Recently, I have made solid plans around an opportunity that didn’t turn out…Though I didn’t care much about the opportunity, I was frustrated that the plans that I carefully hatched fell through. In order to find out why the opportunity fell off, I had a conversation with a toxic individual who spewed lies and venom and with whom I happened to get out of character. Because I lost my plans for the future and gave away my personal power, I was deeply disappointed in myself and in the circumstances. If you are a trailblazing leader, are goal-oriented or enjoy making plans for the future, these moments happen often and you will face a lot of disappointments in your life. That is why, you simply have to learn to cope with it.
Wondering how leaders overcome disappointment in life?
The importance of disappointmentsDisappointment is defined as feelings of sadness or displeasure caused by feelings of unfulfilled hope and failed expectations. Sometimes, an opportunity that we wished for just doesn’t turn out; A person we are hoping for doesn’t show up or act right. However, life never goes according to plans. Eventually, you will make new plans, you will realize that not every opportunity is a good opportunity and not everyone is good for you. Feelings of disappointment are hard to get rid off at first but are ephemeral. Those feelings will go away with time. Once you have overcome these feelings, you will finally understand who you truly are, you can grow as a person, become a stronger person, and build up your character.
How to overcome disappointment?
1. Accept your emotionsDisappointment is part of life and everyone will experience it at some point in life. Disappointment can trigger a vast array of emotions that you cannot run away from or cover up. It becomes critical to acknowledge your feelings and find out what exactly triggered it. Refusing to analyze, confront and discipline your emotions can cause long-term damage on your health.
2. Forgive yourselfLearning to forgive yourself is the hardest part of dealing with disappointment because we are grasping our errors and what we “should” have done instead. You are only human. You have made mistakes and you will probably make some more. So, be compassionate with yourself, avoid shifting blame and take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well and exercise.
3. Reframe your mindsetNow, that you have dealt with your raw emotions, it is time to restructure your mindset, improve on yourself, analyze your situation and mentally distance yourself from your past expectations. This is the moment when you get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable, when you accept disappointment as a part of life and as a challenge, when you use it to improve yourself and to change the way you have been doing things. While you are reframing your mindset:
- Monitor your self-talk.
- Don’t expect to be constantly disappointed because you attract what you think.
- Practice self control to make better decisions, to nurture healthy thoughts because you are responsible for yourself.
4. Shift your focusNow that you have reframed your mind, you have to trust that positivity can result from a negative situation and focus on turning your negative situation into a positive one. The best way to keep moving forward and to making the best out of any situation is to stay busy, positive, focused and on purpose, to focus on your strengths and on who you want to be. You can also find out what you could have done differently and make your goals more achievable.
5. Stay presentYour disappointment happened in the past and it’s time to move on. There is no sense in replaying a situation in your mind over and over again. It becomes detrimental to your health to be present and be grateful for what you currently have. If you cannot remain in the present and keep ruminating, it is best to quickly analyze your feelings until you get closure.
6. Surround yourself with positive peopleDisappointment can turn into a burden that can be too heavy for one person. It can be helpful to share your disappointment with people you trust and who care about you. As a general notice:
- Be careful who you surround yourself with.
- Stay away from people who constantly disappoint you or who hurt you on purpose.
7. Let go controlIn life, you must always remember that you cannot control everything that happens to you or around you. Therefore,
- Don’t worry about the circumstances outside your control. It won’t change anything.
- Trust that life has a better plan and solution for you.
- Remember that there are many more opportunities out there.
- Don’t get too attached to your plans and expectations.
- Expect setbacks in life.
8. Grow!Remember that life is a journey and that every failure brings you closer to your success. We can learn something from every life experience, even from our disappointments.
Last Words Of Advice!No matter the situation, always maintain your personal power. There is no need to always throw yourself a pity party. Once you have given yourself time to heal and when you get over your feelings of disappointment, you must think about what you could have done differently and implement the new solution the next time you face a similar situation.
Now that you know better, do better!Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership! Don’t forget to like, share and leave a comment below.
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