The lies Society, media, family members, bosses tell us can easily become our Truth.
There are many lies that stand at the basis of our insecurities and that are stopping us from becoming who we really want to become…
1. The Lie about Happiness
We always think that the grass is always greener on the other side.
However, this is not always true and we must figure out what makes us feel good or what feeds our spirit and do these things.
2. The Lie about Procrastination
Procrastination is like breaking a promise to yourself.
The key to overcoming procrastination is to:
- Start small and to take small steps towards your goals.
- Stay committed to your goals. That is why your goals have to be important to you so you can stay committed on the long term.
- Be honest with yourself about the reasons of your procrastination.
- Take accountability for your actions.
3. The Lie about Self-worth
In Society, we constantly feel the need to prove our worth. That desire to prove ourselves and feel good enough translates itself negatively into different areas of our lives.
To overcome the need to prove yourself, you can always:
- Get some therapy to discover who you truly are, be honest with yourself and find some internal resolve.
- Take the time you need to take care of yourself and recharge your batteries.
- Add yourself to your own priority list. As cliché as it sounds, you have to take care of yourself before taking care of others.
4. The Lie about Comparison and Judgement
We often feel the compulsive need to judge and compete with others. It becomes imperative to:
- Keep an open-mind: you don’t know everything and you don’t have everything figured out.
- Nobody is immune to judgement so work on your own insecurities and tell yourself the truth.
- Surround yourself with people who would tell you the truth, build you up instead of putting you down.
5. The Lie about Rejection
“When it comes to your dreams, no is not an answer”. No is not the final answer.
Therefore, it requires strength to:
- Reframe your mindset: what is happening to you and how you respond to it is all about perspective.
- Not accept no as the final answer
- Claim and remember your goals: you can write them down and create a vision board.
- Be bold about your goals.
- Understand that if one path towards your goal doesn’t work, change the path and not the goals.
6. The Lie about Expectations
We often feel like we haven’t achieved what we have set out to achieve fast enough.
But there is no need to worry because our goals don’t have expiration dates.
7. The Lie about Authenticity
Society lies to us and tells us that we have to fit a specific mould to exist.
The truth is there isn’t only one right way to exist.
In Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be, Rachel Hollis, in a witty and self-deprecating fashion, dispels the lies perpetrated by Society — lies that we tend to believe about ourselves and accept as a fundamental truth.
After a while, these lies destroy our self worth because we find it hard to live up to the lies that Society projects when it comes to self image, relationship to others, goal accomplishment, self care, and career success.
Rachel Hollis shares her life story and perspective on why people are generally unhappy and unsuccessful.
Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be is dedicated to women who have struggled to find themselves or face the truth about themselves. It deals with all the insecurities that women may face throughout their lives and gives solutions that can be implemented through introspection.
Implementing change isn’t easy: it will take time and hard work, several trials and errors. But, it will be worth it!
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You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.
Judging is still one of the most hurtful, spiteful impulses we own, and our judgments keep us from building a stronger tribe… or from having a tribe in the first place. Our judgment prohibits us from beautiful, life-affirming friendships. Our judgment keeps us from connecting in deeper, richer ways because we’re too stuck on the surface level assumptions we’ve made.
The first step toward becoming the best version of yourself is being honest, truly honest, about what makes you tick.
Truly, I’ve been told no in so many different ways and by so many different people that sometimes it seems as if life itself is saying no. I am an expert in rejection—or more specifically, I am an expert in bouncing back from rejection and fighting my way toward my goal.
I am successful because I refused to take no for an answer. I am successful because I have never once believed my dreams were someone else’s to manage. That’s the incredible part about your dreams: nobody gets to tell you how big they can be.
There are many types of trauma—big, small, childhood, adult—but we all belong to a club we never asked to join. We find solidarity in numbers, in hearing other stories…
There isn’t one right way to be a woman. There isn’t one right way to be a daughter, friend, boss, wife, mother, or whatever else you categorize yourself as. There are so many different versions of each and every style on this planet, and beauty lives in that dichotomy.