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Quote Of The Week #311
12 Reflective Quotes For You Not To Take Challenges Too Seriously
Work problems, personal circumstances… Life can pack a serious punch…
However, staying calm in challenging situations is a leadership skills that aligns itself with not taking challenges too seriously.
Below, are a few quotes for you not to take challenges too seriously.
1. Even if you fall flat on your face, you’re still moving forward. – Victor Kiam
2. We don’t stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing. – George Bernard Shaw
3. Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. – Mark Twain
4. Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside — remembering all the times you’ve felt that way. – Charles Bukowski
5. Mix a little foolishness with your serious plans. It is lovely to be silly at the right moment. – Horace
6. Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. – Guillaume Apollinaire
7. Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be. – Eckhart Tolle
8. A good laugh overcomes more difficulties and dissipates more dark clouds than any other one thing. – Laura Ingalls Wilder
9. Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose. – Eckhart Tolle
10. Casting all your anxieties on him, because he careth for you. – 1 Peter 5:7
11. These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. – John 16:33
12. Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known until God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2023 5 Essential Skills To Deal With Difficult People
Difficult people intentionally, consciously or voluntarily create difficult situations for others around them and can easily slow down productivity and break down morale…
Dealing with difficult people is part of leadership.
Below are five essentials skills to acquire.
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2023 6 Ways Leaders Get Out Of Their Feelings
They say, when you get to work, leave your feelings at the door.
I mean, that’s what they say…
In the workplace, most conflicts exist because of a gap in values.
Indeed, at work, you rub elbow with people who don’t necessary have the same values as you do.
Conflicts can simply result in one’s definition of work ethic or quality of work.
For instance, your feelings can easily be hurt by some people are less efficient and need extra hours, some are workahalics and do it for the love of work, some don’t care about the job or the work they put out…
In addition, your feelings can also be hurt by short deadlines or the way someone talk to you.
Leaders have different ways of getting out of these feelings.
1. They remember who they are
They don’t get lost in the drama of their feelings.
Instead, they separate themselves from their work.
Even if their feelings have been hurt at work, they separate their identity from their work.
2. They take responsibility
They realize that they are responsible only for themselves and for how they feel.
They acknowledge that they can only control of themselves.
3. They confront themselves and the situation
Confrontation always has the negative connotation of conflict, drama and unresolved issues.
However, confrontation can also be facing the situation head on and examining the situation for what it is.
You don’t necessarily have to go face to face with someone to solve an issue especially when we’re talking about values:
- You may have to confront yourself and ask yourself why you are feeling these feelings.
- You may have to assess the situation and ask yourself why is this situation triggering these emotions.
4. They stay on goal
One way leaders get out of their feelings is by having solid and clear goals that will keep them focused on something other than themselves.
5. They use humour
Leaders who have a sense of humour take life with a grain of salt and have a tendency to get out of their feelings faster than
6. They use affirmations
Words of affirmations remind people of who they are and who they want to be.
They remind leaders of the principles that they
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Don’t forget to use your relationships, your hobbies, your favorite activities or exercise to help you shift your mindset.
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2023 How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life By Gill Hasson
Difficult people are everywhere and often demonstrate difficult behavior.
Their behavior can be overtly hostile and aggressive or passive and dismissive.
They can drain you and break you out of your character because they may act differently than you expect or apply a system of belief you don’t abide to.
Discerning whether or not they are being spitefully or involuntarily difficult is quite tricky.
1. Calmly walk away from difficult people
Some people are difficult even impossible all the time for no clear reason and will drain you of your energy and even destroy your life, no matter what you do.
In these circumstances, it becomes detrimental to walk away from the situation, to make a clean break and focus on the positives to come.
2. Try and understand the difficult person
To understand difficult people, you must first start by identifying your values, expectations of people and system of belief.
You must also understand that you have legal and personal rights to defend.
Often times, our expectations of how people should act and treat us are what create misunderstanding, conflict and resentments.
If your expectations are too high, you will be let down in some fashion and if they are too low, you will be disrespected.
If your expectations are too rigid or unrealistic, you will suffer the consequences and involuntarily create difficult people.
Instead, don’t place any expectations on anyone but expect a positive outcome.
3. Take responsibility for your own reaction
Taking responsibility for your reactions will help you manage your emotions, gain control over a situation, direct and influence others.
It will also help you reframe your mindset and not play victim to your circumstances.
4. Learn what to say and what not to say to a difficult person
You can start by actively listening to them and then by finding out what to say and not to say.
Actively listening does not mean that you are actively agreeing with their point of view or that you are endorsing their opinion but it means that you are willing to acknowledge what they have said and to understand them.
Learning what to say or not to say is about being assertive, standing your ground, choosing how to respond to a situation, thinking about consequences, setting limits and finding an appropriate solution.
5. Deal with the difficult behavior and not the person
Learn to be assertive, to gain a solid sense of self, to stand your ground, to communicate your needs clearly and confidently.
Not asserting yourself and accommodating a difficult person will only lead them to disrespect you further and
Review
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life by Gill Hasson serves as a practical guide to become more assertive, confident, courageous and to think strategically when it comes to dealing with difficult people.
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life explores situations in life and at work that we have dealt with and still have to deal with.
Gill Hasson puts many challenging situations into perspective and provides solutions to problems.
On the long run, difficult people are toxic and corrosive. It is detrimental to carefully monitor the impact of these types on individuals on our lives, mental and physical health.
Some of them enjoy creating chaos and toxicity around them and others do so involuntarily.
Sometimes, we are able to put physical distance between yourself and difficult people.
Other times, because of our work situation or familial reasons, we have to put up with them and have to find different ways to put up with them.
Gill Hasson puts many challenging situations into perspective and provides solutions to problems.
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The thing is you can’t directly change other people’s behaviour; the only thing you can change is how you respond and deal with it.
In the past, you may have thought that there was only one or two ways to do this: either grit your teeth and hope that they’ll stop being so difficult, that things will improve, or get the difficult person to see just how difficult they’re being.
Both of these approaches are unlikely to fix the problem. In the case of gritting your teeth and hoping things will improve… they won’t. In the case of getting them to see
just how difficult they’re being, that’s unlikely too.Even if a confident person feels anxious about dealing with difficult people, they don’t let fear and anxiety paralyse them: they deal with other people and situations despite their fears or worries. They recognize they have to start somewhere, however apprehensive they are.
You can’t control what others think about you, so leave them to their own judgements.
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6 Leadership Books To Read Before The Year Ends
Leading others often starts with leading oneself…
Below are the 6 best leadership and self help books that you can read right now to develop your sense of direction, find your most authentic self and achieve your goals!
Wondering what are the best leadership books to read before this year comes to an end?
1. Grit By Angela Duckworth
Grit is nothing more than a combination of courage, passion and perseverance.
In her book Grit, Angela Duckworth interviews a series of leaders from all walks of life whose grit has helped them succeed and whose stories will surely inspire you.
2. How To Win Friends & Influence People By Dale Carnegie
In How To Win Friends & Influence People, Dale Carnegie gives practical advice on how to successfully attract people, convert their way of thinking towards our ideas, on how to be more confident, achieve more and reach your highest potential in life thanks to your relationships.
3. The Little Book Of Big Lies By Tina Lifford
In The Little Book Of Big Lies, Tina Lifford gives helpful advice for you to build up your inner self and shares fourteen real life stories to help you move on from trauma and your past.
4. Year Of Life By Shonda Rhimes
In her funny memoir Year Of Life, Shonda Rhimes shares her poignant life story and her journey towards personal success.
Throughout her book, she makes you laugh but also reflect on the power of saying yes, of continually staying positive and focused.
5. The Magic Of Thinking Big By David J. Schwartz
David J. Schwartz teaches us throughout The Magic Of Thinking Big to:
- Think big and set bigger than life goals.
- Overcome our fear of failure by actually accomplishing our goals.
- Fail forward and trust the process.
6. The Obstacle Is The Way By Ryan Holiday
In The Obstacle Is The Way, Ryan Holiday employs the lessons of Greek philosophy to help you see past your failures and obstacles.
He encourages you to persevere no matter what and to apply a certain stoicism to most of your life situations.
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Each one of these books demonstrate ways to achieve long term success, accomplish your dreams and figure out a solution to every single one of your problems.
To top it all off, these books also exhibit great examples of people who have remained optimistic and creative in the face of challenges.
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How to Win Friends & Influence People By Dale Carnegie
For some reason, successful leaders seem to know how to effectively handle people, to win friends and to influence people…
These leaders have built their entire life and professional career around people by following basic principles.
Wining Friends
Leaders understand that relationships can take you to the next level. Therefore, they tend to:
1. Avoid negative reviews
Leaders who are socially skilled avoid making complaints, condemning people, or manufacturing open and public criticism.
They understand that negative criticism generally breeds resentment.
Instead, they try to understand where the people are coming from.
2. Find out what the people really want
Most people care about their health, self-preservation, food, sleep, money, a craving for sincere appreciation and a desire for importance…
Furthermore, appreciation does not consist in giving cheap flattery but in honest appreciation.
If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I’ll tell you what you are. - Dale Carnegie Click To Tweet
3. Show people how to get what they want
To show people what they want and how to get it, leaders:
- Consider the advantages and disadvantages of the situation.
- Learn to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Influencing People
Influencing people is a basic and important skill in leadership.
That is why leaders who seek to increase their leadership:
1. Genuinely become interested in other people
They understand human nature, truly enjoy the interaction with people and do things for other people without any ulterior motives.
In addition, they remember people’s name, learn to smile and to be cheerful in their presence.
Indeed, smiling is contagious and can change an entire situation.
2. Become versed in the art of conversation
Being a great conversationalist starts by listening to people and encouraging people to talk about themselves.
Therefore, leaders find out the other person’s interest and start from there.
3. Obey the Golden Rule
Leaders observe the rules of human relationships.
As a consequence, they obey the Golden Rule and give unto others what we would have others give unto us.
4. Use diplomacy
To win people over to your way of thinking, they:
- Are diplomatic.
- Avoid arguments at all cost.
- Never tell a person that they are wrong.
- Consider the other person’s feelings, ideas and point of view.
- Show respect for another person’s point of view.
- Admit their wrongs and appeal to nobler motives.
- Admit their mistakes and talk about them.
- Don’t give direct orders but suggestions.
- Give people the opportunity to make decisions for themselves and to correct themselves.
- Don’t hurt people’s self-esteem and don’t diminish them in their own eyes
Review
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie aims to educate adults into building healthy relationships and climbing up the social ladder.
Dale Carnegie shares contemporaneous and pragmatic principles that serve as guidelines for leaders who wish to network and grow their social capital.
Most of these principles are essential to life as much as the business world and will increase your skill in human relationship.
However, Dale Carnegie promotes the praising or “sucking up” game and uses the term “friend” very loosely.
That is because most of the principles are geared towards the business world and most of his examples are taken from people who have successfully implemented these principles.
Unfortunately, praises don’t work on everybody and is not a solution to all problems.
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Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.
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Quote Of The Week #259
56 Things Leaders Need To Quit To Simplify Their Lives
It comes a time where we feel overwhelmed by life’s difficulties and desire to simplify our lives but we just don’t know how…
Wondering what are the things that you can stop doing as a leader to simplify your life?
1. Not being self aware
2. Neglecting your unresolved issues
3. Giving too much importance to your professional life over your personal life
4. Saying yes to everything
5. Doing too many things all at once
6. Working until you burn out.
7. Not making time for yourself or your loved ones
8. Disregarding the essentials and what matters most to you
9. Avoiding your emotions
10. Giving too much room to your emotions
11. Mistreating yourself
12. Mistreating others
13. Stressing out
14. Transfering your emotions to other people who could potentially help you
15. Trying to please people
16. Comparing yourself to people
17. Competing with other people
18. Running someone else’s race
19. Moving at someone else’s pace
20. Trusting the wrong people
21. Micromanaging and not letting people do their jobs
22. Making assumptions about people
23. Spreading and believing rumors about others
24. Making up lies
25. Worrying about your image and reputation instead of the work you produce.
26. Faking it until you make it.
27. Shifting blame
28. Creating drama
29. Stepping on other people to feel better about yourself
30. Wanting to be right all the time
31. Thinking that your solution is the best solution
32. Being resistant to change
33. Being too transparent
34. Being fearful about everything
35. Being overbearing
36. Being crowded all the time
37. Spending time around toxic people
38. Doing things that you hate
39. Getting distracted
40. Avoiding exercise
41. Choosing unhealthy foods
42. Allowing and participating in groupthink
43. Seeking control over other people
44. Seeking only power over others
45. Taking too long in the commute
46. Inviting clutter in your home
47. Holding to clutter on your office space
48. Letting emails stack up
49. Letting small tasks stack up
50. Doing all your tasks all at once
51. Setting boundaries with people
52. Managing your time effectively
53. Giving too much importance to deadlines
54. Constantly tracking progress
55. Not being flexible enough with your time
56. Not taking responsibility for your actions
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Just remember, you cannot stop all these things at once.
But once you start simplifying your life, you won’t want to stop.
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