We create our own reality…
Our reality first starts in our subconscious mind.
1. Upgrade your mindset
Our subconscious mind has accumulated so much information around us from our childhood and has formatted our current system of belief.
No matter how much your conscious mind thinks that it is in control, it’s not. It is your subconscious mind that rule your life and manifest itself in your decisions.
The key is to unblock yourself by fixing your subconscious belief, to set your mind on what you truly want, to start present, quiet the ego, step out your comfort zone, and getting past your fears and the fears of those around you.
2. Work on loving yourself
After upgrading your mindset, the second to creating the life that you want is to love yourself no matter what.
When you truly love yourself, you do not bother people and you do not want to be bothered by nonsense. To fall in love with yourself:
- Understand and appreciate your uniqueness.
- Use words of affirmation and rephrase your negative self-talk.
- Do things you love and put yourself first.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others and always do your best whatever the circumstances.
- Learn to forgive yourself.
- Stop caring about what others think of you.
- Change your habits, try new things and step out your comfort zone.
- Trust your intuition.
3. Set your mind on your goals
Our mind is our most powerful tool.
So much so that what we chose to focus on become our reality.
Therefore, once you have learned to love yourself, to rewire your grain and quiet the mind, it is time to set your mind on what you truly want, attract it and work towards it.
When you start creating your own reality, life will get bad before it gets better!
You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero is a regular self-help book with known and effective Principles to improve your life and to live the one you want.
Except that Jen Sincero has an upbeat delivery, puts a funny spin to these principles and adds personable examples.
She forces you to look within, to challenge your perception of reality, your circumstances and your role in creating your circumstances.
You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero promotes life improvement from the inside out and is centered around love.
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You’ll have to believe in things you can’t see as well as some things that you have full-on proof are impossible. You’re gonna have to push past your fears, fail over and over again and make a habit of doing things you’re not so comfy doing. You’re going to have to let go of old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it.
If you want to live a life your never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.
You are responsible for what you say or do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.
What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
We’ve made being in fear a habit.
We’re pumped full of it as children, like sugar, then as we grow we continued to take in the bad news on TV and the horror in the papers and the violence in books and films and video games and all this junk that fills us to the brim with fear about the world. We’re taught to play it safe and not take risks, and to caution everyone around us to follow suit.
And it becomes such an accepted part of our social conditioning that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
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Leaders often find themselves looking for the next best thing, distracted by the past and worrying about the future.
However, dwelling in the past or the future brings about dissatisfaction and unhappiness, impedes leaders from being effective, from being creative or finding appropriate solutions.
Indeed, we have all experienced these moments in meetings when everyone in the room is completely checked out, where people talk over each other and where no useful information is shared.
Wondering how to improve your leadership and live in the present?
What being present means?
Being present is a state of mind. It means being able to quiet your mind, to stay open and authentic, to remain in constant contact with your emotions and with your surroundings.
Being present means living in the moment and not overthinking the past, the present or the future. When you live in the present, you don’t over-analyze life, you accept your situation, take action or effectively resolve your problem.
Benefits of being present
Being present is powerful because it can be acted upon right now.
Usually, people dissatisfaction or unhappiness is caused by their attachment to the future or the past. Being present will help you:
- Become more effective, more intuitive, more creative.
- Be more aware of your fluctuating thoughts and emotions.
- Achieve a higher sense of confidence and authenticity.
- Increase your level of gratitude, trust, respect and broaden your charisma.
- Gain the ability to interpret and to respond appropriately to any given situation.
- Get the most out of your day and out of others.
- Hone your communication and relationship skills. You can then connect with others, adapt to people and read them better.
- Build up your emotional intelligence.
- Foresee challenges and notice details.
- Avoid being in a constant state of pain, anxiety or depression.
- Retrieve your ability to enjoy your life and be an inspiration to people around you.
- Activate the Law of Attraction.
How to become more present?
Most of the time our mind is somewhere else.
Thoughts submerge us whether we want it or not. Therefore, asking someone to stop thinking is like asking them to stop breathing.
Your job is to not eliminate the thoughts that come to mind but to control them.
- Understand that you are a mental, intellectual, emotional, spiritual being.
- Understand that your past doesn’t define you and that you cannot go back in time. Worrying about the past will not help you identify what is wrong in the present and will definitely strengthen your negative thoughts.
- Do not worry about the future. Your mind tries to create the future from your past and not from your present information. However, dreaming of your future is OK if you are expecting better for yourself.
- Be self-aware and conscious. The moment you realize that you are not present, you are in the moment.
- Stay true to yourself, avoid comparing yourself to others and avoid caring about what others think of you.
- Listen to your gut and constantly remind yourself of your purpose.
- Observe the patterns of your mind and observe your own reaction.
- Accept the thoughts that come to you, don’t act on them and keep it moving.
- Take time to reflect, to listen to yourself before dealing with people or entering a situation that you cannot handle. For example, I like taking my lunch break alone to center myself, to give me time to recharge my batteries.
- Slow down, avoid multitasking and give yourself time to think before making a decision.
- Avoid external distractions to be able to engage properly with people.
- Prioritize, appreciate your time and energy. It is also important to avoid missing moments with your family and friends.
- Be more empathetic, actively listen to people and seek someone else’s point of view.
- Find things to be grateful about.
- Find an activity that you enjoy in the moment.
- Practice focusing on your breathing.
- Surround yourself with people who matter most to you.
- Compliment people, once in a while and give them your full attention.
- Do not self-medicate.
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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