Quote Of The Week #319
Tag: Adversity
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway By Susan Jeffers
Everybody is susceptible to experiencing fear at some point in their life…
Some fears are critical to your survival.
Others hinder your success in life.
Some people consider the feelings of fear as a signal to distance themselves from a situation and others as a sign to keep going.
Some people are paralyzed by their fear and others manage to get things done despite their fears.
Which means that fear in itself is not the real problem.
The real problem resides in the way you manage it.
Pushing Past Fear
There are major benefits to pushing past your fears. You will be able to:
- Let go of a negative mindset.
- Surpass mistakes and bad decisions.
- Boost your self-esteem and become more assertive.
- Find your purpose and achieve your goals.
- Take back control of your life and take action.
The Truth About Fear
Behind every fear, there is the belief that you don’t have the abilities to handle whatever life throws your way.
However, your skills can always be developed.
That means that you won’t need to run away from your fears or work hard at getting rid of them.
That also means that in order to diminish your fears, you will have to developed the abilities to handle whatever life throws at you.
How Do You Manage Fear?
As long as you live and continue to grow as a person, fear can never be totally eradicated.
There are a few steps you can take to better manage your feelings.
1. Connect with your Higher Self
Get in touch with your Higher Self and tap into your intuition.
2. Say Yes
Saying Yes consists in going with the flow and accepting what Life has to offer.
It is an effective coping mechanism an antidote for fear.
3. Take action
People who live in fear feel more helpless than those who actually push through and take risks.
It becomes detrimental to identify your goals and motives to get unstuck.
4. Mind your self-talk
To begin to shift your mindset and to empower yourself, you must monitor the words that you use and the way you address yourself.
You may want to discipline your self-talk and use the power of positive affirmations.
5. Avoid playing the victim
Playing the victim signifies that you have no control over your life, that you have given your power away to someone or something else, and have progressively become paralyzed in your ability to deal with your fears.
In reality, you are the one who chooses the way you feel or act in any given situation.
6. Reclaim your power
Reclaiming your power entails being aware of any disempowering behavior and taking responsibility for your life.
Reclaiming your power means avoiding blaming yourself, blaming your past, present and future, or any other external factors for your life experiences.
Reclaiming your power is understanding that everything you experience is part of your journey.
Review
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway is a comforting book as Susan Jeffers exposes fear as a learned human condition that can be unlearned.
Furthermore, Susan Jeffers shares powerful and practical tools to fight and overcome fear.
She continually reminds us to take it easy on ourselves and that our good and bad decisions are part of our journey.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway shows us how to get the life we truly want, how to face new life situations and adapt to change.
The truth is everyone experiences fear, especially when they are in unfamiliar territory.
The trick consists in feeling the fear… And doing whatever it takes anyway…
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The “doing it” comes before the feeling better about yourself. When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a big bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence.
We can’t escape fear. We can only transform it into a companion that accompanies us in all our exciting adventures; it is not an anchor holding us transfixed in one spot.
A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet. She is so filled with positive energy that people want to be around her.
There is absolutely no need to be upset with your past, present, or future behavior. It is all simply part of the learning process[…].
Ratings 3/5
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Susan Jeffers
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Work problems, personal circumstances… Life can pack a serious punch…
However, staying calm in challenging situations is a leadership skills that aligns itself with not taking challenges too seriously.
Below, are a few quotes for you not to take challenges too seriously.
1. Even if you fall flat on your face, you’re still moving forward. – Victor Kiam
2. We don’t stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing. – George Bernard Shaw
3. Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. – Mark Twain
4. Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside — remembering all the times you’ve felt that way. – Charles Bukowski
5. Mix a little foolishness with your serious plans. It is lovely to be silly at the right moment. – Horace
6. Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. – Guillaume Apollinaire
7. Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be. – Eckhart Tolle
8. A good laugh overcomes more difficulties and dissipates more dark clouds than any other one thing. – Laura Ingalls Wilder
9. Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose. – Eckhart Tolle
10. Casting all your anxieties on him, because he careth for you. – 1 Peter 5:7
11. These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. – John 16:33
12. Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known until God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7
Last Words Of Advice
Don’t forget to laugh a little!
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5 Ways To Turn Yourself Into An Emotionally Strong Leader
Strong leaders constantly evaluate themselves, check their emotional status, practice self-discipline and maintain their cool no matter what…
Leaders cannot overcome hurdles, make tough decisions and eventually experience positive events if they are not emotionally strong.
Wondering how to become an emotionally strong leader?
1. Understand that your emotions are useful
Your emotions are there to guide you through life and not superimpose over your life because life is more than your emotions. Of course, you have relationships you care about, a purpose in life, passions and goals.
Good or bad, positive or negative, your emotions are useful and shouldn’t control your life.
Being able to gain control over your emotions is all about recognizing which emotion you are dealing with, acquiring self-awareness, engaging in positive self-talk and forging positive habits.
2. Acknowledge that everybody has problems
Everybody has problems and is a part of life. You just have to face them sooner or later.
The truth is there isn’t a person in this world who is problem free. There are just some people who are able to handle them and others who aren’t.
Emotionally strong leaders are solution-oriented and understand that problems actually build character, experience, grit and stamina.
3. Learn from your failures
There is always a lesson that can be learnt from your failures.
That is why there is no need to dwell on the past, but mental muscles are built through adversity and more lessons are learnt from failures than from success.
4. Realize that your mind can adapt to just about anything
Whatever you are going through, however uncomfortable you may feel, emotionally strong leaders don’t run away from their problems.
After a while, you will grow, get out of your comfort zone and your mind will simply adjust to your circumstances.
Adaptable leaders know how to self-regulate, focus on the important things they can control and don’t focus on the drama.
5. Find your purpose
Your purpose is made of clear life goals that will motivate you, help you wake up in the morning and help you overcome adversity.
When emotionally strong leaders have found their purpose and their inner motivator, they are able to focus on the essentials, easily influence and motivate others.
Last Words Of Advice!
Give yourself the freedom to express your thoughts and emotions when you really want to.
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Leaders often have to make tough calls, take huge risks and face their deepest fears on a daily basis.
Fear has been infused into us since childhood, is often employed as an employee management tool, and guarantees a unique and universal experience at the same time.
Indeed, the same fear can manifest itself differently, can be based on different experiences and interpretations of events.
The truth is fear can be a friend or an enemy, can have a positive or negative impact, can be a motivator or an hindrance.
It all depends on your understanding of your emotions, of fear itself and your level of self-control.
Wondering what are the best strategies to overcome your fears?
Most of the time, fear is standing right in front of our personal goals.
Hopefully, to every problem there is a solution.
Below are 4 proven strategies leaders use to overcome their fears.
1. Leaders identify their fears
Before overcoming your fears, you first have to identify them.
When you do identify them, it is time to write them down.
If you are unable to identify them, try journaling and describing on paper the situation that is bringing you fear to see if you can uncover a pattern or try asking the people closest to you.
Furthermore, journaling is a great way to acknowledge experiences, detach yourself from the fearful situation, log your thoughts during challenges, and to label your emotions.
2. Leaders get in touch with their inner self
Most people spend their entire life being completely disconnected with their inner self, without getting to know who they truly are and without achieving their life’s purpose.
That is how some many fears remain hidden and and it becomes necessary to get in touch with your inner self to overcome them.
Through exercise, meditation, visualization and deep breathing techniques, you can unclutter your mind and access your intuition.
3. Leaders upgrade their mindset
During difficult and fear inducing situations, it becomes detrimental to analyze your thoughts and feelings.
When you catch yourself thinking negatively, it helps to stop that thought, rewire your brain and replace that thought with a positive one.
After a while, you will come to understand yourself, fear and all its intricacies.
4. Leaders directly confront their fears
The best way to overcome your fears is to face them head on. Avoiding them might only increase your anxieties and your fears.
Once you face them, you will realize that there wasn’t really much to be afraid of.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You… Click To TweetLast Words Of Advice!
Once you have identified your fears and the triggers associated to them, you will have more control over yourself, see the situation clearly and understand that these feelings often times don’t make sense.
Control your fears before they control you!
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2022 How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life By Gill Hasson
Difficult people are everywhere and often demonstrate difficult behavior.
Their behavior can be overtly hostile and aggressive or passive and dismissive.
They can drain you and break you out of your character because they may act differently than you expect or apply a system of belief you don’t abide to.
Discerning whether or not they are being spitefully or involuntarily difficult is quite tricky.
1. Calmly walk away from difficult people
Some people are difficult even impossible all the time for no clear reason and will drain you of your energy and even destroy your life, no matter what you do.
In these circumstances, it becomes detrimental to walk away from the situation, to make a clean break and focus on the positives to come.
2. Try and understand the difficult person
To understand difficult people, you must first start by identifying your values, expectations of people and system of belief.
You must also understand that you have legal and personal rights to defend.
Often times, our expectations of how people should act and treat us are what create misunderstanding, conflict and resentments.
If your expectations are too high, you will be let down in some fashion and if they are too low, you will be disrespected.
If your expectations are too rigid or unrealistic, you will suffer the consequences and involuntarily create difficult people.
Instead, don’t place any expectations on anyone but expect a positive outcome.
3. Take responsibility for your own reaction
Taking responsibility for your reactions will help you manage your emotions, gain control over a situation, direct and influence others.
It will also help you reframe your mindset and not play victim to your circumstances.
4. Learn what to say and what not to say to a difficult person
You can start by actively listening to them and then by finding out what to say and not to say.
Actively listening does not mean that you are actively agreeing with their point of view or that you are endorsing their opinion but it means that you are willing to acknowledge what they have said and to understand them.
Learning what to say or not to say is about being assertive, standing your ground, choosing how to respond to a situation, thinking about consequences, setting limits and finding an appropriate solution.
5. Deal with the difficult behavior and not the person
Learn to be assertive, to gain a solid sense of self, to stand your ground, to communicate your needs clearly and confidently.
Not asserting yourself and accommodating a difficult person will only lead them to disrespect you further and
Review
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life by Gill Hasson serves as a practical guide to become more assertive, confident, courageous and to think strategically when it comes to dealing with difficult people.
How To Deal With Difficult People: Smart Tactics For Overcoming The Problem People In Your Life explores situations in life and at work that we have dealt with and still have to deal with.
Gill Hasson puts many challenging situations into perspective and provides solutions to problems.
On the long run, difficult people are toxic and corrosive. It is detrimental to carefully monitor the impact of these types on individuals on our lives, mental and physical health.
Some of them enjoy creating chaos and toxicity around them and others do so involuntarily.
Sometimes, we are able to put physical distance between yourself and difficult people.
Other times, because of our work situation or familial reasons, we have to put up with them and have to find different ways to put up with them.
Gill Hasson puts many challenging situations into perspective and provides solutions to problems.
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The thing is you can’t directly change other people’s behaviour; the only thing you can change is how you respond and deal with it.
In the past, you may have thought that there was only one or two ways to do this: either grit your teeth and hope that they’ll stop being so difficult, that things will improve, or get the difficult person to see just how difficult they’re being.
Both of these approaches are unlikely to fix the problem. In the case of gritting your teeth and hoping things will improve… they won’t. In the case of getting them to see
just how difficult they’re being, that’s unlikely too.Even if a confident person feels anxious about dealing with difficult people, they don’t let fear and anxiety paralyse them: they deal with other people and situations despite their fears or worries. They recognize they have to start somewhere, however apprehensive they are.
You can’t control what others think about you, so leave them to their own judgements.
Ratings 4/5
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Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level By Mark Divine
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine provides methods and strategies to:
- Develop an unbeatable mind.
- Deal with harsh realities.
- Increase your personal power.
- Improve your thought pattern and find your positive focus.
- Master and outperform yourself.
- Train your team.
An Unbeatable Mind?
A person with an unbeatable mind is always original, cultivates excellence, seeks to magnify his or her potential and hates mediocrity.
In addition, an unbeatable mind follows universal laws and truths, is resilient, has great character and leadership qualities.
Furthermore, an unbeatable mind avoids group-thinking, procrastination and inaction.
According to Divine, it is imperative that you gain mental control, acquire mental toughness and develop leadership qualities.
How to find your positive focus and gain mental control?
Spending time alone and in silence, quieting your mind is discouraged in Western society.
We are rarely, if ever, encouraged to spend time in silence or get to know the depth of our character. - Mark Divine Click To Tweet
People are therefore prone to negative thinking. However, negativity destroys performance and brings down your energy.
In order to find a positive focus and gain mental control:
- Be aware of your negativity. To become self-ware, practice silence, define your passion, principles and purpose.
- Prohibit the negative self-talk.
- Focus on positive self-talk or affirmations. Add positive imagery and feelings to those affirmations.
- Find a mantra or an affirmation that will run in the background of your mind.
How to gain mental toughness?
Mental toughness is sustaining positive focus on one task, on the one thing that keeps you going.
Mental toughness helps you concentrate on your tasks for long periods of time without any distractions.
To develop mental toughness:
- Practice concentration on a daily basis.
- Understand that your overall success depends on every single choice that you make.
- Acknowledge that the small choices lead you towards excellence and shape your life the most.
- Educate yourself on how stress works, how you react to it and learn to eliminate it from your life.
Develop the disciplines of a Warrior
According to Mark Divine, Warriors are those who have achieved mental control and mental toughness.
They have learnt to discipline their mind so they can focus on the things that matter most, maintain positive focus when they need it most, avoid being distracted by negative emotions and negative beliefs.
Since the Warrior is committed to mastering himself or herself, he or she has mastered the following disciplines:
- Simplicity. They have learnt to detach themselves from material things that they don’t need.
- Dedication. They apply themselves daily but don’t take themselves too seriously.
- Authenticity. They are honest with themselves.
- Service. They build up their character.
Warriors with unbeatable minds:
- Develop a strong plan and discipline.
- Commit daily to the plan.
- Are mindful of their decisions.
- Stay in the present moment.
- Maintain their energy and their positive focus.
- Fulfill their purpose.
- Make change happen.
- Step up their game and take action.
- Lead themselves and work with an unbeatable team.
- Do what is best for their team.
- Align their team with their vision and purpose.
Review
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine is a great guide for being and maintaining positivity no matter what.
Mark Divine gives sound and practical advice, using his 20 years of experience as a Navy Seal.
Mark Divine applies what he learnt with the NAVY to his regular life and work. He teaches you how to:
- Discipline yourself and manage your emotions.
- Reject mediocrity.
- Build up your resilience.
- get the life and career you want.
Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level is useful for leaders, corporate teams and all those who want to condition their mind, body and soul.
I definitively loved the military aspect, principles and parallels in the book. However, because of his experience, some of his analogies are extreme and unrelatable.
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Favorite quote(s)
Consistency is the omnipotent force behind change.
We are rarely, if ever, encouraged to spend time in silence or get to know the depth of our character.
Negativity destroys performance in the short term and precludes success and happiness in the long term.
Lack of meaning and purpose is a major cause of despair and despondency in the world.
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