In Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be, Rachel Hollis, in a witty and self-deprecating fashion, dispels the lies perpetrated by Society — lies that we tend to believe about ourselves and accept as a fundamental truth.
Rachel Hollis shares her life story and perspective on why people are generally unhappy and unsuccessful.
Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be is dedicated to women who have struggled to find themselves or face the truth about themselves. It deals with all the insecurities that women may face throughout their lives and gives solutions that can be implemented through introspection.
Implementing change isn’t easy: it will take time and hard work, several trials and errors. But, it will be worth it!
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You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.
Judging is still one of the most hurtful, spiteful impulses we own, and our judgments keep us from building a stronger tribe… or from having a tribe in the first place. Our judgment prohibits us from beautiful, life-affirming friendships. Our judgment keeps us from connecting in deeper, richer ways because we’re too stuck on the surface level assumptions we’ve made.
The first step toward becoming the best version of yourself is being honest, truly honest, about what makes you tick.
Truly, I’ve been told no in so many different ways and by so many different people that sometimes it seems as if life itself is saying no. I am an expert in rejection—or more specifically, I am an expert in bouncing back from rejection and fighting my way toward my goal.
I am successful because I refused to take no for an answer. I am successful because I have never once believed my dreams were someone else’s to manage. That’s the incredible part about your dreams: nobody gets to tell you how big they can be.
There are many types of trauma—big, small, childhood, adult—but we all belong to a club we never asked to join. We find solidarity in numbers, in hearing other stories…
There isn’t one right way to be a woman. There isn’t one right way to be a daughter, friend, boss, wife, mother, or whatever else you categorize yourself as. There are so many different versions of each and every style on this planet, and beauty lives in that dichotomy.
In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer encourages people to be their Best Self.
What is your Best Self?
Your Best Self is unique, positive, evolved and aligned with your truth.
When you are being your best self, you are being your most authentic and at your core.
1. How to connect with your Best Self?
Connecting with your Best Self takes time and requires patience. To get in touch with your Best Self:
Express gratitude frequently to get out of a negative space. Make a gratitude list of everything that puts you in a good mood or elevates you in any kind of way.
Embrace change. Everybody can change if they want to, they just have to apply the right motivations.
Identify your fears. Once you have identified your fears, put them to the test to see if your assumptions are true, if they are rational, if they help you succeed, or if they serve your best interests.
Recognize any signs of egotistical behavior. Once you have acknowledge your behavior, assess the origins of it and get your ego in check.
2. Assessing your Best Self
“SPHERES stands for Social life, Personal life, Health, Education, Relationships, Employment, and Spiritual life”.
The SPHERES tool, create by Mike Bayer, is a screening tool used to assess your Best Self in all areas of your life.
Your social life
In the SPHERES tool, your social situation determines how well you project your Best Self to the world.
It then becomes imperative to analyze how you interact with people. You can also assess your ability to send clear messages, to listen to others, to embrace human emotions, to handle highly charged situations, to give and receive feedback.
Your personal life
Your personal life contains your self-image, your self-talk, the level of compassion and respect you have for yourself.
To create the personal life that you want, you will have to:
Rewire your brain to think positively by challenging your internal dialogue.
Get familiar with what you are constantly telling yourself.
Identify the messages you tell yourself when you are under pressure.
Log your thoughts and your self-talk, identify the common themes and tones.
Be compassionate with yourself. Take care of yourself and monitor your stress levels before they snowball. If you take care of yourself, you will definitely be able to take care of others.
Connect with your passions. Your passions will vary throughout your life. Your passions will allow you to express yourself, to strengthen your bond with your Best Self and vibrate at a higher frequency. To find your passions, explore new things, challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone.
Prioritizing your well-being allows you to be present, keep a clear mind and achieve your Best Self.
Remaining in a “lifetime learning mode” will help you evolve into your Best Self and become more self-aware.
Once you find your passions, you will take pleasure in acquiring knowledge in that field.
Your Best Self will gauge who you want to be around, judge the health of a relationship and help you make the tough decisions.
In order to stay connected to your Best Self in all relationships, you must define your core values, exercise them and identify the people who live up to them.
We spend most of our days at work.
So, when we are not able to fully be ourselves, our work life tends to become draining.
It somehow becomes important to nurture our Best Selves at work or create a career path that allows us to maximize our potential at work.
In Best Self: Be You, Only Better, Mike Bayer shares tips and tools to help you achieve your Best Self. He helps you make a diagnostic of all the aspects of your life and provides practical solutions to your problems.
Furthermore, Best Self: Be You, Only Better is a workbook that teaches you how to fix what’s inside to fix outside. It is on point when it comes to assessing people’s behavior and can conveniently be revisited several time in your life.
Best Self: Be You, Only Better is ideal for leaders who want to improve their leadership skills and bring their best selves at work. It becomes clear that if you are your best self, you can create the best teams, take care of others and create the best organization.
With this workbook:
Get in touch with your Best Self.
Reach your highest potential.
Find more balance in your life.
Evolve, change, reinvent yourself and improve your life.
Many of society’s “rules” simply don’t apply to us as individuals, and if we spend all our energy on trying to be, do, say, and act like society wants us to, we are simply wasting time we could be spending on discovering and connecting with our Best Self.
Self-care is foundational to living your ideal life.
This year has been eventful to say the least but went by quickly…
Indeed, a lot has happened.
For the most part, a pandemic is still being dealt with, social constructs have been thoroughly questioned, and people have globally been demanding change.
Even though change has never been easy to implement, things are slowly changing for the better.
Here are the 10 best quotes to help you operate change within yourself.
Be the change that you wish to see in the world. – Mahatma Gandhi
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. – Leo Tolstoy
The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself. – C. JoyBell C.
Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved. – Roy T. Bennett
The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind. – Friedrich Nietzsche
Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw
I have accepted fear as part of life – specifically the fear of change… I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back… – Erica Jong
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman. – Maya Angelou
If you can’t change it, change your attitude. – Maya Angelou
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. – Wayne W. Dyer
Last Words Of Advice!
Change is difficult to implement and change first starts within ourselves.
Always remember this:
I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples. – Mother Teresa
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There are a few women in positions of power but those few have been selfless, have created movements, and have tremendously impacted History.
These women have had different stories and have impacted society differently but they all created movements, have faced adversity, and broken the traditional rules of a male-dominated society.
Indeed, these women were not afraid of thinking or acting differently, being catalysts for change, bringing distinct perspectives and leadership styles to the table.
They have proven, more than necessary, that leadership has nothing to do with gender.
Wondering who are these women and how have they impacted History?
In no particular order of importance, you will find below a short profile of 5 remarkable women, promoting change around the world.
1. Michelle Obama
Michelle Obama is a Princeton graduate, lawyer and writer of Becoming.
Michelle Obama is also the wife of the 44th President Of The United States Barack Obama. She is the first Black First Lady Of The United States.
Throughout the presidency of the 44th President, Michelle Obama wrote and gave several heartfelt speeches. She initiated several campaigns against Youth obesity with the Let’s Move! Movement in 2010 and acted for the Red Cross in Haiti in 2010.
Her latest speech at the 2020 Democratic National Convention revolutionized the role of the First Ladies in the White House and have demonstrated her level of influence.
2. Patrisse Cullors, Alicia Garza & Opal Tometi
Patrisse Cullors, Alicia Garza & Opal Tometi were all involved in social works when they came together to create the Black Lives Matter Movement.
After the unwarranted death of Trayvon Martin in 2012 and the acquittal of George Zimmerman, Patrisse Cullors, Alicia Garza & Opal Tometi wanted to give people the tools to fight for human rights, black rights and to generate change.
The Black Lives Matter Movement campaigns against systemic racism, injustice and violence inflicted on Black People. This movement also militates against police brutality, against the lack of empathy and accountability of the American oppressive system.
3. Tanaka Burke
Tarana Burke is an activist and founder of Just Be Inc., focusing on the health and well-being of young women of color.
Tanaka Burke created the nonprofit organization Just Be Inc. to help women to speak up and stand up for themselves. From there, she started the Me Too Movement to help women victims of sexual harassment and assault.
The phrase Me Too took on a broader meaning after the H. Weinstein cases in Hollywood.
With the phrase Me Too, women around the world have been able to share their stories and tell others that they are not alone.
4. Angela Merkel
Angela Merkel is the Chancellor of Germany and Forbes 2020 most powerful woman in the world.
Throughout her political career, Angela Merkel has adopted an analytical, quiet and confident leadership style.
Angela Merkel has commanded respect for several years for her ability to run a healthy economy and to render Germany competitive.
5. Margaret Thatcher
Margaret Thatcher, also known as the Iron Lady, is Britain’s first Prime Minister.
Margaret Thatcher served her country from 1979 to 1990 and introduced the United Kingdom to her conservative politics.
Her strong opinions generated both hate and admiration among her peers.
Trust in employees decisions making skills. Employees will then feel confident about their abilities and stay engaged.
Encourage training. Employees perform better when they are confident about their abilities.
7. Give your employees a sense of ownership
Employees take more pride and respect more what they do when they have ownership over their work.
Giving a sense of ownership will help you develop great leaders who will in turn inspire and motivate.
8. Promote innovation and change
Innovation is necessary for the survival of each and every company in today’s economy.
When leaders promote innovation and change, people will be more likely to grow, to adapt, ask questions, to try new things and adopt a change mindset.
9. Value transparency
Leaders must encourage a transparent and open culture where information flows freely.
For instance, letting your employees know how well your company is doing will improve trust. Of course, there will be gossip around the health of the company but overall employees will believe that you have their best interest at heart.
10. Practice collaboration
Leaders promote and encourage autonomy and collaboration within their team.
They allow their teams to have fun at work. They have broken down traditional workplace structure, simplified workplace processes and looked after their employees well-being.
11. Appraise customer satisfaction
High performance cultures are hard to come by.
Leaders continuously conduct customer satisfaction assessments because these assessments give a direct indication of team performance and the health of the company.
12. Monitor your culture
There will always be things to improve in a company but it important to strive for more. It is up to leaders to:
Nurture, develop and sustain the culture.
Deliver a set of tools to drive performance.
Show that the health of the company matters.
Give regular updates on how employees are doing in regards to their individual and collective goals.
Last Words Of Advice!
Most leaders, when trying to improve their cultures, focus on metrics and not on the people. If your culture is not where you want it to be, remember that:
One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch.
You need to focus on the positives.
You just need to take on step at a time. For example, start by sharing your goals or by being transparent about the current status of the company.
If you don’t think you can practice of implement the culture that you want, find a manager or a human resources person who has the skills that you are missing.
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Practice taking risks and prepare yourself for rejection. Rejection is not as bad as it seems and usually doesn’t last as long as regret. Regretting a moment or a situation is definitely worse than being rejected.
Avoid spreading your self thin, examine opportunities that come your way, and learn to say no to opportunities that seem too good to be true.
Test your ideas to a wise sounding board that you trust and that can be candid with you.
Be reactive. Be on the lookout for possible breakthroughs or setbacks, and be ready to correct mistakes.