Though people have to be financially responsible, they give themselves the opportunity to explore and to search for a job that will make them happy.
Needless to say, quitting your job is a big decision, an exciting yet scary endeavor.
On one hand, we remember that we have to survive and pay the bills. On the other hand, we no longer have to put up with bad decisions, poor workmanship and slow processes.
Wondering how to recognize when it’s time to quit your job and how to effectively develop an exit strategy?
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15 Signs It’s Time To Quit
Sometimes, we are in way over our heads, other times we just want to collect that paycheck and nothing else. It becomes hard to notice the signs that it’s time to quit.
You know it’s time to quit when:
#1. You Desperately Look For Reasons To Quit
Your job has become a problem and is weighing heavy on your shoulder. You feel it in your bones and your desire to quit roams your brain all day.
At this point, anything would justify your desire to quit.
If you don’t get your morning coffee, then it’s time to quit.
If your train runs late, then it’s time to quit.
If there is too much traffic today, then it’s definitely time to quit.
#2. You Believe The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side
You are low-key envious of people who quit their job and who start their own business ventures.
#3. You Are Burnt Out
When it’s time to quit, your intuition will usually let you know in advance that something is wrong.
If you don’t pay attention to your intuition, your mind ill start to go in overdrive.
Finally, your body will suffer the repercussion.
You are burnt out if:
- You are doing your best on the job but your best doesn’t seem to be enough.
- You don’t have the energy or the time to do your work.
- Your physical health suffers. working out doesn’t help anymore and you have probably put on weight.
- You don’t pay attention to your personal grooming.
#4. You Require A Better Work Life Balance
You bring your job home and incessantly complain about it.
You don’t take care of yourself or your family.
You believe that you deserve a better work-life balance.
#5. You Are Depressed Every Sunday Night
Sunday nights are extremely depressing because you remember your past week and because you dread Monday mornings.
#6. You Are Underperforming
You are underperforming and are making too many mistakes on things that you used to be good at.
You have been unable to reach deadlines, to defend your progress and perspectives.
You constantly look for distraction from your work environment whether you are on or off the job.
Furthermore, you don’t care about your workplace performance, your reputation, your well-being, the opinion of your coworkers, and the respect for our boss is gone.
#7. You Are Undervalued And Underutilized
You feel underappreciated and are bored to death.
You have no voice within the organization.
You don’t feel like your strengths and weaknesses are being adequately used.
#8. You Take Too Many Breaks
You have been absent and keep taking more absence leaves that you used to.
Basically, you cannot wait for the day to end.
You plan your breaks, your lunches and your vacations before you even start your workday. You obsess about your vacations and your mental health depends on them.
You go to the bathroom too often and take too many calls out of your office.
#9. You Just Don’t Fit In
Working gives us the means to survive and is quasi inevitable.
You need more freedom to express yourself and the company culture does not allow your form of expression.
#10. Your Job Does Not Align With Your Life Purpose
You spent time studying for a degree, graduated and your college degree doesn’t match your job description.
In addition, you don’t understand your task, get no satisfaction from doing your job and you start questioning the purpose of your job.
#11. You Cannot Project Yourself In The Future
There are no growth opportunities to evolve, to move towards a new position, to learn new skills.
You cannot project yourself in the future because you have other plans for your future, your leadership vision is not being executed, your life is changing but your salary isn’t, your colleagues are getting better paid than you do or because you have been passed up for promotion too many times.
#12. Your Social Life Is Affected
Your social life is stunted and your relationships are strained.
You don’t want to bring up work with your friends and family.
Conversations about work with people you enjoy depress you, project you in negative thoughts and negative emotions overwhelm you.
You are not a complainer but you start complaining NON STOP about your job. You bring up the subject with whomever even when it doesn’t matter.
#13. The Ethics On Your Job Are Questionable
You work in a toxic environment:
- Your higher-ups and your organization generally lack ethics.
- Your core leadership values don’t align with those of your organization.
- You experience an emotional rollercoaster daily.
- You are perpetually in fight or flight mode. You are either looking for conflict or hiding from everyone and everything.
- You are being bullied, your self-esteem is continually being attacked and your ethics are daily challenged.
- You suddenly cannot stand your colleagues and find faults in everything that they do.
#14. Your Leader Is Out Of Control
Employees don’t leave a job, they leave bad bosses.
You don’t admire or respect your leaders. You don’t ask them for advice anymore and question their decisions.
#15. Your Organization Is Laying People Off
Your organization is facing serious financial difficulties and you think that you will get laid off.
You have to financially take care of yourself and quit.
There are two options after quitting your job: either you find another one or you create one. Just remember that not all workplaces are the same.
Developing An Exit Strategy
Sometimes, we have reached our limits and it’s time to quit. However, it’s always important to develop an exit strategy.
- Examine your mental, physical and emotional health.
- Take time off to think about yourself. Identify your core values, your purpose, your strengths and weaknesses.
- Evaluate your motivations to stay on the job. Look around for clues that it’s time to quit your job. You can do a pros and cons list.
- Think about the consequences of leaving your job.
- Plan your future before quitting. It is imperative that you:
- Analyze your skill sets and check which ones you wish to develop.
- Find out which field you wish to work in and discuss it with people who are in your field of preference.
- Proactively look for another job. Keep looking for job and applying online while you are still employed. It is recommended to discreetly find a new job before moving on to the new one.
- Pick your next profession with care.
- Build a solid vision.
- Prepare yourself for the next opportunity and get rid of past baggage.
- Be comfortable with change and embrace the unknown.
- Speak to your close friends and family about your decision. Ultimately, you know what is best for you.
- Be confident in your decision, acknowledge that there is no shame in quitting and understand that there is no perfect time to quit.
- Leave on good terms even though you hated your job.
Last Words Of Advice!
Quitting your job doesn’t mean being jobless, giving up on yourself or that you have failed altogether. During the quitting process, it is detrimental to grow internally, to keep yourself busy and stay on purpose.
Furthermore, you can either go after your dreams or help someone else build their own.If you don't build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs.” Tony Gaskins Click To Tweet
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Sometimes, our circumstances don’t match our inner thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. Sometimes, we haven’t figured out who we are yet and we are leaning into other people’s expectations of us.
Sometimes, we believe that our personality will be rejected when it is our character that counts. Other times, we notice that one type of leadership is thriving and don’t believe that we can level up.
So, this is written as a reminder to those who doubt themselves and who are actually meant to be leaders.
Wondering whether or not you are meant to be a leader?
Western society promotes bad leadership in corporate organizations. It seems that “evil leaders” win and appear smarter and more successful than “good leaders”. Though these organizations function well and get results, they become more and more toxic to work in.
These organizations have to subsequently provide trainings and team building exercises to counter the effect of negative leadership.
What we need are effective leaders with great character. Most people want the title, the power but don’t have the character, the values or the attitude.
You are definitively meant to be a leader if…
#1. People naturally gravitate to you and ask you for your advice
Have you been standing in the streets, people come up to you for direction? In the grocery isles, people ask you for products? At work, people ask you for help on their project that you know nothing about?
People ask you for advice everywhere you go. That is because you seem approachable, like you have the answers to their problems and like you will not retain any information.
#2. You have a clear vision and a direction for your future
You have a vision for your future and you have the conviction that your dreams will come through. You dream so big that your dreams seem almost impossible.
Sometimes, you may not know what you are doing but you sure know where you are going.
Also, you may not be able to immediately put your vision into action but you are sure that it’ll come through, you know how to apply yourself, you know how to trust your gut and to put your best foot forward, and you know how to find the people to help you achieve your goals.
#3. Your character is remarkable
You have outstanding character and people model their behaviors on yours.
Furthermore, you have a strong moral compass. Even under pressure, you have to do what is right so you can respect yourself, love yourself and sleep at night.
#4. You love to learn
You are eager to learn, to explore and innovate. As a matter of fact, you ask tones of questions and you are an ever evolving being.
You have learnt from your employees, from bad leadership and from good mentors.
In addition, you don’t retain information, you are able to speak frankly and openly.
#5. You see people strengths and weaknesses
You see people strengths and weaknesses and you place them in the areas of their strengths.
Indeed, when you are a leader, you see people for who they really are and for what they can bring, you don’t make assumptions.
On the same occasion, you know where your strengths lie, where they will be complementary and where your weaknesses would hold people back.
Finally, you surround yourself with people who make you better and who complete you.
#6. You follow your own rules
You beat to the sound of your own drums. You don’t follow social rules and you think outside the box.
You don’t care about what people have to say about you, you go after what you want, indifferently to social expectations, to your circumstances and to stereotypes.
#7. You are a problem solver
You understand that there are several ways of doing one thing. With you as a leader, people are most likely to take risks, to innovate and are less afraid of making mistakes.
You have a lot of life experience, you find solutions to problems by asking people or by experience. Good or bad, you are grateful for your experiences and you are now wiser.
#8. You are resilient
You hurt like everybody else, you feel people pain but you are capable of withstanding adversity and of recovering quickly. In other words, you can take a licking keep on ticking.
#9. You are an equal opportunity leader
You treat everyone the same: you believe in fairness, equality and in equity.
You don’t make assumptions about people and their behavior.
#10. You are a people person
Furthermore, you don’t assume power or influence over people. You just lead when it is needed, show appreciation for people and you don’t hug the spotlight.
At last, you do not let negative energy permeate into your life and you leave your emotions at the door.
#11. You like to help
You like helping people, giving them the information that they need to succeed, even if they didn’t ask for help.
In your opinion, helping people is incredibly gratifying. You don’t do it for them to like you. You did it because you were needed and because you want the project to move forward.
And, you are humble enough to ask for help.
#12. You are innovative
You are constantly dissatisfied with the current system. That is why, you love innovation and you inspire others to innovate.
#13. You are cognizant of office politics
You know everything that is happening in your office and you know everyone by name.
However, you don’t judge your employees, blame them for their mistakes or gossip about your employees with your own employees.
You notice those who need training, those who hate their job, those who outperform, and those who underperform.
Basically, you understand office politics.
Last Words Of Advice!
Mots of the time, people and parents, even with the best intentions, want to direct your life. Then, we listen and achieve what people expect of us.
A leader, recognizing the value of people close to him or her, taking into account the opinions of others, recognizes that their own dreams supercede all that.
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Jen Sincero wrote You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life at a time when she needed help, wanted to change and to find a deeper purpose.
In her book, Jen Sincero shares a few concepts that will help you become a bad*ss. Which means, you will be able to:
- Believe in your vision and manifest it.
- Overcome your fears.
- Be comfortable with your failures and not feel guilty about your current situation. You will come to the realization that you can do more with your life, that you are capable to do better, that you don’t have to wait for failure or for the perfect situation to get started.
- Takes risks, live large and understand that you have nothing to lose.
- Love and forgive yourself.
The Mind Games You Play With Yourself
Parents, from the day you were born, pass down their beliefs to their children.
The truth is our subconscious mind, filled with beliefs from our childhood, rules our lives.
Unfortunately, those beliefs are limiting and false. However, we don’t know better when we are younger.
Besides, our conscious mind actively jump from one random thought to another, is not in full control of our lives. In fact, our subconscious mind and our conscious mind are constantly in conflict but the subconscious mind always win. To solve that conflict:
- Become more aware of your subconscious beliefs.
- Identify what is blocking you from the life you want to live.
- Invite new positive beliefs into your life.
The Bad*Ass Concept For Purpose & Goal-Setting
Jen Sincero encourages us to believe that there are greater things out there, to get a deeper understanding of your spirituality, to set your goals, to activate the law of attraction and manifest what you want in life.
- Believe what you want and it will come through.
- Ask for what you want, act as if you have already received what you have asked for.
- Keep your thoughts on your goals.
- Manage your time appropriately. Get organized and stay organized.
- Create a vision board.
- Surround yourself with people who will help you become the person you aspire to be and who share your mentality.
How To Become A Bad*ss?
One moment we think we’re feeling fantastic, other times we are feeling real insecure. One must come to conclusion, see themselves the way they want to be, and look at themselves through the eyes of someone you admire.
Discovering your “bad*ssery” is all about finding out who you really are and living our best life. We must get in touch with our inner self, the person we were when we were born and love that person. To become a bad*ass:
- Identify and appreciate your gifts and talents. Everyone is unique and has unique gifts.
- Share your talents and gifts with the world.
- Rewire your brain with positive affirmations and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. At some point, you must choose to let go of wrong beliefs and of decisions that hold you back. To identify your fears and negative thoughts, when you are working, observe the type of thoughts when you suddenly stop, when you get discouraged.
- Do activities that you enjoy.
- Try new activities and get out your comfort zone.
- Avoid self-deprecating humor and practice self-love.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. Watching someone go after their dream, after what they truly want can make others uncomfortable and trigger insecurities.
- Forgive yourself for past and future mistakes. You must forgive yourself before you end up hurting yourself.
- Stay in the present. Take example on animals and babies that are not concerned about the past or the future.
- Don’t worry about what people think of you.
- Be responsible for what you say or do.
- Give more than you take.
- Learn to be grateful for what you have and what has not yet manifested itself because gratitude trumps fear.
- Trust your gut. Do what feels right and what interest you in the moment instead of thinking.
- Always do your best. Your best doesn’t have to perfect.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero is an entertaining, motivational and thoughtful book that encourages you to live your best life and provides a guide map to do so.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life is written for people who are looking to do better, be better and focus on the essentials. It is written for people who refuse to self-loathe, want to change and who want to manifest their purpose.
Furthermore, Jen Sincero makes some great points, is blunt in her delivery yet has an efficient message. She shares relatable topics such as love, purpose, relationship with money, career advancement and what you are willing to do to get ahead.
Matter of fact, her message is all common sense. However, most people are unaware of these principles, forget about them, and forget that what they need is already inside of them.
Jen Sincero keeps it real and positive throughout her book. She places great quotes at the beginning of every chapter and ends every chapter with a call to action to love yourself.
You Are A Bad*ss: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life resembles the principles of The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz in every way.
What this book has to do with being a leader, you ask?
This book is detrimental to leadership and clarifying your principles and core values. Leadership is all about discovering your purpose, the power of your conviction, controlling your subconscious mind, appreciating your strengths and weaknesses.
Let us know what you think about this book!
If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.
We would be wise to take more of our cues from the beasts and babies.
It’s not that the things and opportunities that we want in life don’t exist yet.
It’s that we’re not yet aware of their existence (or the fact that we can really have them).
You are a badass. You were one when you came screaming onto this planet and you are one now. The Universe wouldn’t have bothered with you otherwise. You can’t screw up so majorly that your badassery disappears. It is who you are. It’s who you always will be. It’s not up for negotiation.
We’re born knowing how to trust our instincts, how to breathe deeply, how to eat only when we’re hungry, how to not care about what anyone thinks of our singing voices, dance moves, or hairdos, we know how to play, create, and love without holding back. Then, as we grow and learn from the people around us, we replace many of these primal understandings with negative false beliefs, fear, shame, and self-doubt.
What you choose to focus on becomes your reality.
The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, And Confidence With Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins is a self-help book, urging people to take action by using a 5 second countdown trick.
What is The 5 Second Rule?
The 5 Second Rule is a “metacognition technique” that improves your sense of self, your life, career, health.
The principle of The 5 Second Rule is the following:
“The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.” At 1, you should be moving.
Where does The 5 Second Rule come from?
The principle of The 5 Second Rule comes from the combination of two thoughts:
- Mel Robbins, while feeling she failed at life, realized that she would take only 5 seconds to talk herself out of waking up in the morning, out of improving and doing the right thing.
- One night, while watching TV, Mel Robbins also made the observation that a rocket launches after a 5 second countdown. Afterwards, she would launch herself out of bed, the same way the rocket would launch into space.
What are the benefits of The 5 Second Rule?
The 5 Second Rule is an empowering thought process. Through this principle, you are able to experience freedom and quiet your mind.
The 5 Second Rule enables you to trust your instincts, to take back control of your life, to make the right decisions.
Among its various applications, you will have the ability to improve your health, focus on the essentials, increase your productivity, break procrastination, avoid distractions, be authentic, replace your bad habits with good ones, get up early and start your routine early in the morning.
The 5 Second Rule is a tool that drives courage in difficult times and builds “Real Confidence”. It pushes you to act and to change.
What about courage?
According to Mel Robbins, when trying to change, when facing something that is uncertain, unknown, that scares you or makes you hesitate, your brain feels like something is wrong.
Your mind will then stop the change process and trap you with your own thoughts.
Courage, your birthright, is therefore required to push you forward and to implement change.
The 5 Second Rule will give you the courage you need to go after what you really want, to have a more fulfilling life and to not give in to your fears.
In addition, it is detrimental for you to stop making excuses for not acting on your instincts. Your excuses are always wrong and there is no right time.
No external factor will validate your choices and your ideas. Only putting yourself out there and getting out your comfort zone will.
What about confidence?
Confidence is a skill which means it is a learnt behavior. In fact, your confidence has nothing to do with your personality and will increase every time you step out of your comfort zone.
Your everyday courage will help you assess your own worth, build up your confidence, connect with yourself, find your true passion, build meaningful relationships, and meet new people.
Your everyday courage gives you the confidence to explore and makes you realize that the power you need was inside of you all along.
In appearance, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, And Confidence With Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins, looks like a time management book that provides quick short-term fixes.
However, in reality, The 5 Second Rule is a transformational tool, delivering long-term results.
It is written for people who are plagued by fear, who want to change and take charge of their lives but don’t know how to. Change is difficult because it requires courage and confidence.
Furthermore, The 5 Second Rule can be customized to your liking. It enables you to:
- Work on your confidence and your courage.
- Stop overthinking, worrying and magnifying problems.
- Trust your guts and honor your instincts.
- Stop hesitating and holding yourself back.
- Become more present and acquire patience.
- Start performing and to become more goal-oriented.
- Control your emotions, fight mental illnesses and bad mental habits.
- Take ownership of your life and start the transformation process.
The 5 Second Rule is a principle that we already intuitively and intrinsically know. But, after years of research, Mel Robbins coherently put these ideas together.
Mel Robbins also shares poignant quotes, real examples and testimonials of people who have used The 5 Second Rule for diverse reasons.
The 5 Second Rule is life changing, encouraging, motivational and inspirational. It shows you how to change for the better.
That’s what you are doing when you use the Rule. You are honoring yourself. You are championing your ideas. And each time you use it, you take one step closer to being the person you are truly meant to be.
Doing the work to improve your life is simple, you can do it, and it’s work you want to do—because it’s the most important work that there is. It is the work of learning how to love and trust yourself enough to stop waiting and to start leaning into all the magic, opportunity, and joy that your life, work, and relationships have to offer.
When it comes to goals, dreams, and changing your life, your inner wisdom is a genius. Your goal-related impulses, urges, and instincts are there to guide you. You need to learn to bet on them.
The difference between people who make their dreams come true and those of us who don’t is just one thing: the courage to start and the discipline to keep going.
Mel Robbins is a motivational and keynote speaker. Mel Robbins is also the author of The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, And Confidence With Everyday Courage.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz gathers four “agreements” to live by to ensure a better lifestyle, a deeper understanding of life, a life in the moment.
What is an agreement?
The four agreements come from the Toltec teachings of wisdom. The goal of this book is to make each agreement a habit.
An agreement is:
- a programming of the mind.
- a language, a code that helps us understand each other.
- a belief system that has domesticated us.
It represents the rules that we abide to, that we pass down from generation to generation.
unfortunately, we have not chosen the agreements that we have concluded. Most of the time, they have been chosen for us and existed longer than we have.
The First Agreement
The first agreement is to be “impeccable with your words“. This means that you must be careful of not using words against yourself and others.
Indeed, there is power in the words that you use. Matter of fact, it is the most powerful tool at your disposition.
You can use your words to create beauty or to wreak havoc.
“What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word”.
Purpose of the agreement
Being “impeccable with your words” helps you suppress any toxicity from your mind, free your mind from fear and doubt, and filter out negativity.
Implementing the agreement
Furthermore, words grow and take root in your mind if we are not careful. So:
- Be true to yourself.
- Be careful of the words that you use on yourself.
- Do not speak against yourself.
- Avoid gossiping and don’t believe gossip.
- Accept and love yourself so you can demonstrate love and acceptance toward others.
The Second Agreement
The second agreement is to not “take anything personally”.
Often times, people are preoccupied with their own beliefs, feelings and opinions about themselves that they take out on others.
Even if they insult you directly, it is wise not to take their insult personally.
Purpose of the agreement
This agreement is necessary to avoid burdening yourself with people’s problem, setting “yourself up to suffer for nothing”.
Acquiring this habit will help you free yourself, keep your heart open, see people for who they really are, and be unaffected by fear.
Implementing the agreement
- All opinions about you are not necessarily true.
- Opinions about you depends on the person and on their moods.
- We can choose what to believe and what to agree with.
- You must trust yourself and don’t need to trust anyone else.
The Third Agreement
The third agreement consists in not making assumptions.
Undeniably, assumptions are not the truth and breeds problems.
Purpose of the agreement
The third agreement will help you build better relationships and increase your communication skills.
Implementing the agreement
To properly implement this agreement:
- Ask for clarifications rather than making assumptions.
- Remember that it is OK to ask questions.
- Collect the right data about people and situations first.
- Don’t assume that people can read your mind.
- Ask for what you want, expect yes or no. Understand that you can say yes or no as well.
The Fourth Agreement
This fourth agreement encourages you to always “do you best“. It consolidates all previous three agreements.
Purpose of the agreement
Forming the habit of always doing your best will:
- Save you from harsh self-judgement.
- Increase your production.
- Mature your self-love
Implementing the agreement
Keep in mind that:
- Your best will fluctuate all the time. It will depend on your mood, on your energy level, on your health and on your situation.
- you must take action without expecting any rewards. This way, you will be able to enjoy your actions better.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz provides a very powerful perspective on life. It encourages self-transformation, self-awareness, self acceptance, and the understanding of others.
I found out briefly that The Four Agreements, yet short, is thoughtful and goes straight to the point. It calls out society’s hypocrisy, fear and domestication.
Everyone I know who have read this book has felt elevated. It was therefore hard to resist reading it and I have to say that I did not regret it.
As you read, you will find that you already had the knowledge and the wisdom within you but have been holding it back. You will learn to trust yourself and set yourself free.
The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life.
Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally.
Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.
All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally.
Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life. Inaction is sitting in front of the television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you are.