Have you ever been anxious about making the right decision?
Are you confused by all the possibilities? Overwhelmed by all the consequences of your decision? Are you prepared for the consequences? Are you feeling pressured by a timeline? Do you have all the information at hand to come to a conclusion?
Indecision can be crippling and problematic. Having to take a difficult decision can overload your mind, take over your emotions and perturb your whole week.
Most of the time, we procrastinate over these decisions or wish that someone would make them for us. Either way, we have to assume responsibility for our decisions.
Wondering how to make the best decision for yourself?
1. Trust your voice
You have to understand that your opinion really matters, that you will make mistakes and that you will have to stand next to your decision no matter what.
The more you make decisions and make mistakes, the faster you will get it right and trust yourself.
2. Listen to your gut
For those who are in tune with themselves, the concept of following your gut and listening to your intuition is easy to understand and even easier to apply.
You already know the decision you are leaning towards. If you don’t, apply your decisions without committing to them, then see how it feels. You can also think how you would feel if you say yes or no to a decision.
3. Stop beating yourself up
Make the decision beforehand to accept whatever you choose and don’t beat yourself up about it.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, forgive yourself and learn to let go…
If you have lost an opportunity, another one will show up and it will be the chance for you to redeem yourself or to make a more appropriate decision.
4. Detach yourself from the situation
You have a hard time making a decision because you are probably in too deep, your emotions and thoughts are clouded, you are obsessing and ruminating.
To gain a bird’s eye view over your problems, you definitely need to take a step back.
Detaching yourself will help you get into the right mindset and will allow you to analyze each element of the situation with a cold head. When you are detached, you will be able to better handle the impacts of your decision no matter what you choose.
5. Make time for that decision
You will have to give this decision all your attention and make it in a given timeframe.
In this timeframe, you will have to play out all the possible scenarios. Outside of that timeframe, you must consider that your decision is final, that you cannot go back and you can no longer obsess about it.
6. Be clear about your needs and desires
Sometimes, you have to choose the decisions that best suit your needs and desires. You cannot make decisions based on what you want and the expectations of society or of your social circle.
For example, you may want a big time high paying job but you may need trust, transparency, and a sense of safety.
7. Be clear about your core values
A few decisions that you will be making in life will make you uncomfortable, cross your boundaries and go against your core values.
If you have solid core values, these decisions become a no brainer and don’t take long to make.
8. Be clear about your goals and purpose
Having a clear purpose eases your decision-making process.
Decisions fail when people don’t know their purpose in the first place.
If the outcome of your decisions aligns with your goals and purpose, stop reading this and go for it!
9. Don’t settle for one solution
There might be more than one answer or solution to your problem.
Indeed, your decision might not be black or white. If you are detached enough, you will be able to visualize the bigger picture.
You don’t need to win right away but you could push back or find compromises.
10. Visualize or redact your thoughts
Bringing in outside opinions will only complicate the decision making process.
However, it will help to speak or write down your thoughts. You will surely come up with the best decision when you do so.
11. Ask an expert
Asking someone for their opinion is not recommended because their advice will not necessarily work for you.
However, if you do, you really have to use discernment and choose someone who has done what you have done before and who has a lot of expertise on the topic.
Last Words Of Advice!
There is no perfect decision and you will never be 100% sure about your decisions. So, relax and reframe your mind!
Hope that I’ve helped you get it together on your way to leadership!
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