We stay stuck in the routines of our lives.
We don’t connect with others, we seclude ourselves for self-protection and stay within the social circles we are comfortable with.
Yet we remain unsatisfied with our lives and wonder whether or not life is supposed to be this way.
Yet we wonder how to find our community, our people, the ones who will fight for us and who are worth fighting for.
What is a Community?
Community is more then friendships.
Community is a way of life and is essential to living a fulfilled life.
In addition, the sense of community is based on the truths that people are the best and most painful part of our lives.
Your Community is made of non toxic people who see you, know you and who are willing to be seen and known by you.
Principles for Community
Community is necessay.
Needing other people is not a weakness but a strength.
There are 5 principles to building a healthy Community.
The principle of Proximity relates to a need for intimacy and physical closeness.
To create Proximity, you can start noticing people in your vecinity and initiating the friendship even if you get frustrated.
Closeness leads to Transparency.
However, you will only be as close as you are transparent and vulnerable.
When we are left alone, we tend to become the worst versions of ourselves.
That is why Community has the potential to make us better and keep us accountable.
Indeed, Community makes us more effective, challenges us to aim higher, sharpens the mind and speaks truth.
4. Shared purpose
Most communities are built around a bigger and common mission.
Communities give the opportunity to do something meaningful and exciting.
Communities provides healthy and consistent relationships.
Usually, people aren’t because they don’t want to deal with conflicts.
Nevertheless, conflicts are an inherent part of life.
That is why the people from your Community have to be consistent, choose to stay and be willing to be inconvenienced by your relationship.
To stay consistent, one must:
- Assume the best because so many offenses are misunderstandings.
- Seek peace and address a problem directly before it grows.
- Be quick to apologize and make amends.
Find Your People by Jennie Allen is a faith-based self-help book about building deep community.
Find Your People is destined mostly for extroverts, for people who are hardwired for relationships, for people who are afraid of being alone and of being lonely.
It is also written for those who hope to make deep connection and build an authentic community.
Allen uses her own life experiences and as an example of moving from a space of lack and fear to one of finding the right community.
Indeed, Allen transforms her initial neediness for relationship into a personal strength.
Furthermore, she demonstrates through biblical references that Deep Community is a social necessity and a path to greater success, hope and faith.
It seems like building and keeping that Community requires hardwork but is worth it.
Finally, Allen stressed that there are no perfect people but only the right people for you.
So, go out there and find your people!
Let me know below what you think about this book!
But community is bigger than two or three friends. Community should be the way we live.
We live guarded because we fear someone will use our weakness against us.
No one can be your everything, but everyone has something to say, something to teach you, and something to bring to your life.
Conflict isn’t the enemy to our friendships; conflict is fodder to make them grow. Conflict is inevitable in the kind of deep community we are talking about here.
If we’re going to deal with an offense, it needs to be a real offense. This is my rule on when to address something: don’t react too quickly. So many hurts are just misunderstandings.