Words are powerful and can have a long-lasting effect on people…
Leaders are responsible for employee engagement, for setting goals, giving feedback and reinforce positive feedbacks.
Therefore, leaders have to be careful of the words that come out their mouth.
On one hand, they can say annoying things from time to time.
On the other hand, it’s not always easy to find the right thing to say.
Wondering what are the most annoying things that leaders usually say?
1. “It’s my way or the high way!”
Leaders who want everything they way tend to hire talented individuals to do the job but don’t trust them to do so or don’t give them the opportunity to exercise their expertise. By doing so, their team gradually lose confidence and morale.
2. “You’re wrong” or “Why didn’t you do this instead?”
There is more than one solution to a problem and there is more than one way than doing things.
3. “It’s none of your business” or “Stay in your lane”
Leaders who pull rank or hold back information try to retain power as much as they can and wish to establish a certain distance between themselves and their team.
4. “Let me finish…” or Interrupt people while the are talking…
It is important for leaders to actively listen before they speak and to value their team’s knowledge.
5. “I don’t pay you to think!”
By saying that, leaders reduce their team members to mere tools or objects.
6. “I’m not going to do your job for you”
Team members usually come to leaders for advice and reassurance but don’t require those same leaders to do their job for them.
7. “Don’t waste my time”
Time is indeed a precious commodity but by saying that leaders impeded their team from suggesting innovative ideas.
8. “I don’t have time right now”
Leaders are definitely busy bodies but they make time for what is important.
9. “That’s not important…”
This statement has a tendency of devaluing team members.
10. “I don’t care” or “That’s not my problem”
Helping team members find solutions to problems is part of the job description of leaders.
11. “You are not as good as you think” or “You are lucky to even be here”
If a leader needs to remind a team member how great his or her job is then it is not that great to begin with.
12. “We have always done it that way”
Through that statement, leaders emphasize that there is no room for improvement or innovation.
Last words of advice!
When you have said a few annoying things, you can always recover by:
- Being aware of your words.
- Observing the impact of your words
- Admitting your mistakes.
- Calmly explaining yourself.
- Letting go and moving on.
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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