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Leaders who seek discomfort are seeking a challenge, opportunities for change, overcoming fears, for personal growth and improvement.
Below are five essentials skills for leaders to acquire to seek discomfort.
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Some fears are critical to your survival.
Others hinder your success in life.
Some people consider the feelings of fear as a signal to distance themselves from a situation and others as a sign to keep going.
Some people are paralyzed by their fear and others manage to get things done despite their fears.
Which means that fear in itself is not the real problem.
The real problem resides in the way you manage it.
There are major benefits to pushing past your fears. You will be able to:
Behind every fear, there is the belief that you don’t have the abilities to handle whatever life throws your way.
However, your skills can always be developed.
That means that you won’t need to run away from your fears or work hard at getting rid of them.
That also means that in order to diminish your fears, you will have to developed the abilities to handle whatever life throws at you.
As long as you live and continue to grow as a person, fear can never be totally eradicated.
There are a few steps you can take to better manage your feelings.
Get in touch with your Higher Self and tap into your intuition.
Saying Yes consists in going with the flow and accepting what Life has to offer.
It is an effective coping mechanism an antidote for fear.
People who live in fear feel more helpless than those who actually push through and take risks.
It becomes detrimental to identify your goals and motives to get unstuck.
To begin to shift your mindset and to empower yourself, you must monitor the words that you use and the way you address yourself.
You may want to discipline your self-talk and use the power of positive affirmations.
Playing the victim signifies that you have no control over your life, that you have given your power away to someone or something else, and have progressively become paralyzed in your ability to deal with your fears.
In reality, you are the one who chooses the way you feel or act in any given situation.
Reclaiming your power entails being aware of any disempowering behavior and taking responsibility for your life.
Reclaiming your power means avoiding blaming yourself, blaming your past, present and future, or any other external factors for your life experiences.
Reclaiming your power is understanding that everything you experience is part of your journey.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway is a comforting book as Susan Jeffers exposes fear as a learned human condition that can be unlearned.
Furthermore, Susan Jeffers shares powerful and practical tools to fight and overcome fear.
She continually reminds us to take it easy on ourselves and that our good and bad decisions are part of our journey.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway shows us how to get the life we truly want, how to face new life situations and adapt to change.
The truth is everyone experiences fear, especially when they are in unfamiliar territory.
The trick consists in feeling the fear… And doing whatever it takes anyway…
The “doing it” comes before the feeling better about yourself. When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a big bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence.
We can’t escape fear. We can only transform it into a companion that accompanies us in all our exciting adventures; it is not an anchor holding us transfixed in one spot.
A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet. She is so filled with positive energy that people want to be around her.
There is absolutely no need to be upset with your past, present, or future behavior. It is all simply part of the learning process[…].
Susan Jeffers
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2023 However, staying calm in challenging situations is a leadership skills that aligns itself with not taking challenges too seriously.
Below, are a few quotes for you not to take challenges too seriously.
Don’t forget to laugh a little!
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2023 Their behavior can be overtly hostile and aggressive or passive and dismissive.
They can drain you and break you out of your character because they may act differently than you expect or apply a system of belief you don’t abide to.
Discerning whether or not they are being spitefully or involuntarily difficult is quite tricky.
Some people are difficult even impossible all the time for no clear reason and will drain you of your energy and even destroy your life, no matter what you do.
In these circumstances, it becomes detrimental to walk away from the situation, to make a clean break and focus on the positives to come.
To understand difficult people, you must first start by identifying your values, expectations of people and system of belief.
You must also understand that you have legal and personal rights to defend.
Often times, our expectations of how people should act and treat us are what create misunderstanding, conflict and resentments.
If your expectations are too high, you will be let down in some fashion and if they are too low, you will be disrespected.
If your expectations are too rigid or unrealistic, you will suffer the consequences and involuntarily create difficult people.
Instead, don’t place any expectations on anyone but expect a positive outcome.
Taking responsibility for your reactions will help you manage your emotions, gain control over a situation, direct and influence others.
It will also help you reframe your mindset and not play victim to your circumstances.
You can start by actively listening to them and then by finding out what to say and not to say.
Actively listening does not mean that you are actively agreeing with their point of view or that you are endorsing their opinion but it means that you are willing to acknowledge what they have said and to understand them.
Learning what to say or not to say is about being assertive, standing your ground, choosing how to respond to a situation, thinking about consequences, setting limits and finding an appropriate solution.
Learn to be assertive, to gain a solid sense of self, to stand your ground, to communicate your needs clearly and confidently.
Not asserting yourself and accommodating a difficult person will only lead them to disrespect you further and
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life by Gill Hasson serves as a practical guide to become more assertive, confident, courageous and to think strategically when it comes to dealing with difficult people.
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life explores situations in life and at work that we have dealt with and still have to deal with.
Gill Hasson puts many challenging situations into perspective and provides solutions to problems.
On the long run, difficult people are toxic and corrosive. It is detrimental to carefully monitor the impact of these types on individuals on our lives, mental and physical health.
Some of them enjoy creating chaos and toxicity around them and others do so involuntarily.
Sometimes, we are able to put physical distance between yourself and difficult people.
Other times, because of our work situation or familial reasons, we have to put up with them and have to find different ways to put up with them.
The thing is you can’t directly change other people’s behaviour; the only thing you can change is how you respond and deal with it.
In the past, you may have thought that there was only one or two ways to do this: either grit your teeth and hope that they’ll stop being so difficult, that things will improve, or get the difficult person to see just how difficult they’re being.
Both of these approaches are unlikely to fix the problem. In the case of gritting your teeth and hoping things will improve… they won’t. In the case of getting them to see
just how difficult they’re being, that’s unlikely too.Even if a confident person feels anxious about dealing with difficult people, they don’t let fear and anxiety paralyse them: they deal with other people and situations despite their fears or worries. They recognize they have to start somewhere, however apprehensive they are.
You can’t control what others think about you, so leave them to their own judgements.
Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2022-2023 Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine provides methods and strategies to:
A person with an unbeatable mind is always original, cultivates excellence, seeks to magnify his or her potential and hates mediocrity.
In addition, an unbeatable mind follows universal laws and truths, is resilient, has great character and leadership qualities.
Furthermore, an unbeatable mind avoids group-thinking, procrastination and inaction.
According to Divine, it is imperative that you gain mental control, acquire mental toughness and develop leadership qualities.
Spending time alone and in silence, quieting your mind is discouraged in Western society.
We are rarely, if ever, encouraged to spend time in silence or get to know the depth of our character. - Mark Divine Click To TweetPeople are therefore prone to negative thinking. However, negativity destroys performance and brings down your energy.
In order to find a positive focus and gain mental control:
Mental toughness is sustaining positive focus on one task, on the one thing that keeps you going.
Mental toughness helps you concentrate on your tasks for long periods of time without any distractions.
To develop mental toughness:
According to Mark Divine, Warriors are those who have achieved mental control and mental toughness.
They have learnt to discipline their mind so they can focus on the things that matter most, maintain positive focus when they need it most, avoid being distracted by negative emotions and negative beliefs.
Since the Warrior is committed to mastering himself or herself, he or she has mastered the following disciplines:
Warriors with unbeatable minds:
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine is a great guide for being and maintaining positivity no matter what.
Mark Divine gives sound and practical advice, using his 20 years of experience as a Navy Seal.
Mark Divine applies what he learnt with the NAVY to his regular life and work. He teaches you how to:
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level is useful for leaders, corporate teams and all those who want to condition their mind, body and soul.
I definitively loved the military aspect, principles and parallels in the book. However, because of his experience, some of his analogies are extreme and unrelatable.
Consistency is the omnipotent force behind change.
We are rarely, if ever, encouraged to spend time in silence or get to know the depth of our character.
Negativity destroys performance in the short term and precludes success and happiness in the long term.
Lack of meaning and purpose is a major cause of despair and despondency in the world.
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Mak HILL is a successful entrepreneur and corporate business man. Mak Hill is also the author of Mental Toughness: Essential Principles of Leadership and Success.
Failure is a painful experience and a hard pill to swallow for most.
The pain of failure is difficult to recover from and the memory of it just keeps replaying itself in your mind.
That being said, leaders cannot allow themselves to focus on the past, stay in bed and self-loathe.
Leaders have to find ways to go through life without fearing failure, to learn from their negative experience, to recover from them and to not let failure define them because failure can also be informative and transformative.
It is challenging to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself the cold truth.
It is challenging to recognize that you have indeed failed.
It is challenging to admit your shortcomings and implications in your personal failure. Sometimes, it’s not your fault. Sometimes, you have just been passive. Other times, you have brought it down on yourself.
You have to take a good look at the facts, events and at your pain.
You have to stand in your truth. Otherwise, someone else will use it against you, or worse you will never grow.
In Start With Why — How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action, Simon Sinek defines your why as your origin story. “By looking to our past and teasing out the most significant threads—the experiences we’ve had, the people we’ve been influenced by, the lives we’ve touched and the highs and lows we’ve faced—we can identify patterns.”
Your Why is a collection of your standout memories and defining moments. If you don’t know your Why, you must find it. it will give meaning to every single one of your failures and help you cope with them.
Knowing your Why will help you define your personal mission statement that you can review on a daily basis.
With your Why in mind, you will be able to surmount just about anything in life.
Failure happens to just about everybody and as hard as you try, there is not much you can do to avoid it.
So, there is no need to take it personally.
Don’t get distracted by your failure, focus on something greater than yourself and acknowledge that you cannot change the past.
Instead, prepare yourself for upcoming success. If you have missed an opportunity, prepare yourself for another one instead of dwelling on your mistakes.
It is easy to self loathe, dwell in your pain and replay your failures.
By doing so, you are not only attracting similar events to you but you are not allowing yourself to grow or to move on.
You will unfortunately stay stuck in the same pattern of behavior and thought.
The best and healthiest way you can internally deal with failure is to forgive yourself, stop beating yourself up and to use past events as fuel. You can use your failure to become stronger, more disciplined and kinder to yourself.
Sometimes, we need to take a step back and put some distance between yourself and your failure.
You can take time off to exercise, eat right, see family and friends, do something you love, go on a trip or do something that you have always wanted to do.
Nobody can make you feel better about yourself but yourself. It is up to you to seek the comfort or the happiness that you need.
Another way to get over your pain and some of your problems is to be grateful for what you have and the problems that you don’t have.
Gratitude is a great way to focus on the positives, celebrate past successes and build a success mindset.
Failure is only temporary and there are different ways that you can bounce back.
You don’t want to stay stuck in your failure and avoid the pain at all cost.
Facing your fears head on is a great way to move on from your failures and empower yourself.
Failure can be distracting and make you self-absorbed.
Get out of your head and see if someone around you needs assistance.
It is Ok to fail.
It is not OK to repeat the same mistakes and expect a different result.
Just remember that every failure brings you closer to success.
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Not everyone knows how to handle obstacles. Most people tend to quit at the sight of adversity.
Overcoming obstacles and standing tall in adversity are a learned behavior. To turn your trials into triumphs, you must:
Your perception has power over you and your decisions.
Building up your perception takes time and a lot of practice. You must discipline your emotions and objectively perceive your world for what it is and not for how it wants to be seen in order to :
Your mind is a powerful tool. To actively change your perception:
After you have corrected your perception, it is time to learn how to act it out.
Each and every one of your actions must serve a purpose.
To act towards your goals with your new perception:
Your will power is something that can never be taken from you.
Maintaining it requires a deep understanding of life.
To increase your will power:
The Obstacle is the Way : The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph is a motivational book that encourages people to withstand adversity and to take action despite adversity.
Ryan Holiday shares a philosophical approach, rooted in stoicism, that will help you confront obstacles and turn them upside down.
The Obstacle is the Way : The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph is destined for leaders and entrepreneurs who:
Holiday‘s entire book is based on classical references, historical figures and war leaders, who have distinguished themselves in life and who have adopted stoicism as a life strategy.
Finally, Ryan Holiday also incorporates reputable leaders and entrepreneurs as examples of resilience and will power.
If you want to stay motivated and push through your challenges, this book is for you.
Our perceptions can be a source of strength or of great weakness. If we are emotional, subjective and shortsighted, we only add to our troubles.
Obstacles make us emotional, but the only way we’ll survive or overcome them is by keeping those emotions in check—if we can keep steady no matter what happens, no matter how much external events may fluctuate.
Focusing exclusively on what is in our power magnifies and enhances our power. But every ounce of energy directed at things we can’t actually influence is wasted—self-indulgent and self-destructive. So much power—ours, and other people’s—is frittered away in this manner.
If you mean it when you say you’re at the end of your rope and would rather quit, you actually have a unique chance to grow and improve yourself. A unique opportunity to experiment with different solutions, to try different tactics, or to take on new projects to add to your skill set.
Leadership requires determination and energy. And certain situations, at times, call on leaders to marshal that determined energy simply to endure.
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From workplace bullying to job loss, from an unsatisfied customer to a tough team, from company crisis to personal drama, adversity often catches us by surprise.
Indeed, we never see it coming. If you are a leader, you will definitely be subjected to it and will have to learn how to wear adversity like a badge of honor.
Without adversity, we wouldn’t do, create anything or grow as people.
The most effective way to deal with adversity is to stop worrying, to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude.
People enjoy positive people and are most likely to help them. Positive people:
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There are a few strategies to keep your composure and maintain a sense of self.
Adverse situations are necessary and often come out of the blue.
Sometimes, the situation is not as bad as it seems.
The first step is to identify the origin of the situation and the possible outcomes.
Then, assess the criticality of the situation.
Finally, come up with different potential solutions to your problem.
Once, you have assessed the situation, it is detrimental to accept your reality, let go of the past and rework your perceptions of adversity.
You can tell yourself that there are always solutions to a problem, that your situation is not as bad as it seems, is only temporary, or can be an opportunity in disguise.
In addition, to change your mindset:
Staying organized and focused will help you gain more control over your situation.
Adversity makes everything seems out of control and generates a lot of extreme emotions.
Keeping your composure requires a lot of emotional discipline. To do so, take care of your mind, body and soul.
Exercise to keep your confidence up and to quiet your mind.
To stay positive, you must keep your goals and your vision alive.
In doing so, remember your mission statement, your purpose and the reasons why you have joined the company.
Making fun of your problems can help you understand them and alleviate your load.
Maintaining your sense of humor in times of adversity is a conscious choice. To do so:
Your relationships are what will get you through in hard times. That’s why you don’t have to shut yourself off and you must:
It is important for you to know when it is time to move on.
Moving on doesn’t mean that you are weak or that you cannot handle yourself.
It simply means that you have control over your decisions, that value your health and sanity more than your job, that you understand life and are at peace with yourself.
Furthermore, remember that:
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