contest. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet
To achieve higher levels of success:
1. Do not play the victim or make excuses
It is detrimental to take responsibility for your actions, to find solutions, take action and gain more control of your life.
2. Relinquish control
In life and at work, you will not control everything. However, you can control how you respond to everything.
3. Be the solution
Understand that you can be the solution and the problem to your situation, at the same time.
4. Do not try to be average
Being average and facing average difficulties will not lead you to success.
People who operate on the average level tend to try to overestimate results, underestimate difficulties, steal success from those who operate at the 10X level.
5. Do not rest on your laurels
Resting on your laurels is the surest way to get overpowered and to lose sight of your goals.
6. Set your goals
Goal-setting plays an important part in your success.
- Set your goals high enough so you do not fail, so you resist adversity and maintain your enthusiasm.
- Speak your goals into reality on a daily basis.
- Align your goals with your purpose.
- Clearly define your goals.
- Verify that your goals are equal to your potential.
- Understand that your goals are personal.
7. Avoid competing with others
When you compete with others, you spend more time watching what someone else is doing rather than creating and setting the pace.
It becomes critical to find your niche, dominate your field and do what others are not willing to do.
8. Be mindful of the company you keep
The people you associate with determine your level of success.
Before joining a group, analyze the pros and the cons of belonging to this group.
9. Get obsessed over success
Obsession is not all negative. Obsession can be converted into action and can be conveyed.
Being obsessed will push you to make things work.
Get obsessed over success.
Get obsessed over every possibilities and every action that will take you towards your goals.
10. Go all in
Going all in means fully committing to your goals and possibly over-delivering.
No matter what, understand that:
- It is OK put all your eggs in one basket and to over-commit.
- You can and will fail as many times as you will and can succeed.
11. Embrace fear
Take fear as a sign to keep doing what you actually fear and to keep applying the 10X rule because:
- Fear means that you are growing.
- Fear means you are doing something uncomfortable.
- Your moment is now. There isn’t a good time to take action.
12. Value your time
Time is of the essence. To achieve success: manage your time effectively, maximize your time, set your priorities, create a healthy work-life balance.
13. Do not be afraid of criticism
Criticism means that you are on your way to success when you start taking action.
The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity. - Grant Cardone, in The 10X Rule Click To Tweet
Review
The 10X Rule By Grant Cardone is an inspirational and motivational book, written for leaders, entrepreneurs and anyone who wishes to be successful.
It forces you to reevaluate your goals, your purpose and your definition of success.
It encourages you to take risks, “act, produce and create in massive quantities regardless of the situation or circumstances.”
It demonstrates how to be and stay the leader in any field. The 10X Rule focuses on your character, your mindset and your goal-setting skills.
Most of the time, we struggle to reach our goals and don’t understand why. But, Grant Cardone makes it very clear that:
- You must be self-aware and self-assured.
- You are the only one that stands in front of your goals.
- Success depends integrally on the effort, time and energy that you put in.
- Most of what society claims to be wrong is an inherent part of success.
To Grant Cardone success is a mindset and is determined by your purpose.
The 10X Rule is not a get rich quick trick. Remember:
- All goals are difficult to achieve.
- You will always face some type of adversity.
- You must assess your abilities and your resources.
- Your goals must be extraordinary, appropriate and require motivation.
- Success must be constantly maintained.
- You current state doesn’t matter.
- The way you are perceived doesn’t matter.
Let me know below what you think about this book!
Favorite quote(s)
When you have underestimated the time, energy, and effort necessary to do something, you will have “quit” in your mind, voice, posture, face, and presentation. You won’t develop the persistence necessary to get your mission accomplished.
Never take the position that things just happen to you; rather, they happen because of something you did or did not do.
Until a person is done being a victim, he or she is unable to create solutions and success. That person only has problems.
The most valuable chips you have are your mind-set, actions, persistence, and creativity.
If you are not creating new problems for yourself, then you aren’t taking enough action.
Success is not a popularity contest.
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