Success is something everyone strives for and understandably so.
Often, we have seen people go above and beyond to get what they want, but somehow they end up getting nothing, at least what was aimed at.
In this article, we will look into some of the reasons why they don’t get what they have in mind. We will also be discussing at length at what point they are going wrong.
What exactly is stopping them from reaching greater heights?
Below are the reasons why you are not achieving success and the key to self-awareness.
Being lackadaisical towards your goal will never get you to your goal.
A goal should be thoroughly worked upon and you must have an enthusiastic mindset when working on it.
Indeed, being more than casual about it may harm the probability of success.
In addition, procrastination will become a slow poison.
Many people run after every possible field, hoping to secure a position in one of these fields.
However, chasing multiple things simultaneously linked with your interests will only make things worse for you instead of getting you closer to your dreams.
Instead of going after literally every other stream — which is the problem with most people, it becomes important to set your heart on the thing that interests you the most.
Furthermore, people end up following the crowd and somehow don’t realize that they will work more diligently if their goal is in their interest and of their best interest.
Without having things laid out vividly in your mind, planning things out and then working on them accordingly, you won’t be able to achieve anything.
One of the reasons why you are not succeeding is due to the fact that things getting muddled up in your mind.
This way, you’ll have everything right in front of your eyes and you would know how you can go about it.
Even if you are indulging yourself in something that doesn’t require any planning or execution, trusting yourself will play a major role.
Nothing can be accomplished if you don’t have faith in yourself.
Once you have the mindset that “Yes, I can become so and so because I trust myself that I can do it,” you’ll move a step closer to your dream.
It’s quite OK if you have a fear of failure. You must understand what is the cause of atychiphobia and overcome it.
Another reason that pulls you back from your goal is having a doubtful approach to everything: being dubious about your set goals but also having some nagging doubts about yourself.
If you are constantly in doubt whether the field you have chosen is right for you or not, whether you will be able to push yourself that high or not, all these doubts contribute to you not getting anywhere around your goals.
By now, you must have already figured out how being dubious and not having faith in yourself are closely linked.
No matter how hard you are on yourself, if the set goals aren’t meant to be, they just won’t happen.
Part of the reason behind your unsuccessful attempts is you knocking yourself out and not giving yourself enough rest that your mind and body require.
Your subconscious is stronger than any obstacles but you must learn how to calibrate your subconscious.
This deserves to have a whole point dedicated to it.
One of the major reasons why you constantly fail is making excuses.
Blaming others for your failure and not getting an inch closer to your goal need to be dropped out of your habits.
“Excuses will always be there for you. Opportunity won’t.”
Another reason your goal isn’t achieved could be your unwillingness to get out of your comfort zone.
Dreams require efforts, risks, and adapting to an environment that doesn’t suit your taste.
One just cannot achieve something while being in their comfort zone and letting the zone expand beyond their goals.
These were some of the reasons that could be stopping you from moving closer to your goals.
Now one thing that might cross your mind is how you can go about your goals and rule out the possibility of failure even though one can never obviate the chances of failure.
Here are 3 apps to achieve your goals and overcome your fear of failure.
Let’s check them out briefly.
MindMeister helps to create a mind map which links your thought process, to-do list and goals. It also helps you to get ahead in life with a do-able road map.
Beeminder is a beautiful goal setting app that virtually connects your budget with your goal and track it to guide you towards a success mindset.
Motivation can really push you towards success.
Unfortunately, motivation has a shelf-life. So, we need to recharge it daily.
This app will send you brilliant motivational quotes around the world.
All these apps play an important role to co-relate your mind and goal so that your energy doesn’t divert.
Overcoming obstacles and standing tall in adversity are a learned behavior.
To turn your trials into triumphs, you must:
Your perception has power over you and your decisions.
Building up your perception takes time and a lot of practice.
You must discipline your emotions and objectively perceive your world for what it is and not for how it wants to be seen in order to :
Your mind is a powerful tool. To actively change your perception:
After you have corrected your perception, it is time to learn how to act it out.
Each and every one of your actions must serve a purpose.
To act towards your goals with your new perception:
Your will power is something that can never be taken from you.
Maintaining it requires a deep understanding of life.
To increase your will power:
The Obstacle is the Way : The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph is a motivational book that encourages people to withstand adversity and to take action despite adversity. Ryan Holiday shares a philosophical approach, rooted in stoicism, that will help you confront obstacles and turn them upside down.
The Obstacle is the Way : The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph is destined for leaders and entrepreneurs who:
Holiday‘s entire book is based on classical references, historical figures and war leaders, who have distinguished themselves in life and who have adopted stoicism as a life strategy.
Finally, Ryan Holiday also incorporates reputable leaders and entrepreneurs as examples of resilience and will power. If you want to stay motivated and push through your challenges, this book is for you.
Our perceptions can be a source of strength or of great weakness. If we are emotional, subjective and shortsighted, we only add to our troubles.
Obstacles make us emotional, but the only way we’ll survive or overcome them is by keeping those emotions in check—if we can keep steady no matter what happens, no matter how much external events may fluctuate.
Focusing exclusively on what is in our power magnifies and enhances our power.
But every ounce of energy directed at things we can’t actually influence is wasted—self-indulgent and self-destructive. So much power—ours, and other people’s—is frittered away in this manner.
If you mean it when you say you’re at the end of your rope and would rather quit, you actually have a unique chance to grow and improve yourself. A unique opportunity to experiment with different solutions, to try different tactics, or to take on new projects to add to your skill set.
Leadership requires determination and energy. And certain situations, at times, call on leaders to marshal that determined energy simply to endure.
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Leaders often have to make tough calls, take huge risks and face their deepest fears on a daily basis.
Fear has been infused into us since childhood, is often employed as an employee management tool, and guarantees a unique and universal experience at the same time.
Indeed, the same fear can manifest itself differently, can be based on different experiences and interpretations of events.
The truth is fear can be a friend or an enemy, can have a positive or negative impact, can be a motivator or an hindrance. It all depends on your understanding of your emotions, of fear itself and your level of self-control.
Most of the time, fear is standing right in front of our personal goals.
Hopefully, to every problem there is a solution.
Below are 4 proven strategies leaders use to overcome their fears.
Before overcoming your fears, you first have to identify them.
When you do identify them, it is time to write them down.
If you are unable to identify them, try journaling and describing on paper the situation that is bringing you fear to see if you can uncover a pattern or try asking the people closest to you.
Furthermore, journaling is a great way to acknowledge experiences, detach yourself from the fearful situation, log your thoughts during challenges, and to label your emotions.
Most people spend their entire life being completely disconnected with their inner self, without getting to know who they truly are and without achieving their life’s purpose.
That is how some many fears remain hidden and and it becomes necessary to get in touch with your inner self to overcome them.
Through exercise, meditation, visualization and deep breathing techniques, you can unclutter your mind and access your intuition.
During difficult and fear inducing situations, it becomes detrimental to analyze your thoughts and feelings.
When you catch yourself thinking negatively, it helps to stop that thought, rewire your brain and replace that thought with a positive one.
After a while, you will come to understand yourself, fear and all its intricacies.
The best way to overcome your fears is to face them head on. Avoiding them might only increase your anxieties and your fears.
Once you face them, you will realize that there wasn’t really much to be afraid of.
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Once you have identified your fears and the triggers associated to them, you will have more control over yourself, see the situation clearly and understand that these feelings often times don’t make sense.
Control your fears before they control you!
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Congratulations! Your hard work has been noticed, you have been promotef and you have been rewarded with the position youq have been coveting (or not).
Now, it’s time to get to work because with your new role comes new responsibilities and with these new responsibilities come new people, new concepts, new ideas and also new opportunities for mistakes…
A new leader who goes and checks in with the team is relatable, creates a bond and a sense of security.
Even if he or she has nothing special to say, expressing the basic requirements to the team is a good start.
It is quite normal to lack confidence when you first start out.
However, it is unhealthy and unproductive to openly and inwardly nurture an imposter syndrom for long periods of time.
After a while, your team will surely pick up on it and will start to question your leadership.
So, stop doubting yourself and take confidence in your leadership.
Befriend an employee or discipline a friend? That is the question…
Most new leaders, especially if they are unexpectedly thrown into a leadership position, have a hard time determining their leadership style.
It’s all about understanding your team members, learning to delegate, keeping your role and responsibilities in mind, finding the right balance between relatable, approachable and authoritative.
Some people are quiet, others are loud.
Some introverted and others extroverted.
Some are all over the place and others don’t require discipline.
Some rather competition and others choose collaboration.
Some enjoy confrontation, some a conversation and others avoid conflict altogether.
Some are just somewhere in that spectrum.
The point is that not everyone is the same or require the same treatment. Therefore, the same leadership style cannot be used with everyone all the time.
That new found power can be elating to new leaders.
It will have them thinking that they can treat people anyway they want to or do whatever they please.
Someone else was in line for the job but you got it and it’s now an opportunity to belittle them?
There is no need to play or keep playing dirty because you have already made it and tomorrow is never guaranteed.
There are people on your team that you don’t like and you want to demonstrate your dislike and your authority?
They may technically be worked for you but the truth is that you are working for them.
If you abuse your power, everyone around you will lose respect for you and your behavior will slowly degrade productivity and team performance.
Your responsibilities have changed or have increased?
It can be tempting and reassuring to want to handle every single details and to maintain your old activities in addition to your new ones.
It’s now time to accept the change, to fully take on your new role and to learn how to delegate.
Whether it’s bad talking the person who previously held your position or critiquing the way things were done before you were here, critiquing tend to leave a bad taste in the mouth of your new team.
There is nothing wrong with wanting change and reorganizing things to your liking but you can do this without degrading your predecessors.
Because of their fear of appearing incompetent, new leaders don’t clarify objectives, speak when they should really be listening, take credit for other’s ideas and don’t ask questions to higher ups.
Before fully jumping in your new role and responsibilities, take a few moments to observe your new environment, comprehend the company culture and understand the people you will be working with.
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