All day, we are bombarded with things that we are supposed to care about. In the end, we are made to think that we should care about those things.
Therefore, we constantly feel the need to look for better in order to impress, to feel insecure, to fake emotions, to compare ourselves with others and to live a “good” life.
Truthfully, to be successful, to live a good life and to overcome those feelings, it is detrimental to confront painful emotions, to care less about pain and to care more about what is important.
The Meaning To Not Giving A F**k
Caring too much about futile things is a sign that you don’t have anything better going on in your life. However, not caring is liberating. By caring less, Mark Manson means:
- Stop trying so hard and stop investing too much energy in things.
- Pursue failures and not success, pain and not pleasure. Failures eventually lead to success and confronting negativity leads to growth.
- Embrace negative emotions and use your pain as a tool.
- Take action even though your circumstances and emotions are overwhelming.
- Discern the situations and the people who matter.
- Understand that life is short and there is no time to waste on futility.
- Be authentic and “comfortable with being different”.
- Choose something to care about that matters more than adversity.
How To Not Giving A F**k?
There are a few principles to practice in order to care less:
- Understand that pain is inevitable, incessant yet it is necessary. It triggers change and helps us avoid making the same mistakes.
- Understand that you cannot control everything and that life will always throw you curve balls. Everything in life requires sacrifice.
- Understand that you’ll be fine no matter what.
- Don’t base your life and reactions on your emotions.
- Don’t repress your emotions. Instead, use your negative emotions to motivate you and to do better.
- Take action in order to create positive emotions.
- Accept yourself. Get comfortable with yourself and with failure. It doesn’t make sense to avoid failure. Failure is painful but it boosts change and welcomes success.
- Control your thoughts.
- Change your values to build your character.
- We all care about something and it’s impossible not to. You must just figure out what level of pain you are willing to sustain.
- Acknowledge that if some people take you seriously and consider you as a change agent, others will make fun at you and see you as an embarrassment.
- Take responsibility for your problems and for your experiences.
- Acknowledge your ignorance or lack of knowledge. Invest in your personal growth nad challenge your beliefs.
- Don’t avoid rejection. Learn to handle rejection and to say no in return.
- Be conscious of your own death. Don’t be afraid of your own death. Let the possibility of death transform you and give your life meaning.
To be frank, I heard a lot about The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k By Mark Manson. Not only was I intrigued by the title but by the press around this book.
As the year goes by, we see the emergence of a lot of books with a colorful language. The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k By Mark Manson is a motivational book that encourages transformation. It promotes the need to be honest with yourself, to determine your limitations, your strengths and weaknesses.
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k is a funny book with far-fetched metaphors. Yet, it is honest about itself. It:
- Warns us to be selective on the things that we care about.
- Promotes the concept of not caring about what people think, of not letting people or our emotions overwhelm you.
- Denounces life’s false expectations and disillusion.
- Demonstrates how life is imperfect.
- Stops you from seeking for outside validation, searching for bigger and better, living in the superlatives, from trying to impress, from maintaining appearances, feeling the need to prove ourselves to society and from promoting a fake life on social media.
Besides the use of colorful language, it is very similar to the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less by Greg Mckeown.
It is written as motivation for millennials, for overthinkers, for chronic worriers and for the overly emotional for whom not caring would be liberating.
Let me know below what you think about this book!
Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing.
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And,
paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive
This book will help you think a little bit more clearly about what you’re choosing to find important in life and what you’re choosing to find unimportant.
We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change.